Am asking becos der was a case wia d man's di-ck was too big for d lady and as such cdnt continue having sex with his wife(I dont know how day resolved sha). And der also was a case wia d lady in question had very little interest in sex and thus she rily did put her husband who had a high libido 2ru perpetual sexual frustration.

Since d church preaches 'No sex before marriage', my question is, if two christians WILLINGLY REFUSE to have sex with each oda, how can day determine if day are sexually compatible with each other or can be over time? And also get to find dat out in d christian way without actually having sex?

Watching live 4rm obj hill-top... Waiting 4 odas to comment

*buys bole frrom Mama Taiwo and sits at the corner to see how this discussion unfolds*

You need to ask questions and demand honesty from your partner.

Good question

MzNelly:
You need to ask questions and demand honesty from your partner.

Exactly.

In courtship or dating no topic should be a taboo. An open and free mind to discuss things without seeing the other person to be unserious or unbornagain.

MzNelly:
You need to ask questions and demand honesty from your partner.

I totally agree. During courtship, they can talk about sexual compatibility. They don't have to do it to know if they are compatible. During the communication, the lady will discover that her fiance is huge or vice versa n d man will realise his fiancee has low libido or vice versa etc. Then as long as there's true love, they both can work things out. Intending couples should be bold n inquisitive about these things. No be sin.

ever heard of the word communication?...instead of testing the mic and getting urselves in a mess, sit down and talk about S.E. X, yea u heard ryt

MzNelly:
You need to ask questions and demand honesty from your partner.

which honest question?,the taste of the pudding is in the eaten

MzNelly:
You need to ask questions and demand honesty from your partner.

which honest question?,the taste of the pudding is in the eating

missdebs:
ever heard of the word communication?...instead of testing the mic and getting urselves in a mess, sit down and talk about S.E. X, yea u heard ryt

Wot if one party is not being totally open or is not too comfortable with talking abt se.x. U know der are ppl(especially ladies) dat are not comfortable with talking abt se.x?

Communication.

Lol. These Christians sef.

So during the communication, the man will tell the woman that his d.ick is huge and the woman will tell the man that her womanliness is small. And that is how they will determine that they are sexually incompatible?

O dikwa egwu oo.

nobilis:
Lol. These Christians sef.

So during the communication, the man will tell the woman that his d.ick is huge and the woman will tell the man that her womanliness is small. And that is how they will determine that they are sexually incompatible?

O dikwa egwu oo.

nobilis:
Lol. These Christians sef.

So during the communication, the man will tell the woman that his d.ick is huge and the woman will tell the man that her womanliness is small. And that is how they will determine that they are sexually incompatible?

O dikwa egwu oo.

Biko help me as them o

Bf: praise the lord
Gf: hallelujah, the lord told me we'd have fun @ the cinemas today tho
Bf: that's wonderful

.............

Bf: so let's talk about sexual compatibility
Gf: blood of Jesus! Please dear, stop all these dirty talk. We're born again & we shouldn't be talking about immoral things like this.
Bf: but I have to let you know I have a big manliness
Gf: my God, I bind the devil! Listen, don't ever call me or come close to me with that your sin infested mind. Its over! I have to see the pastor, mtchewww.

Abeg abeg abeg, communication ko, communication ni

Following

sirman:



Biko help me as them o

Bf: praise the lord
Gf: hallelujah, the lord told me we'd have fun @ the cinemas today tho
Bf: that's wonderful

.............

Bf: so let's talk about sexual compatibility
Gf: blood of Jesus! Please dear, stop all these dirty talk. We're born again & we shouldn't be talking about immoral things like this.
Bf: but I have to let you know I have a big manliness
Gf: my God, I bind the devil! Listen, don't ever call me or come close to me with that your sin infested mind. Its over! I have to see the pastor, mtchewww.

Abeg abeg abeg, communication ko, communication ni

Bros u funny die. Dis is naivety at its best on d girl's part na.

obongproff:


Bros u funny die. Dis is naivety at its best on d girl's part na.

I knw na because na d girls dey always form holy pass

op have you given your life to Jesus.

Jackeeh:


I totally agree. During courtship, they can talk about sexual compatibility. They don't have to do it to know if they are compatible. During the communication, the lady will discover that her fiance is huge or vice versa n d man will realise his fiancee has low libido or vice versa etc. Then as long as there's true love, they both can work things out. Intending couples should be bold n inquisitive about these things. No be sin.

Inexperience talking.

AlfaSeltzer:


Inexperience talking.

Being that ure insignificant, Ure also totally ignored.

I think you can only determine sexual compatibility if you know what it feels like to have sex. Without that knowledge, there will be nothing for you to base your judgments on in the discussion. For example, can someone who's never had sex before claim to have a high sex drive? Or if you're a lady with an unusually dry vagina, how else will you find out other than by attempting sex? What about how you like it done; it varies among people and you'll just have to discover yours. By the time you do however, you're already married.

Merely discussing sexual incompatibility without the background knowledge will leave you scratching the surface.

I think if you approach sex as a duty though, you can manage any incompatibilities between your spouse and you.

Jackeeh:



Being that ure insignificant, Ure also totally ignored.

What else can an ignoramus do except ignore?

finofaya:


I think if you approach sex as a duty though, you can manage any incompatibilities between your spouse and you.

Sorry. Did u say "duty"? As in like house chores kind of duty? Is dat wot works for you or for d ppl u know?

obongproff:


Sorry. Did u say "duty"? As in like house chores kind of duty? Is dat wot works for you or for d ppl u know?

Lol. Sounds terrible I guess.

I hear our parents and their parents and parents parents etc did it like that. Shey they say people were more conservative in those days or something. They only did it to procreate. This philosophy of sex for procreation is the basis of the no sex before marriage rule. I'm merely pointing out that sexual compatibility becomes an issue when you forget that sex is for procreation, not recreation.

Seeing it as a duty doesn't work for me.

finofaya:


Lol. Sounds terrible I guess.

I hear our parents and their parents and parents parents etc did it like that. Shey they say people were more conservative in those days or something. They only did it to procreate. This philosophy of sex for procreation is the basis of the no sex before marriage rule. I'm merely pointing out that sexual compatibility becomes an issue when you forget that sex is for procreation, not recreation.

Seeing it as a duty doesn't work for me.

Hmm! I don fear oh. The tot of seeing sex like washing dishes is so so...:/

missdebs:
ever heard of the word communication?...instead of testing the mic and getting urselves in a mess, sit down and talk about S.E. X, yea u heard ryt

Nice one!

I think it is an important question. While I will not encourage premarital sex, I don't think it is out of this world for the two of them to talk about it. And I don't think the challenge of big manliness or low sex drive should make them stop the relationship, they are issues that can be handled. However, I know some churches that will discourage such level of discussions during courtship.