ityP:


It should be a very important matter... You risk an unpleasant marriage if you choose to marry a man with different Christian faiths, especially when you dislike his denomination... And you risk your spiritual health if you just choose to align yourself to any church cos your hubby attends there... It's a matter that should be taken with the utmost seriousness

And yet millions of couples from different faiths manage to marry and live together happily. But Nigerian Christians with their infinite different churches have to segregate themselves.

I am Catholic by faith and really saw myself wedding in Catholic, unfortunately my man attends overcomers, and my mother in law stylishly told me she won't be happy for her only son to wed in Catholic and I am not prepared to wed in theirs, so I and my man dialogued and settled on a different church altogether. It's about communication, discussing issues before leaping, having a firm resolve before committing, cos if u don't like ur man's church, you might end up not going to church at al. And if u insists, trouble brews. Just talk it over with ur man before marriage biko

NobleG1:


If you mean enslaving her then, yes, it's old fashion.

Your bible told you about the woman submission thing. Do you know that the same bible placed women as second class humans. In the same bible, men owned women as properties. I could go on and on.

Not everything in your bible is morally right.

nobody is talkin abt slavery here..jst dat if d both insist den d wife has to submit btw ar u tellin me der ar sme teachings in d bible morally wrong

tranxo:
......what a huge spiritual identity crisis for the kids. Not right for the kids.

that's why i said they should agree on one thing before marriage or forget about the marriage altogether.

the woman should not trouble her self she should go with her husband to his church.when she knows she is not willing then she should tell him from the beginning and if he says no then she should not go any further.but many women can be deceptive.

okudah:

but if u re woman what ll u do?

I don't get your question. I'm a woman by the way

lovemaths:
that's why i said they should agree on one thing before marriage or forget about the marriage altogether.

Yes you are right. All issues must be ironed out before marriage.

farem:


Your idea of "dump the kids" leaves much to be desired. Refuse and sewage are dumped not kids. If you dumped your kids like garbage, you will still come back to pick your 'them'. A Church that opens 6AM for children to come in is doing the bidding of the Lord but when any parent 'dumps' their kids, they may remain 'dumped' except the grace of God. Parents need to BRING their children to the House of God stay with them in body and spirit and no for "Make I for see road"'s tactic.

You nor sabi "the levels"?
Church na free day kia o!
All disi ya "turenchi" na for wetin na?
Is "church" not for making noise ONLY?

Let no one be in doubt, Christianity is a patriarchal religion/faith. If you are a woman and you make the choice to be a Christian, then you should be ready to accept the implications. It's just silly and exhausting to beat about the bush in matters like this. Being a Christian is a choice. If you're uncomfortable with the faith, you have the right to choose another faith.

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Kanwulia:



You nor sabi "the levels"?
Church na free day kia o!
All disi ya "turenchi" na for wetin na?
Is "church" not for making noise ONLY?

You are right! As long as that what you can comprehend.
You are entitled to your comprehension.

Time will tell U better.

BreezyRita:
When couples get married, who follows who where??
Does the woman have to attend the husband's church?? Can it ever be the other way round?

The norm is the woman following her husband, but what if you love a man but you're not okay with his denomination??

I think you need to see this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kRVF-Jmbrw&index=3&list=UUS3HaOm0opcyM9i5RGeyO2A

I had a similar ish wit ma guy few mnths bk d@ almost ended or r/ship,bt i had no oda choice dan to surrender since d@ is expectd of d wife.nt easy tho.

kaybiel2u:
u c my broda, for dz kind of scenerio, Ruth case cant be left out, if a woman marries a man, she has married everytin abt d man. Ruth case is a perfect example 4 dz type of scenerio. moment she marries, she bears d name of her husband. And Remember Our Lord Jesus Christ, He Keeps Telling Us That Has He(Jesus) Is Head Of D Church So A Man The Head Of D Family.

most at times we blow this word of husband is the head of home out of proportion, the bible did not end there it goes further to say love ur wife as Christ love the church if you truly love your spouse i believed you wnt force your belief and practice of faith on her

Payshence:
I had a similar ish wit ma guy few mnths bk d@ almost ended or r/ship,bt i had no oda choice dan to surrender since d@ is expectd of d wife.nt easy tho.

