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9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Vikkie14: 3:54pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Having an affair is not even on your radar. Never gonna happen. You love your spouse and you’d never be unfaithful to her or him. However, you may be unaware of other ways you are being unfaithful. If these actions continue, you may find yourself on the slippery slope that leads to that never-intended affair and a sorrow you never wanted in your life. Unfaithfulness usually creeps in through the back door, disguising itself as harmless fun or innocent behavior. If you want your marriage to endure and be filled with happiness you may need to check this list to see if you have fallen prey to any of these unfaithful behaviors. 1. FLIRTING Having a little playful fun at the office with a co-worker can’t be too bad, you may rationalize. After all, flirting is fun. Avoid it like the plague. It’s dangerous. If someone flirts with you, ignore it. What falls into the category of flirting? Here’s one explanation of what flirting is. “[It] usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of s*xual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony… Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, etc.” Married people should never engage in this type of behavior with anyone other than their spouse. The one you’re flirting with may take it as an invitation and pursue a relationship you never intended. 2. CONFIDING IN THE OPPOSITE GENDER When you pour out your troubles to someone of the opposite gender you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. It may seem harmless. After all, you just needed a shoulder to cry on. If you’ve got a problem, talk about it with your spouse. That’s your best-ever shoulder to cry on. If that’s not working for you, try a trusted relative, clergyman, or therapist. Not someone who may consider this an invitation for intimacy. Even if it doesn’t start that way, too often it ends that way. It’s a form of unfaithfulness. 3. SPENDING TIME ALONE WITH SOMEONE ELSE What appears to be an innocent lunch out with someone of the opposite s*x or stopping by for a chat at that someone’s home without your spouse is definitely in the category of unfaithful behavior. You or the other person may say, “Hey, we’re both adults. Nothing’s going to happen.” Well, things do happen. It’s not appropriate. Go home and spend that time with your spouse. 4. TALKING NEGATIVELY ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE When you are a true friend to someone you never say bad things about them to others. Your mate is your best friend and is the last person you should ever talk about negatively. If you have a beef with your honey, talk it out with him or her. Let your conversations with others focus on the good things about your spouse. That’s being faithful. The exception here is abuse. If abuse is happening it needs to be reported to a trusted friend, counselor, and the police. 5. CHATTING ON THE INTERNET WITH OPPOSITE S*X If you think this is harmless, think again. It may start out that way, but it definitely won’t end that way. Some have engaged in what they considered innocent talk with a former boyfriend or girlfriend from high school or college days, or even a stranger. One thing can lead to another and before you know it, your marriage is in jeopardy. Don’t do it. It will only end in sorrow and heartbreak for your family. 6. DRESSING TO ATTRACT ATTENTION If you’re dressing up to look good for someone else, you need to re-examine your motives. Trying to attract someone else by wearing a sexy looking outfit is one more way to jump into unfaithful waters. 7. WRITTING PERSONAL INTIMATE LETTERS If you’re writing a letter of condolence or congratulations, or other good wishes, let it be from both you and your spouse. Then there will be no misunderstanding about your intentions. 8. DENYING YOUR PARTNER S*X Being faithful to your spouse means giving yourself over to him or her to enjoy the intimate side of your marriage. To withhold s*xual intimacy from your spouse if not doing your part in keeping your marriage strong and fulfilling. It creates sorrow and even suspicion. Being a faithful spouse means doing your part to make it a beautiful relationship in all aspects. 9. PUTTING YOUR PARENT/CHILDREN BEFORE YOUR SPOUSE Your spouse must always be the number one person in your life. If something wonderful happens to you, like a promotion, a confirmation of a pregnancy, or any other good news, you may be tempted to immediately call a parent to share in the joy. Resist. Let your spouse be the first to know your good news. Then share it with others. YOUR Children should not be No. 1 also. Check yourself on these points and make sure you are being 100 percent faithful to your spouse. By doing this you will create a genuinely happy and fulfilling marriage. NB: familyshare.com 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by echobee(f): 3:58pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Ok . Missberrypop5,hp u no dey any group here? |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by iamodenigbo1(m): 4:00pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Then nobody is blameless |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Nobody: 4:00pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
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Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Vikkie14: 4:11pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Am just a culprit of No.1 and No.5. Btw.... Most of "us", yes including u, dont ask me again, i mean u, yes u, are guilty of this 1 and 5. I dey lie? Diaris God ooo |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Nobody: 4:24pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Really?? |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by AfricanApple(f): 5:23pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
nice one op, but I dont think terming it unfaithful is appropriate |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Nobody: 5:29pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Seems more like; 9 ways you're falling outta love with your partner. |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by AJ01(m): 5:32pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Funny thread |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Tymax(m): 5:32pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Everybody is guilty of at least one. |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by justmag(m): 6:20pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Now that's a fact! I agree |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Dorisbest(f): 6:46pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Vikkie14:not guilty of no.1. Am an introvert. But no.5, let me think...B-) |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by unibenstudent1(m): 7:37pm On Dec 05, 2014 |
Very good post ,I will forward this to punch newspapers |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Nobody: 10:02am On Dec 06, 2014 |
echobee:if all these things shows/prove one is being unfaithful, then i'm one very Unfaithful lady . Cool right? |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Exjoker(m): 10:55am On Dec 06, 2014 |
Life no easy at. Imagine you not doing all this thing, life is going to be so boring |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by Nobody: 11:00am On Dec 06, 2014 |
watching indecency |
Re: 9 Ways You Are Being Unfaithful And You Didn't Know It. by dechandel(f): 11:46am On Dec 06, 2014 |
How can Dressing be on that list So whatever happened to Looking good for your hubby? |
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