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Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 10:43am On Jan 11, 2015 |
To be honest, I dont know whats left to salvage. How can one ever trust a man like this? You dont play with peoples emotions like that. This is not an ex gf he left behind and a relationship that was going to fizzle out. . . . . It was a serious enough relationship for him to go back home and marry her. This is not a one off indiscretion; this is a calculated prolonged motion on his part . . He knew what he was doing from Day one It was all planned from the start and with his family involvement and support and he probably wasnt expecting his wife to get pregnant which too is very unfair. He should have used protection when he knew that he had no plans of staying long term with his wife. I dont blame the poster entirely. . Love can come from anywhere at anytime and loves makes you let your guard down and to overlook certain things, thereby thinking that all will be well. My only advise to ladies especially foreign ladies who dont understand the culture of the man that they are dating or are dating a man who will obtain papers at the end of the day to please please and please do their homework well and over and over. Dont be worried about him thinking you dont trust him. A man who truly loves you and has nothing to hide wont mind you asking all these questions and doing all these checks on him, becasue he understands your fears. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 11:08am On Jan 11, 2015 |
make sure your child does not leave you for a moment the next thing will be how to steal your son there is a cute kid in my old neighbourhood whose father did just that anyway, its the US [where the law favours women to a fault] , i'm sure you can lawyer up and make his life very miserable. divorce, abandonment etal. by the time you're done with him, he will only be able to work at macdonald's accept that you have been used and conned - then take your cold revenge. it's sad, but a large number of nigerian men do this, with the full cooperation of their families. most of us see american women as a ticket to green card - and if you can get some free sex from an uninhibited slu-t so much the better. i am not saying american women are sluts, i am just highlighting the mindset. 5 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 11:37am On Jan 11, 2015 |
IDEApro: DO NOT EVEN THINK OF COMING DOWN TO NIGERIA FOR ANY REASON. he , his family and his wife will KILL you. i mean this literally. killing you will solve all the problems - no legal issues, he will be able to bring the wife to the US. people have been killed for less. 13 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 12:33pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Otuabaroku:Cant u see the person ure replying is a member of his gang? Peeps like him will come to the guy's defence. That is why he doesnt like the good advice given here and calls them insane. A clear conscience fears no accusation. 6 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
goofyone: I didn't know he had to spell it out in capital letters, as he spelled out the rest of his evil deeds. By the way actions speak louder than words! @Find the truth, you will be amazed at how much strength God is going to give you as we speak. Its up to you to curl down and cry or dust yourself up and get rid of this man any legal way you can find. As it looks he is not done with you, the guy is minting gold on your back. Who leaves a job only to ask someone else to finance his trip? Nothing will happen to your child, God has built women to be stronger than anything. I have seen pregnant women loosing their husband and children in horrible accidents and guess what they survive. Just do the needful before its too late! 2 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by eclectic7: 12:57pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
How well did you know him before marriage, Why did you decide to marry him in the first place? Did you want a life companion? Did you want protection and/or to be financially cared for? Did you fear loneliness? What exactly did you want from this marriage? Honestly answer this question between you and yourself. Then ask yourself if you have attained what you wanted out of this marriage? And most importantly, what are the positives that you gained from this marriage and what are the negatives? After honestly answering the above questions, then ask yourself what you want to change in your life to make things better. No matter what I say or anyone says on this issues, matters less pertaining to the true answers of the above posed question, factor in your happiness, your unborn child, and put everything on the table, at the end of the day the answer lies with you, never make any permanent decisions for a temporary problem best of luck 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by freecocoa(f): 1:09pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
mutter:I can't take it anymore, feck you all round mutter, you are just so stup1d it's annoying, like what is inside your brain box for crying out loud? You are disgusting, tufiakwa gi. 12 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 1:29pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
findingtruth:I have heard of traditions like this where you have to officially get a woman to be recognized as a man in the locality. To alot of people, this might look like a marriage but it is possibly a manhood and womanhood initiation for them both. The two of them might have never seen each other again. Do a better investigation before concluding. All the best.... |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 1:31pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
freecocoa: Take it easy o.. |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by freecocoa(f): 1:50pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Akranez:Omo leave me jor, that woman's own is too much. 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 1:52pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by freecocoa(f): 2:00pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Akranez:I don vex finish but if she talk any rubbish again, I go give her another round. 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 2:02pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
freecocoa: stay tuned.. she must talk |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by freecocoa(f): 2:14pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Akranez:I dey wait. |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
kle4d: Now this is funny 8 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by cococandy(f): 2:24pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
freecocoa: i know the feeling 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 2:29pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
