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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 3:37pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
Over the years I have heard this a lot and I have tried to understand the situation. The truth is, no lady likes a stereotype guy.


It is so common to find guys getting the monosyllabic response over instant messages because they always say the wrong things.
Before you attack to bite let me finish.


It is no longer news that we meet more people online today than we meet in person. A Lot of guys call it "forming" for others it's just "annoying attitude by ladies" but I say, know what to say and you can get the best out of a conversation.





How would you expect a lady you are chatting with to take you serious when the 1st time u chat her up all you can say is:



1. Who is dis That's a no no......
I know you'll say a lot of ladies do that but it's a no no for a guy for Christ sake she isn't going to wanna listen to you. If she's not giving out her name, don't take it the hard way. Some ladies prefer to be anonymous till they feel comfortable so just give it time.

2. Don't start up a conversation by asking " what do you do".
For heaven's sake, you wanna make friends not a business partner.

3. You only just met her online and you are already asking what are parents do for a living undecided haba now......

4. If you want her to totally loose interest please ask what her best food is or her hubby.... menh that's so 19th century.


5. If you are interested in her beyond friendship please never ask " what kindda guys she likes"
That's a signal for "complex"




There are lots of reasons ladies pay little or no attention to a guy the first time they chat but for the sake of a healthy conversation it's better to go with the flow. The first conversation should not always be an interview trust me lots of ladies hate that.





Best form of conversation:
Boy: hey what's up?
Girl: who are you?

Boy: got your number/ pin from......
Girl: k.... what do you want?


Boy: just wanna be friends if you don't mind..
Girl: K

Boy: my name is...... how are you doing and how is your day turning out? hope you are not busy and can chat...



No girl will ever turn down such polite approach as against the typical.....

Boy: hi
Girl: hi
Boy: can I meet you?
What do you do for a living?
Where are you based?......








i left you an email ma'm
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by apparentlylaw(m): 3:40pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

oga shey na scope wey u use hold ur recent model babe b dat?

remember,dieriz God o tongue
Kristien U be werey
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 3:47pm On Jan 08, 2015
apparentlylaw:
Kristien U be werey
you wish tongue
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Mrwhalex(m): 3:49pm On Jan 08, 2015
I can see players everywhere smiley
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 4:06pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
Over the years I have heard this a lot and I have tried to understand the situation. The truth is, no lady likes a stereotype guy.


It is so common to find guys getting the monosyllabic response over instant messages because they always say the wrong things.
Before you attack to bite let me finish.


It is no longer news that we meet more people online today than we meet in person. A Lot of guys call it "forming" for others it's just "annoying attitude by ladies" but I say, know what to say and you can get the best out of a conversation.





How would you expect a lady you are chatting with to take you serious when the 1st time u chat her up all you can say is:



1. Who is dis That's a no no......
I know you'll say a lot of ladies do that but it's a no no for a guy for Christ sake she isn't going to wanna listen to you. If she's not giving out her name, don't take it the hard way. Some ladies prefer to be anonymous till they feel comfortable so just give it time.

2. Don't start up a conversation by asking " what do you do".
For heaven's sake, you wanna make friends not a business partner.

3. You only just met her online and you are already asking what are parents do for a living undecided haba now......

4. If you want her to totally loose interest please ask what her best food is or her hubby.... menh that's so 19th century.


5. If you are interested in her beyond friendship please never ask " what kindda guys she likes"
That's a signal for "complex"




There are lots of reasons ladies pay little or no attention to a guy the first time they chat but for the sake of a healthy conversation it's better to go with the flow. The first conversation should not always be an interview trust me lots of ladies hate that.





Best form of conversation:
Boy: hey what's up?
Girl: who are you?

Boy: got your number/ pin from......
Girl: k.... what do you want?


Boy: just wanna be friends if you don't mind..
Girl: K

Boy: my name is...... how are you doing and how is your day turning out? hope you are not busy and can chat...



No girl will ever turn down such polite approach as against the typical.....

