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Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by seyi360(m): 2:01pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu. They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Valwezzy: 2:07pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
Alright...I"ll Comment Later 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 2:09pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
seyi360: Become a king in his 30's No offence but it's bullshyte That's what he's gonna do till he dies mehn Taaaaahhhhhhh If he wants it, his wife cannot stop him If she does, that marriage will not remain the same again as he'll start seeing her as enemy of progress |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by bellong: 2:20pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Awujale of Ijebuland became a king at 27, at the time was brought from the UK. There are many other kings who became king at young age. It is not about age but the will of the gods... The wife should be bothered about other things than her husband marrying a second wife. There are other more important issues that she will deal with than second wife. Merry Christmas. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by ritababe(f): 2:26pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
If shes scared of polygamy then she should advice her husband not to take the crown or else she is on for a lonnnng thing |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Haywhymido(m): 2:31pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
bellong:u r dere talking of 27yrs, d chancellor of unilorin became d egwe of his town at d age of 12. Though, i av 4got d his state n town name sha.he studied abroad den came back to retain his position.Tell ur frd nt to use jealous spoil dis man's greatness.dia r many kings dat av one wife na, dat depends on who his husband is. Dis type of opportunity comes one in a lifetime.ur frd shd be at peace with him since he didn't fought 4 it,it was given to him. She shd be worried abt many oda tins dan polygamy self. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by seyi360(m): 2:32pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
bellong:Interesting |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by lolababe331e: 2:35pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
It's not only polygamy she should be worried about, being a king here usually involves him performing some duties to whatever local deity his people worship 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 2:35pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
bellong: I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm only saying it's bullshyte |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by bennyrazz: 2:41pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
The coronation rite is something not too good for a Christian. It portrays occultism. Sometimes, the to be crown king carries sacrifice and bows before idols etc. A lot of things are involve o. But why does his father wants him to become king? his he afraid? or he feels he's too old? As For me o, if they would agree to crown him without passing through demonic initiations and eating all sort of concortions, he should accept. But he should know that, all those demigods will fight back except he's a strong Christian that can liberate the throne from the grasp of demonic powers. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by bellong: 2:55pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
Haywhymido: The igwe was enthroned at age 5 not 12.. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by bellong: 2:55pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Its not yet a shit... Its a dung... |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Haywhymido(m): 2:58pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
bellong:thank u 4 d correction |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 3:23pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
bellong: bia, how you come know all of them like this? you sure say you no dey campaign for kingship at Saki? |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Claroo(m): 3:33pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
Haywhymido:Dein Of Agbor Delta State |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by bellong: 3:59pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Have you forgotten I am the high priest? |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by cococandy(f): 8:55pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
I understand her fears. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by pickabeau1: 8:57pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
There are so many christian traditional rulers I don't see the issue here The throne does not change people neither does money or advancement Its what is therein that is brought forth If he is convinced go ahead and help your people |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by checkdate(m): 11:40pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
seyi360:LET HER GO INTO PRAYERS. GOD IS STILL IN THE BUZINESS OF ANSWERING PRAYERS, ESPECIALLY SINCERE ONES LIKE THIS TYPE THAT WILL COME FROM SOMEBODY'S WIFE; FOR THE GOOD OF GOD'S OWN INSTITUTION(MARRIAGE) |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by juman(m): 12:11am On Dec 26, 2014 |
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Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by juman(m): 12:11am On Dec 26, 2014 |
seyi360: This is a fake story. In yoruba land kings are chosen by king makers. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by seyi360(m): 3:24am On Dec 26, 2014 |
@ juman, If u dont have any advice for the woman, i"ll appreciate your exit from the thread |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 3:55am On Dec 26, 2014 |
So because of her selfish purpose,she should stop her hubby form becoming a king.. Women at times are funny,they want a successful man,yet won't want the things associated with the success.. she's just enemy of progress. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 7:09am On Dec 26, 2014 |
Yomieluv: She has every right to be concerned bro. Let's not act like we do not know what these traditional ruling exposes one to. She didn't sign up for this. Same way some wives do not want their husbands to go into Nigerian politics. And please success is relative. Some people just want an easy-going lifestyle.. She obviously doesn't want to be associated with this kind of success. That said, if the husband is determined to accept it, there's nothing she can do from stopping him. She will just need to support him the way she can and be a prayer warrior too. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 7:26am On Dec 26, 2014 |
cytochromeC:tell me she won't be happy,if the hubby is eventually made the king. She will,who doesn't like good thing,or position of authority? She is only concerned about the marrying of more wives,else she won't object it.. There are many kings married to one wife,its all about one personal orientation,and belief. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Ezibless: 7:29am On Dec 26, 2014 |
Resign to be a king? Hmmm I sometimes see that kinda life boring. No offence. But with what we see on nollywood,if that's what they actually do;settling cases here and there,wearing one kain thing for head,may be its very heavy seff,so many protocols,and he wouldn't tell me he won't consult ''ifa'' when that's what the people may be use to. He might not take a new wife though 'cause there are kings with just a wife but I don't buy the idea of the whole kindship stuff. Better still,if what he wants is to be a leader,advice him to join politics. E better pass |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Ezibless: 7:37am On Dec 26, 2014 |
Yomieluv: lol@bolded. It's not everyone that fancies being the wife of a king y'know. It's a different kinda life from what they use to live. Who knows,may be they even intermarried. So she might not be comfortable with it. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 7:42am On Dec 26, 2014 |
Yomieluv: lol. How can you be so certain she will? Some people love low-key lives trust me, she might just be one of them. You see it as a good thing, she doesn't. She's comfortable with her hubby being a banker, she enjoys their privacy that way. And even though she isn't only concerned about the multiple wives possibility(from the original post, she's concerned about the occult practices too) she is right to be concerned about that too. It isn't about being selfish. If you sign up for monogamy and you see an act that might encourage polygamy in your household, you should be bothered. Would you just accept it if your wife comes home to inform you that she will be crowned the next traditional ruler? And go through some rites? I understand her fears. 3 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 7:53am On Dec 26, 2014 |
cytochromeC:aside the ritualism in kingship,I see no biggie the hubby becoming a king.. Even most of the ritualism are even outdated,and ousted due to civilization.. To be frank,she's not concerned about the ritualism,she's only concerned about the perceived many "wives" I feel her grievances sha. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by babygirlfl: 8:17am On Dec 26, 2014 |
cytochromeC: Well said. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by Nobody: 10:38am On Dec 26, 2014 |
Funny woman. |
Re: Her Husband Is About To Be Made A King, She Is Scared Of Polygyny,pls Advice by luvablesam(m): 11:44am On Dec 26, 2014 |
seyi360: She aint even bothered cos of religion but cos of maybe he would marry a second wife. Why are women always talking about second wife or cheating issues? Simple advice, if u think u won't be able to stand it if he becomes a King and marries a second wife then Divorce him already please. |
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