Wahala

What ya sister told you is true. Not ALL of them sha, but MOST of them.


As for your tori, I didn't follow the previous one(s) so, dunno what you're talking about.

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my dear, keep him at arms length. ... His sudden change of behaviour towards you is suspicious.... .. He may be coming back because of financial security in the event his boss sacks him, as you're always willing to help him financially. ...Also, he called off the relationship because he was feeling rushed, is he now ready or ??

You have to give it sometime.... Also, remember what people said on the other thread, DON'T RUSH INTO GETTING MARRIED. ....

If there is any time you have to be very careful with that guy, it is now.

I have taken time to go through your previous threads. I have these to ask you. Did you figure out why he wants to go back to his old life? Do you think if you eventually settle down with him he wouldn't be threatening you with that 'old life' of his as if he is doing you a favour?

Love, yes. But from experience I have learned that love is not enough. Your mutual happiness in a relationship/ marriage is what counts.

Last but not least, NEVER be so much in a haste to get hooked because of your age. God's time is the best. More haste, less speed.

Hmmm, Edo? If you're of d same tribe, fine but if not, run n never look back!

@ marvellous God..he said next year.
@ integrity....he later told me that his saying he wants to go back to his old self was a joke...
@ Nlder...I m an Igbo lady...though people have a lot of bad conceptions about Edo ppl.

Hope he has apologised for calling off the relationship?


For me, I will say, take it slowly...

kingchi32:

@ integrity....he later told me that his saying he wants to go back to his old self was a joke...

I pray it continues to be a joke ooo.
When it comes to marriage there are things that cannot be managed.

@ marv..yes he apologized
@ integrity... I do understand your point alot

kingchi32:

@ integrity... I do understand your point alot

You are sounding happier now. I like it that way.
Jisie ike!

Hmmmmm! here we go again.....

He wanted out, but suddenly wants you back after giving some flimsy, silly and childish reasons and excuses. It surprises me however that you haven't sensed the need to flee from this guy who is obviously out to wreck and fleece you both emotionally and financially and that's worrisome, wonder why its taking you long to fathom this.

Joke kor, play ni....and you believed him...chai! So if he wasn't at the risk of losing his job, he wouldn't have remembered you were his earlier 'rejected stone'? or doesn't that tell you something? You on your part need to get over this guy and concentrate on making yourself a happier woman without him and you here talking about forgive... .

Please stop communicating with him already, how difficult is it? tell him you've moved on and ask him to let you be, and surely you'll meet a better man that will appreciate you. Enough of the dilemma you keep having over this guy and the advice you keep seeking on him. For the umpteenth time, why the haste?? The solution to your problem is MOVE ON with your life! FLEE from him NOW!

...your sister was right. Enough said.

kingchi32:


My sis told me that Edo men are not good and are selfish, that he may have changed his mind because of financial gain though that doesn't mean he doesn't love me and also that its not easy to be involved with inter tribal marriage..

please i need your advice..

Your sister don sample all Edo men to come to that conclusion?

There is obviously some sort of communication gap that needs urgent attention. Why don't you just tell him you want out instead of pussyfooting about the place.

You know, the best advice would be to follow your own; "the best thing is to do what makes us happy". You said it . I am in an intercultural marriage; it presents its problems but can work. However, why bother if it makes you unhappy (as with any relationship)?

I was not there for the previous thread, just read through it now.

When you say he was a bad boy whom you thought you changed, please what do you mean?

What was he planning on doing that you didn't want to be a part of?

Story of d gods.