The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
Which means it’s time to…

1. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO AGREE WITH YOU.
You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let the opinions of others make you forget that.

2. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO RESPECT YOU MORE THAN YOU RESPECT YOURSELF.
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon
it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.

3. STOP EXPECTING (AND NEEDING) THEM TO LIKE YOU.
You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another. Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you.

4. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO FIT YOUR IDEA OF WHO THEY ARE.
Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM. Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful. Every human being
is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it.

5. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO KNOW WHAT YOU’RE THINKING.
People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion because you haven’t
told him yet. That cute guy you haven’t talked to because you’re too shy? Yeah, you guessed it, he hasn’t given you the time of day simply because you haven’t given him the time of day either. In life, you have to communicate with others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open your vocal cords and speak the first
words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking. It’s as simple as that.

6. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO SUDDENLY CHANGE.
If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and
what you need them to do. For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but
it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t
try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most
beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them.

7. STOP EXPECTING THEM TO BE “OK.”
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you. Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex and extraordinary as your own. Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark. We are
measured by our ability to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them. Supporting, sharing and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles.
Once we accept this, the world then is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,” and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being “OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.

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The other 4 nko?

Mondisweets:
The other 4 nko?

sorry for the delay, they are now complete.

God bless you.
This is just what i need right now.
I'll read it over and over again.

#savesPage.

LillyAnne:
Nice one.

Most ladies are guilty No 5

Nice to see you point out something, thanks. :-)

Ezibless:
God bless you.
This is just what i need right now

Am glad I did that. Thanks for the feedback.

really ?

demsid:
really?

ofcourse brother.

Uzeinalkali:
ofcourse brother.

thank you very much for this info

demsid:
thank you very much for this info

its my pleasure

These are good points. Nonetheless, relationships will still remain unhealthy if we continue to nurse our ego-vanity. Doing some things to please the other all in the name of peace and selfish love will only foster the ego in them. Every expectation is a demand.

The real task of every human lies in exterminating the ego-the desire for validation. Then we will live a much happier life.

Stop expecting sincere help/aid/assistance from people. Nothing goes for nothing.

damesilver:
These are good points. Nonetheless, relationships will still remain unhealthy if we continue to nurse our ego-vanity. Doing some things to please the other all in the name of peace and selfish love will only foster the ego in them. Every expectation is a demand.

The real task of every human lies in exterminating the ego-the desire for validation. Then we will live a much happier life.

wow! Nice point there.

Dannylux:
Stop expecting sincere help/aid/assistance from people. Nothing goes for nothing.

yeah, you are right bro although I dont think this is entirely true. Good point BTW.

Amazingly introspective. Good one Uzeinalkali.

good work op

LordReed:
Amazingly introspective. Good one Uzeinalkali.

thanks! Lordreed

Mubarack44:
good work op

you are welcome brother.

Nice one.

This is nice. I read each line in the post like i needed oxygen to breathe. This post is indeed timely. 2015 is going to be my best year yet. I dash you one-quarter of my muscles.

Good one @op.
Love these. Genuis in da making

True talk

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
This is nice. I read each line in the post like i needed oxygen to breathe. This post is indeed timely. 2015 is going to be my best year yet. I dash you one-quarter of my muscles.

ehehe, I would be grateful if its possible. Wait o! Do you also workout?

Moderator, do you mind moving this thread to front page?