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Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 2:47pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
andromida: Lol, but with the way African women never leave their rich abusive spouses, you have to question if they actually care if their spouses are abusive or not. And African women love se.x, though they hide behind pseudo-conservatism lol. Smash an African pum to smithereens and she will come back the next day acting like ya wife looool. Folks just front on here. The loudest ones are always the ones in messed up relationships or out there begging men to marry them. There are so many desperate women out there these days...so it is hard to take these folks seriously. Just go to Churches and see for yourself. Even on the road, you will see all kinds of women giving you fliers to come to their Church and singles night. They are everywhere. Women who will cook for you and tell you they want to have ya kids lol 4 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Missy89(f): 2:52pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
SirShymex: You should be hanged, drawn and quartered 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Missy89(f): 2:52pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
smh 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Anyi3(m): 2:54pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
aisha2: If you weren't married I would have done the needful. 2 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 2:55pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Missy89: Dayuum! I'm scared of the new you! You are starting to sound like a bad combo of naij ritualists and zombie the flesh eater! Lool 1 Like |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by cut007: 2:57pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
My man, for your own good, run out of this thread. From the way things are going, something tells me this thread will get to the wuuwuuwuu stage! You know that stage when a woman places her palm on her lips and taps it repeatedly to make the wuuwuuwuu sound and say things like ole! Oloshi! Women can NEVER be rationale on issues like this. 6 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Sparkle777(f): 2:58pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
This thread is funny . But @Ilekokoni, do u really expect women to just buy ur ideas? The list is like a 24 hour job,dnt complicate ur life thus. I ll just say, let all apply the golden rule in any relationship. 5 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by UjSizzle(f): 3:01pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
pickabeau1:Lol! Did you read the things on that list? Heh guys really want super women And yes, very literal diapers. At least the OP just described men as big cuddly babies 7 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:01pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Benbisco: who was gonna read the horse sh1t except his fellow dreamers. After fantasizing, they will wake up still in their dirty smelly boxers. No one to love them nor actualize their dreams 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Missy89(f): 3:03pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
SirShymex: Why do guys feel like they are the only ones that can use sex to determine future events in the relationship? smashing stuffs to smithereens can go either way u know? Guys usually come back begging as well. Just saying 4 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by 50calibre(m): 3:04pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Who's the professor who wrote this? The blueprint has been laid down, smart & discerning African women will absorb this like the desert absolves water, the foo*lish ones will discard it & continue in their path of eternal single-hood. Its amusing to see African women (black women) tout feminism, forgetting that the odds are hugely stacked up against them... You will think they should know that, but unfortunately, they don't. The world is secretly laughing at black women, y'all can continue in your blind imitation of white women, only time will tell. Fly the feminist flag boldly, it will be your undoing as most African men (and in fact, black men in general) can't deal with that shi*t. 7 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:04pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: That kin person go dey fear woman real life. I mean, seriously who takes his time to compose such a fantasy , and then color marks them in blue and red. Definitely a weirdo 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by pickabeau1: 3:08pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
UjSizzle: I read it and while some of it may look overboard however why don't you ladies identify the specific point you find offensive and discuss it Even kachisbarbie agreed with the points though she agrees its a bit rigid. Why attack the op personality instead or dealing with his post 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by 50calibre(m): 3:18pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
SirShymex: I tell ya!! The shi*t being spewed here by some of these chics doesn't reflect the reality in the real world. African women are desperately searching for husbands, once they start approaching 30, they go into crises mode, jumping from one spiritual house to the other, fasting & praying for weeks un-ending I've been invited to a singles night before in Redeem church, damn!! I can authoritatively say that is the only social gathering I see females outnumber males. 3 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:18pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
