I have tried....

I mean, really really tried but it is not just working out.

I think it very odd to have a grownup lady and pamper her as if she is a toddler.

If I do that to her, what pamper would be left for our children?

#Just thinking aloud; soughta.

You are WEIRD

what kind of pampering are you talking about?

pampering bibo?

give an example

care shouldn't be taken as pamper

badoolee:
You are WEIRD

Definitely!

Op, pampering someone doesn't actually mean you'd treat her as a toddler

Elantracey:



what kind of pampering are you talking about?

quivah:
pampering bibo?
give an example
care shouldn't be taken as pamper

The kind that requires me helping the lady feel all warm and fuzzy inside when it is not necessary in my books.

I guess that's still a bit vague.

Let me give an example...

She comes to my crib a bit down cause she had a fight with her mum...

She doesn't want to talk about it just yet but expect me to pat her on the back and call her fun names etc till she gets over what I have no clue about.

Haba...how do I pet someone who is not a pet?

pasqal09:
Op, pampering someone doesn't actually mean you'd treat her a s a toddler

Um...care to enlighten me what its all about?

I go through threads where u see a guy offends a lady but the lady is expected to go back and massage his ego a bit...

I may be wrong but ain't that like pampering the guy?

I believe you'll enjoy pampering at the receiving end.
So do to another as you wish to be done to you.

striktlymi:





The kind that requires me helping the lady feel all warm and fuzzy inside when it is not necessary in my books.

I guess that's still a bit vague.

Let me give an example...

She comes to my crib a bit down cause she had a fight with her mum...

She doesn't want to talk about it just yet but expect me to pat her on the back and call her fun names etc till she gets over what I have no clue about.

Haba...how do I pet someone who is not a pet?

I don't think that's pretty hard to do but when its becoming to much then you can complain..

you are not pampering her, you just helping her get over and talk about it.
we are wired differently you know? I don't need that much act to talk about one thing at the same time, I need it to talk about another thing(esp things I find uneasy to say)

striktlymi:


Um...care to enlighten me what its all about?

I go through threads where u see a guy offends a lady but the lady us expected to go back and massage his ego a bit...

I may be wrong but ain't that like pampering the guy?

pampering your partner doesn't mean treating them as a kid just as you mentioned above

striktlymi:





The kind that requires me helping the lady feel all warm and fuzzy inside when it is not necessary in my books.

I guess that's still a bit vague.

Let me give an example...

She comes to my crib a bit down cause she had a fight with her mum...

She doesn't want to talk about it just yet but expect me to pat her on the back and call her fun names etc till she gets over what I have no clue about.

Haba...how do I pet someone who is not a pet?

lol , that's childish na .

Akdegreat:
I believe you'll enjoy pampering at the receiving end.
So do to another as you wish to be done to you.

Not really...

I am not really a great 'pet' even while on the receiving end.

I see it as being a bit superficial.

Words of wisdom. I tell you.

quivah:

I don't think that's pretty hard to do but when its becoming to much then you can complain..

you are not pampering her, you just helping her get over and talk about it.
we are wired differently you know? I don't need that much act to talk about one thing at the same time, I need it to talk about another thing(esp things I find uneasy to say)

Lol!

I truly appreciate the fact that people are different and with that difference comes different ways of relating with them but won't it be easier to come and just talk about what happened instead of wanting to be cuddled first before opening the 'cookie jar'?

pasqal09:


pampering your partner doesn't mean treating them as a kid just as you mentioned above

Ohkay...

Maybe I am getting it all wrong then.

Care to enlighten me a bit?

striktlymi:


Not really...

I am not really a great 'pet' even while on the receiving end.

I see it as being a bit superficial.

Anyway , once in a while , it spices things up . However moderation is key

Elantracey:



lol , that's childish na .

Alas, a lady who understands...

You are definitely not from Mars.

What part of Earth are you from?

Akdegreat:


Anyway , once in a while , it spices things up . However moderation is key

I can live with once in a loooooooong while.

Definitely will be a struggle.

Too many yeyeism from them.


Pampering isn't annoying as asking what you have eaten all in the name of caring.

Haba, is that the only way to show that you care?

striktlymi:


Ohkay...

Maybe I am getting it all wrong then.

Care to enlighten me a bit?

can't you show care to you partner?

striktlymi:


Alas, a lady who understands...

You are definitely not from Mars.

What part of Earth are you from?

Lol , am not from earth

Tallesty1:
Too many yeyeism from them.


Pampering isn't annoying as asking what you have eaten all in the name of caring.

Haba, is that the only way to show that you care?

Its one of the ways nau

pasqal09:

can't you show care to you partner?

I don't mean to brag (maybe just a little) but in my previous relationships I have been accused of showing too much care, such that it scares the ladies.

I am not talking about care. That should be a given in any relationship. A relationship without care is so not desirable.

striktlymi:


I don't mean to brag (maybe just a little) but in my previous relationships I have been accused of showing too much care, such that it scares the ladies.

I am not talking about care. That should be a given in any relationship. A relationship without care is so not desirable.

so what are you saying then?

Elantracey:



Lol , am not from earth

Wow...

Definitely not from Mars either...


Hmmmm...maybe she's from Pluto....


That would explain a lot.

Pamper them o! or no pamper them! bris e no consign me jorr!

Nothing wrong with pampering. But when it's becoming too much n d lady starts acting like her life depends on it____nw dtx childish

Elantracey:



Its one of the ways nau

E no follow.

Here is what we need.

My love, I just collected my salary, do you need it?

It is January, have you paid your rent, I have about 100k in my account so lemme know when you are going to pay.

Y'knw, stuffs like that.

If I tell you say I dey hungry, wetin U go do?

striktlymi:


Wow...

Definitely not from Mars either...


Hmmmm...maybe she's from Pluto....


That would explain a lot.

Lol , not even from Pluto , the none of the seven planets can inbreed a super human like moi

Err.....

Okay na.

pasqal09:

so what are you saying then?

A lady comes to you upset...

She doesn't say a word about the cause...

You are clueless but expected to tell her so many sweet things in order for her to feel a bit better...

She gets better after 30 minutes to one hour of constant petting...

I don't know if you feel my flow?

That's the kinda pampering I am talking about. At least something close.