He is my ex, though I met him before I met my huby, we dated for 4yrs b4 I met my huby.i couldnt settle wt him because of so many reasons. He is tooo jealous, distance was a barrier, he was possessive, I met and fell in love wt my huby yl dating him. I told him abt my hubu wen d relatnshp was getting serious, he was devastated, he kicked me out and vowrd neva to forgive m.i knew I deservef it cos he was faithful.but wat can I do.u cant tell d hart whi to love.if I married him I wld hv cheated on him....bfore I got preg wt my first child he kalled to beg me bkbut I knew dre was no goin bk cos I knew I wasnt meant for him.....its four years into my marriage now and he wont stop kalln m still professing his love to m dt he has not been able to meet a girl like me.i love my husband , am happy wt my life,I can neva cheat on him, av made it clear to him but he just wont undastand.....dis is rily getting outta hand.my huby is suspecting each tym I ref to receive his kalls.imagine he even told me he was ready to marry me if I left my huby.he is turning to a stalker.wat do I do pls......tell my huby abt him, or report him...I know I hurt him but lofe must go on, shit happens and I guesss we just were not meant to b togeda.plsss advice pls

bt OP, yu posted this sometimes ago

My wonderful pple on nairaland.my name is dara.am a 26yrs old single mum.I hd my baby wen I was 24yrs old for d only man hhv ever truly loved.we meet few years back and things got serious btw us.though I knew I wsnt d only one in his life,wen our relationship ws 8mnth he took me home to meet his mum.and we got more closer.@ almost two years of our relationship I got preg and cos of. D fear of an abortion I decided to kip d child against all odds.he told me to get rid of it den wch I refused to.thru family interventions he finally agreed to it.I hd d baby and things was going fine.but den he startd cing his ex's.I noticed he ws kipn oda girls.D̶̲̥̅̊ε̲̣̣̣̥γ̲̣̣̥ even go as far as calln me on fone.he started kipn secret frm me,he lies,I dnt knw ₩ªªζ he does or ₩ªªζ he hopes to D̶̲̥̅̊ .he even told me once dat he doesn't care if I leave him dat he's nt going to rush himself again@times he mks me fil like dis relationship is  force.but @ times he's so sweet and nice I get confused on ₩ªªζ his real intensions are cos he @times gvs me evry reason to beliEve he hs no plans for me in his future.his family loves me,his siblings and all adore me.but am just so scared of ₩ªªζ the future holds if @ d end of d day he lives me for anoda gurl.we hv  beautyful daughter nw and even if she's worth evry sacrIfice,I dnt wnt to live my life wt regrets of ₩ªªζ I shld hv done. Dt I didn't.so pls I nid ur candid advice frm matured minds pls.so I dnt tk  step I may regret for d rest of my life.forgot to mention we re not married yet.we only hv  child btw us.

bursted......hahaha.......

Yes I did.check d date I posted dt.things hv changed.chek oda post av made.next please.....

op,chai you can lie o.

Pls if u hv nothing good to say pls move forward to d next thread.no kids allowed here.

i think u should tell ur hubby ASAP so that he wont start suspecting smthings

Your phone nor get call blocker tool? The more you pick his calls, the more encourage he would be that 'e go soon de be' for am No give am green light to the continue the calls

esmeralda1:
i think u should tell ur hubby ASAP so that he wont start suspecting smthings

I know I shld but I just dont know hw he wld react.u see we had it rily rough wen we first started.i tink due to finanvial constraint, now he is wat I wont say rich but we re bery comfortable.he knew d guy wt m wen I first met him.he knew I nroke up wt him because of him even though I wasnt havn d best tym wt him den but I loved him too much to mind.and I tink my patience is paying me now.i jist dont want my past to hunt m.

I honestly do not understand this helpless woman act unless you still have feelings for him and you are confused otherwise this is simple just stop picking his calls or change your line.

My candid advice is that you tell ur hubby everything about ur ex.
In marriage,u re suppose to be totally faithful. If truly u love ur hubby,u'll tell d truth because
It appears ur ex is getting desperate&to avert endangering ur hubby,its better to come out clean.

Where did you get the love portion that you used for him then? Go back to the baba and tell him to release him.

Chikena

andromida:
I honestly do not understand this helpless woman act unless you still have feelings for him and you are confused otherwise this is simple just stop picking his calls or change your line.

well iee ryt but do u tink I havent tried doing dt.hmmm, d only tin hv not done is change my line because I dont knw wat reason I wld gv to my guy for doin dt.bit talk abt not pikn his kalls I hv but he finds ways to use oda nos to do so.even private line.b4 I pik kalls now I tk my tym to find out who it is.and No I dont hv feelings for him again if I did wld hv left my huby wen we had it rough.not now dt am beginning to enjoy my relationship wt my guy...

When you get married, you're supposed to change your contact details.

Ploy:
Where did you get the love portion that you used for him then? Go back to the baba and tell him to release him.

Chikena

ure funny.no lovr potion I was just and still is wat a man wld calle take home to mamma.am a natural, not materialistic and I know my onions.

Extom:
When you get married, you're supposed to change your contact details.

I did but he still finds ways to find dem.dont know how.

shindarayo:
well iee ryt but do u tink I havent tried doing dt.hmmm, d only tin hv not done is change my line because I dont knw wat reason I wld gv to my guy for doin dt.bit talk abt not pikn his kalls I hv but he finds ways to use oda nos to do so.even private line.b4 I pik kalls now I tk my tym to find out who it is.and No I dont hv feelings for him again if I did wld hv left my huby wen we had it rough.not now dt am beginning to enjoy my relationship wt my guy...