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Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Ilekokonit: 3:21pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
kmcutez: Actually the rules are meant for you. They are not actually rules they are tips to keeping you man loving towards you if you married or are intending to marry a proper African man. Look at the list critically, none of it is enslaving in any way. for example what is bad in advicing a lady not to pull her man down in front of his kids especially male ones. Do you women even know the psyche of a male child But then again i know that a lot of nigerians don't like reading for themselves and they just jump on the bandwagon without scrutinising an article but if it were to be a charlartan pastor who publishes a book titled "105 Tips To Keeping A Good African Man", the horde of spinsters in his church will spend their last kobo to buy the book containing the very same points i pointed on above. Come to think of it, do you think Oyedepo or Adeboye will put up with 1% of the nonsense that some men put up with from their women ?? I think not !!! Why do you think that the Asian and Chinese families abroad are an economic power house that is sending fears down the spine of their oyinbo hosts Its simply because of the unity and lack of combative competitiveness in their marriages which is the hall mark of most Naija women abroad. This cancer is creeping back home which is why I advise any 20 someting yr old naija lady i meet to grab their copy fast as the time is imminent where young eligible Naija bachelors will shun marriage in droves until they find the right person. Wait and see and like someone mentioned above, ladies, bookmark this post as it will come in useful to calm the stormy waters of your marriage in future if you are married to a "proper" African man. 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:22pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Missy89: Lol, are you trying to do that? Lool The last chic who did that was screaming all over the house. Women run their mouths too much. Only ny.mphos or chics with psychologically scars who are addicted to se.x like Sharon Leal's character in "addicted" can smash guys to smithereens. As long as you are not abnormal, you are just another loud mouthed one that will end up screaming everywhere loool. 2 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Ilekokonit: 3:22pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
2CatWoman: One of your lot told me about the bolded part. 2 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:23pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
SirShymex: Many African men don't leave their rich abusive spouses either anyway its not an African thing many people world over do not leave abusive spouses because of benefits they get from the relationship. Lol lol lol @ bolded So women inviting you to churches and singles night makes them desperate maybe they just doing normal church things you really need to tame your imagination. A woman cooking for you, allowing you to smash her pum is in order if she asks you to wife her after all she is already doing the wifely duties you just didn't put a ring on it so can't see how you quarrel with this. She likes you and wants to have your kids whats wrong with this afterall if you like her you want her to be the mother of your kids so no problems here. She is just voicing out how can that be desperation? 5 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:24pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Chillisauce:Lol. The colors added beauty to the fantasy. That is why it is just mere fantasy. Real men know such ladies that follow those 100 commandments in the op dnt exist. As imperfect humans, we are still struggling with the 10 commandments from God. Na im person go forge 100 for baby dolls. GOD THANK U 4 GIVING US JUST 10 COMMANDMENTS. Chai, God is sooo merciful. Human beings wicked o. 6 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:28pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
50calibre: Bruv, I met them all the time especially on Saturdays, at the town centre. There was actually one that's attractive as fvck getting too close one time, and was rubbing all her big t.its on my body lol. I actually did talk to her a few times but I had to fall back cos she is like 33. Too old for me. And you don't wanna fall in their trap lool. You need to hear barber shop stories, fam. There was one time two of them were fighting over a married guy at a naij restaurant. And they both know this uncle is married lol. The guy just left them there lol. 1 Like |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by bukatyne(f): 3:31pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: LOL! When we have kids, we need to start praying earnestly for the people they will associate with 2 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by paranorman(m): 3:31pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
aisha2:i love this woman. you just gave me ego a lil' stroke... blessed at thou! 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Missy89(f): 3:36pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
SirShymex: You really think u have all the answers don't you? I will just repeat your quote If you know you know, if you don't, keep living. 2 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:37pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Ilekokonit: Why should it be meant for me and not also for you? Those are the characteristics I will like in my man. What is good for the goose should also be good for the gander. 7 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Ilekokonit: 3:39pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
