1. Stop thinking that your way is the “right”
way. If he does something differently, it does
not mean that it’s wrong. When a wife insists on
having her own way, she is in essence saying, “I
have to be in control.”

2. Don’t put others before your husband.

3. Don’t expect your husband to be your
girlfriend.most women are guilty of wearing out their husband
with countless conversational details that he doesn’t really care about. Now if he were a
girlfriend, all of those details would definitely
matter!

4. Don’t dishonor your husband.

5. Never use sex to bargain with your husband.

6. Stop reminding your husband about things
over and over.

7. Don’t make your husband earn your
respect.

8. Never look first to a book, a plan, or a
person to fix a problem in your marriage.

9. Stop putting housework ahead of hubby.
One young mom told her husband that she
didn't want to make love one night because she
had just changed the sheets and she wanted
them to stay clean. What do you think that
response said to her husband? Another woman,
who puts her husband ahead of the housework,
said: “Do not leave the unfolded laundry on your
marriage bed.”lol

10. Do not expect your husband to be Prince
Charming. After all, the perfect husband only
exists in fairy tales and your marriage exists in
real life. One young wife said that instead of
focusing on her husband’s shortcomings, she’s
learned to recognize the wonderful things about
him. What’s been the result? He’s been
encouraged to do even more to be the man of
her dreams.

#counter thread

Your number 7 though, please explain

Tashamania:
Your number 7 though, please explain

Many women think, I’ll respect him
when he earns it. But there’s a reason that
Ephesians 5:33 says, “Let the wife see that she
respects her husband.” As one friend said: “If
women could learn to understand that respect is
a man's native tongue, that it absolutely heals
his heart and ministers to him like nothing else,
it would make the biggest difference in the
world.”

lemme drill this into my wife

girls will never comment positively

The truth of the matter is the husband has to earn the respect of his wife as she has to earn his. That's the law of nature.

Some threads on this site os so irritating to say the least

I don't even know where to start from sef.anyway my phone battery is down.when I charge it I will come back and dissect it

it must always be about a man.jeez!

Lol! Our naija men,,una don see sey women don dey open eye,fear con dey catch una. Intimidation is d only reason u guys have been opening all these meaningless threads. Men these days are struggling to earn d lost respect and honour they had in our eyes. All these mumu threads will not help. Shuoooo!

pweetixandy:
Lol! Our naija men,,una don see sey women don dey open eye,fear con dey catch una. Intimidation is d only reason u guys have been opening all these meaningless threads. Men these days are struggling to earn d lost respect and honour they had in our eyes. All these mumu threads will not help. Shuoooo!

sister are u married

bruno419:


2. Don’t put others before your husband.

You have a baby, forget that one. If your husband is around he comes first. The baby can cry and eventually keep quiet. Remember he is your number one baby, others come after him.

Your mother is sick and u have to go take care of her but your husband wants you to be home with him because he doesnt want to do things for himself for a few days. Abeg dont mind your mother's sickness, your husband comes first in everything. Shebi was it your mother who paid that N500 as bride price?

6. Stop reminding your husband about things
over and over.

he is always forgetting things? Please ladies dont remind him, even if its something important. You don't need to keep reminding him, even if its your anniversary keep it to yourself if u want to keep you marriage!

7. Don’t make your husband earn your
respect.

he cheats on you? He abuses you?
My dear continue to show him respect, one day he will change... Even if its after 10yrs and you have HIV! Continue to be submissive, if u get sick you know the direction to the hospital!
He stops providing for the family, simply because he doesnt want to work anymore? It doesnt matter! Just go down on your knees everyday and serve him food that will just miraculously fall from the sky.
He insults you? Biko just go sit under iroko tree and sign praise songs, surely one day God will intervene!

Remember respect is only earned by the wife, the husband can go crazy but you should keep treating him like a responsible, mature adult! Forget all that self-respect, take whatever comes your way

8. Never look first to a book, a plan, or a
person to fix a problem in your marriage.

You marriage is going down the drain? Biko dont ask for help, one day u will surely figure it out by yourself!
How can someone else's knowledge on marriage help you? U dey mad?

9. Stop putting housework ahead of hubby.
One young mom told her husband that she
didn't want to make love one night because she
had just changed the sheets and she wanted
them to stay clean. What do you think that
response said to her husband? Another woman,
who puts her husband ahead of the housework,
said: “Do not leave the unfolded laundry on your
marriage bed.”lol

if he wants to do the bedmatics while the sink is full of dishes and the clothes he removed are still on the floor. Biko leave them there! Do whatever he wants first. Shebi u didnt know you just another kunta kinte, you do whatever the master wants you to do when he wants you to do it! What is a clean home, when all you should be focusing on is pleasing him?

