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Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 1:09pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
I've got this friend of mine, a self-employed dude that has been married for two years. His marital ordeal is what some would "wicked romance". In his two years of marriage, he has been the chief cook of the home. His wife wants him to cook and serve her because she finds it romantic. After he spoke to me about this, I chirped him that the romantic nonsense might just be a decoy she's using to sugar coat her laziness or perhaps her inability to make good meals. But he made it clear that the wife is not the lazy type, and just for the record, she does the home chores even as a working class chic. According to him, she could pass for the epitome of a good wife if "cooking" would be excluded as a yardstick to determine a good African wife. When I tried inquiring about the wife's cooking prowess, he told me that the wife sometimes used to make him good meals during their dating days. With one year and some months gone, he's beginning to feel he's not getting the real man/husband treatment completely from the wife. Though he's not really complaining, he now sees himself as a slave to the wife, who cooks and serves the wife on daily a basis - when reserve should be the case. As an African man, he believes cooking should be the wife's job not the husband's job. Now, this one strange perpetual romantic work for my bruv. Friends, y'all have got to help this "male cook" with advice(s). |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by Nobody: 1:51pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Wicked Sagamite, lmao, self employed na business man jare he may even be bringing in much more than her. Op, what does your friend want? Has he spoken with her and shared his discomfort with the situatuon? Let them talk about it and agree on what will work for them. I believe in sharing but not to the point one partner starts feeling used and taken for granted it builds resentment 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Hahahahahaaa abeg free me Saga, he says the wife cleans and does housework na only cooking coma dey |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 2:36pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: You're a pure m-oron! 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by freecocoa(f): 2:48pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Why is he talking to you and not the wife? Btw when you say 'self employed' tell us what he does exactly. Isn't it sad that he calls cooking for himself and wife slaving? It's even annoying that you or he uses the phrase 'slave to his wife' and more annoying that either of you think the reverse should be the case, like really? You can't be a 'slave' to your wife but believes she should be one to you? Oh please get out of your cave and come smell some civilization, mschew. 15 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 2:53pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
aisha2: Yeah, he has discussed with his wife though with no seriousness. But the wife still channeled everything to romance. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 2:55pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Homo fagggot, don't pollute my thread with your dumbness, else you'll get pummeled and slayed for vultures like always. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 2:59pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
freecocoa: Lol! Hey, calm down. Your thoughts concerning his "pocket" status are wrong. He's actually good to go. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 3:00pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: not on my thread, homo fagggot! 1 Like |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by freecocoa(f): 3:03pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize:Thats not what I asked, what does he do to keep himself self employed? See how you stylishly evaded the issue I raised with your 'lol" Ngwanu, LOL back at ya. 2 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 3:09pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
freecocoa: Lmao! He's financially man enough and can take care of his responsibilities without drop a sweat. I believe with this you can concrete and facilitate your thoughts on this matter. Thanks! |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 3:11pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: This same "business" your incestuous momma did with her son to conceive a malnourished drunken thief like you. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by freecocoa(f): 3:14pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize:My friend, just tell us how your wife is the breadwinner(which is ok btw) and that you are tired of being a houseband, instead of 'rigmaroling' 1 Like |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by freecocoa(f): 3:25pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite sha, you so never disappoint. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 3:26pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
freecocoa: What's the "your" and "you"? Is this how you force peeps on something? However, the wife is not the breadwinner. I don't know why you're trying to hold on to a particular irrelevant question. If you really have any advice to give on this issue, I believe you'll do so without asking the same irrelevant question that has been answered maturely and basically. If the husband was financially broke, I'd have included it in my initial comment. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 3:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: What's this homo fagggot saying? |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by freecocoa(f): 3:31pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize:I don't see the answer to my question anywhere, if he's not a criminal, why won't you tell us what he does? You brought the story here and your answers are just so corner corner-ish, hence the 'your' and 'you' |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by jaybee3(m): 3:32pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Here is my take, if your friend has suddenly unearthed the African man in him then he should simply ask his wife to resign so she can become a full housewife and he automatically gets an upgrade to becoming the breadwinner. You can't simply hide under the African Man mentality when he suits you. Fairness should be uphold at all times 11 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by bukatyne(f): 4:07pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
iconize: SO he wants the wife to be a slave to him? Some husbands sef 4 Likes |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
So, this nyggah's self-esteem is back to life like Lazarus after being shot dead last week, no? Went on hiatus for five days and it is back to trolling. But this time trolling a next troll - FML. Anyway, your friend has lost his balls and he is now the wife. Just tell him to accept his new position and be happy with it. He is in too deep. That is why I keep telling you youngins to learn the game and stop selling ya birthrights for porridge like Esau, all in the name of being romantic. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 5:30pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Homo-mo'ron, you sure know I'm your nemesis. So fagggot biatch with a leaking rectum, trolling on my thread won't do you any good. I'll bring you down on your knees like I've always done if you don't take your diaper padded asss off my thread. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 5:43pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
SirShymex: At least a fella with a brain is here, not those asking dumb and irrelevant question(s) over and over again, even after getting a matured answer. However, the dude is in dire need of advice(s) on how to convince the wife to start making him meals without sounding "unromantic" and probably inciting troubles. Having played this "wicked romantic" role for long - happily and in good faith, passing through the needle's eye might be easier than convincing his wife. |
Re: Is This Also Part Of Marriage Romance? by iconize(m): 5:49pm On Nov 03, 2014 |
Sagamite: Masonkz, save your fagggot biatch before he gets pummeled like a Zulu talking-drum. Homo fagggot, you must kneel and worship me, your God, you incestuous drunken thief with a diaper padded assss. Masokz: 3 Likes |
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