Interracial dating has been one of the biggest
conversations within the black community. Black
men have made it no secret their liking to white
women. Regina King recently raised the argument
that we as black women still have not become
completely comfortable dating outside our race. I
recently did a survey on a group of black women
regarding their reasons for not dating men who are
not of color. Through my findings it seems as
though black women aren’t actually opposef to
dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma
lies in women of color thinking that men outside of
their race won’t be attracted to them. Below are
the 5 top reasons black women are apprehensive
about going there with a white guy.

1. Body image
Black women are known to be naturally
curvaceous. We are praised for our assests by the
black men who love us. It has been known that the
bigger the backside the better. The rounder the
breast the better. The thicker the legs the more
beautiful. In the white community this has been the
complete opposite. The bigger the butt, the less
attractive. If your hips are too wide you’re
considered fat. Thinner is usually all around better
within the white community. This is naturally
engrained in both African American and Caucasian
people’s subconscious. Many studies show that
black men prefer woman with curves and white
men prefer women who are thin. After speaking to
6 black women between the ages of 25-40 most
state that they believe a white man would not be
attracted to them because of their voluptuous
bodies.

2. Hair
Black women have been ridiculed for their hair for
many many years. Chris Rock made the movie
“Good Hair” that touched on many areas of what
black women go through regarding their hair. If we
wear it natural it’s consider nappy. If we perm it
we’re considered “white washed”. If we have a
weave, we aren’t happy with who we are and
would really like to be a white woman. Regarding
hair we just can’t seem to win. Since this is
already a touchy subject in the black community,
it’s obvious as to why a black woman would rather
avoid the whole “hair conversation” when dating a
white man. Sure most black men hate weaves but
the women I surveyed expressed how a black man
would understand more because he was raised by
a black woman. Because of this, a black man
knows all the changes his mother may have went
through maintaining her hair. He is no stranger to
fake hair or a pressing comb. A white man on the
other hand is used to naturally unenhanced straight
hair that he gets to run his fingers through. The
women I surveyed said they were naturally
intimidated when it came to dating a white man
because of their hair.

3. Background/Education
Statistics show that Caucasians have more money,
better education, better jobs and more
opportunities. In the black community, we naturally
have to work twice as hard and be 3 times smarter
to achieve the level of success deemed to be
successful. White men that are very successful
will usually date a woman who is as successful or
at least in the same class as himself. At least then
he feels as if he has something in common with
her. Because the black community doesn’t have as
many advantages this leaves desirable black
women to a minimum.

4. They are never approached by white men.
We as black women are constantly criticized for
being the ones not open to dating outside of our
race but what happens if white men just do not
approach us? When I surveyed these women, 4
out of the 6 said they were never even approached
by a white guy. Unfortunately black women have
the smallest pool to choose from. We are naturally
attracted to black men but the majority of black
men now and days marry outside of their race.
Statistics show that white men usually date within
their race and if they don’t, they are more likely to
date a Hispanic, Asian or pacific islander. The
percentage of white men and black women that
date is a very low one.

5. Just not attracted to white men
We are also guilty of just not feeling it. 4 out of
6 women also said they were simply not
attracted to white men. They felt as if they
lacked good looks that they were used to, as
well as confidence (swag) and sex appeal.
Because of this it was hard for most of them to
really become serious about potentially being
able to have a serious relationship with a white
man.
As you see there are many reasons that stop
black women from dating white men.
Unfortunately many of the reasons stem from
insecurity. I think it’s important for us as black
women to not miss out on opportunities just
because of insecurities. Insecurity stems from
fear and fear can stop you from attaining your
blessings. At the same time, we are beautiful
creatures who deserve the very best. We
should also be able to get exactly what we
want. If that happens to be a strong, successful
black man, so be it. The sky should be the limit
for us. If we truly believe we can and do
deserve the very best, that is what will come to
us. But it is also important to be open to
anything life may have to offer. Life isn’t about
being closed minded. Life is about taking
chances and enjoying whatever challenges and
changes may come our way. If a good looking
white guy comes up to you and is interested in
you, don’t be so quick to judge or feel you may
not measure up in his eyes. If he approached
you, that means he’s attracted to you. Love can
come in all shades and sizes. Let’s not ever
allow stereotypes and judgments determine
who we can fall in love with.

http://madamenoire.com/124921/reasons-why-black-women-dont-date-white-men/2/

i dey find my charger abeg

The first on the list is on point I concur.

black women rocks

Yet 9ja girls go still wan go on a long tin

1 absolutely rocks

sam4:
i dey find my charger abeg

Go checkam for dat barbing salon we u barb, na so i dey tell u make u no 4get am, but sleep weh u dey sleep for the barber chair no let u remember...

op I'm suspecting u are a white guy or lady

however

in as far as I'm concerned, none of those things u listed up there are facts: if white men likes it thinner, why are their women spending millions to get all those curves, are they doing it for decoration
did u say most black men hate weaves all the men I know actually likes it. opposite is d case here bro

that survey that showed Caucasians have more money, more education... tell me how, where and when the survey was carried out. oyinbo drop lies gbam! u too swallows it like it

AfricanApple:
op I'm suspecting u are a white guy or lady

however

in as far as I'm concerned, none of those things u listed up there are facts: if white men likes it thinner, why are their women spending millions to get all those curves, are they doing it for decoration
did u say most black men hate weaves all the men I know actually likes it. opposite is d case here bro

that survey that showed Caucasians have more money, more education... tell me how, where and when the survey was carried out. oyinbo drop lies gbam! u too swallows it like it

Well, you can check out the source hommie. And for the record, I'm an English (England ) thou black.