10. Do not expect your husband to be Prince
Charming. After all, the perfect husband only
exists in fairy tales and your marriage exists in
real life. One young wife said that instead of
focusing on her husband’s shortcomings, she’s
learned to recognize the wonderful things about
him. What’s been the result? He’s been
encouraged to do even more to be the man of
her dreams.

why do u deserve to be treated like a queen? All you have to focus on is treating him like a king! Forget his shortcoming! Even if its overspending and borrowing what he cant pay back, focus on the useless things he is using that money on instead! Who are u to focus on what he isn't doing right, thats his job, he is the one who gets to condemn your every little mistake as a woman. As for you, just shut up! The perfect husband is found on disney and nickelodeon! But a perfect wife must exist in the real world ooo!
In fact u have to be the combination of Eva Longoria, mother Theressa, Catwoman, superman, batman, captain planet, Shakira and his mother.

I am not sure I understand 6 and 8 correctly but the rest is ok, I would say good advice.

pweetixandy:
Lol! Our naija men,,una don see sey women don dey open eye,fear con dey catch una. Intimidation is d only reason u guys have been opening all these meaningless threads. Men these days are struggling to earn d lost respect and honour they had in our eyes. All these mumu threads will not help. Shuoooo!

I pty una females em, una dey loose thingz small small b that,

Guy why not marry a robot and design her\it to behave and act the way you want.
Na so una go they make ladies disrespect us with all this una foolish threads.......wetin you dey try prove self.?
I bet you if your dad(note, not your wife) write his list of expectations on you,you won't even be worthy of beign his son yet you guys would be writing unnecessary list of expectations on another human being that has a life experience different from yours.

Fkforyou:
Guy why not marry a robot and design her\it to behave and act the way you want.
Na so una go they make ladies disrespect us with all this una foolish threads.......wetin you dey try prove self.?
I bet you if your dad(note, not your wife) write his list of expectations on you,you won't even be worthy of beign his son yet you guys would be writing unnecessary list of expectations on another human being that has a life experience different from yours.

My father doesn't even have a list for his wife or his children. He fulfills his duty as a husband and father without being asked and we in return show him the respect and care he deserves.

All these people thinking because i have male on my birth certificate i should be given respect by fire by force, whether i deserve it or not! They know absolutely nothing about responsibility, but they are ready to create sken sken lists from cairo to capetown!

pweetixandy:
. All these mumu threads will not help. Shuoooo!

bruno419:
sister are u married

brother...it is not ur "consign"

Skillfullulu:
I pty una females em, una dey loose thingz small small b that,

una males dey gain things well well..that's why guys come here making lists of "this and that"

LOL! @ thread

@OP: Just drill wifey to be into all these and you are fine

This sh*t is getting boring!! Jeez!

pweetixandy:
una males dey gain things well well..that's why guys come here making lists of "this and that"

na una dem dey pity, em no want make una loose all ni. These days una no get things lke our grannys

chaiiii this your sarcasm ehen

Mondisweets:

You have a baby, forget that one. If your husband is around he comes first. The baby can cry and eventually keep quiet. Remember he is your number one baby, others come after him.

Your mother is sick and u have to go take care of her but your husband wants you to be home with him because he doesnt want to do things for himself for a few days. Abeg dont mind your mother's sickness, your husband comes first in everything. Shebi was it your mother who paid that N500 as bride price?


he is always forgetting things? Please ladies dont remind him, even if its something important. You don't need to keep reminding him, even if its your anniversary keep it to yourself if u want to keep you marriage!

he cheats on you? He abuses you?
My dear continue to show him respect, one day he will change... Even if its after 10yrs and you have HIV! Continue to be submissive, if u get sick you know the direction to the hospital!
He stops providing for the family, simply because he doesnt want to work anymore? It doesnt matter! Just go down on your knees everyday and serve him food that will just miraculously fall from the sky.
He insults you? Biko just go sit under iroko tree and sign praise songs, surely one day God will intervene!

Remember respect is only earned by the wife, the husband can go crazy but you should keep treating him like a responsible, mature adult! Forget all that self-respect, take whatever comes your way



You marriage is going down the drain? Biko dont ask for help, one day u will surely figure it out by yourself!
How can someone else's knowledge on marriage help you? U dey mad?

if he wants to do the bedmatics while the sink is full of dishes and the clothes he removed are still on the floor. Biko leave them there! Do whatever he wants first. Shebi u didnt know you just another kunta kinte, you do whatever the master wants you to do when he wants you to do it! What is a clean home, when all you should be focusing on is pleasing him?

why do u deserve to be treated like a queen? All you have to focus on is treating him like a king! Forget his shortcoming! Even if its overspending and borrowing what he cant pay back, focus on the useless things he is using that money on instead! Who are u to focus on what he isn't doing right, thats his job, he is the one who gets to condemn your every little mistake as a woman. As for you, just shut up! The perfect husband is found on disney and nickelodeon! But a perfect wife must exist in the real world ooo!
In fact u have to be the combination of Eva Longoria, mother Theressa, Catwoman, superman, batman, captain planet, Shakira and his mother.

Skillfullulu:
na una dem dey pity, em no want make una loose all ni. These days una no get things lke our grannys

these days ehn..una no get things reach my papa sef,not to mention my grandpas

Mondisweets:

You have a baby, forget that one. If your husband is around he comes first. The baby can cry and eventually keep quiet. Remember he is your number one baby, others come after him.

