[quote author=BeautfulB post=29488350]I got married last month dec, 13 2014, now our itimacy has been getting sweeter n sweeter.
We play like friends and brother sister not sleeping like bro.n sist.[/quote)why u come draw mosquito for u back side as tatoo and ur husband willing gave his consent to marry u hmmm hope sooner or later u won't come back to complain that ur man is cheatin on u!

Ishilove:

I wish you the same Delish.

As for your share, e dey inside soakaway. You no ask on time

Hmnnnn, any which way sha, man nor die man nor rotten. Plenty more hollidays to celebrate.

sukkot:
bro this is a public forum. there is a button at the bottom of your phone. it is called the POWER BUTTON. try to use it

so nw u have said somtin reasonable right hmmm for the last time I need ma peace here!

redsun:
When it get to that point,there won't be any need for the relationship. It is dead end and the best thing to do is part ways and seek out a fresh life with more attractive partner. Life without sex is incomplete, it is almost as the same as abstening from foodt is part of the basics of human functionality and when it is not there,something is amiss.

what if you have kids ? life is bigger than -s-e-x. sometimes you have to accept your lot in life and work with it. in the infamous words of a great world renowned psychologist ' IF YOU CANT GET THE ONE YOU LOVE, LOVE THE ONE YOU ARE WITH '. his name is luther vandross luther vandross

kilokeys:
i actually saw ds crappy post on fp and wanted to derail it for good.. besides pple r still clicking the like button..

The post isn't crap. Trust me if it were, you wouldn't come back here even if you see it on instagram not to talk of dropping another comment.
Some people are genuinely passing through this phase of life.

In other news, OP biko what has happened to the remaining 12 days in a year? I painstakingly read through all your comments and you proclaimed there are 352 days in a year twice

Op, since there's no bloodline btw d couple, that fraternal, brotherly or sisterly feeling shouldn't manifest. What a long term relationship does is to sizzle out d heady uncontrollable passions n longings in d affair and leave them with a matured kinda love that promotes a rational, enduring and engaging union, trust and understanding that usually transcend s.ex.ual indulgences. This doesn't diminish d desire/longing for each other, rather it enriches d exercise....d gratification is in d intimacy rather than d penetration.
My humble submission

@ op you do realize this applies to the woman too right? But everyone expects her to be satisfied with rice for the rest of her life though. It's the reason some women win the award for the most unfaithful wives. It is well...the problem you are having is one your wife will also have oo..

sukkot:
[b]not exactly true. there is a general saying amongst men in the west. WHEN THE MARRIAGE PAPER IS SIGNED, S-E-X STOPS. lmao. let me tell you something, its only a mad man who will be satisfied with eating rice for the rest of his life. any sane person will go crazy eating rice everyday, no matter how sweet the stew is. so then the onus is on you to create an environment to where you can try to enjoy rice for the rest of your life. one of those environments is separate rooms. i dont care how much in love someone think they are. you are going to get to a point where you are sick and tired of sleeping with AND COPULATING with the same person. and this is where men who are tactful and sophisticated come in. you try to create an environment that enables and not disable your -s-e-x life. there is no such thing as ' if you dont like sleeping with each other again then there is a problem' . there is no problem in that. it is a natural progression. there are many couples who are together and love each other but are in s-e-xless relationships after many years of being together. but you have to make it work. separate rooms is a start. [/b]

coolviv:
@ op you do realize this applies to the woman too right? But everyone expects her to be satisfied with rice for the red of her life though. It's the reason some women win the award for the most unfaithful wives. It is well...the problem,you are having is one your wife will also have oo..

oh yes it applies to both sexes. this is not gender specific bro.

KingBish:


The post isn't crap. Trust me if it were, you wouldn't come back here even if you see it on instagram not to talk of dropping another comment.
Some people are genuinely passing through this phase of life.

In other news, OP biko what has happened to the remaining 12 days in a year? I painstakingly read through all your comments and you proclaimed there are 352 days in a year twice

Dnt mind dat small boy dat feels dat once he has access to internet he can use the opportunity to type rubbish,I am unable to make a meaning from all the crap he wrote up there.

claremont:
I think the concept of separate rooms is a good one especially if either party snores, there is nothing as bad as trying to sleep next to someone who sounds like a locomotive engine. This system would only work based on the temperament of the individuals, there are some people who do not enjoy their own company. Different strokes for different folks.

You are so correct. Someone like me loves my alone time and I wouldn't want to have you all up in my face all the time. That doesn't mean I don't love you, but like sukkot pointed out, we are first individuals before we are couples. When a couple lose their individuality in marriage, a time comes when one or the both of them begin to feel stifled, bored, restless etc.

