virginboy1:
Am in my middle twenties,like any sane male my age,I have a libido that can far too much for me handle.
During cold weather like harmattan period,the urge usually escalates to a paramount peak to an extent of me loosing focus at night.
Waking up feeling depressed due to the urge and whenever I find it difficult to bare,I end up doing press-up or any exercise(which is an advantage physically).
I always feel awkward and wimpy when some friends and colleagues expressed their sex tales(the heavenly feelings,the elated mood it gives them)"chaiiii".
Infact,I used to be mocked by guys and ridiculed by some ladies concerning my no sex status,which makes me feel bad.
If I have waist pain and seek for solutions,i get negative advice like"it is because you dont sex,your akamu don full,etc)
I was adviced to pray and fast that it might be spiritual,I tried,but the libido is still overwhelming.
Often times during sermon,I loose concentration and focus on my mind due to this "Conji or watever" feelings.SMH.
lastly,an advice of marriage pops up, which leaves me with the problem of how long will I wait to get married,when I dont have the luxury and still have a carrier to attain."ALL IZZ WELL"

Virgins,Secondary virgins et al, viewing write-up.Please help in sharing,advicing or assert your own discretion.Thanks

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Lisaflex:
D less u fnk abt sex,d easier it'll be 4 u 2 abstain

jmoore:
Urges are natural. Virgins and non-virgins all got urges.

*I made up my mind to stop porn some years ago.So I dont watch porn again.

*Changing friends will indirectly symbolises me a loner,because most of my cordial friends that are witty lively and productive are into sex and lewd activities.
I will try and tolerate that part of them.

Lastly,with the ways ladies loose their virginity at ease this days,am having a phobia that i might not marry one at the longrun.Maybe with time my OT will change.
Thanks for your advice

Losing focus at night because of sexual urge? Do you watch p0rn? What imaginations go through your mind if you don't watch p0rn? "Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."
If you spend more time feeding your brain these stuff, then your body will react to it. So if you watch any p0rn stuff, better get rid of it.

You need to check the type of friends you associate with. The ones you got presently can influence you negatively.
Why feel bad if they mock you? Work on your self-esteem bro. If you are proud to be a virgin then you should not feel bad if some folks mock you.
This is not the first time I have heard of waist pain . I don't think the waist pain got anything to do with your V status.

How long can you wait? It depends on you. You don't have to be rich before you marry. If you are not yet working then seek for job or be self-employed. Then start saving, savings of two-three years can be very helpful. Then a low-key wedding after that if you have found your bride.

skelefish:
Op I perfectly knw how u feel, I have been a celibate since birth, so I can say it's not easy @all. Pple now see fornication which is one of the greatest sin as a normal thing, because they simply can't resist sex. Sexual desire is part of our everyday lives, pressure frm frnds, media, social networks can make one to loose self control.

I must confess, u can only become a strong male virgin after going Through @least one real temptation frm a female,if u're able to resist it,then u can be sure of urself,because the urge for sex is very difficult to suppress. If u intend to get married am afraid it's gonna be hard, when u knw u'll eventually loose it one day.

My broda to remain a virgin in this sex driven world is hard, everywhere u go na sex, but I tank God am a strong virgin now, no woman born of a woman can eva bring me down again,am sure of dat,I passed my test, no indecency,masturbation,etc.

But try to always conceal ur sexual status because of pressure.

virginboy1:

how can I or Do I think less about sex? When words and physical beings that hovers around me are of sexual instincts

virginboy1:


I have been able to resist some mumber of ladies,am been in the room of different proffessional whores some number of times only to run out like a child that saw rat.
There was a time I slept on same bed with a lady from night to dawn without sexing her.
May GOD help me...

Lisaflex:

Seeing stuff does not mk u fnk abt it bt dwelling on wot u c is wot will mk u fnk abt it...Get busy wt stuff dt's impnt 2 u n u'd be surprised dt u'd rarely remember sex...D tot'll cross ur mind once in a wyl buh its ur job 2 relegate it 2 d bkground by not focusing on it

skelefish:

Only to run out like a child had me in stitches. I must commend u, it's not easy, after watching indecency one is somewht filled with remorse.(Nt evrybody tho) But prior to watching lies an irresistible urge, but after watching it fades away.

Same apply to sex, there is pleasure in having sex frm wht I have seen, but it's too transient for u to lose wht u have hold for so long. I don't knw how to explain this, because I knw sexual urge is no respecter of counsel, article or whatsoever to deviate one's reasoning frm sex.

But just hold yourself a little,u'll soon get married(but your wife go collect wella sha, all d straffin make u dey hold since will be on her, lol) try to move with like minds, though they are not many, because JSS students get babe sef, but I blive we still have a few, just hold on & be strong, b4 u knw marriage don set.

But u seem to me like an open eye virgin, e dey hard dose ones wella, because dey are constantly exposed, pple won't even blive dey are v.God will help u.

virginboy1:


I get the urge often,i fight my mind over it for control purpose,but the cravings from my body is just so high.
Watching movies and Prayers(mind control) acts at a shortrun.
The evironment,i seem to find myself is also not helping matters and trying to change it is like moving to another planet
Exercising,
I will keep on trying not to intimate sex to any lady until d time comes.Thanks

Lisaflex:

Yw...Remain steadfast, u hv cm ds far...It pleases me 2 knw dt der r still ppl lyk u out der