bigass:
Let the relationship blossom to a particular direction. Then call the guy ask for his address. Tell him you know what he's planning to do with your wife and there's no need to hide it. Then take your wife and drop her in his house. Then call her parents to know how they will return your dowry

youngman stop listening to this bigass... We all cheat at one point or the other in our love life.. Just handle d situation by calling her to order... But are u certain u don't do same? Cos av. Heard of d word karma

Interesting!!! Wife calling another man 'Love',wonder y d paper 'goons' are not here to defend her already. Meanwhile, I think its not everything a man sees he should react to,tell her you have seen 'stuff' would only make her very cautious However,if I were you (cos I kinda got a tiny tempah),I wud take screen shots for now n keep in her file until she really does something she thinks is not worth Fighting about.

On the other hand, pls confront her if you want it to stop.

luvablesam:
Interesting!!! Wife calling another man 'Love',wonder y d paper 'goons' are not here to defend her already. Meanwhile, I think its not everything a man sees he should react to,tell her you have seen 'stuff' would only make her very cautious However,if I were you (cos I kinda got a tiny tempah),I wud take screen shots for now n keep in her file until she really does something she thinks is not worth Fighting about.

On the other hand, pls confront her if you want it to stop.

if u screen munch her chart and keep for her to do more dirty things to use against her in feature that shows u don't lover her. Cos if you do you will caution her and call her to order as you. Said bro

bigass:
If I were you, I will create an avenue to bring out the worst in her. Do not confront her now as this will only make her hide things just act as if u didn't see nothing. However reduce your level of care so that she have more justification in her foolish mind to go all the way then you will know what your wife is capable of.

Bros, if you follow this advice, you are on your own.

Why do you have to wait it out? So what if the guy is more loaded than you? Are you insecure?

Confront your wife. Demand an explanation. Ask that she discontinues this unhealthy trend. Are you even giving her the requisite attention or your marriage blues have worn out? How am I sure it's not your fault sef.

Anyways, goodluck!

I love nairaland soooo much esp this family section.
When a woman cheats, they start blaming the husband that its his fault and take sides wt d lady that cheated/cheats but when a man cheats, Yu see all kind of insults saying we men are meant to chat bla bla bla

I can forgive yu of any wrong doings but I can never forgive n live with a cheating woman. Those type of women bring death to husband(Yoruba beliefs).

CHEATING IS A CHOICE, NOT A MISTAKE

Thanks

There's something called Emotional infidelity... Probably that what's happening. Buy isn't enough excuse to chase her out.

Would suggest you ask her nicely... Not. Confront... Ask whose our new boyfriend and watch her reaction... Its at that point you know if she's involved with the guy or not.

Truth is, this things happen since the advent of BBM and all other modes of communication. Also, check your self, is there what she wants that you are not doing?

At the end of the day, it's all about communication.

edozie04:
Did you catch her in another man's arms??Seriously itz just a chat,some ladies can say all that without meaning anything,do u want me to show you screen grabs of some of my chats that some ladies use that for me?As far as you have not caught her in another man's arms,she is 100percent innocent

Your comment reminds of this phrase
'You are innocent untill proven guilty'
But human will be humans...we form our opinions. We do not need prove. A lot of factors are better than PROVE.
Like in this instance, her body language, her intimate chats with the other man.
I say she is guilty.
A lot of people think Marital Infidelity is all about sex, but that is wrong. Flirting, for instance is also yet another form of infidelity.
She should face the consequences of her actions.

@ OP, confront her respectfully and give her some warning. So that if she does not desist, you have to play your card.

princesstemi:
I will advise you to ask her bt in a cool manner, than keeping it in your mind thinking negative things abt this issue. Might not be what u thinking anyway, ask her and free your mind the gud luck

please create a conducive environment and ask her. pls do DAT as fast as possible, cos ladies are so fragile and needed not to be left alone for long.

bigass:
If I were you, I will create an avenue to bring out the worst in her. Do not confront her now as this will only make her hide things just act as if u didn't see nothing. However reduce your level of care so that she have more justification in her foolish mind to go all the way then you will know what your wife is capable of.

Wow, you've been on this forum since 2009. I wish I was ooo

Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

aisha2:
Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

wrong for husband to touch his wife phone?

I don't believe this story.

bigass:


wrong for husband to touch his wife phone?