KingBish:


The post isn't crap. Trust me if it were, you wouldn't come back here even if you see it on instagram not to talk of dropping another comment.
Some people are genuinely passing through this phase of life.

In other news, OP biko what has happened to the remaining 12 days in a year? I painstakingly read through all your comments and you proclaimed there are 352 days in a year twice

ha ha ha

KingBish:


The post isn't crap. Trust me if it were, you wouldn't come back here even if you see it on instagram not to talk of dropping another comment.
Some people are genuinely passing through this phase of life.

In other news, OP biko what has happened to the remaining 12 days in a year? I painstakingly read through all your comments and you proclaimed there are 352 days in a year twice

i get u.. hmm. op get issues o. something my stll be wrong upstairs

Joavid:


It's your opinion and you are giving this advice based on the kind of person you are and what will work for you.
People are different, marriages are different.
You and your spouse have to talk about these things and come up with a solution.

Personally, I get your point and i like the idea cos I love my space and no matter how much close, I like to withdraw to privacy for a while or I will just feel shocked up and irritated by the over-familiarity.

For those saying you are sick, I jus dey shake my head.- the spirit of "bandwagonism" will never allow them to reason & make independent decisions.

Yeah, I understand the OP. I just believe that if he and his madam dont work hard at keeping the romance level up, this arrangement will weaken their union. Not that its impossible o. It depends on their $exual vibe and how the woman sees sharing same room with her man or no. If they both agree, who are we to say other wise? I guess, he has to make it clear from day 1 to his woman that should they get married, he wont share a room with her and the only time they will share a bed is when they are having sex. After sex, its thanks ma/sir to your tent o Isreal. If she agrees, what is our own? All man with his taste.

Anytime any day, my wife is always my wife. Always sexy to have sex with. So sweet after 7 years!

sukkot:
lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

a girl once told me, that she wants to pee* hehehe i got turn off immediately...smh

sukkot:
what if you have kids ? life is bigger than -s-e-x. sometimes you have to accept your lot in life and work with it. in the infamous words of a great world renowned psychologist ' IF YOU CANT GET THE ONE YOU LOVE, LOVE THE ONE YOU ARE WITH '. his name is luther vandross luther vandross

One should be able to joggle everything along,manageable kids,cutting your coat according to your size,active life style,money making,sex,sports,clubbing,partying and whatever that keeps you going till you can't go anymore.

Life does not for any moment stop for a living person.

sukkot:
lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

Leaving used sanitary towels where other eyes asides yours is the exception, rather than the norm. I don't know the kind of women you've been rolling with, OBD, but what we were taught in Intergrated Science in Jss 3 was dispose the darn thing immediately.

@op u must be high its just like u saying me eating meat is like eating ma flesh....wetin concern agbero with tweeter handle.

Ishilove:

Leaving used sanitary towels where other eyes asides yours is the exception, rather than the norm. I don't know the kind of women you've been rolling with, OBD, but what we were taught in Intergrated Science in Jss 3 was dispose the darn thing immediately.

i dont quite think they did it intentionally. it was mistakenly. but these mistakes tend to be regular if you use the same toilet and toilet dustbin

redsun:


One should be able to joggle everything along,manageable kids,cutting your coat according to your size,active life style,money making,sex,sports,clubbing,partying and whatever that keeps you going till you can't go anymore.

Life does not for any moment stop for a living person.

very true and yet in life we dont always get all that we seek. you just gotta work with the cards you are dealt. what if a spouse becomes sick and cant have s-e-x what do you do ? move on ?

sukkot:
i dont quite think they did it intentionally. it was mistakenly. but these mistakes tend to be regular if you use the same toilet and toilet dustbin

Oh...

pressplay55:

a girl once told me, that she wants to pee* hehehe i got turn off immediately...smh

nah pee is light stuff for me.

Ishilove:

Oh...

as in ehn

@Sukkot

not exactly true. there is a general saying amongst men in the west. WHEN THE MARRIAGE PAPER IS SIGNED, S-E-X STOPS. lmao. let me tell you something, its only a mad man who will be satisfied with eating rice for the rest of his life. any sane person will go crazy eating rice everyday, no matter how sweet the stew is.

You are funny, I do not totally agree with you though. Look I got into a discussion with a doctor while travelling from Naija to my base, it was about food consumption and diet consciousness in Nigeria. He was like, we tend to eat a lot of fatty food, at the same time, he was quick to say that in a situation where people eat for survival, then you are limited in your choices. There are loads of sane people who eat rice for too long without necessarily going crazy or allow themselves to go crazy. Going crazy in this context, I will take as a matter of perception

so then the onus is on you to create an environment to where you can try to enjoy rice for the rest of your life. one of those environments is separate rooms. i dont care how much in love someone think they are. you are going to get to a point where you are sick and tired of sleeping with AND COPULATING with the same person. and this is where men who are tactful and sophisticated come in. you try to create an environment that enables and not disable your -s-e-x life. there is no such thing as ' if you dont like sleeping with each other again then there is a problem' . there is no problem in that. it is a natural progression. there are many couples who are together and love each other but are in s-e-xless relationships after many years of being together. but you have to make it work. separate rooms is a start.

