Louis055:
Please my fellow nairalanders I need your comments on this. How can a guy be sure if a girl loves him when she suddenly says No sex in the relationship. What else will the guy gain from dating her. Since relationship is mutual and the girl is closing her part, what will the guy be gaining from her.

braintext:
Is dating and relationship all about SEX??

lizbum:

What happens to tru friendship for crying out loud! Wat happns to love? Isn't dat worth more dan "sex"?

rman:


I have true friends before seeking a girlfriend, I experience love without having a GF...so what exactly do you bring?

True love doesn't even give conditions. If u truly love someone, u will give your all including sex. U can't hold something back and claim true love.

Mprex:
So the guy asked the girl out not because he loves her but because he wants to "gain" from her?


Disabusing the mindset of this generation will be one hell of a job

Louis055:
those are the things the guy should gain naturally from the girl. But a situation when he is not getting them, and the girl suddenly adds NO MORE SEX to the list of things she is not giving. What would the guy do.

lizbum:


Which law states dat a relationship must include sex in d first place?

Louis055:
Please my fellow nairalanders I need your comments on this. How can a guy be sure if a girl loves him when she suddenly says No sex in the relationship. What else will the guy gain from dating her. Since relationship is mutual and the girl is closing her part, what will the guy be gaining from her.

iamrealdeji:

But the guy shouldn't give the girl a kobo either if she's not going to allow him to Bleep her,its tit for tat,what should a guy be doing with a girl that insists there wouldn't be sex,i'd rather stay single

Annypie:
He would gain SENSE!!!!

Why wuld a sane being just go into a relationship for sex? U cn hav dah with any hoe na...smh!!!

djeezy:
All my previous relationships I've been sleeping with the girls. I never knew what it felt like dating a girl and not having sex with her. So I decided to take sex away in my current relationship and to my dismay, I still love her. As for what you gain, there are whole lots of it. Only the thought of knowing there's someone out there who truly loves and care for you is enough gain for me.

Mprex:
So the guy asked the girl out not because he loves her but because he wants to "gain" from her?


Disabusing the mindset of this generation will be one hell of a job

1stola:

And while you're still imagining how her pússy feels, another guy is banging her and you are just kissing the lips she is using to súck another guy's díck.

rman:


Which law states that u must have a boyfriend without sex sef? Must u have a BF?

You want a boyfriend but u don't want sex then stick to your male relatives until you are ready.

Simple.

jsunex:


get her to wash ur clothes ,clean ur ous prepare ur food,bath u,iron ur clothes ..dats enof

Mprex:
So the guy asked the girl out not because he loves her but because he wants to "gain" from her?


Disabusing the mindset of this generation will be one hell of a job

ayokunlei:


hypocrisy in the highest order!!! If the guy doesnt talk about sex at all, you Ladies will be the one calling Him impotent. Most Ladies that comment against the OP's opinion are faking it. if you dont do it with ur BF, then u will continue to masturbate... No offence pls.

djeezy:
All my previous relationships I've been sleeping with the girls. I never knew what it felt like dating a girl and not having sex with her. So I decided to take sex away in my current relationship and to my dismay, I still love her. As for what you gain, there are whole lots of it. Only the thought of knowing there's someone out there who truly loves and care for you is enough gain for me.

Adwexky:
As if she is your slave.

Louis055:
See as all of una dey provoke..
This is d whole story.... They started dating some yrs back and everything was going fine(bleeping, calls, visits, obvious love etc) then all of a sudden, she left calling to be only d guy's duty. If d guy don't call, they wount talk on phone. though she demand for money some times which d guy gives her, And one day she. Says No more Bleeping that she is now a different person. Now the guy has to make a lot of calls and fix several dates b4 she will agree to visit. It is now the guy that is now active in the relationship.
I used the word "GAIN" not because relationship is a business but because it is mutual. It has to favor both parties.
Now what do you guys think of this

mencade4:
hehehehe....na calabar u dey? E be like say na fvvvvck up carnival those people dey display there oooo

Sharksblow:

good point, but in the good old days, you stand a lot to gain because girls were brought up well to do many things for a guy. so, it was easy dating them and gaining a lot: from cooking good food (not maggi and all those diabetes-causing, cancer-causing gibberish called food o), washing clothes etc.

Now, before the ladies start abusing me and asking if they are slaves, men in those days cater for the needs and the women to help their men.

In this era of whatsapp, Facebook, Skype, bbm, Et al, I can boldly say that the standard has fallen. Our African women became ladies (according to Fela Kuti ). They don't know how to cook, wash, embrace men's family members and friends respectfully. They insult a lot, hiss a lot, always online(instead of learning from mummies how they persevered and made their marriages work, and learn how to do chores), abuse their parents. They are few exceptions though. What then will I be doing with such a lady except to knack her kpekus?

badoolee:
Like seriously what's d importance of sex in a relationship?

kilokeys:

what are d gains in d love u r talking about.. we want a comprehensive logical list please