Desperado.

Its very simple:

Park ur bag and baggages, leave his house, den u can attend d church u like

my girlfriend I intend marrying is also having a second tot as regards ma church (catholic), she attends a pentecostal though , she loves me like I do but I know deep within she so miich wish I can change ma church, but I have been telling her it better she steps down now, cos me I fit de waka left, my wife right.......mba, iro, mi o fe.

I am presently experiencing this clash of interest in my 9 yrs of marriage,I and my husby are in different churches-told him plainly that I will not follow him to his church after marriage and that I wuldn't want it to be an issue bw us. He agreed, but just 2 mnths ago,I took the kids to my church and this got him angry.I now juggle his memory of how he agreed that separate places of worship won't come bw us. He said he agreed then'because he didn't want to loose me; but now,he doesn't want that again.

I reluctantly follow him to his church for the sake of peace, without deriving any spiritual satisfaction.kindly advise.

barrybanbi:

most at times we blow this word of husband is the head of home out of proportion, the bible did not end there it goes further to say love ur wife as Christ love the church if you truly love your spouse i believed you wnt force your belief and practice of faith on her

ur point noted, diffrnt strokes 4 diffrnt folks is dz issue,

if d man chooses to change 10 churches in 2months, u must follow am. Na one body una don b.

Are u asking me?

Ayo199:
nobody is talkin abt slavery here..jst dat if d both insist den d wife has to submit btw ar u tellin me der ar sme teachings in d bible morally wrong

It seems you actually don't comprehend what "Submission" means. Let me quote from the dictionary;
The action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

Telling a woman to submissive to husband is offensive and abusive. It makes a woman look inferior in the marriage. As I said earlier on, marriage is a partnership relationship. Both of you are equal and one irrespective of the gender difference. None of them should submit to the other! Only your young children (ones you're taking care of), housemaid or a slave, etc. should be submissive to you!

The only good relationship between a man and woman, is one born out of mutual respect for each other. Sacrifice, compassion, love, and honor are virtues to which a relationship or marriage can thrive. "Submission" is just not the right word to describe, nor is it the right place for the woman to be - her role within a relationship with a man.

I have, in fact, seen two relationships turn abusive towards women whose husbands used this word, Submission, to justify their behavior.

Treat your wife the way you would expect her treat you, not like a slave. Respect and cherish her and she will do the same you.

BreezyRita:
When couples get married, who follows who where??
Does the woman have to attend the husband's church?? Can it ever be the other way round?

The norm is the woman following her husband, but what if you love a man but you're not okay with his denomination??

I won't mind attending my wife's church, if its a living church where the true word of God is been preached. But she cannot command me, I will just accept it for her as a sign of mutual respect.




That is one thing I was able to established in the heart of my Jesus corpers, when I was the NCCF Papa. Even though we have our own church, we the executive do worship in all "true" churches around the town.

etungha08:
I am presently experiencing this clash of interest in my 9 yrs of marriage,I and my husby are in different churches-told him plainly that I will not follow him to his church after marriage and that I wuldn't want it to be an issue bw us. He agreed, but just 2 mnths ago,I took the kids to my church and this got him angry.I now juggle his memory of how he agreed that separate places of worship won't come bw us. He said he agreed then'because he didn't want to loose me; but now,he doesn't want that again.

I reluctantly follow him to his church for the sake of peace, without deriving any spiritual satisfaction.kindly advise.

He lied to you. Let him know that.

I can understand you going to your own church but the kids should be going to dad's

Hmmn.

homesteady:


I've never heard of this your laws oh!