Well they always say here that it is wrong for the wife to touch ogas phone and even blame her when she finds anything

Yoruba will say " ati kekere lati peka iroko, to ba dele tan, apa o ni ka" (Its from the young age we cut the branches of Iroko tree cos when it fully grown, you might not be able to cut it again)

OP pls, if you love your wife dearly, call her and talk about it pls..in a simple manner, explain your observations to her and how you feel about what you saw.

Our women do somethings that they feel in their mind means nothing not until we caution them and talk to them in a friendly manner.

aisha2:
Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

aisha2:


Well they always say here that it is wrong for the wife to touch ogas phone and even blame her when she finds anything

Are you married?

bigass:


A virtuous woman will never consider cheating under any circumstances instead she might report her husband to those he respects. Not forming an unholy relationship with other men.

You don't get what am trying to say! Pre adventure, she's not a virtuous woman.....So it's better for the man to perform all his duties so he will be vindicated when the time comes datz my point.

jarkbauer:


Maybe you are the one

He is not, go and work on yourself, you are so insecure

21st Marriages need 21st century manipulations and controls. Our parents', churches' advises and prayers may likely not quench our quiet desperation. For example, How do you talk a woman, whose fantasy is to have sex in a club toilet ? This is the world of women (fantasy).

OP; This is my advise; Marriage issues are never to be taken lightly as a man, you must be a man. Every suspicion in marriages must be treated like war.

Step 1: Copy the man's phone number, write it in a piece of paper.

Step 2: Buy 2 new smart phones and sim cards.

Step 3: Make your wife's phone to disappear with the sim card ofcourse, and when she complains she hasnt seen her phone, give her a new phone and simcard registered.(Never allow her retrieve the other line). Keep one of the new phone for your covet Operation.

Step 4: Insert your new simcard into your new phone and text her lover, (as your wife ofcourse), telling him you (your wife) lost your other phone and this is your new sim, send the message text or whatsapp messages. You should be able to play out the true nature of their relationship in 24hrs, you should know if they have done it yet, about to do it or never going to. Simple.

Step 5: If they have done it, then you have your wife's previous phone messages as evidences, plus confirmation on the new phone. If they are about to do it, then move to step 6.

Step 6: Accept (as your wife) to do it, give venue, (hotel with good security and by the road), make sure, you plan in such a way that the lady is the one paying the Hotel fees etc. Lets say its room 215, Eko Hotel on Saturday 4PM, move to step 7

Step 7: Plan for evening get away to Eko Hotel with your wife, and stay in room 215 with your beautiful wife, and make sure you have 2 trusted friends, and one of your wife's friend in the next room, your wife must not know these allies are around the corner.

(All conversations with the lover restricted to chats cos cheating wife's hardly talk on phone lest the husbands know).

Step 8: (Action); When there is a knock on the door, that fateful date and minute, excuse your wife, and go into the bathroom, and have her attend to the (room service) lover at the door. Move to step 9.

Step 9: Drama! Drama!! Drama!!! (What you do there, is at your discretion, but if you need my advise.....)

Billyonaire:
21st Marriages need 21st century manipulations and controls. Our parents', churches' advises and prayers may likely not quench our quiet desperation. For example, How do you talk a woman, whose fantasy is to have sex in a club toilet ? This is the world of women (fantasy).

OP; This is my advise; Marriage issues are never to be taken lightly as a man, you must be a man. Every suspicion in marriages must be treated like war.

Step 1: Copy the man's phone number, write it in a piece of paper.

Step 2: Buy 2 new smart phones and sim cards.

Step 3: Make your wife's phone to disappear with the sim card ofcourse, and when she complains she hasnt seen her phone, give her a new phone and simcard registered.(Never allow her retrieve the other line). Keep one of the new phone for your covet Operation.

Step 4: Insert your new simcard into your new phone and text her lover, (as your wife ofcourse), telling him you (your wife) lost your other phone and this is your new sim, send the message text or whatsapp messages. You should be able to play out the true nature of their relationship in 24hrs, you should know if they have done it yet, about to do it or never going to. Simple.

Step 5: If they have done it, then you have your wife's previous phone messages as evidences, plus confirmation on the new phone. If they are about to do it, then move to step 6.

Step 6: Accept (as your wife) to do it, give venue, (hotel with good security and by the road), make sure, you plan in such a way that the lady is the one paying the Hotel fees etc. Lets say its room 215, Eko Hotel on Saturday 4PM, move to step 7

Step 7: Plan for evening get away to Eko Hotel with your wife, and stay in room 215 with your beautiful wife, and make sure you have 2 trusted friends, and one of your wife's friend in the next room, your wife must not know these allies are around the corner.

