Without mincing words, I'm a really really hot-tempered guy. A mere stuff can heat me up, and God know, I always try my best to hold myself up, but I just flare up from within.

Need opinions, or advices on how best I can control my temper...
N.B: No Insults please.

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Am I FTC?

whugo:
When it gets hot next time,refrigerates
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Am I FTC?

Grow up!

I don't think anybody will wanna insult you right now, make your temper no rise. Lol. On a serious note, it's more of a psychological thing. If you see yourself on par with the people around you, you are guaranteed to get angry. But if you see yourself above them, or below them, you will see yourself overlooking alot of things.

For example, the same thing a policeman will do and get lynched on the street, a soldier will do it and people will just give him his space. Cos you know his crase pass your own. Same thing, a drunk or mad man says Somtin, you overlook it, but a sane person says and you choking him on the throat.

I have learnt not to expect much from people, so that when they do well, I'll be pleasantly surprised and grateful. And when they don't, It will just be as I expected. This helps me overcome alot of incidents that naturally shud have made me angry.

jasper7:
I don't think anybody will wanna insult you right now, make your temper no rise. Lol. On a serious note, it's more of a psychological thing. If you see yourself on par with the people around you, you are guaranteed to get angry. But if you see yourself above them, or below them, you will see yourself overlooking alot of things.

For example, the same thing a policeman will do and get lynched on the street, a soldier will do it and people will just give him his space. Cos you know his crase pass your own. Same thing, a drunk or mad man says Somtin, you overlook it, but a sane person says and you choking him on the throat.

I have learnt not to expect much from people, so that when they do well, I'll be pleasantly surprised and grateful. And when they don't, It will just be as I expected. This helps me overcome alot of incidents that naturally shud have made me angry.

God bless you bro!

Op, grandma taught me to count to Ten when angry, and Hundred when very angry, before I act

It helps.

blizard44:
Op, grandma taught me to count to Ten when angry, and Hundred when very angry, before I act

It helps.

Erm, imma try that out next time. Thanks bruv.

Am afraid to comment so dat u won't loose ƱR temper

Lolaabokoku:
Am afraid to comment so dat u won't loose ƱR temper

Errm, no Lola. In the best of my mood this afternoon.. Oya e soro..

HrtBrkSteve:
Without mincing words, I'm a really really hot-tempered guy. A mere stuff can heat me up, and God know, I always try my best to hold myself up, but I just flare up from within.

Need opinions, or advices on how best I can control my temper...
N.B: No Insults please.

I used to get so angry I would shiver. I noticed there was this monologue in my head when I felt I was wronged that would make me even angrier. It wasnt purely my effort to stop. I first asked God to give me the grace(power) to stop it, then started to make effort to avoid conflict not just with people but within me. It takes time. I noticed that an inner voice would warn me when I was about to revert to anger(Whenever I ignored the inner voice, it would cease, till I started making effort again. That is what disobedience does).

Am not perfect, but am not where I started. Its a spiritual battle we fight, and the mind is the battle ground. May God give you the Grace you need for this battle.

muafrika:

I used to get so angry I would shiver. I noticed there was this monologue in my head when I felt I was wronged that would make me even angrier. It wasnt purely my effort to stop. I first asked God to give me the grace(power) to stop it, then started to make effort to avoid conflict not just with people but within me. It takes time. I noticed that an inner voice would warn me when I was about to revert to anger(Whenever I ignored the inner voice, it would cease, till I started making effort again. That is what disobedience does).

Am not perfect, but am not where I started. Its a spiritual battle we fight, and the mind is the battle ground. May God give you the Grace you need for this battle.

Jst with me, realising that am wronged can make me a beast. But am the most quiet dude u will see in my natural state. Also I've been trying to avoid conflicts, and also arguments that might turn out sour..
Amen, thanks bro.

HrtBrkSteve:


Jst with me, realising that am wronged can make me a beast. But am the most quiet dude u will see in my natural state. Also I've been trying to avoid conflicts, and also arguments that might turn out sour..
Amen, thanks bro.

Am also quite reserved. You may find that you have to let people get away with things. Once you get used to it, some of it will even pass unnoticed. I have discovered that inner peace is the most precious commodity on this side of life. I strive to guard mine jealously because I have have once tested life without an ounce of inner peace and hated it. It is worth every effort.

It may be hard,but wen angry, pause for a minute to think of how to get out of the situation,keep mute for a minute and then walk away.

Hi there, just give your self time-outs. If you feel like you're getting angry, take a minute to cool down, walk away or just not respond. A minute seems short but when you're angry, it lasts longer.

The first step to change is accepting the need for change, you've done this, good job

xcelsia:
Hi there, just give your self time-outs. If you feel like you're getting angry, take a minute to cool down, walk away or just not respond. A minute seems short but when you're angry, it lasts longer.

The first step to change is accepting the need for change, you've done this, good job

Thanks sweetheart. Some pretty good talks here.

@op, do you stutter? Stutterers are known to be hot-tempered!

Whenever you feel like you are losing it, just take a deep breath and think of whatever makes you happy. It works like charm

kemiola89:
@op, do you stutter? Stutterers are known to be hot-tempered!

Whenever you feel like you are losing it, just take a deep breath and think of whatever makes you happy. It works like charm

No Kemi, I don't. Infact I'm a orator. Seriously I've seen some improvements.

Thank u everyone. God bless.

HrtBrkSteve:


Thanks sweetheart. Some pretty good talks here.

You're welcome