Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Callfubu(m): 5:49am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: This story has landed here? I read it on Bella naija. U need to see the hilarious comments there. I truly commend ladies 4 keeping their virginities but I found this vision story ridiculous. So as a christian, her vision told her she would marry a muslim? O.k. Im hoping her husband is the liberal type and 2nd wife wont appear frm nowhere. After 5-10 yrs then she can come back and talk. And by the way, all these details about the wedding night are totally unnecessary. I guess she is the type that fantasizes a lot. She is still in the euphoria phase. She strikes me as a naive lady with no knowledge of experience. well Virgins are supposed to be naive with no knowledge of experience |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by kilokeys(m): 6:25am On Nov 10, 2014 |
![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) ... good story.. but ill prefer a repentant prostitute that has common sense, knows her duties, fears God and keep mum when necessary to a double-reinforced hymen wall that nags, feels too important and lacks sense.. my choice 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Callfubu(m): 6:55am On Nov 10, 2014 |
And where are our Muslim sisters? Are you guys not praying to Allah to convert some cute Christian brother to Islam? #JustMy2cents 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 7:01am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Callfubu: well Virgins are supposed to be naive with no knowledge of experience Im not talking about experience in bedmatics. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 7:10am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Votukpa: Is it only me or is there anyone else who think the entire story is one immense pile of horseshiit?
A cleverly constructed fable being used to promote a certain man of god and his ministry.
Think hard folks. Err, you're on your own on this one... ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 7:18am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Those who willingly gave up their virginity before marriage will most likely not find this piece amusing ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) . That's life. But rather than get defensive, everyone should realise that this piece was not written to condemn anyone. For those who wish they had waited, God sees the heart and judges based on repentance / lack thereof, and not on past mistakes. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by bukatyne(f): 7:35am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Mintayo: Ladies envious of other ladies,smh. After reading the first two pages,i atleast know the ladies that non-virgins,lol. I believe her story,i believe in the supernatural and spirituality. The guy might not be a virgin when she met him since he was not a "christain" when they met. I am happy for her,i pray her home become stronger and better and that the good Lord that have started something sweet in her life will perfect it to the shame of those hoping that in 2-5yrs time,her home might break up. This could happen to anybody as far as the person has given his or her life to Christ and believe that He can be of help martially. A repented prostitute can have the same thing if she believes same with an armed robber. We have Rahab in the Old Testament for reference. There are a lot of lessons to learn from this story however some people have turned it in vir,gin,ity crusade for women only as usual. Guys should learn that they can and should abstain too. Promoting only female virginity is an exercise in futility. God cannot be mocked; we cannot sow hypocrisy as a society and hope to reap righteousness And yes, the husband might have been a virgin. The last I remembered, Islam promotes sex.ual purity in their men and women before marriage 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by zeb04(f): 8:03am On Nov 10, 2014 |
lordnammy: hw will you understand? When you ve given yours to niggas before your birth comment on the topic and move on. Don't be silly. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 8:18am On Nov 10, 2014 |
ChynoBEATS: we knw na..... Pls explain the whole write up 2me ......cos I couldn't read em.. It's 2lonq.... N I hate long stories :\ Haha this is probs the first one I've read. Its just about her and the struggles she had to find a man who was willing to wait till marriage. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by latolak(m): 8:19am On Nov 10, 2014 |
The theme of the story is clouded by religiosity. If you're not Christian, you probably aren't interested in reading this.
Happy Married Life. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by CyracksMrBlogger(m): 8:29am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:
A realist sees both good and bad. A realist sees beyond what you see now. I stated the good in her case; her virginity. Its commendable. When a person is entering fire, a realist will tell you that you are entering fire. And what did i say earlier? I said i hope her husband is the liberal type. I hope his family are not the intrusive type that would influence his decisions later. A radical muslim will change her name to a muslim one, stop her from attending church, make all their children muslims and marry more wives. So im hoping it wont be so for her. things change, humans change. thats reality for you. Not with God's intervention. I wonder why you people think about life without God. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 8:58am On Nov 10, 2014 |
CyracksMrBlogger: Not with God's intervention. I wonder why you people think about life without God. Will u say this if ur sister decided to do the same? Just because God intervenes does not mean u should deliberately fall from a high mountain so that angels can come and save you; exactly what satan told jesus to do. Bad things still happen to good people in case u have forgotten. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by babamoha(m): 9:12am On Nov 10, 2014 |
Story for the gods. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by ericessien24: 9:46am On Nov 10, 2014 |
later now we start hearing
- he / she is not good in bed - she doesn't have style in bed - she just sleep like firewood when fckin - he always travel when I'm Hot so I tested the Bateman. - we are waiting for god for kids.
my advice- test whatever you are buying to make sure it suits you in all aspects.