Boy: hi
Girl: hi
Boy: can I meet you?
What do you do for a living?
Where are you based?......










who chats like dis

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 4:07pm On Jan 08, 2015
@OP u're very wrong. Some girls aren't just good at holding a good conversation. Most of them show more interests in guys who show interesting DP's of holidays abroad or club scenes.
Who doesn't like to have some fun? So then they pay more attention and respond to your chats better.

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 4:32pm On Jan 08, 2015
nyc1 opkiss

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Maamin(m): 4:44pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
how can u prove that Did u have to chat with all the girls in naija?

Almost all are like that.. angry
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Mzflexydeeva(f): 4:46pm On Jan 08, 2015
clevvermind:
the fact is that many ladies are just too lazy to use their brain. those k type ladies disgust me. they always kill conversation.

i know some few guys also frustrate conversation sha .
I don't c anything wrong with K ooooo....... some little tins u learn to ignore
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by frankzone: 4:50pm On Jan 08, 2015
vizkiz:


will it kill you to type correctly? Its kindda childish and annoying undecided
You can say that again bro!

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by frankzone: 4:56pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
I don't c anything wrong with K ooooo....... some little tins u learn to ignore
Everything is wrong with it my dear, trust me. Some guys may not speak up, (me inclusive) when faced with that annoying trend, but itz really really annoying. To the real guys tho, when class is your parameter
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 4:58pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
nyc1 opkiss
how are you mirexxx?
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by theimmortals(m): 5:03pm On Jan 08, 2015
Simple, just ask her can you send me you account details let me payin some money.....

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 5:18pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

how are you mirexxx?
am fyn u?
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by LewisO: 5:21pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mrwhalex:
I can see players everywhere smiley
How many players squad? grin

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by LewisO: 5:24pm On Jan 08, 2015
Mzflexydeeva:
I don't c anything wrong with K ooooo....... some little tins u learn to ignore
Hello! hw u doing?
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 5:31pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
am fyn u?
am just looking kin-kin.

i saw your comment where you said you are an accountancy student cool
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:08pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

am just looking kin-kin.

i saw your comment where you said you are an accountancy student cool
yeatongue are u one?kiss
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 6:12pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
yeatongue are u one?kiss
yeah!...ur skul? cool
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:32pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

yeah!...ur skul? cool
u wanna come over?tongue
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:36pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

yeah!...ur skul? cool
tongue
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 6:38pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
u wanna come over?tongue
come over ke!

is quite distance from mine
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 6:39pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
fed.poly kebbi state u?
nnamdi azikwe university,awka cool
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:40pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

come over ke!

is quite distance from mine
cool
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:43pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

nnamdi azikwe university,awka cool
oh dats far o tho i'm from d east lipsrsealed
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by lilmax(m): 6:44pm On Jan 08, 2015
Op you try small
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 6:48pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
oh dats far o tho i'm from d east lipsrsealed
really?

oh! this is my sister
*runs to give her a hug*
we'll discuss about that lerra..don't let us derail this beautiful thread cool
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by mirexxx(f): 6:50pm On Jan 08, 2015
kristein:

really?

oh! this is my sister
*runs to give her a hug*
we'll discuss about that lerra..don't let us derail this beautiful thread cool
ok
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by kristein(m): 6:54pm On Jan 08, 2015
mirexxx:
ok new brokiss
aiii..*e-hugs* cool

inbtw,i left you a mail
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Chuks16(m): 7:04pm On Jan 08, 2015
vizkiz:


only bit*ches replies with "k" angry

that's a perfect turn off for any dude in his right senses

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Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by CertifiedFreak(m): 7:06pm On Jan 08, 2015
Talk about stereotype. Some ladies don't get too comfortable with guys who act over familiar
Re: Don't Expect A Girl To Take You Serious If Your First Chat Is Anything Like This by Nobody: 8:09pm On Jan 08, 2015
The type of d babe you talking abt aint girls wiv decency and no nice guy will want to move out wiv dose kind of babes

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