Woman up and tell your hubby what is going on and why you need to change your line that isn't so hard is it? The reason for changing your line should not be a secret between you and your husband i mean its your life and one used to be boyfriend wants to terrorize your peace your husband i think should easily back you on this or is there a reason your husband must not know what is happening?

shindarayo:
I know I shld but I just dont know hw he wld react.u see we had it rily rough wen we first started.i tink due to finanvial constraint, now he is wat I wont say rich but we re bery comfortable.he knew d guy wt m wen I first met him.he knew I nroke up wt him because of him even though I wasnt havn d best tym wt him den but I loved him too much to mind.and I tink my patience is paying me now.i jist dont want my past to hunt m.

Thank God he knows all about him in the first place, i dont think ur hubby will take it terribly but it depends on how u tell him.

andromida:


Woman up and tell your hubby what is going on and why you need to change your line that isn't so hard is it? The reason for changing your line should not be a secret between you and your husband i mean its your life and one used to be boyfriend wants to terrorize your peace your husband i think should easily back you on this or is there a reason your husband must not know what is happening?

there is no reason y he shouldnt know.he trusts m and knows I would NEVER cheat on me.but I rily dont knw d ryt word to put it in dt wldnt mk him tink odawise

shindarayo:
there is no reason y he shouldnt know.he trusts m and knows I would NEVER cheat on me.but I rily dont knw d ryt word to put it in dt wldnt mk him tink odawise

Can't you tell him about this guy? Why would he distrust you?

shindarayo:
ure funny.no lovr potion I was just and still is wat a man wld calle take home to mamma.am a natural, not materialistic and I know my onions.

The charm has started working on me too. Don't let me have your number or you have many men on your trail


On a serious note, tell the guy-man that you are happy now than ever, even if you aren't and tell your husband too.

I said this because ladies call their ex only to start complaining about their marriage. I took a married cousin out one day, unknowingly, we went there to see her ex. On reaching there, she started spewing her worries and fear in her home.

I was so infuriated that I left her there. She made me drunk that night. I started thinking about when I would get married and what my wife would be telling her exs about me.

Ploy:


The charm has started working on me too. Don't let me have your number or you have many men on your trail


On a serious note, tell the guy-man that you are happy now than ever, even if you aren't and tell your husband too.

I said this because ladies call their ex only to start complaining about their marriage. I took a married cousin out one day, unknowingly, we went there to see her ex. On reaching there, she started spewing her worries and fear in her home.

I was so infuriated that I left her there. She made me drunk that night. I started thinking about when I would get married and what my wife would be telling her exs about me.

av never told him abt my life wt my guy.even wen tins were rough I gv him d impression I was d happiest cos I didnt want him to mock me.i hv no reason to tell him now dt tins hv changed . every relationship has its own ups and down and talkn abt it wt an ex means trouble.

shindarayo:
av never told him abt my life wt my guy.even wen tins were rough I gv him d impression I was d happiest cos I didnt want him to mock me.i hv no reason to tell him now dt tins hv changed . every relationship has its own ups and down and talkn abt it wt an ex means trouble.

If that is the case, be blunt with him. Ask him if he would be happy if another man is pestering his wife (when he get married) the way he is disturbing you.

Just fcck him already . All these stories na for wetin ?

Boredom

Are you married or just got pregnant and cohabiting? You dont sound married.
You sound like one of them girls who will start dating a guy and start calling him " my fiancé " then move in with a guy and automatically award him " my husband " title.
Which one of these 2 men were cheating on you?
You have been married for 4 years according to you yet a single mother in 2012. Make una dey try remember some of the stories wey una dey blow sometimes. And the bad lazy writing doesnt make this tale any fun

aisha2:
Are you married or just got pregnant and cohabiting? You dont sound married.
You sound like one of them girls who will start dating a guy and start calling him " my fiancé " then move in with a guy and automatically award him " my husband " title.
Which one of these 2 men were cheating on you?
You have been married for 4 years according to you yet a single mother in 2012. Make una dey try remember some of the stories wey una dey blow sometimes. And the bad lazy writing doesnt make this tale any fun

move forward to d next topic pls.ur advice isnt needed here.tanx

Tnx for all d adv.its highly appreciated. Wld def tell my hubby about it.maybe he wld profer d best solution.hv not done anytin wrong so I know he wld understand.

aisha2:
Are you married or just got pregnant and cohabiting? You dont sound married.
You sound like one of them girls who will start dating a guy and start calling him " my fiancé " then move in with a guy and automatically award him " my husband " title.
Which one of these 2 men were cheating on you?
You have been married for 4 years according to you yet a single mother in 2012. Make una dey try remember some of the stories wey una dey blow sometimes. And the bad lazy writing doesnt make this tale any fun

tk more time to analyxe ur life beta pls....yes I got preg and we were leaving togeda b4 we formalized it.so I can proudly kall him dt.but I can proudly say my relationship is better dan does dt tink odawise.

Chillisauce:
Just fcck him already . All these stories na for wetin ?

Lol.E be like say she still get feelings for the guy.

Op,your husband knew you left this guy for him.It's straightforward.Tell you hubby and get him to even speak with your ex.

ILLITERATES on NL. . . .
Oya KONTINU!
When you can write in proper ENGLISH. . . .I will read!
Till then. . . . BUZZZZZZZZZZ OFF!

*start by learning your alphabet in IGBO*

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVe7Qd8KJ5I

KanwuliaJara:
ILLITERATES on NL. . . .
Oya KONTINU!
When you can write in proper ENGLISH. . . .I will read!
Till then. . . . BUZZZZZZZZZZ OFF!

*start by learning your alphabet in IGBO*

A is for 'EWU' di ka gi!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uVe7Qd8KJ5I

NOTED.would go back to school and do that.but I would rather learn igbira than learn igbo...is that how CONTINUE is spelt in igbo?