TEAM #givebirthbeforeimarryyou #wesatisfyeachotherinbed. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Nobody: 10:40am On Nov 10, 2014 |
hmmmmm.......no further comment |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by delishpot: 11:49am On Nov 10, 2014 |
I hope she did not lose it to a man LovePeddler sha. No need to keep it only to give it to a man who boinks all that wears skirts. It devalues the whole thing. Eh wishing her the best and I pray it works well for her. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by pickabeau1: 12:35pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
Lordy Lawd... see bile and spite! ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Women are their own worst enemies |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by DaBullIT(m): 12:37pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
[size=20pt]Pictures Or husband's confirmation Or adonbilivit [/size] ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Sunshinelady(f): 12:55pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
One of the most wonderful stuff av ever read on NL 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Roum(m): 1:02pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
lalasticlala: This Nigerian bride, Lola Akindele Busari has given us a reason why ladies should reserve their virginity till their wedding nights. She shared her inspiring story with Bellanaija and we decided to share it here too. It wasn't all easy.....her first three boyfriends left her because they were not ready to accept her 'TeamVTillWN" principle....when she turned 26 however, she cried to God........it's quite a long story of waiting on God and how faithful God is...she further revealed how difficult it was, letting her husband come into her soul, the first time, on their wedding night...and more...enjoy the long but eye-opening piece below:
How Lola and Dayo met
At the end of July 2010, I had just come back from a holiday with my sister and friends and I was also rounding up my dissertation for my masters program. I was ready for the next stage of my life and I prayed for God to reveal my future husband, as I didn’t want to be lead astray by some of the guys in my life who had shown interest at that time.I decided to do a week of prayer and fasting for God to please lead me to my future husband and to give me a discerning spirit throughout the whole process. Being 26 years old, from the age of 16 up until I was 23, I had had 3 different boyfriends at different stages throughout that time. The reason nfor breaking up with each one however, had always been the same. None of them could understand or accept my views on having no sex until marriage (even though they said they were fine with it at first). I had made this decision when I was 13 at my old church, KICC, after reading Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo’s book, “Let’s Talk About Sex” and it’s a decision that God has allowed me to keep, by His Grace.
So this time, I really needed God to bring the man hat He had already destined for me to be with and not someone who I wanted to chose with myown reasoning.The first day of my fast for the week was in August which was the first day that Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo had given out his mobile number for people to call him, just before IGOC 2010. My mother encouraged me to call him and so I did. I told Pastor Matthew my prayer points regarding my future husband and we both prayedfor a discerning spirit so that I would know the right one whom God has chosen for me.
Strangely, throughout that week, I randomly received messages and calls from my ex boyfriends, telling me that they still wanted to be with me etc – but I was able to dismiss their advances without being drawn back in. Furthermore, for each of these ex boyfriends, God revealed things to me about them that were warning signs, confirming that He did not want me to be with them. On the last day of my week of fasting I received a message from an old friend from University called Dayo. We had studied at Queen Mary’s together in 2006, until he left for a different university (UCL) where he completed his masters program. We occasionally kept in touch from time to time. But at this point, we hadn’t spoken for a while and I didn’t know his intentions and was not prepared to ‘waste’ time with another guy who was not ready to deal with my views on abstinence, so I ignored his message without blinking an eyelid. Surprisingly, later that day, my mother randomly asked after him, saying that she hadn’t heard me mention him for a while. I was shocked and told her that he had actually sent me a message that morning. She urged me to reply to his message, which I did reluctantly.
He Was The Answer to My Prayers
We eventually started speaking, and when I asked why he had decided to contact me after solong, I learned that for some reason, after such a long time, he just felt an inexplicable urge to send me a message on the morning that had turned out to be my last day of prayer and fasting. And thus began the start of something good. Until the night after our second date, when we were speaking on the phone and I asked him which church he attended. It was at this point that he went silent on the phone. He then said he had something to tell me, something that he had wanted to tell me face to face. I urged him to go on and that’s when he finally told me that he was a Muslim! I honestly felt like I’d been slapped in the face by a mighty wave of shock and disbelief. Nevertheless, I simply informed him that we would just have to be friends and that as a believer in Christ, there would be no way that our relationship could go further towards the road of marriage.I informed my parents and they supported my decision, however, I could feel a strong urging in my spirit, telling me not to break up our relationship and to just stay where I was with him. Of this I was certain but what I was not certain of was of how God wanted this to go. Was sI just supposed to be a friend to him who would introduce him to Christ and after a period of time we would go our separate ways?