Your mother is sick and u have to go take care of her but your husband wants you to be home with him because he doesnt want to do things for himself for a few days. Abeg dont mind your mother's sickness, your husband comes first in everything. Shebi was it your mother who paid that N500 as bride price?


he is always forgetting things? Please ladies dont remind him, even if its something important. You don't need to keep reminding him, even if its your anniversary keep it to yourself if u want to keep you marriage!

he cheats on you? He abuses you?
My dear continue to show him respect, one day he will change... Even if its after 10yrs and you have HIV! Continue to be submissive, if u get sick you know the direction to the hospital!
He stops providing for the family, simply because he doesnt want to work anymore? It doesnt matter! Just go down on your knees everyday and serve him food that will just miraculously fall from the sky.
He insults you? Biko just go sit under iroko tree and sign praise songs, surely one day God will intervene!

Remember respect is only earned by the wife, the husband can go crazy but you should keep treating him like a responsible, mature adult! Forget all that self-respect, take whatever comes your way



You marriage is going down the drain? Biko dont ask for help, one day u will surely figure it out by yourself!
How can someone else's knowledge on marriage help you? U dey mad?

if he wants to do the bedmatics while the sink is full of dishes and the clothes he removed are still on the floor. Biko leave them there! Do whatever he wants first. Shebi u didnt know you just another kunta kinte, you do whatever the master wants you to do when he wants you to do it! What is a clean home, when all you should be focusing on is pleasing him?

why do u deserve to be treated like a queen? All you have to focus on is treating him like a king! Forget his shortcoming! Even if its overspending and borrowing what he cant pay back, focus on the useless things he is using that money on instead! Who are u to focus on what he isn't doing right, thats his job, he is the one who gets to condemn your every little mistake as a woman. As for you, just shut up! The perfect husband is found on disney and nickelodeon! But a perfect wife must exist in the real world ooo!
In fact u have to be the combination of Eva Longoria, mother Theressa, Catwoman, superman, batman, captain planet, Shakira and his mother.

Lol, I love this, "The Perfect Wife" showing in the cinema near you. If wishes were horses ...

Mondisweets:

You have a baby, forget that one. If your husband is around he comes first. The baby can cry and eventually keep quiet. Remember he is your number one baby, others come after him.

Your mother is sick and u have to go take care of her but your husband wants you to be home with him because he doesnt want to do things for himself for a few days. Abeg dont mind your mother's sickness, your husband comes first in everything. Shebi was it your mother who paid that N500 as bride price?


he is always forgetting things? Please ladies dont remind him, even if its something important. You don't need to keep reminding him, even if its your anniversary keep it to yourself if u want to keep you marriage!

he cheats on you? He abuses you?
My dear continue to show him respect, one day he will change... Even if its after 10yrs and you have HIV! Continue to be submissive, if u get sick you know the direction to the hospital!
He stops providing for the family, simply because he doesnt want to work anymore? It doesnt matter! Just go down on your knees everyday and serve him food that will just miraculously fall from the sky.
He insults you? Biko just go sit under iroko tree and sign praise songs, surely one day God will intervene!

Remember respect is only earned by the wife, the husband can go crazy but you should keep treating him like a responsible, mature adult! Forget all that self-respect, take whatever comes your way




You marriage is going down the drain? Biko dont ask for help, one day u will surely figure it out by yourself!
How can someone else's knowledge on marriage help you? U dey mad?

if he wants to do the bedmatics while the sink is full of dishes and the clothes he removed are still on the floor. Biko leave them there! Do whatever he wants first. Shebi u didnt know you just another kunta kinte, you do whatever the master wants you to do when he wants you to do it! What is a clean home, when all you should be focusing on is pleasing him?

why do u deserve to be treated like a queen? All you have to focus on is treating him like a king! Forget his shortcoming! Even if its overspending and borrowing what he cant pay back, focus on the useless things he is using that money on instead! Who are u to focus on what he isn't doing right, thats his job, he is the one who gets to condemn your every little mistake as a woman. As for you, just shut up! The perfect husband is found on disney and nickelodeon! But a perfect wife must exist in the real world ooo!
In fact u have to be the combination of Eva Longoria, mother Theressa, Catwoman, superman, batman, captain planet, Shakira and his mother.

I love, not like. You hit the nail right on the head

Despicable write up

diamazing:


Lol, I love this, "The Perfect Wife" showing in the cinema near you. If wishes were horses ...

pweetixandy:
these days ehn..una no get things reach my papa sef,not to mention my grandpas

instead make u lsten and observe na talk u dey talk. Lol

Skillfullulu:
instead make u lsten and observe na talk u dey talk. Lol

lol..those days wey women dey only listen don pass,now women dey talk,and u guys listen

pweetixandy:
lol..those days wey women dey only listen don pass,now women dey talk,and u guys listen

chai!!!! Pride. No doubt

I HATE THIS THREAD.

Skillfullulu:
chai!!!! Pride. No doubt

no jor

[quote author=pweetixandy post=28553830] no jor[/quote u sure? Guys of these days want babes to b submissive]