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Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by unveil(f): 10:01am On Jan 08, 2015 |
There is something I have noticed amongst my fellow Nigerian females and it is not good. There appears to be a 'sleeping beast' within the hearts of many women of my country . Do you know why this is? What has created this trait? Who has the answer? I'll like to know why so many women between the ages of 25 - 70 are so evil? When I write evil i mean thoroughly unempathetic, vile and just plain wicked. Why do we set out to employ kids as nannies and domestic staff? Why women? Why Why Why? Why do you do this? Even if everyone is doing it, it still does not make it right! Why is our conscience all but dead? Why do you employ these kids (ages 7 - 17) , and turn them into slaves? Beat them to stupor, relay them to the boot of your SUV on the journey from church to home, allow our kids perpetually belittle them, screeeeeaaaaaam all the time, damn iv seen too much. I am almost in tears. I asked a wise man once, and he said ''many women grew up under tension, violence, poverty and hate and the ripple effect is what we see today". Is this true? But the essence of being higher animals is to be able to grow past our past, take learnings and be more useful members of society. The God we worship detests this type of evil the most. Perhaps this is the reason why Nigeria is amongst the few countries sitting on the so called Infertility belt of Africa. Link to infertility belt: http://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2014/01/10/nigeria-is-sitting-on-the-infertility-belt-of-africa/ More on people's experiences with Nigerian women exhibiting their brutally abusive instinct: https://www.nairaland.com/234543/why-most-women-maltreat-househelps 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Prometh(m): 10:08am On Jan 08, 2015 |
Aint you part of the women folks that indulge in these inhumane practises you listed above? |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by mkpakanaodogwu(m): 10:09am On Jan 08, 2015 |
I hate it and cant tolerate abuse,it will cause a serious problem if my spouse tries it,if u cant treat them as your own leave them with their parent |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 10:14am On Jan 08, 2015 |
Hmmm Why Oh Why? Na poverty dey cause am. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Tallesty1(m): 10:24am On Jan 08, 2015 |
mkpakanaodogwu:It is very sad walahi. Some even treat their own blood sisters as if they are outsiders. Most women are guilty of that. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 10:28am On Jan 08, 2015 |
unveil: Of course he is absolutely correct. Habits and values from parents are always recycled by the children. Products of dysfunctional/abusive homes may turn out abusive. Homes where slavery is glorified will have children who will follow suit. Our african society is somewhat oppressive upon people who are less privileged/ less fortunate. Money is worshipped and those who dnt have it are treated like second class citizens. Its our values that are wrong even though we try to cover it up with religion as hypocrites. The use of underage children as slaves is supposed to be a criminal offence. And women are the main culprits in this crime but these women will be the same people crying foul when the same level of abuse is meted on them by their boyfriends/husbands. To make matters worse, So called men of God a.k.a false prophets are adding fuel to the abuse by coming up with prophecies of children being possessed either wanting to take a home or kill all the children in the family or snatch a woman's huaband, e.t.c e.t.c. As long we have an oppressive society and religion continues to fuel this abuse, things will remain the same. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Prometh(m): 10:37am On Jan 08, 2015 |
selfoss:oh well, you are so wrong |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 10:53am On Jan 08, 2015 |
Prometh: Explain sir.. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by cococandy(f): 3:33pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
unveil: That's your answer. we are aggressive and angry and always mean to those under us as a people. You see it everywhere. Husbands on wives Wives on housemaids Housemaids on madams kids Even kids are not slacking in displaying violent attitudes. Go to secondary schools and see how they treat their juniors. Smh 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by KanwuliaJara: 3:37pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
You sef go soon reaaash dia. . . . Have 'patient' sista! I asked a wise man once, and he said ''many women grew up under tension, violence, poverty and hate and the ripple effect is what we see today". [size=20pt]Is this true?[/size] But the essence of being higher animals is to be able to grow past our past, take learnings and be more useful members of society. Hmmmmm. . . . . See 'kweshun' o! *too early in a brand-new, peaceful year to ATTEMPT to educate ignorance*>>>>>>>>exits from this end>>>>>>>>>> |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by tbaba1234: 3:44pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
Unfortunately, this is true. Many women treat children that are not theirs poorly. I really do not understand it. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
Something is insanely wrong with gender relations in this country. I know that some other nationalities are very proud of their women and claim they have the best women in the world. I wonder what it is that makes Nigerian men hate their own women so much. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by lilmax(m): 4:47pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:what are you saying? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by iykedare(m): 10:33pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
Question for nairaland women. @carefreewannabe This isn't gender bashing in any form. It is the truth. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 11:01pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
iykedare: It sort of is. The OP could have asked why many Nigerians are brutally abusive and violent, instead of focusing on one gender. What is the role of the husbands? Why do they allow their wives to employ kids and watch them abusing them and in worse cases rape them themselves? Should we not approach a problem on the different levels it manifests itself at? Solution-oriented. Will we be able to tackle the problem without addressing the by-standers and more importantly ALL active abusers? What is OP's concern? Is it with the abused, is he speaking from experience, does he want to raise more awareness or simply blame women one-sidedly? If his concern is with the abused, then it is NECESSARY that he points at ALL abusers, male or female, even those who just watch such wicked acts of cruelty without doing anything against it. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Richy4(m): 11:45pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
The root of this evil is poverty. if there is a government that look after it's citizens eg. there is this country that i know and lived in,their unemployed citizens are paid every fortnight. enough for them to have a roof over their head. parent who find themselves unemployed would need not give their kids out to slavery. workers are taxed heavily just to provide this necessities. I will not talk about family planning here because Nature/ God blessed Nigeria with things to help themselves survive. but it is in the hands of few due to bad mgt. if we have government that doesn't think of their own immediate family but the well been of the citizens, then you will never open this thread again. we have been praying for change in Nigeria but it will not happen if we keep recycling the same people/ group of people to lead. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by iykedare(m): 11:55pm On Jan 08, 2015 |
@carefreewannabe Lol. You have a problem with the Op because he put the blame solely on the women. Right? The context of this discussion is on women who treat their housemaids badly and not on "abuses meted out to housemaids". The later is another topic for discussion some other day. You just want both gender to take some blame. You need to see how some women treat these underaged housemaid as slaves. Then you will understand Why the Op is not happy with her fellow women. |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Nobody: 12:20am On Jan 09, 2015 |
iykedare: I have a problem with the title of this thread. Why are MOST Nigerian Women brutally abusive? |
Re: Why Are Most Nigerian Women Brutally Abusive? What's Causing This? by Gamesmart: 3:37am On Jan 09, 2015 |
Most of them have very bad personalities generally. |
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