na dem dey bad pass

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BREAKING NEWS.....with all these paedophiles on the loose your movement is restricted.Until you become an adult and independent

Me that has a curfew of 9pm.

Ezibless:


Ghen!! Ghen!!...... Ghen!!! Ghen!!! Ghen!!! Ghen!!!

Yes dear

What I did was I made sure I forced the distance, nd I needed to show dem I was old enough to tk care of ma slf (apart from d finance sha)...after my bsc I made sure I served in lagos, way far away from dem... Nd sinz den...its bin

@op, u no kno sey if boy touch u u go carri belle eh?

Don't worry when you are 30 am no husband she would start chasing you out of the house, She will be the one bothering you to go out more often.

You should be glad you've got a mom that's concerned about your whereabout dear. Some people become very sad in their latter lives because they didn't have parent(mom) who were concerned about them, who wanna be involved in their lives regarding the places they go to. Sometimes our parents can see things(trust me) we don't see even if we stood on a mountain. Sometimes we gotta do things for our parents after the years of sacrifice and investement they've done for us.
No wise parent would sit, fold their hands unperturbed by their kids going to the North with the current security states.
That said you're a 22-year old lady and at this point you've got to be on the driver's seat of your life. You're old enough to make certain(if not entirely all) decisions that affect your life.
Parents can sometimes take decisions that favours them and them alone but they do see it in their eyes as the bigger good for the family.
Conclusively, do what makes you happy but don't neglect the happiness of the people that have made you come this far.

[size=14pt]Because she knows how WICKED boys are.

They are like night crawlers [/size]

Take dis advice at ur own detriment.


on d said day, jst get dressed and go. if questioned, jst say u are going out wen u come bck, u can now hv dat matured convo with ur pple. i bet u, next time, dey will trust u to make d right choices cuz if not ....

kennygee:
Me that has a curfew of 9pm.

start breaking dat curfew jor

donodion:

hello lil sis....i got your story and trust me...bros was once there.
You need to make friends and contacts..home and foreign and especially those that could help your dream and ambition..There are quite a few nursing links id give u to help broaden your knowledge and make new friends.

as per tryn to convince (lie) to mom...i wont say you must lie to her but first are you even sure ot certain of where your friends are inviting you to?

Remember you are precious to dad and mom...if a hair on your head is pulled off heaven may fall...if you can be sure of your safety and early return...ust tell them you visiting and will be back soon.

have fun sis....but also play safe.

you can in box me

nna eh see ds guy o, mak she inbox u for wetin again? Abi u wan speak to ha mama?

You will need to have a heart to heart talk with your mum! You will sit her down and start asking her questions and you should be the one doing the talking and don't let her shut u up! Pls am not saying u should disrespect ur mum o! Just begin to remind her of the way she brought u up, then let her know that throughout your stay in school u had the freedom to mess around but u did not just because of the way she brought u up let her know that you are not going to start messing around now! Ask her if she has ever heard any negative thing about you in the neighborhood or in school, let her know it is because of the way she brought u up! I can assure you she will ease off gradually! Mind u even if u become 40 years old you are still a baby to ur mother and she will not stop treating you as one! In my own opinion if parents have brought up their children well when they are 21yrs they should no longer be treated as babies and protected unnecessarily! If you can conquer your mum this way, you have also conquered ur dad! Good luck.

yungryce:

start breaking dat curfew jor

I no fit now. There are times i close from work and i will start getting calls form Mum immediately.

restricting a female child no be idea at all at all.....cause the day en go get 2 seconds freedom ehhhh......u know the rest

@OP, I won't type my advice here because it would be seen as bad advice.
but bottom line is you're 22 and a full fledged adult.
The only reason why you're still dependent on your parents is in all likelihood financial.
I do not think they should take undue advantage of that.

Blessing, please we need to talk.

kennygee:


I no fit now. There are times i close from work and i will start getting calls form Mum immediately.

u are working n u still hv a curfew?

Ezibless:


Hmmm that one strong o.
I'd have to do real planning for the ''breakaway'' so that i'd not break my arm in the process

Thanks!

Baby girl, pls don't listen to stillfire or what did he call himself. How on earth will someone advcie you to struggle with your parents just because they want the best for you. My sister, you won't understand their protection until u become a parent too. My little princess who is still very young get the best protection from me to the extent that I don't respond to jokes from people about marrying her to their sons. You hav exercised patience till now,you hav few years to spend with them. At the appropriate time, whc ll soon come, u ll enjoy your freedom and trust me, you ll appreciate your mum then. Do not listen to dose wrong councel to raise your voice at your parent or use kinda force to let yourself loose. In fact u ar not under any bondage but enjoying care and protection. You ll be fine sister.