You be catholic? Na catholics get the rules. If u r one then I just got u informed.

Qc1:


Thanks for your reply however....

Mt 5:48...So be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.

It will be perfect to follow the bible in this situations. I believe word of the lord is good and it's the foundation we should follow no "em..." or "maybe" If the bible command us to do whatever, then who are we to question it ?

A Christian lady would not marry pervert Husband-to-be to being with, Holy spirit will guide her. By the way, a wife can go to any length to submit to her husband sexually. Leviticus 20 emphasize on sexual moralities, what sexual intercourse is permitted ans what is not. Go read it!




However....I stand corrected!

certain sexual acts are actually homosexual acts... bible condemns using the sex organs in an unnatural way... if my wife asks for anal sex, I'd not consent... she's been watching too much pornography

kaybiel2u:
u c my broda, for dz kind of scenerio, Ruth case cant be left out, if a woman marries a man, she has married everytin abt d man. Ruth case is a perfect example 4 dz type of scenerio. moment she marries, she bears d name of her husband. And Remember Our Lord Jesus Christ, He Keeps Telling Us That Has He(Jesus) Is Head Of D Church So A Man The Head Of D Family.

ruth didn't say she'd serve the God of Israel cos Boaz proposed... she said to those words before she knew Boaz... she was merely saying she'd stick with her old friend Naomi, with Naomi's God too... so don't site that as an example to justify forcing a woman to go to a particular church or denomination

MissMeiya:


And yet millions of couples from different faiths manage to marry and live together happily. But Nigerian Christians with their infinite different churches have to segregate themselves.

so not true... this issue is one that has brought a bone of contention into most marriages... wives have been bartered for not consenting to follow the man's denomination... and why making it seem like its a Nigerian problem only... any family who claims to be religious must look into this issue critically and reasonably... it cannot be overlooked... except both husband and wife don't give a F*** to how they can worship God acceptably

etungha08:
I am presently experiencing this clash of interest in my 9 yrs of marriage,I and my husby are in different churches-told him plainly that I will not follow him to his church after marriage and that I wuldn't want it to be an issue bw us. He agreed, but just 2 mnths ago,I took the kids to my church and this got him angry.I now juggle his memory of how he agreed that separate places of worship won't come bw us. He said he agreed then'because he didn't want to loose me; but now,he doesn't want that again.

I reluctantly follow him to his church for the sake of peace, without deriving any spiritual satisfaction.kindly advise.

missmeiya, typical, testimonial example to show that what I said is fact.

ityP:



certain sexual acts are actually homosexual acts... bible condemns using the sex organs in an unnatural way... if my wife asks for anal sex, I'd not consent... she's been watching too much pornography

You do know that the bible does not condemn this, right?......Again I stand corrected!

Qc1:



You do know that the bible does not condemn this, right?......Again I stand corrected!

doesn't directly condemn such but thinking deeply on this scripture may just tell us God's man on this matter Romans 1: 24-27

Anextin:
I am Catholic by faith and really saw myself wedding in Catholic, unfortunately my man attends overcomers, and my mother in law stylishly told me she won't be happy for her only son to wed in Catholic and I am not prepared to wed in theirs, so I and my man dialogued and settled on a different church altogether. It's about communication, discussing issues before leaping, having a firm resolve before committing, cos if u don't like ur man's church, you might end up not going to church at al. And if u insists, trouble brews. Just talk it over with ur man before marriage biko

ur own is easier na. most men typically understand that there is a unwritten rule that the wedding must be done in the wife's church. u can convince wife family otherwise but they hold the aces. so if u had insisted on marrying in the catholic church, hubby's family could understand.

the OP's point is regarding the church wifey attends after the wedding. for me this is not so important and i am very ok with my wife attending her own church. the bigger issue is the church the kids will attend until they are say age 12. for me my kids should be baptized and attend my church (catholic). this for me is the contentious one.