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Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by frankmoney(m): 5:31pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
HUSBAND SCARCITY...a must read This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many women today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to insinuate? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You would be hearing girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of ladies give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 ladies want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for man to really actualize the purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family that will serve God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am insinuating is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look metaphysical (beyond physical). WHAT MAKES A MAN IS WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need. 34 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Ermm..... @op, dat na ur own u dey yan so, as I dey here so, I dnt wnt 2 hear too much preach/sermon, go get d paperz, in any which way u can, buh dnt share human blood. Enough of all dis bla bla bla sermons. |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by fijiano202(m): 5:44pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
the POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM got me laughing alot....ur right though.....we men cant do it all we need a supportive partner(not in term of cash ooo) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by aristocrazzy: 5:47pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Hmmm! It means husband material are more scarce than wife material. So girls no dey form anyhow. |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Naommydammy(f): 5:48pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Nice one 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 5:48pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Nsogbu dikwa ! |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by frankmoney(m): 5:49pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
but that's the truth tho |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Blebleswag:The name Blebleswag got me laughing. Its enough to show how ignorant you are. I'm sure your real name is Blessing. Go upgrade your IQ. 32 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Chizzy20(f): 5:53pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nyc post, jst dat only few ladies re willin to help a guy build his future. 6 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 5:59pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
ifynairaland:WHATEVER. Go get d paperz, dats wat matters.......nonsense |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by frankmoney(m): 6:01pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
broke girls be like Blebleswag: 35 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 6:02pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Tell them ooo the issue is that all the girls are materialistic in nature, how you wan do am now ? |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by akinsadeez(m): 6:07pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
ifynairaland: Chisos! See finishing. But why nah ![]() 16 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by fijiano202(m): 6:10pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Blebleswag:i pity u...keep living like that because u think that guy will marry u 11 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 6:15pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
frankmoney:Lol |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 6:21pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
akinsadeez:Na who he help? |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 6:21pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
akinsadeez:who he help? |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 6:24pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
fijiano202:? |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by wenson(m): 6:27pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
nice 1 coming from a lady ah luv dis |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by akinsadeez(m): 7:06pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Welrez(m): 7:18pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
This is why I like my sister. She is so immune to all these petty talks of husband scarcity, abi na husband price or demand. She is so focused on making her money. Back to topic: OP, the reason why this social concept is becoming more pronounced is partly due to monogamy. Our ancestors operated on polygamic times and never encountered it. There was no rampant prostitution too. It is a bitter truth that we have to admit. 8 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 7:33pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Nice one u really bring a point o |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 7:35pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Blebleswag:Does it matter if he 'shares' human blood? 4 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Montaque(m): 7:38pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
I was shocked the day my colleague told me that she will prefer to marry a man that will be rich for 10years into the marriage even if they become poor after than to marry a starter whose future is undetermined. I had a rethink since then. Some girls are materialistic. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by fr3do(m): 7:52pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
With the economic situation and poor distribution of wealth in the country, they are fewer well doing men, and there is serious moral decadence, men now do not respect women as before. This worries me, I have two unmarried ripe sisters ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Zeezy99: 7:55pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
What's this husband scarcity thing? I've been seeing this articles for months now? Designed to make girls feel as if they are going to die single if they don't hold on to the next broke and unambitious guy that comes their way? 5 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 8:35pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
akinsadeez:Hahaha..... Alcohol ke? I didn't. |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 8:37pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
donpeey22:Whichever way |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Nobody: 8:44pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Blebleswag:Better now. Initially you made it seem like you care if a guy shades human blood to make money or not , even after making it clear that he has to do whatever he has to do to make money. ![]() |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by akinsadeez(m): 9:01pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
Blebleswag: You didnt drink alcohol. ![]() But you drink Orijin abi......at least that one is not completely alcoholic. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Sunymoore(m): 9:07pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
fr3do:There pics... |
Re: Husband Scarcity (a Must Read) Written By A Lady by Sunymoore(m): 9:07pm On Jan 02, 2015 |
fr3do:Their pics... |
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