Acidosis:

Yes dear

Oya,lets hear it

tenry:


Baby girl, pls don't listen to stillfire or what did he call himself. How on earth will someone advcie you to struggle with your parents just because they want the best for you. My sister, you won't understand their protection until u become a parent too. My little princess who is still very young get the best protection from me to the extent that I don't respond to jokes from people about marrying her to their sons. You hav exercised patience till now,you hav few years to spend with them. At the appropriate time, whc ll soon come, u ll enjoy your freedom and trust me, you ll appreciate your mum then. Do not listen to dose wrong councel to raise your voice at your parent or use kinda force to let yourself loose. In fact u ar not under any bondage but enjoying care and protection. You ll be fine sister.

Thanks a million!

aarabbunkum:
Blessing, please we need to talk.

All these 'talkings' that you pple are doing.. Diariss God ooo! Chai

Choi! I remember those days my mum would have me and my sister watch the carnival from our balcony
The annoying thing was that all our friends and even little kids from the neighborhood would be there o
Even during festive seasons my mum would still ask us to stay at the balcony and watch merrymakers from
there, it was so embarrassing and then i would ask why i couldn't be the one in the streets being watched by
people also from their balconies....I feel you girl just prayerfully tell her that you're now an adult.

OP try to get ur mum's permission, mothers can be so protective @ times and I dont blame them.
Since u re in the north her fear may be from the security situation and the fact that you re going to a christain gathering can further fuel the fear.

But if she says you should not go please dont. Call your friends and apologise .

I strongly believe its security issue thats making her a big reluctant.

Do not think just because u re 22 your mum doesnt have a say .

Op, I understand your plight...my mum was like that. My saving grace was my dad who, though he doted on me as his only daughter, yet he gave me free rein to come n go as I pleased. It was his level of trust in my ability to always do d right thing, he tells me often that he knows he brought up his children well.
However I join your mum to say No to this trip....is it not to d North? With the insecurity level around that area pls scrap this trip. But try and secure your mum's trust, that's d only way u can break free from her apron strings. I do tell parents that they need some balance with these restrictions because I have seen cases where it became counter productive. A parent needs to show trust in their wards, advise them often but allow them to be responsible n make their own mistakes, that's d way to learn fast. At a certain age, talk alone is not enough, let d child make his/her own experiences. If he falls, he learns d lesson and learns to move on!
My humble submission

Ezibless:


Ok. But did you read the part where i said we're well brought up?
Some parent would stil restrict even if their children is the pope

Gaining freedom from parents is something one builds with time. it even more childish informing ur parents da u no more a kid. However, I have found out da parents systematically watch ur maturity as per ur actions and inactions, ur mental contributions to family and external issues. when dey ultimately get convinced abt ur mental strength, dey tend to leave u with more responsibility to handle independently. more so, dere would be numbers of time wen either dad or mum would walk inside and strike up a matured convo with u as if dey v forgotten ur age.

I got independence from my parents wen I was 18 even before my other siblings. at da age, my dad was already seeking my opinions abt real issues concerning his life.

I didn't wait to be reminded da I would read, I didn't wait for d jamb form to be picked for me, didn't wait to be picked to school wen I got my admission, didn't v to put a call across to dem even with d littlest issues at school, once home, washes d cars and other chores during weekends. to a point wen I face some challenges, my dad would confidently tell mum da I knew wot to do.

I represent dad at times when I became 20. dey trusted my judgements, didn't v to stress to get permission anymore.

on d whole, dere r things we do at times which further reinforce our immaturity to mum and dad, and hence, absolutism in dia exercise of power. bless u.

cos ur still very young from what I'm seeing from ur dp

Well.... I guess your mom isn't used to the idea of you moving around yet.

My own parents, were strict but they also gave us space, so from time, I always dey miss from house and they wouldn't even bother cos dey know I will turn up even if its by 1 am.

My parents are soooo free, besides I attended skl far away from them, and they couldn't know what I was up to over there, so where was the sense in restricting my movement when at home?

Anyway, I guess your mom wants you to be safe, the send forth thing to her isn't important and that's why she doesn't see why you shld travel all the way for it.
As a mother, I understand her view.

So, its not like she's restricting you from visiting a friend a few minutes away, she just doesn't want you travelling around for something she doesn't see as important.

I'm 22 too but my own case is different frm urs.
My mom ve no probs, my Dad ve retired frm army/bossy kind of life(he reighned during my big sis nd bros era).
My probs now is my big brothers(disadvantages of having 3 or 4 not smiling big brothers).
Always afraid of them(wat dey will say nd wat dey will do) i dnt go out wit guys, dnt comment anyhow on social networks especially facebook, dnt go out like dat even @ schl(my lodge).
Dnt let ppl visit me, dnt talk more dan necessary wit their friends, e.t.c. Z Not as if dey r watching my every move, but itz now second nature for me to not do anytin i knw dey will not like wether dey r dia or not.
Dnt knw wen i will break away frm the spell.

It happens u said u and mumcy are lyk 5 and 6 call her nd talk lyk paddies let her tel u her fears y shes so overprotective den u'l know wat step 2 take 4rm diya