Hi wonderful people.[left][/left] I am actually confused right now and I need advice on this issue. My eldest sister is married and I was actually in junior secondary school when she got married practically making me stay with her in her house. After a month, I witnessed her being beaten by her husband and during such nights, I will run to my mum's house to call her cos my mum's house is just a stone throw from my sis' house. To cut long story short, I left the house, finished my secondary school, gained admission into a uni but the beating actually continued. So, last year, I came back for my registration so I decided to stay at her place cos my mum relocated. One day I came back from school and my sis was actually 6months pregnant with the fifth child and saw her hubby beating her, I was vexed so I decided to use the mop stick on him which actually broke but he continued beating her so I left the house that night. The next morning, I came to carry my bags, her hubby dragged me and started beating me and asking me why I touched him the prior night. After beating me, I went to the police station and reported the case, the police went and arrested him. He later signed an undertaking not to touch me or my sis. The problem now is that he said I should never come to his again, but nairalandars was I wrong for involving the police? Should I apologise to him?

Must you go to his house? Is he responsible for your upkeep? Can't you do without him? So many questions, jare! Let's say he had the right to beat your sister because they are married but you nko? Abegi, leave matter for mattais.

Please forget this begging business and explain to me why you didn't put your back into it when you were hitting him with the mop? As you were hitting him, he was still able to continue beating your sister, that means you weren't doing a good enough job. So I need to know why?

ileobatojo:
Please forget this begging business and explain to me why you didn't put your back into it when you were hitting him with the mop? As you were hitting him, he was still able to continue beating your sister, that means you weren't doing a good enough job. So I need to know why?

Even I want to know why she did not do a good job with the mop stick

FynBabe:
Must you go to his house? Is he responsible for your upkeep? Can't you do without him? So many questions, jare! Let's say he had the right to beat your sister because they are married but you nko? Abegi, leave matter for mattais.

no, ne is not responsible for my upkeep, for like a year now I have not gone to his house. Just that my mum told me to beg him so that he will forgive me but I don't want to and the man sef is keeping face for me.

pepsyoku:
I was vexed so I decided to use the mop stick on him which actually broke but he continued beating her

Are there no pestle in that house?
Using mopping stick on him is like using a broom-stick to hit him.
Next time go for a stronger object and hit him harder.

jennykadry:


Even I want to know why she did not do a good job with the mop stick

the man is too huge! I pitied my sis, on top say she be woman she carry bele too.

pepsyoku:
the man is too huge! I pitied my sis, on top say she be woman she carry bele too.

What about hot water/oil or a good old stab on the leg with a knife?

pepsyoku:
no, ne is not responsible for my upkeep, for like a year now I have not gone to his house. Just that my mum told me to beg him so that he will forgive me but I don't want to and the man sef is keeping face for me.

Beg who? If you beg that man, one of your fingers will break

pepsyoku:
no, ne is not responsible for my upkeep, for like a year now I have not gone to his house. Just that my mum told me to beg him so that he will forgive me but I don't want to and the man sef is keeping face for me.

I can see you apologising for having hit him but for involving the police after he beat you up? That one he has to eat because he is a violent SOB.

jennykadry:


Beg who? If you beg that man, one of your fingers will break

Lol!

pepsyoku:
no, ne is not responsible for my upkeep, for like a year now I have not gone to his house. Just that my mum told me to beg him so that he will forgive me but I don't want to and the man sef is keeping face for me.

What's wrong with u people? Is nobody concerned about that poor lady who's being used as a punching bag? Na to beg in-law be the koko? Na wa o

Pichure or Adonbilivit

Jackeeh:

What's wrong with u people? Is nobody concerned about that poor lady who's being used as a punching bag? Na to beg in-law be the koko? Na wa o

Why should they be concerned? Is she concerned about her own life? Can you be valued more than you value yourself? Is the sister not an adult? They have been beating here she chose as an adult to stay there and do nothing. Her much younger sister took action the first time he hit her and the coward wont be hitting her again but the wife am sure will continue to stay and chop beating.

Poster, beg who? Is your mother okay? Forgive My asking they are physically abusing her own daughter and may kill her and she is asking you to go and beg the clown. Is she actually your sister's mother or her step mother? I will suffer and birth a child, live close by and accept a man beating my child even while pregnant. God forbid. God forbid, God forbid.

Dont go beg the bully, let him carry face, you too carry face back he is a goat. Sit your mother down and ask her if you should start looking for your real mother

Beg fire. On top Wetin na? Carry yans.h as him carry face. What rubbish. Shameless man

FynBabe:
Must you go to his house? Is he responsible for your upkeep? Can't you do without him? So many questions, jare! Let's say he had the right to beat your sister because they are married but you nko? Abegi, leave matter for mattais.

What are you saying

Maybe you should do like your mum suggested. All the best.

pepsyoku:
no, ne is not responsible for my upkeep, for like a year now I have not gone to his house. Just that my mum told me to beg him so that he will forgive me but I don't want to and the man sef is keeping face for me.

pepsyoku:
Hi wonderful people.[left][/left] I am actually confused right now and I need advice on this issue. My eldest sister is married and I was actually in junior secondary school when she got married practically making me stay with her in her house. After a month, I witnessed her being beaten by her husband and during such nights, I will run to my mum's house to call her cos my mum's house is just a stone throw from my sis' house. To cut long story short, I left the house, finished my secondary school, gained admission into a uni but the beating actually continued. So, last year, I came back for my registration so I decided to stay at her place cos my mum relocated. One day I came back from school and my sis was actually 6months pregnant with the fifth child and saw her hubby beating her, I was vexed so I decided to use the mop stick on him which actually broke but he continued beating her so I left the house that night. The next morning, I came to carry my bags, her hubby dragged me and started beating me and asking me why I touched him the prior night. After beating me, I went to the police station and reported the case, the police went and arrested him. He later signed an undertaking not to touch me or my sis. The problem now is that he said I should never come to his again, but nairalandars was I wrong for involving the police? Should I apologise to him?

