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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:13pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Valeree:And one funny thing he does to you is to ensure that at these moments he doesn't have your time and treats you like trash ,he would be sure that you're not anywhere near any form of happiness and woe betides you at same time if he sees you smiling at other guys even if it is an innocent one. Be resolute and tell him point blank that if he doesn't respect your feelings you'll walk away and never look back ,you'll notice the change in attitude. You don't let people treat you like trash when they have you to themselves, meanwhile there are dozens of folks that only wishes to hold your hands for some couple of minutes.This is not to say that you should start displaying flirtatious attitude that would deepen the rift That one is risky o - Send your message in the most mature,convincing and yet resolute manner. Silent treatment givers always know their limit though they pretend to be tough because they know your weakness. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:18pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: Silent treatment is a sign of immaturity, pride, vain glory, self centeredness, stubbornness, discontent, disloyalty. Its also a shame that people who engage in this attitude boast about it. One lady was boasting about giving her bf/Ex the silent treatment for one year. " He still calls me and wants me, I promise him I am coming but I won't go, just posting him ". She is taking pride in making someone a fool and being untrustworthy herself. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by emperordan(m): 8:18pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Immaturity, and its extremely bad! I repeat, bad!!! |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:19pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
100Cents:Gbam Couldn't have said it better. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by coolvitus(m): 8:19pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Toh |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Frankenstein: 8:20pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I don't understand the first picture. Explain it, Kachisbarbie. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:21pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
BABE3: Sorry for you. Pray, you don't become a relationship failure. Communication is the live wire of any relationship.. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by aadoiza: 8:21pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
It works if and only if the other party actually cares. If the other party's got the-I-don't-give-a-hoot disposition--then-- look for an alternative method pronto. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
100Cents: hahahaha. Your own worse? You have finish the 'silent treaters'. I don't really wanna say it's immaturity, but I think it's bad. Especially when it last for long. 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Thank God i hope my husband gets to see this where ever he is. Even if he is wrong ,he gives the silent treatment just to escape saying i am sorry. He wont even talk to you for days even weeks and when you try talking all he does is nod his head. It's true that silent treatment tends to disolve the marriage and shows no friendship at all in the marriage 2 Likes |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:25pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
[quote author=Kachisbarbie post=28229667] hahahaha. Your own worse? You have finish the 'silent treaters'. I don't really wanna say it's immaturity, but I think it's bad. Especially when it last for long. [/quolte] But seriously 100cent is 100% right. Immaturity is the best description for it. A mature person will talk things through with you probably not at that moment but later |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by chiibekee(f): 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
I can never allow that silent moment. It destroys any relationship as soon as possible. I can't allow such in my relationship instead I plead for forgiveness when am not wrong. I know where I got my man, I will make him pay for allowing me plead when am not supposed to. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Frankenstein: see ya head like bomb. So you no understand that picture? 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Richy4(m): 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
For me, I do not and will never lay a hand on a woman or any one for that matter. so what do you do when you are pushed to the wall? I do it to register my displeasure so that that situation can be arrested. so which one is preferable beating the person black and blue or ignore the person ? |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:32pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
chiibekee:That's called being 'smart' Badt girl |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:38pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Valeree: Is that not a child ? How can an over 18 person be behaving this way ? That's stu.piid.ity at its peak. One thing about these kind of people is that you won't know exactly what will offend them and they won't tell you what it is, but will prefer to punish you emotionally for something you know nothing about. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by manny4life(m): 8:38pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
This is the most childish form of behavior... I do not like it and don't encourage it. A friend and I are going through the same problem, perhaps this is it. Something happened two weeks ago which is obviously not my fault; this happened on a Wednesday, he contacted me on Thursday and apologized for what he did and said "have a great day". I called and text him on Saturday, no response. The following week, I called and sent him texts several times, he did not respond. I called again this week and then reached out to one of his friends to know if he was okay; dude confirmed that he was in NY for the weekend. Well guess what, I told him to pass on the message to him. Tell him I said good luck because I wouldn't be contacting him again; I don't have time for grown men who act like women. That was it and that's it for me. If we ever talked again, I will cut off the friendship immediately. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
chiibekee: |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:40pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Richy4:How would you react when a girl that wouldn't talk to you for hours after begging for mercy locks the door while your inside the house,won't let you take walk and hold your cloth while mouthing all vile and abominable things into your ears,all pleas from you to walk away is greeted with more of an offensive and provocative words over some trivial issues. How would you react? You never jam some drama queen,my advice is for you to walk away the moment you begin to notice her as a violent drama queen,else you'd be forced to do what you have to do just to survive. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:41pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
chiibekee: And then the cycle continues. You make hubby pay; he switches back into his silent mode; You plead and u are right back to where u started,..lol 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by manny4life(m): 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Richy4: Why do you have to hit someone? Whatever happened to communicating the wrongs to the person... Like many have said, silent treatment is just as bad as everything there is to. If you ignored me, you better believe I will ignore you for life. You will be the one later begging for forgiveness. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Frankenstein: 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie:You want to get banned? |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: Starightway to hell.. Ephesians 4:26. Be ye angry and sin not : let not the sun go down upon your wrath.. So its a silly person who keeps bearing a grudge for over 24 hours... when he or she can talk it over |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by englishmart(m): 8:47pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
this thread is distorting my silence. I'm currently giving someone a silent treatment 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by barrybanbi: 8:47pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Truckpusher: it depend on how the power is wheeled, what if the person is not mature enough ? if u ever deals with a nagging partner you will understand that silent treatment is for mature soul to practice. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:53pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Frankenstein: lolz...nope. but the pic is self-explanatory na. I think that pic shows the positive effect of Silent Treatment (ST) 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
manny4life: Smh |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by BABE3: 8:56pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
100Cents: Shut your mouth. You must have a low self esteem; that's why getting the silent treatment kills you. You constantly want attention, don't you? You constantly want to be spoken to, even if you're in the wrong and your partner needs space, don't you? What is the big deal in both parties keeping quiet, regrouping and coming back to squash the issue? Don't you know it's as a result of talking too much that people say things or do things they wish they never said/did? You want your partner/friend to forgive you as soon as possible because you're selfish, disregarding the fact that they need space away from you? Silence is also a form of communication. It's a temporary fix. By the time, both of get back together, the anger and rage would have reduced. Again, it only works for matured folks. 2 Likes |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
100Cents: Wellsaid, the bible is against it. It could even lead to cheating, because in those few minutes, the other party may seek some other companion (maybe online sef). With time, the person may start looking forward to the silent treatment or intentionally annoy you, because it would be an opportunity to do what he/she pleases. 1 Like |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:58pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Kachisbarbie: I was an expert in this behaviour as a kid/adolescent maybe I was shy and stubborn then. But the corporate world taught me to talk.and communicate. I can get anyone's attention. So I now understand its immaturity and dumbness to keep silent when you can actually engage anyone and get the best from them. I treat a lady silently when obviously she is trying to play smart or call me a fool, but it ends thesame day after passing my message. There are people who like making a fool of others to see how they will react.. |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by dmz(m): 8:59pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Lol..People have been traumatised by the silent treatment...Choi |
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Nov 21, 2014 |
Rapsainot: my ex went mad cos of silent treatment. a minor disagreement, he got angry, i got angry too cos i wasnt at fault. he started the silent treatment. i joined him . 7days later the guy ran mad. it took a lot of midnight prayer and fasting and much more before he got himself. that ended the rship of many years. ...story plenty sha but dt one ended. |
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