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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by SAMBARRY: 10:27am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Are you okay. You better respect your self in your own interest ![]() bennyrazz: |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Amhappy(f): 11:13am On Jan 13, 2015 |
okotv: Nice and very educative movie. Timidity is not humility. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:13am On Jan 13, 2015 |
They have a submissive, humble, shy and simple woman. Real African "non feminist" woman. Just what they claim they want. Now, they want her to be more assertive?? NL men; oblivious of what they want since the days of Adam. ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:16am On Jan 13, 2015 |
And who are those making first year of marriage seem like a war zone?? Please stop! It's an insult to some of us. If I didn't know better. . . ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bellong: 11:41am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Phema: Phema, congrats on the new born. I forgot to drop a message when you gave birth, "daily hustles" should be blamed...lol How is the young man doing? May he grow in grace, wisdom, knowledge and fear of God. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:43am On Jan 13, 2015 |
bellong: How you go remember, when you still dey owe me wedding gift? ![]() ![]() Amen and amen. Thanks bro. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by netotse(m): 11:47am On Jan 13, 2015 |
@ohwhy was the pregnancy something you guys planned? could it be that he is under pressure because of the child y'all are expecting? another question, this "friends wife" that he is pointing to as someone for you to emulate, does she have kids? I get the feeling your hubby feels you don't have what it takes, his unkind words are a rather childish way of trying to ginger you to act. Be that as it may, being a girlfriend and being a wife/mother-to-be are worlds apart, you need to show him that you can raise his children (a man will still think of the unborn baby as his child even though you carry it for nine months... ![]() I agree with the other folks saying he isn't handling the situation properly but would you rather wait for him to come to his senses or will you hunker down and see what you can do to turn things around? P.S. I kept seeing references to your other thread and I went looking for it and saw your story...you've changed as well. You weren't the same throughout the entire 6 years y'all were together. Heck it seems it's only sometime in the last two years that you committed your self fully into this relationship. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bellong: 11:47am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Phema: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Phema, upon all the Ferrari and Lamborghini I sent to you... Diaris God ooooooo |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 11:51am On Jan 13, 2015 |
bellong: Not enough. Add a Bugatti. ![]() Regards to your family. ![]() |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by pickabeau1: 11:51am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Ohwhy is the character the husband doesnt like your gentility and meekness? 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bellong: 11:54am On Jan 13, 2015 |
Phema: You should have told me since... Are you still there or back? If you are still there, a customised Bugatti will be delivered to you within 24 hours.... But if here, it will take 30 days ![]() Thanks sis.. Enjoy motherhood.. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 2:11pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
bellong: You can make mouth eeeehhh. . ![]() Not back yet. Soon. Thanks |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by TV01(m): 2:17pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
I was unavoidably called away just as this thread reached it's crescedo. It's gone a bit quiet, but I'll make a few comments; Ohwhy, hope all's well and you have gained some encouragement from what's been said. Please update us with good news Alutacontinua, thanks, appreciated and well recieved, but we are not even 2 weeks in yet. Anyway, I'm sure I've made better submissions already this year - please follow me more closely ![]() Ihedinobi, thanks for coming to my defense, but at best they are as worthy as attention - and have as much content - as spittle in the noonday sun. One gets used to the pained shrieks of the damaged and "past-their-expiry-date" harridans on this forum. When I find their time, they will know pharisee ![]() CocoCandy, for what it's worth, I think you make really insightful points and I've been a fan since day 1 - when you posted your wedding pics. However, I agree with 5minutesmadness in this instance. I was actually about to touch on the same thing before I was called away. Even generically, I think we should steer away from the 'D" word as much as possible. And after 6 years courtship and barely 2 months of marriage? And with no evidence of abuse, adultery or abandonment? And yes I know hubby had been loose with the word, but the OP was clear that divorce was simply not an option. Even talk of separation would be premature here. 5minutesmadness, I totally got you and admire the way you seek expansive discussion without playing identity politics or forming SJW. Please take this in your stride. I know you get me. Thanks. Shirley07, missed me huh. You know there's a queue for my attention ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() TeeVee 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 2:58pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
@TV, ![]() |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by okotv(m): 3:36pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Amhappy:at least someone agrees with me. Yes o..n |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 4:16pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
LordReed: I 100% wonder Thanks |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 6:59pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