Beg fire! No try am! I bet he has stopped or reduced the way he beats your sister. Let him know he has people and the police to contend with whenever he wants to be a beast. Abeg the matter dey vex me sef. Imagine beating a pregnant woman and you are here talking about beg.

Wendy80:
Beg fire. On top Wetin na? Carry yans.h as him carry face. What rubbish. Shameless man

I think say na only me d matter dey vex. The man for sleep for cell at least 2 days. Rubbish

Can't you read?

soonest:

What are you saying

FynBabe:
Maybe you should do like your mum suggested and learn to stay away from husband and wife issues. All the best.

Hmmh! Wonders will never end! Now i believe some women like being beaten

soonest:

I think say na only me d matter dey vex. The man for sleep for cell at least 2 days. Rubbish

Like Aisha2 said they shd check if dat woman is truly dia mother.

I can see there's something wrong with you. What else did you expect me to tell the op when the mum already told him/her to apologise? Do you know whether it is already causing issues in the family? Some of you respond to posts without thinking first. I have been a victim myself. Up till today, my very close relative is not in good terms with me because I intervened in an issue between she and her hubby while I was staying with them during NYSC. It still breaks my heart that the same person I was siding with is carrying face for me after many years, claiming that I was rude to her hubby. I learnt the hard way to stay away from husband/wife issues. I don't care what you think though.

soonest:

Hmmh! Wonders will never end! Now i believe some women like being beaten

@Op, you were not wrong to intervene in a physical violence case,so don't feel guilty. The same people blaming you for intervening would turn around and blame you if something bad had happened to your sister in your watch. The man is brutish, and needed someone to stand up to him for your sister's sake. On this issue, you were right. Even if it causes a quarell btw you and your sister,who to me, is the only one that matters here, maintain your stand and do not apologize, do not go to their house again. Posterity will vindicate you.

which kind gist be Dis @op if I hear sai u go beg tat guy ehen I go flog you, infact your sister dey try, I can't tolerate a man tat beats a woman,even wen my brother beat up his galfriend sum years back I helped her packed her bag to leave him and wen she left he descended on me beating me tat I encourage his babe to go, wen I manage to escape from him I went to mopol base to call mopol for him he smell him bottom tat day after d whole beating for him he was locked up for two days since then he never touch woman again.

aisha2:


Why should they be concerned? Is she concerned about her own life? Can you be valued more than you value yourself? Is the sister not an adult? They have been beating here she chose as an adult to stay there and do nothing. Her much younger sister took action the first time he hit her and the coward wont be hitting her again but the wife am sure will continue to stay and chop beating.

Poster, beg who? Is your mother okay? Forgive My asking they are physically abusing her own daughter and may kill her and she is asking you to go and beg the clown. Is she actually your sister's mother or her step mother? I will suffer and birth a child, live close by and accept a man beating my child even while pregnant. God forbid. God forbid, God forbid.

Dont go beg the bully, let him carry face, you too carry face back he is a goat. Sit your mother down and ask her if you should start looking for your real mother

GBAM!!!! I concur

soonest:

Hmmh! Wonders will never end! Now i believe some women like being beaten

I tire. I really tire o

harmlessphil:
which kind gist be Dis @op if I hear sai u go beg tat guy ehen I go flog you, infact your sister dey try, I can't tolerate a man tat beats a woman,even wen my brother beat up his galfriend sum years back I helped her packed her bag to leave him and wen she left he descended on me beating me tat I encourage his babe to go, wen I manage to escape from him I went to mopol base to call mopol for him he smell him bottom tat day after d whole beating for him he was locked up for two days since then he never touch woman again.

Correct babe

@Fynbabe, I understand what you're trying to say but eh forget that o.Op shouldn't apologise for anything jare. if the man had killed her sister wouldn't it still cause issues?
Nawa for the sister sef, five children ontop all the beatings.

My dear, my mum also told me to apologise but I refused. Since then, I avoid their house because I can't be there and see certain things and ignore. But I learnt that husband and wife will always settle themselves and your relationship with them will never ever be the same again.

Splendblex:
@Fynbabe, I understand what you're trying to say but eh forget that o.Op shouldn't apologise for anything jare. if the man had killed her sister wouldn't it still cause issues?
Nawa for the sister sef, five children ontop all the beatings.

FynBabe:
Must you go to his house? Is he responsible for your upkeep? Can't you do without him? So many questions, jare! Let's say he had the right to beat your sister because they are married but you nko? Abegi, leave matter for mattais.

Say What?!? If I hear am!

Pepsyoku, you don't owe the basdart any apology, I'm shocked That it's your mum suggesting that you apologise. It's their type that will encourage their daughters to endure all manners of abuse so as not to suffer the indignation of a broken marriage. Tell her that you apologising to the SoB will only feed hus over bloated ego and give him more power to treat your sister worse. It's about time someone puts him in his place. You should have reached for a hammer.