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7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 5:18pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter. Which means it’s time to… 1. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO AGREE WITH YOU. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that. 2. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO RESPECT YOU MORE THAN YOU RESPECT YOURSELF. True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself. 3. STOP EXPECTING (AND NEEDING) THEM TO LIKE YOU. You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. 4. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO FIT YOUR IDEA OF WHO THEY ARE. Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM. Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it. 5. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING. People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t told him yet. That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either. In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that. 6. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO SUDDENLY CHANGE. If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do. For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them. 7. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO BE “OK.” Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own. Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark. We are measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them. Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles. Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK. Thank you for sparing some time to read this. Feel free to drop your comments and dont forget to LIKE my page https://m.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1546781928893036 for more life tips. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 5:24pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
The other 4 nko? |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 5:32pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Mondisweets:sorry for the delay, they are now complete. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by LillyAnne(f): 5:43pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Nice one. Most ladies are guilty of No 5 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Ezibless: 5:49pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
God bless you. This is just what i need right now. ![]() I'll read it over and over again. #savesPage. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 5:49pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LillyAnne:Nice to see you point out something, thanks. :-) |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 5:50pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Ezibless:Am glad I did that. Thanks for the feedback. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by demsid(m): 5:59pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
really ? |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 6:09pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
demsid:ofcourse brother. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by demsid(m): 6:10pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Uzeinalkali:thank you very much for this info |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 6:12pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
demsid:its my pleasure |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by damesilver(m): 6:35pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
These are good points. Nonetheless, relationships will still remain unhealthy if we continue to nurse our ego-vanity. Doing some things to please the other all in the name of peace and selfish love will only foster the ego in them. Every expectation is a demand. The real task of every human lies in exterminating the ego-the desire for validation. Then we will live a much happier life. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Dannylux: 6:38pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Stop expecting sincere help/aid/assistance from people. Nothing goes for nothing. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 7:04pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
damesilver:wow! Nice point there. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 7:05pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Dannylux:yeah, you are right bro although I dont think this is entirely true. Good point BTW. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by LordReed(m): 7:09pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Amazingly introspective. Good one Uzeinalkali. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Mubarack44(m): 7:14pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
good work op 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 7:17pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
LordReed:thanks! Lordreed |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 7:18pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Mubarack44:you are welcome brother. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by chillis1: 8:19pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Nice one. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by PRISTINEMUSCLES: 8:37pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
This is nice. I read each line in the post like i needed oxygen to breathe. This post is indeed timely. 2015 is going to be my best year yet. I dash you one-quarter of my muscles. |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Hadeep: 8:39pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
Good one @op. Love these. Genuis in da making 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by naturally: 9:26pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
True talk 1 Like |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 9:46pm On Dec 21, 2014 |
PRISTINEMUSCLES:ehehe, I would be grateful if its possible. Wait o! Do you also workout? |
Re: 7 Things You Should Stop Expecting From People by Nobody: 9:08am On Dec 22, 2014 |
Moderator, do you mind moving this thread to front page? |
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