(All conversations with the lover restricted to chats cos cheating wife's hardly talk on phone lest the husbands know).

Step 8: (Action); When there is a knock on the door, that fateful date and minute, excuse your wife, and go into the bathroom, and have her attend to the (room service) lover at the door. Move to step 9.

Step 9: Drama! Drama!! Drama!!! (What you do there, is at your discretion, but if you need my advise.....)

U try.

aisha2:
Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

Aisha,

I found it compelling to respond to your comment, it MUST be you lack the capacity to interfere in such delicate issues as the OP has mentioned. This is marriage my dear, tied to several sacred vows not the daily waste of affection you folks have earned expertise at.
Kindly ignore such topics if you aren't able to pass on sensible opinions. Karma is very observant and pays in hard currencies

princesstemi:
if u screen munch her chart and keep for her to do more dirty things to use against her in feature that shows u don't lover her. Cos if you do you will caution her and call her to order as you. Said bro

I won't be using anytin thing against her in the future,I would just be ' fe de records'. A man that nags and complains always wud just make a woman frigid,over cautious and timid at times. Love doesn't mean I shld say 'I saw u greet bro tango too intimately' everytime I see her talk to a man. Love waits till the right time.

luvablesam:


I won't be using anytin thing against her in the future,I would just be ' fe de records'. A man that nags and complains always wud just make a woman frigid,over cautious and timid at times. Love doesn't mean I shld say 'I saw u greet bro tango too intimately' everytime I see her talk to a man. Love waits till the right time.

you are right but is better u ask than keeping quite cos dat makes u misbehave and act on what u see but when u ask her it's free your mind. That is nt nagging depends on how you ask her

aisha2:
Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

Hahahahahahahahaha. Lol @ tearing cloth. Hypocrisy stinks in this thread. Thank God someone is seeing what i am seeing. Let me drop my own nollywood advice sef.

Op, what took you to your wife's phone? you want high b.p abi? You want to die of stroke? dnt you know what you dnt know wont kill you? Ignore it and perform your husbandly roles jare!! Show her more love and care. Women are like babies and need to be pampered. Pamper her joor. Her heart will soften and She wont dare cheat on you. Fast and Pray. Pray pray pray. Go and find seductive boxers to wear. Your six packs and biceps nko? are they popping out? You better hit the gym. Are you romantic? are you a thoughtful person? How many times have you taken your wife out for romantic getaways? your bedmatics nko? is it on point? Better improve. You better make yourself happy o. What you saw in her phone was your mind playing tricks on you jare.

Billyonaire:
21st Marriages need 21st century manipulations and controls. Our parents', churches' advises and prayers may likely not quench our quiet desperation. For example, How do you talk a woman, whose fantasy is to have sex in a club toilet ? This is the world of women (fantasy).

OP; This is my advise; Marriage issues are never to be taken lightly as a man, you must be a man. Every suspicion in marriages must be treated like war.

Step 1: Copy the man's phone number, write it in a piece of paper.

Step 2: Buy 2 new smart phones and sim cards.

Step 3: Make your wife's phone to disappear with the sim card ofcourse, and when she complains she hasnt seen her phone, give her a new phone and simcard registered.(Never allow her retrieve the other line). Keep one of the new phone for your covet Operation.

Step 4: Insert your new simcard into your new phone and text her lover, (as your wife ofcourse), telling him you (your wife) lost your other phone and this is your new sim, send the message text or whatsapp messages. You should be able to play out the true nature of their relationship in 24hrs, you should know if they have done it yet, about to do it or never going to. Simple.

Step 5: If they have done it, then you have your wife's previous phone messages as evidences, plus confirmation on the new phone. If they are about to do it, then move to step 6.

Step 6: Accept (as your wife) to do it, give venue, (hotel with good security and by the road), make sure, you plan in such a way that the lady is the one paying the Hotel fees etc. Lets say its room 215, Eko Hotel on Saturday 4PM, move to step 7

Step 7: Plan for evening get away to Eko Hotel with your wife, and stay in room 215 with your beautiful wife, and make sure you have 2 trusted friends, and one of your wife's friend in the next room, your wife must not know these allies are around the corner.

(All conversations with the lover restricted to chats cos cheating wife's hardly talk on phone lest the husbands know).

Step 8: (Action); When there is a knock on the door, that fateful date and minute, excuse your wife, and go into the bathroom, and have her attend to the (room service) lover at the door. Move to step 9.

Step 9: Drama! Drama!! Drama!!! (What you do there, is at your discretion, but if you need my advise.....)

