agabaI23:
I can, just appreciate me and look out for my wellbeing...

Pamcrest:
I am used to being pampered....it started with my father n infected all my family members. Notwithstanding I am not a spoilt brat as I got a healthy dose of scolding when need be, so I guess there should be some balance.
In a relationship, d girl would definitely love some pampering from her man but don't overdo it else it becomes an obsession n a turnoff. A lady should also offer to pamper her man sometimes. I do that for my man occasionally.....a massage or rub down, a surprise gift when there's no celebration, a candlelit dinner at my expense. I noticed that whenever I do any of these, d guy just trips n for d next few weeks, he is falling over himself to please me........d Queen of d manor gets royal treatment.... Loving is reciprocal
My humble submission

AfricanApple:
it can be disastrous. I hate when some is over pampering me, d irony of it all is u can't pamper me forever, so why start now

AfricanApple:
lmao appreciating u already

agabaI23:
That's a good starting point. I will have to the market and buy pampers first.

AfricanApple:
make sure its d original one.

Yomieluv:
My girlfriends always call me a psycho..

I am indifferent to whatever attitude they put,I don't cram any one's phone number,incase she messes up,instant deletion,without any qualms..

I spent my time,and resources to look good,hardly have time for any dilly-dally with any babe.

Funniest thing,they can't just let me be..

Never treat her like a Celeb, else she will treat you like a Fan..

agabaI23:
Haba, Shoprite no dey carry fake naa. Lemme run before they close...

AfricanApple:
its ghosts u will find there

smaddly:
Do girls need so much pampering in relationships-isnt it disastrous?
why pamper them so much..is it dat we guys ar afraid of loosin them...we guys just need to limit that and be absolutely truthful with them>>tell them their flaws then proffer solutions>>hopefully they would change.

ameheo:
Man allegedly pays N40,000 for son-in-
law to be killed
http://www.kulzone.tk/2014/11/man-allegedly-pays-n40000-for-son-in.html?m=1

Marc9:
Moderation is basic.

Pamper, but don't over-pamper!

Give her what she needs, but not necessarily what she wants.

soledadd:
I dont even understand what you mean as pampering. I my family no pampering for anybody we are so blunt and leave no stone unturned. My hubby is so strong and so i learnt. And its been working. For instance when we quarell no body begs or says sorry later we forget and move on. Although he still spoils me with gifts and good time when we are flowing fine.

MizMyColi:
Moderation is key, in everything.

Case in point, me.

I like to be pampered.
No sane lady doesn't.

However, some of us (ladies) are too controlling in that regard.
We expect the man to go out of his way for us, we expect him to know just what to say to us, how to and when to.
We really don't care about him, except he cares about us.
Ideally, it shouldn't be that way.

A man thinks differently from a woman, there are those times when he just can't bring himself to pamper and be all lovey dovey.
This is why it is dangerous for ladies to base their sense of self worth on people's validation.
Let all the validation you need come from within, not without.

That way, when the pampering becomes less or totally absent, you're able to carry on without loosing confidence in your man/relationship.

To both sides of the divide, I have this to say.

A healthy relationship is about so many + factors.
One major + factor is; Compromise, healthy compromise.

tranxo:
Pamper to develop, don't pamper to spoil.

TheNaijan:

Give a woman all s[b]he wants and I guarantee she'd never be yours[/b]... Haven't you guys heard this: Alpha f*cks and beta bucks-it's biology.Make a woman know she is your all and I guarantee she'd manipulate you or you may loss her...A guy[b] should always have options[/b]....If a nice girl tells me at the bar: ''oh! buy a drink for me''...In her mind she expects me to yield to her request because she is used to guys giving her stuff.But I'd most times prefer to tell her :''I could order a coffee and we'd both share the cup''.... The results though quite different usually yield positive results...
It's not a new thing that girls are always attracted to guys who don't treat them too nice....

Freest:

Hope you wouldn't mind if i pamper you Trust me am a good pamperer seeking a pamperee...

prophetfire:
yes thats right.a girl I wld av married initialy wanted pampering to spoil bt I was more intersted in moulding her to hav a formidable future.she wnted junketing around all through bt I wanted to hav a woman dt others ll respect.we parted ways nd I went for a serious minded girl nd am enjoying it.KNOW WHAT?after I moved on,her eyes opened nd she is now deseprate.

jahbiz:
Omo u fine small na, afit b ur vampire? Oh sorry I min pamperer.

laroux:
@op girls actually vary. If you're talking about Caucasians, Latinos and Asians then yes you should pamper them cos they know what love and relationships entails. They know what it means to live someone and they will make your life very easy and worth living. But on the other hand, their Nigerian counterparts are nothing but pile of faeces. Nigerian girls will make your life very miserable cos they are all hoes, ex prostitutes and potential prostitutes. All they know is free food, recharge cards, Brazilian hair, blackberry and the front sit of a man's car cos that's their life worth. While some of the sensible ones amongst these harlots are getting engagement and wedding rings, the others are busy getting recharge cards. Do yourself and don't try pampering a Nigerian girl. The only thing they understand is a good whopping. A very good beating if she goes out of line. If you pamper her she will see you as a fool. If you pamper her she will call you a weak man in the midst of her friends. But on the other hand, if you beat her whenever she misbehave, she will adore you. She will see you as a demigod and will worship the ground you walk.

Nwedy:
:Pquote author=jahbiz post=27934037] Omo u fine small na, afit b ur vampire? Oh sorry I min pamperer. ehhh,I no want u cos u no fine @ all.

jahbiz:
aknow say na joke u dey joke cos if una c m personally,dramatically u go fall inlove. I swear

MizMyColi:
Moderation is key, in everything.

Case in point, me.

I like to be pampered.
No sane lady doesn't.

However, some of us (ladies) are too controlling in that regard.
We expect the man to go out of his way for us, we expect him to know just what to say to us, how to and when to.
We really don't care about him, except he cares about us.
Ideally, it shouldn't be that way.

A man thinks differently from a woman, there are those times when he just can't bring himself to pamper and be all lovey dovey.
This is why it is dangerous for ladies to base their sense of self worth on people's validation.
Let all the validation you need come from within, not without.

That way, when the pampering becomes less or totally absent, you're able to carry on without loosing confidence in your man/relationship.

To both sides of the divide, I have this to say.

A healthy relationship is about so many + factors.
One major + factor is; Compromise, healthy compromise.

tranxo:
Pamper to develop, don't pamper to spoil.