Juliann. !!!come to me all ye that are heavily broken and I will give you the best romance of life. behold!! I come in peace.

MarthaK:
I vowed never to be in a relationship until I turned 18....
Well.....

and what are children doing here?
Is that place nt already opened?

MarthaK:
yes dear

longest time..... How are u doing?

clevvermind:
and what are children doing here?
Is that place nt already opened?

You don't know the use of ellipses

idu1:
longest time..... How are u doing?

fine o

Ok. Lemme share mine.I'll start by saying I'm a Christian. I've been with this guy for 7 months now and we've not even kissed or touched not to talk of having s.ex.
Why? Cuz we fear God and we want to do things God's way.
Is it easy? No, but thank God for the fruit of Self Control.
By God's grace, we should get married next year.
I hope this is celibate enough.

MarthaK:

You don't know the use of ellipses

why dnt u tell me?

Celibacy?

I have been deliberately celibating for the past five months and I must admits its not been easy, with temptation here and there but unlike many who does so for faith or past bitter experience reasons, mine its far from that. I won't encourage it especially for guys for its not easy with loads of these pretty girls out there, in particular the seductive dressed ones

3cycle:
Decided not to love again till my wedding night
Been 3yrs and still counting.

Where is my Johnny?

nt to love or nt to have s'ex again?

celibacy relationship what da hell does that mean?

I will clock 30 next year. I have never been in any relationship all my life. I got my 'v card' too.

Got plans to start searching early next year so I can marry by Dec 2015.

My knowledge of celibacy is a bit toned towards abstinence from sex but since the OP has broadened it, then for me-

Relationship Celibacy - 5years

Sexual celibacy - 28years.

The sexual celibacy for me is like a sugar plated blade... On one end I feel really healthy and sane and "fly" knowing that nobody has seen that side of my existence or personality, on the flip side atimes, the sexual drive "peaks" so much that I virtually become red-faced .

I think what helps me to especially maintain my sexual celibacy is the thought of getting down with any random girl, I'm a very finicky person and so even if I wanted to have one night stands or cheap brothel sex, I still wouldn't be able to because I'd want the experience to be sincere and worth the time, not just with anybody but someone I have true feelings for.

Aside from all that English above though... I'm a Christian and pre-marital sex is not even the faintest, slightest option for me... Not even if a gun were pointed to my fore head.

As for relationship celibacy.... I've still not found the lady I have that "click" with...

Searching continues... Vision 2020

clevvermind:
nt to love or nt to have s'ex again?

Not to love.

3cycle:

Not to love.

but u can have sex as before.

clevvermind:
but u can have sex as before.

Still a virgin

3cycle:

Still a virgin

abeg stop that. That place is already opened for penetration.

SMH..

3cycle:

Still a virgin

abeg stop that. is that place not already opened for deep penetration?

1one:
My knowledge of celibacy is a bit toned towards abstinence from sex but since the OP has broadened it, then for me-

Relationship Celibacy - 5years

Sexually celibacy - 28years.

The sexual celibacy for me is like a sugar plated blade... On one end I feel really healthy and sane and "fly" knowing that nobody has seen that side of my existence or personality, on the flip side atimes, the sexual drive "peaks" so much that I virtually become red-faced .

I think what helps me to especially maintain my sexual celibacy is the thought of getting down with any random girl, I'm a very finicky person and so even if I wanted to have one night stands or cheap brothel sex, I still wouldn't be able to because I'd want the experience to be sincere and worth the time, not just with anybody but someone I have true feelings for.

Aside from all that English above though... I'm a Christian and pre-marital sex is not even the faintest, slightest option for me... Not even if a gun were pointed to my fore head.

As for relationship celibacy.... I've still not found the lady I have that "click" with...

Searching continues... Vision 2020

Wow, it's sooo refreshing to meet a guy with some real moral standard

But then, you being sexually inactive doesn't rule out the fact that you mast.urbate.

I had a very close friend, who was still a virgin in his late 30s, and loved God. But, he watched po.rn a lot and mastur.bated a lot too.

In many cases, virgin men turn to masturb.ation, to maintain their celibate status, only to suffer some major psychological issues.

Evina:


Wow, it's sooo refreshing to meet a guy with some real moral standard

But then, you being sexually inactive doesn't rule out the fact that you mast.urbate.

I had a very close friend, who was still a virgin in his late 30s, and loved God. But, he watched po.rn a lot and mastur.bated a lot too.

In many cases, virgin men turn to masturb.ation, to maintain their celibate status, only to suffer some major psychological issues.

@Bolded
Nt all V guys tho

just had to chip dt in

AgapeCharis:
@Bolded
Nt all V guys tho

Smart Alec, where in my post did you catch me insinuate that all V guys masturbate?

Na only God fit punish all dis ppl wey don groove life tire. Na now wen d time don dey reach una hide under d pretence of celibacy in order to get Maga. chei. Diaris Goduooooo

ireneony:
nairalanders, share your celibacy relationship experience here.
well I have decided to stay one year without dating....am in my seventh month.
if u know you have vowed not to be in a relationship for some period of time...share your celibacy experience here. whether you are started or your through with your celibacy, your contribution are needed.


celibacy to my own understanding means, when someone voluntarily decides to abstinent from sex, relationship and marriage over a period of time

Clap for your self... Den u claim holyholy sis. in church den tell d guy u only did it once because u were raped. den d MuMuni go willingly agree because its God's will.. Man don Suffer ooo.