Hehehehehe. Tips for houshusbands.

Sophyrocks:


Hahahahahahahahaha. Lol @ tearing cloth. Hypocrisy stinks in this thread. Thank God someone is seeing what i am seeing. Let me drop my own nollywood advice sef.

Op, what took you to your wife's phone? you want high b.p abi? You want to die of stroke? dnt you know what you dnt know wont kill you? Ignore it and perform your husbandly roles jare!! Show her more love and care. Women are like babies and need to be pampered. Pamper her joor. Her heart will soften and She wont dare cheat on you. Fast and Pray. Pray pray pray. Go and find seductive boxers to wear. Your six packs and biceps nko? are they popping out? You better hit the gym. You better make yourself happy o. What you saw in her phone was your mind playing tricks on you jare.

you are just so so on point, I hate it when guyz check my phone or me checking guy phone I dnt do it I hate checking my friends phone nt to talk of my Bf. I never won die or BP jare bad guyz every where

princesstemi:
you are right but is better u ask than keeping quite cos dat makes u misbehave and act on what u see but when u ask her it's free your mind. That is nt nagging depends on how you ask her

How would u ask,pls explain?. Do u know when u ask someone to explain situations every single time,they usually come forward prepared every single time. So wats d need?

luvablesam:


How would u ask,pls explain?. Do u know when u ask someone to explain situations every single time,they usually come forward prepared every single time. So wats d need?

you dnt need ask u just ave to let her knw what u see and u dnt like it and u dnt want that to happen again no be fight matter bro na one on one chart in a calm voice the woman will apologise and stop d dirty act, we women are not fool we only react when some men believe dey can do and say whatever de want cos dey are d head I will stop here. Thank you

Soyedele1:
I love nairaland soooo much esp this family section.
When a woman cheats, they start blaming the husband that its his fault and take sides wt d lady that cheated/cheats but when a man cheats, Yu see all kind of insults saying we men are meant to chat bla bla bla

I can forgive yu of any wrong doings but I can never forgive n live with a cheating woman. Those type of women bring death to husband(Yoruba beliefs).

CHEATING IS A CHOICE, NOT A MISTAKE

Thanks

Please where did poster say that he caught his wife cheating? Or do you suggest a man throws his wife out because she was foolish enough to use "hi Love" for another man. If she has committed the act, there won't be a reason for this thread because he did probably be hauling her baggages out.

aisha2:
Everybody is here tearing cloth. Nobody has asked:

1. Why did you touch her phone
2. What did you do to push her out
3. Why not fast and pray, loose that belle and wear sexy boxers
4. Ignore it, dont question her or nag it will push her to the other mans arms
5. Infact when you catch her sleeping with the man dont say anything instead, do your husbandly roles and when she asks tell her that its probably because you failed as a husband that pushed her out.

Poster sorry for making light of this but the double standard here stinks to the highest level

Oh lawd!!

Na wa oh, boyz are not smiling see as them wan lynch me. Abeg who go help them donate fuel, matches and tyre lmao.
So stupid advice dey pain.
Poster better go on his knees buy red boxers and singlet, he shouldn't allow all these single meninst break his home, they are jealous they will immediately rush in and take his home and he will be left alone and an old cargo

Sophyrocks:


Hahahahahahahahaha. Lol @ tearing cloth. Hypocrisy stinks in this thread. Thank God someone is seeing what i am seeing. Let me drop my own nollywood advice sef.

Op, what took you to your wife's phone? you want high b.p abi? You want to die of stroke? dnt you know what you dnt know wont kill you? Ignore it and perform your husbandly roles jare!! Show her more love and care. Women are like babies and need to be pampered. Pamper her joor. Her heart will soften and She wont dare cheat on you. Fast and Pray. Pray pray pray. Go and find seductive boxers to wear. Your six packs and biceps nko? are they popping out? You better hit the gym. Are you romantic? are you a thoughtful person? How many times have you taken your wife out for romantic getaways? your bedmatics nko? is it on point? Better improve. You better make yourself happy o. What you saw in her phone was your mind playing tricks on you jare.

Thank you jare. Poster answer these questions first

princesstemi:
you dnt need ask u just ave to let her knw what u see and u dnt like it and u dnt want that to happen again no be fight matter bro na one on one chart in a calm voice the woman will apologise and stop d dirty act, we women are not fool we only react when some men believe dey can do and say whatever de want cos dey are d head I will stop here. Thank you

Doesn't mata. there is no confrontation in a relationship without raised voices.