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Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Pavore9: 3:02am On Dec 23, 2014 |
A bunch of elders in Masinga, Machakos County, Kenya were recently forced to eat humble pie and beg an angry suitor to marry their daughter, after he walked out of ongoing dowry negotiations, accusing them of extorting him. The suitor only identified as Mwendwa caused a stir after he ordered the people who had accompanied him to the function, to pack the goods he had presented as dowry onto a pick-up, leaving the home in a fit of rage. This was after the elders inflated the cost of his bride and fined him heavily for “misbehaving”. As is the custom among the Akamba, Mwendwa had arrived at his in-laws’ home with a delegation comprising his extended family, friends, neighbours and workmates, to pay dowry. His in-laws had prepared food and were serving alcoholic drinks. As they dined and wined, Mwendwa got tipsy and without a care in the world, staggered onto the dance floor and began dancing with women inappropriately. Fines imposed This he did to the chagrin of his in-laws and wife-to-be. “His unbecoming behaviour upset the wazee (old men) who decided to fine him two goats. “He stopped dancing inappropriately, apologised and agreed to pay the fine,” intimated a source who attended the ceremony. Much later, during their stay at the home, one of the men who accompanied Mwendwa was accused of having kicked a dog.“The elders fined Mwendwa three more goats for the bad manners of a member of his delegation,” reveals the source. Everything else went on well until later when Mwendwa’s family began to renegotiate the dowry, seeing as there had been a couple of fines imposed. Mwendwa had initially agreed to give Sh80,000,(N160,000) 82 goats and other material goods. Instead of the goats, he was asked to pay an extra Sh80,000,(N160,000) which would be the equivalent of 40 goats (at the cost of Sh2,000 each) and give the other 42 goats later. The in-laws however, consulted and made fresh demands, insisting that Mwendwa pay all the dowry at once because, they said, he was a man of means. To their shock, a miffed Mwendwa walked out and instructed his men to load all the goods they had brought onto the pickup and leave. When the elders discovered that Mwendwa was not joking, his fiance run to him crying and begged him to change his mind, telling him to just “just pay what you have”. Elders joined her and implored Mwendwa to cool his temper, pleading and begging him to sit down and discuss but a tipsy, peeved Mwendwa would hear none of it. He left. The relationship now hangs in the balance. http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/entertainment/article/2000140939/man-storms-out-of-dowry-negotiations-crying-extortion 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by PrettyClare7(f): 3:19am On Dec 23, 2014 |
A very interesting story |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by bist: 3:45am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Coolness!!! |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by cococandy(f): 4:12am On Dec 23, 2014 |
82 goats? 2 Likes |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Pavore9: 4:41am On Dec 23, 2014 |
cococandy:Nigerian men are screaming that what is being charged locally is too much.Kenyans don't joke with cows & goats for dowry & the groom must go with govt permit to prove it was not stolen! 1 Like |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by cococandy(f): 4:45am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Pavore9:this is serious |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by baby124: 4:52am On Dec 23, 2014 |
govt permit Pavore9: |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Pavore9: 5:06am On Dec 23, 2014 |
cococandy:Don't be angry as that tribe charged nothing in comparison to the Turkanas of Northern Kenya, where a young man who wants to marry requires about 100 cows, 200 goats & several camels just to marry this beautiful bride!
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Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by cococandy(f): 5:36am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Pavore9: chei. I don't envy them. BTW are you Kenyan? You seem to know them well |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by eleojo23: 5:43am On Dec 23, 2014 |
If paying a high dowry is what makes a marriage successful, then people should pay any anything no matter how high the price. But if it is just a tradition (which it is), let the couple be allowed to get married with what they have because after the ceremony comes the real deal - building their home. Of what use is a high dowry if a marriage crashes before it even takes off? 1 Like |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Pavore9: 5:47am On Dec 23, 2014 |
cococandy:Me Kenyan? l be proper born and raised in Lagos, l just live in Nairobi. |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Nobody: 5:51am On Dec 23, 2014 |
so these kenya girls are only after goat and cow. i shuld have known 2 Likes |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by aspirebig: 6:07am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Those guys are still learning. Some places in Nigeria are very expensive as well. Even more than that. Guys that love their wife,go there and do those stuff quietly and peaceful and receive their parental blessings waka. It is better than having a partner and your union is not leaglised and approved by the family traditionally. However,it is not by force o,or a must to marry from such places,u can marry from somewhere else,there are always options . Everywhere can't have same high demand. |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Nitefury: 6:14am On Dec 23, 2014 |
eleojo23: may your days be long for this comment. After all this, some still ask for gender equality. 1 Like |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Nobody: 6:34am On Dec 23, 2014 |
#162000 for bride price,that means with less than #200000,a man can marry over there.. Where's my passport,I want to go marry 5 wives,and above. |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by dinachi(m): 6:38am On Dec 23, 2014 |
And later, you hear these bought women coming here to talk about feminism! 4 Likes |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by StealthyMe(m): 6:49am On Dec 23, 2014 |
And later the wife go wan dey misbehave If i hear say that man no treat her f up... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Pavore9: 6:49am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Yomieluv:What about the 82 goats? |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by GAZZUZZ(m): 6:52am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Pavore9: I Love this part bois were no longer smiling[img]http://smileyshack.files./2010/12/smileyslaughing_lol_rofl__100-100.gif?w=35&h=26[/img] |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by cococandy(f): 7:10am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Pavore9:ok |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by felixzo1(m): 7:18am On Dec 23, 2014 |
wonders shall never end |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by jmoore(m): 7:23am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Chai. chai, chai. Elders, when una go get sense na? |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by MizEmpress(f): 7:40am On Dec 23, 2014 |
dude was already tipsy otherwise I see no sense in him walking out on his wife-to-be and her family. no matter the attitude they put up, there's always room for negotiation and besides he's the one who needs a wife so no need for the haughtiness. 2 Likes |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Rosarie(f): 7:41am On Dec 23, 2014 |
even aftr d fiance begged and d gals people said pay wot u have he still went away.he wey go marry go dey dance with other gals inapporiantely.d gal wants to put herself in bondage.if u check u will c she is pregnant dats y d man even wants to marry her.he does not love her 1 Like |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Dannylux: 7:44am On Dec 23, 2014 |
So Marriage Na better business for Kenya? lmao! |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Specialist900(m): 8:00am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Goat and cow business go make sense there o |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Nobody: 8:08am On Dec 23, 2014 |
He shld have controlled his temper |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by mutter(f): 8:13am On Dec 23, 2014 |
He did the right thing, when you buy a woman she becomes your property and you can treat her how you like. The dowry should be a token. That is why many poor decent men cannot afford to marry. As for the girl, strange that extra goats can appease her for the mans behavior. This is just sale of goods and not a marriage. |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Ghost01(m): 9:00am On Dec 23, 2014 |
So when are the ladies going to start paying groom price? |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by Applaner: 9:03am On Dec 23, 2014 |
wait o is dis a movie script? just wondering how a potential groom would drink and b tipsy wen he has not yet paid de dowry. |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by sweetcocoa(f): 9:45am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Seems the man has a nut running loose in his head, a man who was dancing inappropriately in presence of his in- laws and wife to be is not going to make a good husband if you asked me, he even still left after pleas from his bride, I wonder what kind of marriage that would be. All these elders sef, them too like to overdo things, 82 goats kwa? Haa na wa o. 3 Likes |
Re: Man Storms Out Of Dowry Negotiations Crying Extortion by HzRF(m): 9:48am On Dec 23, 2014 |
Wen will this sink
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