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Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by DerKaiser: 9:11am On Jan 11, 2015 |
They ain't even born that man yet, who would put his slimy hands on my sister, married or not, I would use his lips to scrub the concrete on the streets. That you are dating my sister, niece, cousin or any female member of my family does not give you the audacity to try that. He would stare death in it's face. Unless I am not aware. Cowardly thugs whose only strength lies in abusing women. That ain't mean you can't stand your ground as a man and treat your wife or girlfriend's fvck up if she gets out of line but you have no right to inflict bodily pain on another human, whoever he or she may be to you. @OP, abusers get worse overtime and oftentimes, climax to murder or permanent disability of there victims. Your useless love for him won't save you when the true beast in him takes over. 2 Likes |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Richy4(m): 9:11am On Jan 11, 2015 |
dinachi: Sir, no matter what she did, real men don't raise fingers on whom they claim they love or any other woman for that matter. If her mouth is running like a tap, there are ways to handle such women. Please do not justify what the guy did. It is not cool |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:13am On Jan 11, 2015 |
dovelike:so all those women sending nudr pix and those begging courts not to grant their husbands' divorces as they are most importantly sex starved do not know kongi? |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by ArabianPrince: 9:14am On Jan 11, 2015 |
Desperado....not uncommon with Nigerian women. Beats my imagination how women Co-habit with a man before marriage in the name of love. You can as well enroll in a boxing class....fit for purpose. Gullible fellow arranging marriage with a beast. Dey there. Please don't quote me. |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:15am On Jan 11, 2015 |
JAVANESE:na money they mean...even her mom is seeing d cash. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Curiouscat: 9:20am On Jan 11, 2015 |
dovelike: Have you forgotten guys now find their way around Konji? Or you need to be lectured about that? @op...me wouldnt know what to say ooh but obviously that beating won't stop after the wedding. So,you either choose to live with that til death do you guys apart(that's if you eventually got married) or you just take a walk away now when you can still do with no much embarrassment. Afterall, its your life and it doesn't matter what your friends think or will be thinking. https://www.nairaland.com/2086042/cheap-affordable-mtn-data-plan
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Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by chubbypearl(f): 9:32am On Jan 11, 2015 |
Richy4:Gbam!you just read my mind and she should not forget to include the upkeep of the children or child she will bring to this world.That means she has to write her will before she signs her marriage certificate.SMH...Things people do for love 3 Likes |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by gymnasium(m): 9:38am On Jan 11, 2015 |
which kind demon posessed husband to be is that o girl better run for dear life c0s expensive gift cant acquire you an expensive body you knw what i mean but for christ sake why the bleep are you living with a man that has not even come to knock at your fathers door let alone paid your bride price hmmmm gals una they try oooo .........service before payment |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by caesaraba(m): 9:44am On Jan 11, 2015 |
gidjah: It's just a preview of greater beatings to come if she makes the mistake of marrying that guy na. Something fundamental has changed on the guy's side, a sudden realization maybe (make I no go further sha). |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by marylandcakes: 9:53am On Jan 11, 2015 |
@op so sad to hear about your situation. The decision to stay or leave lies in your hands because at the end of the day it is your life. Before you make that important choice here are few things to consider:- - What is your self worth? If you think you are a door mat, then people will wipe their shit stained shoes on you. -The best part of a relationship is during the courtship this when both partners involved bring out their best sides. Once married then the not so good sides start to pop out of the box. If you are his punching bag during courtship, I hate to think what kind of married life lies ahead. - It is not very easy to get out of an abusive relationship, especially in Nigeria, also remember not all women come out alive, so if you want to leave in a bodybag it is your choice. - If you decide to go ahead and marry this person, once there are kids involved then it becomes more complicated. Think of the psychological damage to your future kids, seeing their mum being beaten up by their dad on a regular basis. - You should count yourself lucky that your future husband to be has shown his violent side before you get married, forget about how long you have been dating, forget about what people will think, forget about starting all over. I get the impression that you are a graduate. What ever choice you make now will decide what kind of future you will have. Don't be afraid to start all over you are still young and alive. Finally it is you and only you that has to live with it not all these other people including your mum that you are trying to impress or please. I wish you good luck in what ever you decide. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:54am On Jan 11, 2015 |
I don't know which is better, verbal or physical abuse but you just need to have a quiet time and ask yourself why he beats you often. He's not an animal who just wakes up and starts beating you.try and desist from doing what leads to the abuse and watch him change. Women get mouth so abeg curtail all you say for peace to reign. |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:55am On Jan 11, 2015 |