Angelic Intervention
It was not until January 2011 that God began to speak to me so clearly. At the start of January, I awoke at 3am to a bright light shining in my bedroom. There, standing by my wardrobe was a very tall angel dressed in sparkling white robes.I was so afraid and I could feel a strange sensation surging through my body that would cause me to shake, like my whole body was vibrating and shock waves were going through me but at the same time it was a beautiful feeling. And then the angel spoke to me. It said that God has seen that I’ve been worried about Dayo being a Muslim, but that I shouldn’t worry about it because in the Lord’s own time, He will bring Dayo to Christ and that the Lord has called for us to be together as husband and wife.I was shocked, afraid, amazed and glad all at the same time. I couldn’t even speak and the Holy Spirit instructed me to write everything down thatthe angel had told me. I also wrote down the dateand time that it happened and told my family about the visitation.I was so happy. I had no clue when Dayo’s salvation would take place or when our wedding would be but I trusted in the Lord and even bought my wedding dress and started making wedding plans. After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me various things about what would happen in my life in the future, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I.One of the key things that Jesus told me during one of my visits was that He himself would bind Dayo and I together with cords of love that cannot be broken and that we will be joined together when we are made of the same material.At one point in 2011 the Lord told me that when Dayo gives his life, a sign will take place and thatsign would be: one of the elders in my church will come me up to me after I have taught my Sunday school class, and enquire of Dayo and the wedding plans.I wrote and documented everything down, sharing the Lord’s messages with my family but not with Dayo, as the Lord had said that I was not to reveal these things to him. That He himself would reveal Himself to Dayo so that all of the Glory would go to God and not to any man. Each time that God spoke to me, I would feel that same sensation of shock waves surging through my body and His voice would sound like thunder in my ears, so loud and mighty but also very distinctly clear and full of love.
Dayo’s Salvation
That very same night, my mother had a dream that the time for Dayo’s salvation was now. At 3 am, she woke up everyone in my family and told us to pray for Dayo, for his salvation was almost at hand.I prayed, believing in God’s promises but also having a slight sense of doubt and despair, for I knew that the past two years had been so difficult. Furthermore, at this point in time, Dayo and I had taken a break, as I wanted him to seek Christ and the truth for himself, and to not accept Christianity just because of me or to just accept Islam because he had grown up in a Muslim home.I explained that the truth is found in having a true personal experience and relationship with God for yourself and then you will truly know which is the right way to follow God.
God told me that He would put spiritual wings behind Dayo’s ears so that when He calls him to salvation, he would hear and know that Jesus truly is the Lord and to God be the glory, the very next night, after my mother’s dream, Dayo gave his life to Christ and he later explained that he had had a dream that revealed the truth of Christ to him. The next day was a Sunday…and it was the week that I was scheduled to teach my Sunday school class. And in accordance with the Lord’s perfect promises, after the service, as I was walking out of Sunday school, the very same elder that God had told me about over a year ago, approached me as I was leaving and asked me about Dayo and the wedding, just as God said it would happen.Straight after I had spoken to this elder, my Pastor, Pastor Ashaye called me aside, saying that he wanted a meeting the next week to discuss the progress regarding Dayo’s salvation. At this point I hadn’t told him about Dayo’s salvation yet and I truly knew that God was moving.I can only give God the glory because it’s all by His doing. His plans for us will never fail and His pure love for us goes beyond anything that we could imagine.I am truly grateful to God for blessing me with a man who, despite not being a Christian before, still respected my love for Christ and my views regarding no sex before marriage – a view that even my ex Christian boyfriends could never accept.God has blessed me with the man of my dreams and brought me my true prince. In fact, at a time when I questioned God about His decision to bring me a Muslim man instead of a Christian, and I was beginning to feel envious of typical young ladies who found their husbands in Church, God’s exact words to me were: You have your prince in Dayo. I truly bless the Lord for His faithfulness and I thank God for the encouragement and support of my close friends, my siblings, my father and especially my mother, because God revealed things concerning Dayo’s salvation to her and hersupport throughout it all has been an incredible blessing.
A year after....Losing my Virginity
Now, it’s interesting that I can joke about intimacy. right now – because a year ago, when we got married, to be quite frank…I was in tears when I fully realised how painful it actually was to lose my virginity. It was not a laughing matter at the time AT ALL! And I don’t mean painful in the sense that I felt I was losing a piece of myself… far from it! And it wasn’t even the fact that it just physically REALLY hurt! The thing that ‘pained me’ the most was the fact that I was with the love of my life, we had just had the most beautiful wedding with all our friends and loved ones, dancing away and popping (non alcoholic) sparkling wine… and when it was time to now Pop The Cherry…I was too afraid! I felt as though I was not fulfilling my first wifely task.