kle4d: . . .but he already has a woman . . .!!! His American Wife! . . This tradition does not mind that he cons another woman to show off another woman? . . This tradition does not mind that the guy doesnt even live in Nigeria, so which locality does he need to be recognized in? Anyway we are all learning, so will like to know which area in Edo state does this. 2 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Someone here said that men keep an African wife back home becasue the foreign wife wont take the kids back home to Nigeria. . . . .I disagree!!! in many instances, its the mans fault. Many paint dark and scary stories of Nigeria, so the wife is too scared to go. meanwhile some do this so that when they go to Nigeria on holiday they can go alone and be naughty without a wife watching them Your family is how you run it and how you want it to be. I was at an owambe party a few months ago and the foreign wife was eating Naija food and she had tied her gele herself; nicely fanned for that matter. Later I saw her helping her husbands family to tidy up into black bags. She was very at home Her hubbys family sprayed her on the dance floor and It is clear that she is married into a family that want her amongst them. I know of people married to Nigerian women but havent taken their kids back to Nigeria and I know of people who are married to foreigners but both wife and kids go back home. It depends on what you want as the man at the end of the day. Go to heathrow and you will see heaps of foreign wives with their kids flying down to Nigeria with and without their husbands. 4 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Lepetitechic(f): 3:05pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
kle4d: Umm no, nope *shakes head* no! 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Lepetitechic(f): 3:11pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
chaircover: Aunty ooo, no one does this in Edo state, that's sugar coating it or trying to justify wrong doing. Am I the only one who saw the pic of them kissing? That is an example "right of passage" into marriage i.e traditional marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 3:13pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Lepetitechic: Ah thats what I wanted to know o! . . . . I was hoping to get my parents a refund from my history teacher 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 3:39pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Teespice(f): 3:45pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
IDEApro: do me a huge favour shut the fùck up. are you that shameless that you are openly justifying evil. 7 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by JustCurious: 5:41pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
@Findingtruth This is really heart-breaking, absolutely, however, you really must take it v e r y easy, especially for your baby, your health. Understand this, that God must have revealed it to you at such a time as this for a purpose, trust Him to direct you on how to handle this. PS: The heart of men is desperately wicked, who can know it!? So, LEARN to cheer up...yes, especially for your baby, pls. Losing a pregnancy could be much more traumatic experience. Best wishes. |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by rofemiguwa(f): 6:32pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
As in eh!!! The kill am kill am kill am die' advise in this thread no bi for here. You advisor forgot one thing, let her kuku abort the baby so she won't have to explain to her child anything about his 'devilish,criminal minded, fraudulent, selfish dad' in the future. The milk has bin split , is the only way forward breaking the glass too??. You advisors should please put both parties in your shoe. Abeg I don tire to talk. At op it is not an entirely hopeless situation, the guy might actually love u and wanted to fulfill all righteousness at home. I suggest you talk to him with thE facts you have. And find an amicable way to resolve this,putting your state of health in consideration. Not all nigerian men are killers and con artist. All the best in whatever decision you make. goofyone: 1 Like |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by IDEApro(m): 6:34pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Teespice: Sensation and emotion has beclouded your sense of reasoning to the extent you can't read and comprehend a simple write up. Where and how did I support the action of the guy if not offering hints as to the probably cause of action to the Op and how best for her to confront the husband with her suspicions. Op expressed fear even though it is confirmed and succinctly ask for advice to handle the situation and at this juncture, I offered a probably cause of action and how best to confront hubby on why he took such action, the merit and demerits and if this could be patched up they may decide to work on it. My suggestions explicitly stated this opinion. Where in the passage did you read my support for the OP or your half bake education is fantasizing with your brain? |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by obowunmi(m): 6:38pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
W o w |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by SAMBARRY: 6:42pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
2CatWoman:KO PARI O.IDA PRO AND MUTTER SHOULD MARRY KANWUIA WHILE I BE THE M.C.LOBATAN |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by IDEApro(m): 7:05pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
freecocoa: Its ladies like you that run around nairaland guys based abroad. Have them across all social networking platforms and attend local functions they are involved in just to get acquainted and when you'd succeed, never ask questions on how they were able to make it to foreign land but selfishly bank on the catch to realise your Foreign Dream too. Op husband has been outsmarted hence the sanctimonious condemnation from you lot and it is wholesomely anticipated. You guys should keep up with the divorce him, sue him, kill him mindset but my advice is that Op should ask hubby why he had to take an African wife and begin from there. 5 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by freecocoa(f): 7:19pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
IDEApro:Na sense wey you no get dey worry you so, @ running around NL guys based abroad, if only you know. My friend try develop common sense, it won't hurt. 14 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
IDEApro: Rubbish!!!!!!!!!!! You have outdone yourself. What good would asking why you marry her story? Trust build relationships not explanations. How will she ever trust him and his mother? This women is not that desperate (so i think) to hang on to a jerk, that will use his culture to commit adultery with a band of backers that happen to be her mother and sisters? Well who said marriage was a jail? She just got derailed by she just fell for the devil in humanskin. The better the devil you know garbage is just that garbage. Something has been broken, period! 6 Likes |
Re: Did My Husband Marry Another Woman? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jan 11, 2015 |
Teespice: I was actually expecting this. When I read all the nice posts here condemning what the guy did, I was surprised that nobody has tried to justify what the guy did. It was just a matter of time till the ones who can find excuses for him will show up. I guess, these are the ones who know what poverty feels like and would do anything to get out of it. 1 Like |
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