I kinda disagree with this premise. I am not denying that these reasons are not legitimate.

But.

I find white men are really attracted to me. I didnt really notice till my girlfriends started pointing out to me that white guys check me out alot.

I must admit ( tho somehat ashammed) that most my serious man friends, relationship, flings and one night stands have been caucasians ( or not dark skin brothers)

Iguess maybe I do have " white girl" physical features and less black girl " attitude".

I am pure african as far as I know. But I frequently do get asked if I am mixed-of indian mix that is.

Go figure.

rafmike:


Well, you can check out the source hommie. And for the record, I'm an English (England ) thou black.

how are you English and black? Are your ancestors anglo saxons, germanic? It is like an indian person saying they are yoruba.

Chiadanin:
I kinda disagree with this premise. I am not denying that these reasons are not legitimate.

But.

I find white men are really attracted to me. I didnt really notice till my girlfriends started pointing out to me that white guys check me out alot.

I must admit ( tho somehat ashammed) that most my serious man friends, relationship, flings and one night stands have been caucasians ( or not dark skin brothers)

Iguess maybe I do have " white girl" physical features and less black girl " attitude".

I am pure african as far as I know. But I frequently do get asked if I am mixed-of indian mix that is.

Go figure.

and what exactly do you mean by a "black girl" attitude?

rafmike:


Well, you can check out the source hommie. And for the record, I'm an English (England ) thou black.

I don't have the means to clarify its authentication, so I will just pass this
I thought as much. a true African wouldn't post such a thing

kandiikane:

how are you English and black? Are your ancestors anglo saxons, germanic? It is like an indian person saying they are yoruba.

my dear, when he said it, I just had to visit my Google sharpaly, there, u are gonna get the answer

never knew there are black british

rafmike:


Well, you can check out the source hommie. And for the record, I'm an English (England ) thou black.

show us your birth certificate!

Lets take one black man's assumptions and call them facts

marieolae:
and what exactly do you mean by a "black girl" attitude?

Thank you for asking.

What's the main reason behind "I need a tall dark man"

Which kin lie be diz?

The topic should be "Why white guys don't date black girls"

I don't mean to sound offensive tho, but African girls here most especially Nigerian girls don't get hit on from neither us nor white guys. Mosta them are dramaqueens, they brought their mentality here. They thought guys would rush after them like they were in Nigeria

My best female friend told me about her encounter at the club with a Nigerian girl, the Nigerian girl called her a bit'ch, that she's going after guys (me) meant for them. I was just laughing when she told me.

I can't say for every place in general tho, but where I am now - black guys date white girls, white guys date white girls, black girls date each other only few of them are lucky to have a black boyfriend.

I love me some Nigerian girls tho, at the end of the day I wanna marry one na, just not ready for their drama now. #TeamAfricanGirlsRock

AfricanApple:
my dear, when he said it, I just had to visit my Google sharpaly, there, u are gonna get the answer

never knew there are black british

There are black British (those who were born there or were given citizenship) but there is no black English.

British=nationality-this is what he should have said.
english=ethnicity

marieolae:
and what exactly do you mean by a "black girl" attitude?

Lmao! She's one of those "special snowflake" people with a serious complex.

marieolae:
and what exactly do you mean by a "black girl" attitude?

Not me. "They"

He-ll, I dont even know.

Thats the garbage you learn and hear when you live in united states.

Grrrll, I am all attitude and then some.

My humble opinion.

TahariX:


Lmao! She's one of those "special snowflake" people with a serious complex.

Lol. Ok. I guess I deserve that.

But I bet you'd change that tune right quick if you get to know me in person.

*middle finger emoji*

LewisO:
Go checkam for dat barbing salon we u barb, na so i dey tell u make u no 4get am, but sleep weh u dey sleep for the barber chair no let u remember...

u mean am?

sam4:
u mean am?

Na now u remember, u don see am?

LewisO:
Na now u remember, u don see am?

d man no open jare.

sam4:
d man no open jare.

Wetin dey worry dat guy self in no serious wit in biznes o, now your gadget ba3 don dey low now so wetin u go do now? i know sey now na so so ch@t dey your mind now, shey u no go go Chiemena or Uchechi house go borrow charger dey go borrow u for the luv weh den get 4u, bcoz i know sey if your gadget don off now dey go miss dat sweet ch@t wey u dey shoot dem...

AfricanApple:
op I'm suspecting u are a white guy or lady

however

in as far as I'm concerned, none of those things u listed up there are facts: if white men likes it thinner, why are their women spending millions to get all those curves, are they doing it for decoration
did u say most black men hate weaves all the men I know actually likes it. opposite is d case here bro

that survey that showed Caucasians have more money, more education... tell me how, where and when the survey was carried out. oyinbo drop lies gbam! u too swallows it like it

these facts r copied from website i don't remember which, but I've read this before. however u r blabla how its not true, but research showed that black women get least attention in mixed public dating sites among other races

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/

ok cupid did a research about choice and race. somebody mentioned above that its white guys not choosing black girls (not other way around) which is true according research.