This Guy has been my friend, and our families are friends too.he is educated n funny, a good catholic christian loved by so many, both in parish n at home.
we re both from d same state n local govt. area. I am taller than him (height) .
I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing .


the thing is " he wants to marry me " wat shud I do?

A nigga bleeped u and u felt Nothing


How wide is it

Maybe you should marry his family then

iceberylin:
A nigga bleeped u and u felt Nothing


How wide is it

if "wide " refers to weird, then, wat I am saying is dat d sexual intercourse sensational interest was not available at dat moment . rm my own part.

Sex outside marriage? Ain't that fornication?

Marry his family and let him be in the friend zone.

Sex and our feelings are tools we can always tweak in whatever direction we want but in themselves, they are not good yardsticks to measure the love we have for another.

I believe firmly that one shouldn't go into marriage when there is no proper connection between the couples unless the basis of connection was not properly assessed at the beginning.

Your doubt for this guy scares me. It may turn out alright in the end...may be after 2 or 3 years of marriage.

There have been cases where two individuals who felt nothing at the beginning, learnt to love and appreciate each other later on but would you want to start a marriage on maybes? I know I wouldn't.

Marriage is a decision for which the couples are expected to make a firm commitment to abide by. If you believe you can be committed to this guy then go ahead and marry him, if not, please say NO!!!

At the very least, give yourself sometime to think about it. When married, the guys family will not be in the same bed with you.

tpacalipse:
Sex outside marriage? Ain't that fornication?

I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

striktlymi:
Sex and our feelings are tools we can always tweak in whatever direction we want but in themselves, they are not good yardsticks to measure the love we have for another.

I believe firmly that one shouldn't go into marriage when there is no proper connection between the couples unless the basis of connection was not properly assessed at the beginning.

Your doubt for this guy scares me. It may turn out alright in the end...may be after 2 or 3 years of marriage.

There have been cases where two individuals who felt nothing at the beginning, learnt to love and appreciate each other later on but would you want to start a marriage on maybes? I know I wouldn't.

Marriage is a decision for which the couples are expected to make a firm commitment to abide by. If you believe you can be committed to this guy then go ahead and marry him, if not, please say NO!!!

At the very least, give yourself sometime to think about it. When married, the guys family will not be in the same bed with you.

tnx alot.
dats y I 'm here to know which way to follow. becos my mom have been so happy about it since, n I can let know my TRUE feeling yet.

lolz

Height is irrelevant in love. He should be the reason for your loving his family. Such men as you describe him are expert in producing male children. Please love him 100% and get on with the marriage. May God bless your union IJN AMEN!!!

Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

The bolded got me wrongly...
Some ladies think this way?
If all I need to have sex with you is to promise you a ring, then. . .

CoachDX:

The bolded got me wrongly...
Some ladies think this way?
If all I need to have sex with you is to promise you a ring, then. . .

Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding

Orunto:
Height is irrelevant in love. He should be the reason for your loving his family. Such men as you describe him are expert in producing male children. Please love him 100% and get on with the marriage. May God bless your union IJN AMEN!!!

Amen. I will keep dis in mind

Godiloveu:


tnx alot.
dats y I 'm here to know which way to follow. becos my mom have been so happy about it since, n I can let know my TRUE feeling yet.

you have to let her know how n what u feel this is your life n future.

Godiloveu:




Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding

Kindly permit me to say you've misplaced your priorities. You mentioned height, then sex, then love. Whichever comes first for you, I think having sex shouldn't be a measure of the connection you seek. Again, I think, sometimes we grow to love some people, not out of pity or anything but because we saw more of our immediate criteria and that clouded our judgement. You probably have a list your kind of man must meet, and if he isn't at that level, it's a NO, NO.

Please, if those things you look out for are actually on the outside of the man, you maybe wrong. What keeps every man going is the content of his character. If he's a good man, I meant, yourself can say he's a good man, feeling of love does grow. Saying he's got a good family is one problem solved. Again, please don't pity him, if you don't appreciate his personality, let him go.

Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

ok o.



nothing new there anyway.

Godiloveu:




Sir! don't get it wrongly. this only happens wen d relationship is getting deeper. meaning commitments are now involved. thanks for understanding

alright, but as a christian, you should not be emphasizing the wrong things.


it will backfire.

@ topic

are you in love with someone else?

Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

do you truly love God?

Hummn....
Jst b straight 4ward;
I don't love him bt I love his RICH family.
Simple

I dnt know what a lady is doing with a man she doesnt love or isnt attracted to. What are you still doing with him? You dnt know what you want. Honestly. Did your parents arrange him for you?

Godiloveu:
This Guy has been my friend, and our families are friends too.he is educated n funny, a good catholic christian loved by so many, both in parish n at home.
we re both from d same state n local govt. area. I am taller than him (height) .
I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing .


the thing is " he wants to marry me " wat shud I do?

I think wat's tying you down is the sex you had wif him bt I'll advise u not to marry a man u don't love cos dat's wot u need most in a marriage

Sorry op I have nothing to say coz I don't even love any girl not to talk of loving her family .
Well in your own case, I think am speechless . It's like over familiarity with him and his family is the problem, U now see him as ur brother. Damn... That guy is in sh*t, coz the kain zone wey him dey no get name.

Godiloveu:



I can't marry someone without ving sex with him ist.

wat if he is impotent
wat if he is someone dat take longer time to ejaculate
wat if he has mouth or body odour

these n many reasons. atleast once can tell alot . lets b objective n not hide behind our fones. tnx

Ladies are so vain..

Pls dump him. I still single..

eunisam: Marry his family and let him be in the friend zone.

that service before payment.......



@op if u don't feel anything for him visit the nigga u feel a thing for simple

Godiloveu:

I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing

Have s.ex with him once more and if you still don't feel anything, come look for me!

Godiloveu:

I love 90% things about his family, but I 'm not romantically connected with him, we had sex once I felt nothing

Have s.ex with him once more and if you still don't feel anything, come look for me!

Carry on. You will grow to love him.

chidyhels:
Carry on. You will grow to love him.

wrong advice detected.

Jenams:
wrong advice detected.

Detective go to church.

chidyhels:

Detective go to church.

I'm actually in church, just waitin for my Rev. Sis to come n kick start d mass, I was told she's nairalandin @ home.