The natural progression part I agree with.

I live in Amsterdam, it is suppose to be a very liberal environment where the issue of sexuality is concerned. i.e. I have witnessed a situation where a couple with the consent of both parties solicit the services of prostitute because the situation being discussed here had developed with them.

Another example, a man arranges for another guy to come scratch his wife’s back in his presence, cos he was not in a position to do same any longer while they were both still madly in love and the wife needed to have her urge satisfied. This is a totally different level of engagement. I am not sure Naija couples will go to that level


Further, I am not sure about your idea of separate rooms though. That might widen the already developed intimacy gap.


Oeps.. I already typed the above and then saw your below comment.. Now I know where you are coming from. lol.

lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

sukkot:
as in ehn

kilokeys:


dude.. u r sick..
chai. i just had rice turkey and coke o.. why u wan spoil my belle na..

ur mind is messed up guy

u re misunderstanding d dude.wot d op means is dat it gets to a stage in ur marriage life where u c ur wife as a sister.u dnt hv a sexual craving for her again,overfamiliarity.and dats true.

cyberguy72:
u re misunderstanding d dude.wot d op means is dat it gets to a stage in ur marriage life where u c ur wife as a sister.u dnt hv a sexual craving for her again,overfamiliarity.and dats true.

guy.. never use a sib to compare.. it isnt d same..
u might just say reduced libido.. it cannot be same as saying sister.. haba

Na wa ooo

delishpot:
Nope. Wife is wife, sister is sister. Besides, what kind of marriage is that when husband and wife start seeing themselves as brother and sister? That marriage must be borring mana! No dirty talks? no flashing? No ass spanking? No nada? Shuo, I guess that marriage was never romantic from the start. So lets not blame time here.
On the other hand, the man may be looking for excuse to start cheating.

After reading this write-up, I conclude that you need Change in your life. You spoke from experience ...

kilokeys:


dude.. u r sick..
chai. i just had rice turkey and coke o.. why u wan spoil my belle na..

ur mind is messed up guy

Very messed up! People like the OP are prone to committing incest. In other words, the op is trying to compare sex with spouse to sex with brother/sister. Since there's nothing wrong with the former, there should be nothing wrong with the latter. =INCEST!

Xerum:

@Sukkot



You are funny, I do not totally agree with you though. Look I got into a discussion with a doctor while travelling from Naija to my base, it was about food consumption and diet consciousness in Nigeria. He was like, we tend to eat a lot of fatty food, at the same time, he was quick to say that in a situation where people eat for survival, then you are limited in your choices. There are loads of sane people who eat rice for too long without necessarily going crazy or allow themselves to go crazy. Going crazy in this context, I will take as a matter of perception



The natural progression part I agree with.

I live in Amsterdam, it is suppose to be a very liberal environment where the issue of sexuality is concerned. i.e. I have witnessed a situation where a couple with the consent of both parties solicit the services of prostitute because the situation being discussed here had developed with them.

Another example, a man arranges for another guy to come scratch his wife’s back in his presence, cos he was not in a position to do same any longer while they were both still madly in love and the wife needed to have her urge satisfied. This is a totally different level of engagement. I am not sure Naija couples will go to that level


Further, I am not sure about your idea of separate rooms though. That might widen the already developed intimacy gap.


Oeps.. I already typed the above and then saw your below comment.. Now I know where you are coming from. lol.

hey you know westerners have a more liberal approach to spicing up their relationships that would not fly in africa. lol i think its called cuckold. or something along those lines. they have swingers party where couple swap partners etc etc. see they wouldnt have to resort to all that if they had provided each other space from the beginning. when you resort to that is because your relationship has been demystified. you have seen everything about the person. you no longer get excited. now you need to bring in a third party. see thats the trick. keep the mystery in your relationship. keep a level of sophistication in your relationship that you are not willing to compromise. dont walk around with wrapper all day farting all over your house like some cave man and expect your wife to feel romantic around you or about you etc etc.

sukkot:
very true and yet in life we dont always get all that we seek. you just gotta work with the cards you are dealt. what if a spouse becomes sick and cant have s-e-x what do you do ? move on ?

That is what mean by getting to point you go any more. And the one that can carry on will have to adapt. Making provision for care for the fallen loved one and at the same time carrying on with his/her life.