We had stayed at the spa hotel in which we got married for a couple of days before we flew off to the Dominican Republic (and not Barbados – private joke) for the honeymoon…and I felt so distraught that I was letting my husband down. On the night of the wedding, I was full of mixed emotions. I had finally gotten married! It was all I had ever dreamed about. I had been planning thebig day since forever… It was so lovely and beautiful and my husband is the best thing that’s happened to me apart from Jesus…he waited for me and respected and adopted my views on having no premarital sex from the beginning – so WHY was it so difficult to Just Do It? ‘Nike’ lied! I wanted to…but just couldn’t. story for Atabuchi!! |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by unmask: 2:24pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
So she waited and then.....? Did she get a million dollars? Did she end up with Zuckerberg? Did she enjoy the sexxx? Is she guaranteed a marriage without stress? Pastor oyaks is getting a divorce did she read that too? She was 26 and already fasting for a husband, can't we say she settled out of frustration (being someone that couldn't serve alcohol at her wedding)..... Can her husband perform in bed?......... All these and much more you will find answers to in the concluding episode of DAYO AND THE VEE 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by DaBullIT(m): 3:34pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
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Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by bukatyne(f): 3:49pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
DaBullIT:
No spoil song for the owner. Where you see Latin kekere ? No be only Latin na French It did not occur to you that it was a typo? The keyboards I use have auto correct features |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by DaBullIT(m): 3:55pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
bukatyne:
It did not occur to you that it was a typo?
The keyboards I use have auto correct features In that case have damn you autocorrect Nigeria ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by myhero4eva: 4:28pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
Naturally incredible and supernaturally wonerful, ordinarily doubtful but extraordinary possible. What am i saying? It takes an extraordinary man (man with Gods spirit) to receive an extraordinary gift or attain extraordinary level. As a positivist, no mata hw doubtful sm ppl may tot abt it, life in all ramificatn is full of possibilities. D bible says... We cn do all things thru Christ dat strenghteneth us. Though God does nt ned d two 2 b virgins b4 givin either of them a virgin as a partner as lng as d persn is a new creation... Old tins are past away, behold all tins are become new...dats d word of God. BT TNK GOD D REALIST SAID ABT EUPHORIA, WHICH IS JOY. SHE JUST GAVE A TESTIMONY WHICH WULD HOLD N GUIDE HER LIFE 4 MORE TESTIMONIES. GOD HAD CONVERTED A MUSLIM 2 MARRY A CHRISTIAN. I WISH THEM WELL. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by lalasticlala(m): 5:37pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
Sunshinelady: One of the most wonderful stuff av ever read on NL |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by ceononi: 6:38pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
Lemme say this, the fact that you marry a virgin or that you waited till your wedding night is not a yardstick for a happy home or married life... 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by deywarley(m): 10:49pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
Story for the gods..... *sips alomo* |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by Babygal4eva(f): 11:04pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
ceononi: Lemme say this, the fact that you marry a virgin or that you waited till your wedding night is not a yardstick for a happy home or married life... That's what I tell people that being a virgin in my opinion is actually overrated afterall what is virginity isn't it just a biological thing? is it by only having sex the hymen can be broken? oh please I'm not saying people should sleep around like dogs in constant heat but measuring your happiness solely based on the fact that your virginity is intact just seems really silly, Afterall hardly would you see a guy say he is a virgin on his wedding night. Goodluck to her tho. *goes to read the bible* 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by FarmTech(m): 11:04pm On Nov 10, 2014 |
But the wedding gown is sth else, makes me doubt if they're really christian. |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by bawberry(m): 12:58am On Nov 11, 2014 |
My problem with Nigerian virgins is that a girl kisses you,u both do MouthAction and other stuffs but she then says I am a virgin who is she deceiving secondly some do anal but say I am a virgin there. These are the dumb things I have experienced myself so all I can say is what type of virgin was she and secondly I as a man I don't even fancy virgins, I would marry a girl based on other perceptive than because she is a virgin. And I would also agree if she comes back in ten years and shares her story including other things she hasn't even started facing challenges. I would prefer a prostitute that as repented than a virgin I don't know whether she would do my driver. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Bride Who 'waited Till Her Wedding Night' Tells Her Inspiring Story by ncChigo(m): 3:17am On Nov 11, 2014 |
cngrats!...i envy u 1 Like |