5minsmadness: Yes its my original work, hence the © symbol at its top. Its funny when you try to give some people free advice gleaned from a "long time" of studying African marriages and they feel as if they know it all with their unteachable spirit. If only some women know what "strategies" are discussed in "places" where African men meet up to socialise. 4 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:39pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Aisha2, what's your problem with this list? Objectively speaking, that is. Would appreciate a reply. 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by tutusky: 3:41pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
hmmm...take it easy bros u r taking it too far and personal. while some of your so called advices are reasonable n realistic most are ridiculous. you cant be a bad husband to your wife and expect "miss perfect african wife" it goes both ways. and mind your language. your tone and responses to the replies are very insultive. it's like you are very bitter and pouring your frustration and nairalanders. take it easy, its not by force to take or follow your advice. others are entitle to their opinionjust as you are entitle to yours. and what works for you might not work for others, thank u. 11 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by djon78(m): 3:43pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Ilekokonit: Dont mind them, most of them dont know that most guys are wising up. Like I tell them for me Complete Submission and Obedience is non negotiable, there can be only one captain in my home. Am surprised at our guys that still tolerate all those feminist crap, they cant even be around me for even a day because the kind heat I will give them they will run, and mind you I wont beat them cus I dont beat women, but they either shape up or ship out. 1 Like |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:43pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
andromida: Who told you African men don't leave their rich abusive spouses? You mean the same African men with all kinds of mistresses everywhere, induced by their wives' wealth? Keep fooling yaself - they suck the peeps and leave her and dry, in her expired state. Don't mess with an African man! Nah, when women start inviting you to singles' nights, almost seducing you on the road and telling you about their single status. Then it evidently shows it's more than the ministry. And they're desperate to mingle. Even when you go to those singles' nights, the overwhelming majority of people there are always women. Why so? Yet a lot of these folks come on here to preach feminism, and how women should be belligerent, while they suffer in silence. Heck, some even lie about being happily married, when they're desperately searching for a partner. Then you have got the ones who are more or less slaves to their husbands, but are always the loudest ones on here. I don't have a problem with a partner doing wifely duties. However, if that's not ya status and you're just a fling. You need to maintain that status and stop forcing yourself on the guy. Give him space to breathe, and be patient. With time, he might consider you. But when you start acting like the wife, when you're not even his official partner - then that's problematic. 3 Likes |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by GuyFawkes: 3:44pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Nice one by the OP, reading through the comments can't help but SMH @ the vitriol been spewed by our resident NL feminists Its not even laying down rules, dude was just giving a well meaning advice. Its left for you to take it or leave it. And enough of all this Black/African feminist crap, y'all don't even believe in it other than to put it up as some sort of self defence. Go have a chat with your mums or grandmas to learn how to be an african woman that's if they haven't been fed the same dogma in their adulthood. Peace 1 Like |
Re: Tips To Keeping A Good African Man by Nobody: 3:45pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
@op, lets narrow this ur tales by moonlight down, can we? Africa is multicultural. What is obtainable in morroco is not d same in kenya. Now, in nigeria we hv numerous culture. U all will agree with me that d way igbo man views marriage and family is not d same as hausa or kanuri or yoruba so do tell us, which culture are u refering to cos in my culture which is igbo i can bet with my ass that our men spoil their ORIAKU so well that a man's worth and money is measured by merely looking at d wife and kids. 2ndly, our men dont brag, they know what they r capable of and do it as d head of the family and it gives them uttermost satisfaction when they see their handwork. Pls go and check d meaning of oriaku and give us the interpretation. All around me, d men pamper and spoil their wives rotten. Yes, most wives drive better cars than their husbands. U guys will come to d net and start spewing rubbish and some gulliable ones will conclude that is how marriage has degenerated into. Yes, marriage pass tru some hardtimes emotionally,psychologically or financially but i tell u good marriage does and will never equate those draculian laws i saw up there. When it comes to marriage, it becomes african man yet african man is yet to show his prowess in world powers and economy. All african countries so backward. U write epistle for women here yet ur fellow men r pocketing d future of ur children to themselves and all u do is hail them for one egbunje or d other. Ndi iberibe. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
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