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Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by waternogeteneny: 1:31pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Yes! It is suppose to be done in your fathers compound in the village to be validated by ur umunna. In line with Nigeria custom and tradition laws, traditional marriage in lagos is not valid. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Dollarjunkie: 1:31pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
I did mine on nairaland 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by sCun: 1:31pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Babygal4eva:Your Mom is a whoree and you are a disgrace for typing such senseless thing in public. Keep thinking Lagos is your father's land until your eyes will be opened. 11 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by dodorima147(m): 1:33pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Capital YES,don't mind dose who tink dey can do it any wia dey like.Tank God u called it traditional dat implies dat village can nt be overluk 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Nobody: 1:35pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
I for one think it is good to do your traditional marriage in your home town, reasons being as follows: 1. In Igboland it is believed that it is the community that jointly own a child and not just the parents. These are your roots and as such it is not wise for you to sideline them while doing your trad. You can take your wedding to Jupiter no one cares but for that trad do it at home. You may argue that they can travel and come but let me ask you will your aged grand parents that have been dreaming of their grad daughter's wedding day also travel to lag in their weakness? 2. Even though it is not a strong point to say that a traditional marriage is incomplete except you do it in your hometown. This is fallacious because all it takes for a marriage to be tagged traditional is the order that was applied. Is it English principles and law (i.e.) statutory marriage-the so called court or white wedding or is it customary law i.e. Igbo, Yoruba or Tiv custom? Hence, one can be London and successfully do a valid Igbo traditional marriage so long as the couples follow the order and customs of the Igbo. After all people do their white weddings in their villa and that has not converted the white wedding to a trad. In essence location does not detract or add to the nature of a marriage. But then as a strong proponent of custom particularly my Igbo root, I don't like it when people do their trads outside Igboland. It makes it look like they are alienating themselves from their people. Most Igbos live outside of Igboland and then occasionally travel home. Trad is one of those reasons that bring you home and reconnect you with your kith and kin. This reconnection is very important because many a people have married their cousins and relations without knowing it just cos they don't ever go home and know their extended families. Some people accuse all their village people as being willie willie (witch) and would do everything possible to stay away from them but they don't know that tomorrow cannot be predicted. There is an adage that says if something pursues a man from his papa house then he takes safety in his mama house. Eg this Boko Haram insurgency has made people flee from their base and some have no hope of going to their villa because they don't even know where it is. That is why I advise some people to ensure they plant an iroko tree in their father's compound as a landmark before they take their nuptial flight to Lagos, Abuja and co, so that the day one thing will start pursuing them from their base, their children will at least use the iroko to recognise their father's house in the villa. E kenekwa m unu. 14 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by tempem: 1:38pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by clemz85(m): 1:39pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
custom things some time pisses me off, if one have a good compound that could contain guests why not host it there. 1 Like |
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Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by clemz85(m): 1:41pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
likeseriously: as if any of them contributed a dime to your making, root my foot 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Diamonddamsel: 1:42pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
It all depends on your tradition.We Yorubas are not bound to go to the village so long as you carry your people along on your plans.It can be done wherever you reside even outside Nigeria Its acceptable.However i know most Ibos go to their Village. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Ferdinandu(m): 1:42pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
As an Ibo doing it in the village is part of what makes it traditional. If you don't want to do it in the village, it will be better you forget it and go ahead and do the church or court wedding, after all nobody will arrest you for doing that. Or better still pack your load and go and start living with your Partner without doing any at all, you still didn't commit any crime but leave our tradition from that your weird idea. 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by PAGAN9JA(m): 1:43pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Babygal4eva: Please shut your mouth! How dare u call ur village a fettish place? U need an education and u need enlightenment. Stop this ur colonial mentality. You are still a black woman ok. 7 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Collynzo9: 1:46pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
clemz85:Then do your church wedding and forget the traditional one, it is not difficult na. Anything other than doing it in your hometown isn't traditional in Igbo culture, maybe in another culture. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by DonaldGenes(m): 1:49pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
chimerase2: you make no sense bruh..... |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by DonaldGenes(m): 1:51pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Babygal4eva: you make sense dear. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Nobody: 1:52pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Chizzy20:you sound like all this "my papa say I be igbo" I bet u can't even speak ur language,Imagine question 9 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Adiwana: 1:53pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Na must oo!my 4 cousins who live in the UK married oyinbo but at the end of the day had their trad.marriage at villa.but there were not present..people represented them..buh was it in my villa? Yea! 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Anaskie(m): 1:54pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
cynthia3d:God bless u swty. Dis was the same question a friend of mine asked me some months ago. When I told her that it was customary to have the traditional marriage in the village, she was really surprised. She told me that her 2 elder sisters and her elder brother, who are all married did their trad weddings in the city, without even consulting the people in the village. Anyways, she happens to be one of these Igbo girls who were born and bred in Ibadan, so somehow, they believe they are now Yorubas. The silly girl has been to her village only once in her life and doesn't understand a word of Igbo. I really don't blame these Yoruba peeps sometimes when they say nasty things about Igbos trying to claim their ancestral lands. Efulefu 8 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by tonychristopher: 2:00pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Chizzy20: You must be all these my papa say I be Igbo people ... |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:01pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Olasum:Are you Igbo? |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by tonychristopher: 2:02pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Babygal4eva:.were your family exiled and ostracized from the village ? That is why such thing can happen 6 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Nobody: 2:03pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Chizzy20: d witches u dey fear fear for village still dey where u base o. no where to run 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:05pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
I can see the ladies are thinking of a way to turn tradition (in this case wedding) upside down. I guess it's a way of being heard and being equal....... well, I wish those thinking of marrying an igbo daughter outside her village luck. |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:08pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Babygal4eva:Je ju ese........shey na for town your papa marry your mama........Abi na case of #demtellmesayIbeIgbo 1 Like |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:12pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Hmm..LMAO......Like seriously. So for your left mind your cousin don do traditional wedding........Imagine conducting traditional wedding over the phone......why them no do Skype instead ![]() ![]() ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:15pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
englishmart:EFULEFU 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by clemz85(m): 2:16pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Collynzo9: that true any way |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by eagleeye2: 2:20pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
clemz85:Abeg Mr. Self Made Man, nobody is actually begging that you do a traditional wedding. You can easily kidnap you girlfriend and impregnate her to start having babies for you....or you simply live with her #happilyeverafter 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Nobody: 2:23pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Zedric: *facepalm* what is this one saying bayi?? 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Nobody: 2:27pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
eagleeye2: What is this again? How is this one a lady's fault? Mba, it's an offence to now ave an opinion as a lady, e don equal feminism?? I'm not surprised. You are following your president's footsteps. Always making excuses, 200naira = 1 dollar, it is the ladies' fault. 3 Likes |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by lolababe331e: 2:29pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
So many uncouth children on nairaland ![]() ![]() Anyone who can call someone else's mother a LovePeddler has no home training and obviously does not respect his own mother ![]() 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is It Compulsory To Do Ones Traditional Wedding At The Village? by Olasum(f): 2:35pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Zedric:so what's traditional wedding |
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