Leave the brute before he turns you into a corpse, let alone a punching bag. Btw, your mum putting his behaviour down to him being a 'man' is absurd. 2 Likes |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:56am On Jan 11, 2015 |
3cycle:Please also ignore this post and all those alike. Wish you the best. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 9:57am On Jan 11, 2015 |
Hazardd:guy you're elashadie58 Why you come dey use this acct troll nawa o |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by MarieSucre(f): 9:58am On Jan 11, 2015 |
You've been together for seven years and he did not for once exhibit any violence whatsoever. I would not be quick to take the high road here. Communication is key to resolving this. Talk about it with him. Learn to spot the signs of impending violence and learn what triggers them. Read his body language. A person does not change suddenly. There must have been gradual transformation that you were not aware of. Check yourself too. If it still persists... well there are approximately 3 billion men in the world... and you have approximately 1 life. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 10:02am On Jan 11, 2015 |
1bkaye: Are you ok? |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 10:02am On Jan 11, 2015 |
3cycle:Very much so thanks, you? |
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Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by sonssyo(f): 10:12am On Jan 11, 2015 |
frm al indication both of u ar nt xtians, 7yrz for wetin,abeg quit dat so called marriage else u end up in d grave.what a hell,dnt marry out of pity,what people will say 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 10:19am On Jan 11, 2015 |
How does love get to that stage when a man turns his lady to a punching bag and she stays on with him hoping he wiLl change? I'm on the side of "slap me, I quite" after giving a mark u will live to remember me by. Babe, forget about 7yrs with him and think of the rest of ur life as a puching bag and then choose one of them. No noe, not even ur mother can help u if u don't want to use ur head and help urself. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by NobleG1(m): 10:20am On Jan 11, 2015 |
dabrats: If he beats you continously, then why are you still with him?! He's an abuser! He's doing this to you now he's not yet your husband, don't you think it would be worst when you finally marry him? If you don't dump him now, then you deserve what he's doing to you. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by josite: 10:29am On Jan 11, 2015 |
what is your own |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 10:36am On Jan 11, 2015 |
NobleG1:preference to cry on a Mercedes. |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by KingAdeOluomo1(m): 10:38am On Jan 11, 2015 |
op DAT guy needs 2 delivered oooo cos its normal And on d oda side its might be intentional cos some of we guys can be stupid at times finkin after engagement n marriage we r free God bless Nigeria |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 10:41am On Jan 11, 2015 |
1bkaye: |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by delishpot: 10:49am On Jan 11, 2015 |
That is a thank you gift for staying with him through "thick and thin" last time I checked, boys said a woman that surffers with them is treated like a queen . Its sad 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Spidermon: 10:51am On Jan 11, 2015 |
gidjah: I have learnt not to have the slightest concern for women who enter or choose to stay in abusive relationships. If she wants to with Mr. Floyd Mayweather, goodluck to her. 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by ojsmscom(m): 10:52am On Jan 11, 2015 |
those of you beating our women as if they have no value,remember these women are your saviour whenever konji comes.pls and pls again leave them alone so that together with them you can defeat konji |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Kennywills7(m): 10:53am On Jan 11, 2015 |
Well something is definitely wrong wit e guy which i think its beyond his control dat explains y he cries wit u For me i think u guyz should pray about it cos one cannot just change just like dat |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Nobody: 10:56am On Jan 11, 2015 |
[quote author=dabrats post=29684253][/quote] in some relationship when one fall in love everyday the other fall out of love. Maybe that's ur relationship problem or the guy feel he have already got u, so no need to pretend for u again. He's already showing is true colour be dat ooo. U can still work out of the relationship ooo #that Jez ma 2 cent 4 u#pls is just frm my own point of view ooo 1 Like |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Kennywills7(m): 11:03am On Jan 11, 2015 |
MarieSucre:Thanks dear u nail it |
Re: 'he Asked Me To Marry Him, Now He Beats Me' (help) by Sleekyshuga(f): 11:07am On Jan 11, 2015 |
And you call that LOVE? A man who shoves you to the wall, runs you down the stairs, and turns your body into his punching bag? The word LOVE has gone to the bin.. "A man who hits a lady once will hit her again, and again".. He worships you with expensive gifts after hitting you? Hmmmmm... I thought your life was worth more than gifts? You mum says thats how men behaves ? A mum actually said this to her own daughter? Wow!!! Please, that's not how men behaves.. @ least, I have a dad .. Only BEASTS raise their hands to hit a woman.. He has powers + strength, right? Why don't he exercise it on his fellow man ? Nonsense .. But on a 2nd thought, you said he wasn't like this? That's to say, something triggered the change!! Have you checked yourself? What are you not doing right? Have you tried communicating with him? Still, whatever it is, hitting a lady isn't a yard stick to correction.. It's your CHOICE!!! It's your HAPPINESS... It's your DECISION!!! It's for a LIFETIME... You are quite lucky he showed you his bad sides before walking you down the aisle... "A broken courtship is more honourable than a broken marriage"... "A broken 7 years of courtship is more honourable than a marriage/lifetime with a woman beater".. 1 Like |
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