Please my fellow nairalanders I need your comments on this. How can a guy be sure if a girl loves him when she suddenly says No sex in the relationship. What else will the guy gain from dating her. Since relationship is mutual and the girl is closing her part, what will the guy be gaining from her.

So the guy asked the girl out not because he loves her but because he wants to "gain" from her?


Disabusing the mindset of this generation will be one hell of a job

The guy will be watching her like a TV program.

gain is relationship a kinda business or what?

are you both business associates
so sex is the only thing a girl can offer in a relationship

#disappointed!

All my previous relationships I've been sleeping with the girls. I never knew what it felt like dating a girl and not having sex with her. So I decided to take sex away in my current relationship and to my dismay, I still love her. As for what you gain, there are whole lots of it. Only the thought of knowing there's someone out there who truly loves and care for you is enough gain for me.

Well, That's how most guys see it, In most relationships, The lady hardly contribute in term of finance and stuffs. So the mind set is this; You can't contribute in cash, Then you can contribute in Kind.

Note: I don't buy this idea, Just saying.
And I've never had sex with my girl friend(s)

when did the term 'relationship' becOme synonymous to sex
you need a dictionary OP

You gain the boxers she buys you, the jollof she cooks and her coming over to wash your clothes.

Don't quote me ooo

must u insert 'kini'? if u no u cant cope with that then u can take ur leave

Gain

smh... dis is sad... real sad.

Seriously? Must u have sex?
Sex this, sex that...
You saying gain like she is some kinda business or commodity :-/

Mynd44:
You gain the boxers she buys you, the jollof she cooks and her coming over to wash your clothes.

Don't quote me ooo

I have ooo


How many girls does the above?


Not me sha .


Op relationship is not a business .

If a lady has nothing but sex to offer you, how then is she any different from a prostitute?

The silly notion that guys provide money and girls sex when in a relationship should go right out da window.

Louis055:
Please my fellow nairalanders I need your comments on this. How can a guy be sure if a girl loves him when she suddenly says No sex in the relationship. What else will the guy gain from dating her. Since relationship is mutual and the girl is closing her part, what will the guy be gaining from her.

get her to wash ur clothes ,clean ur ous prepare ur food,bath u,iron ur clothes ..dats enof

she will over-care for you.

You stand to gain respect from her. Sex was never part of a love relationship, I don't know brought out that idea. Leave what belongs to married men alone.

So sex is the only thing you gain in a relationship abi??

Mtcheeeeeeew...see dem pretenders.

I smell hypocrisy on this thread

@all those saying she will buy boxers, wash your cloths, clean your house etc, if I hear! Shey she be your house maid ni?

There is a reason why she is a "girl friend" and distinct from all the other females friends in your life. You should share some moments of intimacy, including protected sex, there's nothing wrong in that. Period.

If a girl knows she isn't gonna have sex, then she shouldn't have a boyfriend in the first place. Or she can go look for some "brothers in the lord" with whom she can have that 'no sex' shit. She shouldn't be going out with a regular niccur with some raging testosterone and expect not to be banged.

he wil gain love respect and faithfulness. A guy who dates a gal to gain should be ready for pains too

It depends.. If you also told her no money in the relationship then you gain money

Love is just a term use for Boys 2 get LAID and for Girls 2 get PAID. Romance, cuddling, kissing and sex makes love real. So u all should stop blaming d OP as if u dont sex wif ur Boyfriends/Girlfriends.

Mprex:
So the guy asked the girl out not because he loves her but because he wants to "gain" from her?


Disabusing the mindset of this generation will be one hell of a job

u still haven't told us what he will gain o.

braintext:
Is dating and relationship all about SEX??

tell them ooo.A relationship has to be symbiotic, whether intimate or cordial I really wuldnt align myself with people dah hv no impact in any aspect of my life..positive impact of course.
Relationship isn't all about sex..buh sex is involved sha

NOTHING!

Everything she claims she can do for you in a relationship without sex, you can do for yourself.

Never fall for the trick of no sex while in a relationship with any lady, unless you are 100% certain it will lead to marriage.

It is a strategy girls have devised so they can eat their cake and still have it.

Because even without sex, their emotional and financial demands will still be on you 99% of the time.

Guys, be wise.

kristina1:
So sex is the only thing you gain in a relationship abi??

no its not. but if it's taken away what else is there to gain ? I'm ignorant. pls enlighten me.

He would gain SENSE!!!!

Why wuld a sane being just go into a relationship for sex? U cn hav dah with any hoe na...smh!!!

donjerz:
Love is just a term use for Boys 2 get LAID and for Girls 2 get PAID. Romance, cuddling, kissing and sex makes love real. So u all should stop blaming d OP as if u dont sex wif ur Boyfriends/Girlfriends.

Am telling you. or does it mean that we don't really know the meaning of "boyfriend/galfriend"?

Louis055:
Please my fellow nairalanders I need your comments on this. How can a guy be sure if a girl loves him when she suddenly says No sex in the relationship. What else will the guy gain from dating her. Since relationship is mutual and the girl is closing her part, what will the guy be gaining from her.

The guy should sign out,that girl is a hoe and wants to take the guy as maga,she would Bleep some other guys and collect money from the maga guy

Annypie:
He would gain SENSE!!!!

Why wuld a sane being just go into a relationship for sex? U cn hav dah with any hoe na...smh!!!

But the guy shouldn't give the girl a kobo either if she's not going to allow him to Bleep her,its tit for tat,what should a guy be doing with a girl that insists there wouldn't be sex,i'd rather stay single

iamrealdeji:

The guy should sign out,that girl is a hoe and wants to take the guy as maga,she would Bleep some other guys and collect money from the maga guy

she's a hoe because have you slept with her has the op told you he caught her with men or do you know herhow come she's a hoe

how do you know she fvcks other guys for money is that what all the women in your life do
you don't talk ill of someone you know nothing about. how much of a boy-man are you