OK so I've been meaning to say this for a while now...


I came across a thread on Facebook of a girl who's husband has been pretty harsh on her and her relations after they just got married some months back.. the woman said that he doesn't let any of her relations come to visit and that even her parents don't come too. it even go to a stage dat he stopped picking her parents calls.

the reason she stated was that when he came to pay her bride price at that time they gave him a list if abt 1.2million naira minus the wedding properly. so obviously he is pissed.

now my question is wats ur take on the bride price issue.



as for me....I'll do an ''usain bolt'' on them.

he has paid and bought his goods in cash so let him enjoy it
without any external interference...


what ever he decides is ok by him

Sold out

First, the amount is so ridiculous... i don't know why some tribes will sell out their daughters all in the name of bride price
no wonder, some women are being treated as goods bought.
what a priced possession!

2nd, they force the guy to pay ni, abi he was high on something when he was dishing out the cash?
you agreed to pay, why pass the aggression to the poor gurl?
you could av easily stopped the wedding than living in hell
abi na by force to marry ni

KMTee:
First, the amount is so ridiculous... i don't know why some tribes will sell out their daughters all in the name of bride price
no wonder, some women are being treated as goods bought.
what a priced possession!

2nd, they force the guy to pay ni, abi he was high on something when he was dishing out the cash?
you agreed to pay, why pass the aggression to the poor gurl?
you could av easily stopped the wedding than living in hell
abi na by force to marry ni

exactly bro... its really not by force.

mrkay101:




exactly bro... its really not by force.

am no bro o :-

huh, that is too much nah bt d parents sold dier daugther.

KMTee:


am no bro o :-

sorry... my bad. I didn't see any gender specification so I just assumed

Chizzy20:
huh, that is too much nah bt d parents sold dier daugther.

exactly my point too. they maybe saw the husband as someone with a lot of money and so they took advantage of that.

Igbo girls.












Especially those from imo state.











Hmmmm...











Enough said.

Melahou:
he has paid and bought his goods in cash so let him enjoy it
without any external interference...


what ever he decides is ok by him

She is a property?
Oh my God

D nigga has bought d goods.wahz d prblm of d marketers(relatives)?




Nawa fr some parents.....selling daughters like plot of land

I wud request any of the MOD to move this to front page for more discussions... thanks

farano
pasqal09

#cheers

InZA:
Igbo girls.












Especially those from imo state.











Hmmmm...











Enough said.

I've come to notice that when issue of bride price is mentioned pipo seem to refer to IMO state.. are they really the sole architect of selling there daughters off??

mrkay101:




I've come to notice that when issue of bride price is mentioned pipo seem to refer to IMO state.. are they really the sole architect of selling there daughters off??

Naah at the bolded. But they are the major distributors in that business

Take it to be that Imo people are like the "DSTV" in the satellite broadcast industry, while other states like Abia, Anambra, Enugu are like GoTv, Startimes etc.

If you don't get my analogy.

You can ping me later

if am d one, i wil back out. other ladies are dia waiting. marriage is not by force. why should i pay 1.2million. God forbids

ronald4lif:
I don't really agree with the amount of which most Igbos pride price ranges, they are most times very high. It will be better if they reduce it to the bearest minimum, after all the amount doesn't determine how long or happy the couple will live ever after.

Blame it on greed!!!

I am from Imo state. In the case of my family they always refund brideprice after taking about 1000 or 2000. They normally tell the inlaws that they are not selling their daughter. Even last Xmas same happened in my sister's traditional marriage and the inlaws were so happy. Apart from white wedding 250,000 is enough for the marriage rite.

ronald4lif:
I don't really agree with the amount of which most Igbos pride price ranges, they are most times very high. It will be better if they reduce it to the bearest minimum, after all the amount doesn't determine how long or happy the couple will live ever after.

Fifty thousands is enough to do traditional marriage in my local government idemili north in Anambra state, bride price is one thousand only other things will not cost more than fifty thousands unless you decide to do it in a big man way

bro. they don't just call an amount for you, it's only when you sum up the total stuffs you've bought, that's when u know that sh*t just got real... and most in-law do look at your finical status b4 naming there price

So because he paid some bride price he gets to treat her like his property. She sef dey funny tolerating such nonsense from him she is already paying in kind, cooking, cleaning and acting like a slave. Did i forget sexing at call? abeg people sef.

andromida:
So because he paid some bride price he gets to treat her like his property. She sef dey funny tolerating such nonsense from him she is already paying in kind, cooking, cleaning and acting like a slave. Did i forget sexing at call? abeg people sef.

did u say sexing at call.. ur joking right.

what does she do dat no other Nigerian wife does. pls don't reason dat way. and besides she enjoys d sex too. hope ur not one of those girls that thinks having sex with a guy is doing him a favour.


PS: she never said he maltreats or beats her up. she only said her doesn't relate well with her own side of the family.

mrkay101:


did u say sexing at call.. ur joking right.

what does she do dat no other Nigerian wife does. pls don't reason dat way. and besides she enjoys d sex too. hope ur not one of those girls that thinks having sex with a guy is doing him a favour.


PS: she never said he maltreats or beats her up. she only said her doesn't relate well with her own side of the family.

Nah i think i read he stops her from relating with people she has known all her life. cutting her off, isolating her like she is in jail. Maltreating or beating is not the only poor treatment a man can dish what he is doing is bad behavior.

Well he was not getting sex on call before and feeling all good about "having" a woman to call his.

So you see he is getting a lot for the 1.something me thinks he should be trembling with happiness not whining and trying to make her miserable to score cheap points with his in laws.

Sex out of matrimony is a favour within its not.

TankGod fr islam jus do d wedding prayer n take ur wife home, if u decide u want a ceremony dn dts ur personal problem.