Juliaann:
well I vowed never to date again until further notice


Guys eh they really dealt with me

sowie o but shit happens! Most times most of u dnt recognise dose dat mean well! Am jst saying coz it's usually said dat u r what u r attract!no oofense

Evina:


Wow, it's sooo refreshing to meet a guy with some real moral standard

But then, you being sexually inactive doesn't rule out the fact that you mast.urbate.

I had a very close friend, who was still a virgin in his late 30s, and loved God. But, he watched po.rn a lot and mastur.bated a lot too.

In many cases, virgin men turn to masturb.ation, to maintain their celibate status, only to suffer some major psychological issues.

Lol.. Thanks for the props though.

If I say I've not masturba:ted, it's as good as saying it snows in lagos...and if I say I still masturba:te it would mean Obama is a Nigerian.

In my early/mid 20s I used to masturba:te and alternatively watch por:n, but even at that it was not a habit, maybe like twice in six months... But it got to a point I got fed up because the guilt that washes all over my body is always always more intense than the "horniness" I had before that prompted me to do it... So I was like what the heck... No point... So in summary I don't do por:n nor masturba:te anymore.

However I don't quite agree that late male virgins experience psychological problems or maybe I just think it's too far a fact to relate with since personally I'm not dealing with any psychological issues... But I may reason it out with the view that a man who has become overly used to masturba:ting may find it difficult to relate to real women in the real world since he is used to ventilating his sexual tension primarily through self stimulation instead of externally fed social stimulation /interaction

jmoore:
I will clock 30 next year. I have never been in any relationship all my life. I got my 'v card' too.

Got plans to start searching early next year so I can marry by Dec 2015.

Big ups man!!!

I hope you find that really super special person.
I'm sure it's a no - brainer if I asked if you wanted to marry a virgin.

I'm even somewhat like you, except for the age difference. I'd be 29 next year, and it's after I clock 29 that I want to really take the "find a wife" thing seriously

Abeg if the girl you finally find also has a virgin sister.... Don't dull ooo... Hook a brother up

1one:



Lol.. Thanks for the props though.

If I say I've not masturba:ted, it's as good as saying it snows in lagos...and if I say I still masturba:te it would mean Obama is a Nigerian.

In my early/mid 20s I used to masturba:te and alternatively watch por:n, but even at that it was not a habit, maybe like twice in six months... But it got to a point I got fed up because the guilt that washes all over my body is always always more intense than the "horniness" I had before that prompted me to do it... So I was like what the heck... No point... So in summary I don't do por:n nor masturba:te anymore.

However I don't quite agree that late male virgins experience psychological problems or maybe I just think it's too far a fact to relate with since personally I'm not dealing with any psychological issues... But I may reason it out with the view that a man who has become overly used to masturba:ting may find it difficult to relate to real women in the real world since he is used to ventilating his sexual tension primarily through self stimulation instead of externally fed social stimulation /interaction

The last sentence in your post was the point I attempted to communicate across. There is no sense in stating that male virgins in their late 30s have psychological issues.

In fact, I believe that a single man who is able to discipline himself sexually is actually building his tenacity to resist temptations and is most likely to be faithful when married.

shadowgwalker:
were u like Tiwa the cheerful giver or what?they dealt with you by how? you presented yourself to them cheaply or what?please throw more light.

Are you really expecting me to answer all that?

1one:
My knowledge of celibacy is a bit toned towards abstinence from sex but since the OP has broadened it, then for me-

Relationship Celibacy - 5years

Sexually celibacy - 28years.

The sexual celibacy for me is like a sugar plated blade... On one end I feel really healthy and sane and "fly" knowing that nobody has seen that side of my existence or personality, on the flip side atimes, the sexual drive "peaks" so much that I virtually become red-faced .

I think what helps me to especially maintain my sexual celibacy is the thought of getting down with any random girl, I'm a very finicky person and so even if I wanted to have one night stands or cheap brothel sex, I still wouldn't be able to because I'd want the experience to be sincere and worth the time, not just with anybody but someone I have true feelings for.

Aside from all that English above though... I'm a Christian and pre-marital sex is not even the faintest, slightest option for me... Not even if a gun were pointed to my fore head.

As for relationship celibacy.... I've still not found the lady I have that "click" with...

Searching continues... Vision 2020

Wow!

A good dude.

tifany89:
sowie o but shit happens! Most times most of u dnt recognise dose dat mean well! Am jst saying coz it's usually said dat u r what u r attract!no oofense

actually it wasn't what u were thinking?

guys can be deceitful at times

Evina:


The last sentence in your post was the point I attempted to communicate across. There is no sense in stating that male virgins in their late 30s have psychological issues.

In fact, I believe that a single man who is able to discipline himself sexually is actually building his tenacity to resist temptations and is most likely to be faithful when married.

What I'm about to say may reek of impulsive optimism or maybe even make me come across as proud.. But honestly there's nothing that would make me cheat on my spouse...least of them all sex.. you know how some men fall for all those chewing girls that have bouncy butts and boobies, and consequently use these assets to lure married men away... By the grace of God I'm not one of such men.. Ofcourse I'm attracted to those things especially boobies but it won't b enough reason to cheat on my wife either physically or even emotionally

I see marriage first of all as a "service" to God... So my decision not to cheat on my wife is not even necessarily because she's a good wife or because I love her, but primarily because I revere God. If a man is faithful to his wife because she ticks all the good boxes what then happens when she slips and/or does something silly.