2sExy1: The earlier people stop classifying plain wickedness by their spouse as 1st year marital whatever, the better for them. The question is not if am married or not, the question is "Is she familiar with the Nigerian concept of 1st year animal husbandry " ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 8:05pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
byvan: Lol! I just burst out laughing! What made you think of animal husbandry? ![]() That was perfect! |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 8:19pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
bukatyne: Lol,howdy Maam? ![]() |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 8:22pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
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Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 9:07pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
bukatyne: They are all well, real NAH, nah there you go fear association ![]() |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 9:29pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
byvan:I think that the question really is if you are. Because people who talk flippantly about certain things generally have no experience of them and tend to misjudge them. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 9:38pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: .....that am not dancing to your popular opinion about NAH marriage classifies as talking flippantly? if your experience about your first year of marriage is of a spouse acting like a complete demon with no conscience or whatsoever because she/ he wants to live up to the popular opinion of crazed 1st year of marriage, sorry sir, I do not agree with you. 2 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 9:43pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
Phema: Am glad you wrote this, it's a real insult! They now make it seem like people acting crazy in their 1St year of marriage is the new normal. If they are talking of character adjustment issues in the 1st year of marriage , that might make more sense. How is LO doing dear? 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 10:20pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
byvan:No, disagreeing with a popular opinion does not classify as talking flippantly. What does is talk of ending marriages because people are treated badly for whatever reason. The first year thing is a reality some people face. In fact, a large number of people face it because many people today marry for all the wrong reasons. That is a fact. But to react to that with destroying the budding relationship is childish, to put it mildly. All relationships have difficulties. All manners of people come with all kinds of baggage. The difference is only in degree. Marriage is no different. In fact, it is the one place where every effect is exaggerated because sensitivity is practically at its peak. Again, does it really make sense to you that people make their marriages hell just to live up to some "popular" notion that the first year of marriage is hard? That's the sort of talk I call flippant - talking just because you can. What sane person would want to measure up to such an "ideal"? Finally, like I said, the correct question really is, "is byvan married?" 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 10:26pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Is byvan married? Her marriage or lack of it affects your ability to advice the poster in a manner you think is godly and suitable for her ? byvan 's marital status stops your connection from working? Keeping drumming, would like to see people dance. 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 10:27pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
byvan:@bold, this is why you were answered the way you were by DukeNija. If you've really been reading and paying attention, what else have people been talking about regarding the difficulties of the 1st year of marriage? Matter of fact, what was the OP here complaining about if not character adjustment issues? Or did you mean to write something else? That's another example of the flippancy I alluded to. 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 10:29pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Is this what you have been typing for more than half an hour? Your reality is yours and yours alone to live, you don't judge the entire world by your experiences. What ever the correct question should be remains your worries, I do not agree with your NAH concept of marriage and 10 pages of your epistle can't change that. |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 10:33pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
bukatyne:No, it does not do any of that to me. I have advised the OP. I am interested in you because marriage is a sensitive matter and bad advice regarding it can ruin the society as a whole. [i]Edit: I'm sorry, I thought I was responding to byvan. That was why I said, "...interested in you..." It should read "interested in HER". 4 Likes |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by bukatyne(f): 10:36pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Then give your sincere advice and leave her married status alone. You cannot force everyone to give 'good' advice according to ihedinobi2's standard. Good night 1 Like |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by Nobody: 10:36pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: I think you gave flippancy a whole new meaning and no OP's post isn't about character adjustment, is about a tyrannical spouse who has no regard for his wife, his unborn baby or marriage, hence he throws around divorce like it's some car key because he knows his wife will simply jump onto the bandwagon of " its the first year of marriage after all" ![]() |
Re: He Has Changed.. Almost Completely by ihedinobi2: 10:37pm On Jan 13, 2015 |
byvan: ![]() I've other things I'm doing. You could address the above post to yourself as well. Besides, as I have said to others, you are not required to accept or agree with anything I say. You are free to agree or disagree with anything as you please. But you are not free to push an idea of yours in the public arena and demand that it not be challenged. Rest assured it will be. 1 Like |
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