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Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 11:52pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Merci, madmoiselle. 2 Likes |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by EfemenaXY: 11:55pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Six years is a long time. Give it time till you heal fully, otherwise you'll just be entering into another relationship on the rebound. But remember this: you can't "mourn" her forever. At some point, you'll just have to move on with your life, like she probably has. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by EfemenaXY: 11:56pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: You sef are too quick on the keypads. I put in the wrong emoticon o! |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 11:58pm On Jan 17, 2015 |
EfemenaXY: 1 Like |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:00am On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: You are a man who can love passionately, that is really cool considering the number of people out there who are numb for one reason or another. These people are quite depressed, you are alive! And even though, your experiences are not always easy, they are interesting and I am quite sure that they happen for a reason. Learn from them, let them make you stronger and allow them to make you wiser. One day you will understand why it had to be that way. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by InZA: 12:01am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Ohhh come on Didn't you see where I said I'm open to other people's opinions Date as many girls as possible" Even if I'm not get married to them? Wouldn't it be like I'm a serial dater just testing the waters?. I understand where you're coming from though, learning to love and all that but I feel if someone is really meant for you, it should just click like that spontaneously, instead of brick-building your affection on that person's head. 1 Like |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by InZA: 12:03am On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: Very well said. Thank you. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:04am On Jan 18, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:That's been dead nearly 1.5 years now, but thanks for giving me cheer. Re: the "rebound", I didn't know that that kind of synchronicity was possible until it happened. Now it feels like a dream I only had. Sometimes something happens as if to say it wasn't all a dream but then like a mirage it vanishes before I can catch it. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by freecocoa(f): 12:05am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:I know, I actually meant, when you get married and that's me assuming you'd like to get married. I can take correction if need be for any. No, I'm not married, I never reach to marry . |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:06am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Why, thank you, CFW. You sound like a guru. Or a Christian. Did you go back to religion? |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:06am On Jan 18, 2015 |
InZA: I was focused on other aspects in your post. Date as many girls as possible" Yes, date as many girls as possible, or better as many girls as you like. You are free to do so. I am not saying, sleep with them, use them, play them. I just want you to be open minded. The more girls you meet, the greater the chance of meeting the one that is right for you. And who knows, maybe she will already be the first you go on a date with. Even if I'm not get married to them? Wouldn't it be like I'm a serial dater just testing the waters?. I understand where you're coming from though, learning to love and all that but I feel if someone is really meant for you, it should just click like that spontaneously, instead of brick-building your affection on that person's head. What is wrong with testing the waters? What is wrong with being a serial dater if you goal is to find a relationship? @bold Who told you it has to be that way? Hollywood or Nollywood? To be honest, I have never experienced love at first sight. My feelings have ALWAYS developed gradually. I fell in love with my ex even though I initially thought that he is not my type. No, it does not have to happen immediately but it still can happen spontaneously. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by EfemenaXY: 12:07am On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: It is well... |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:07am On Jan 18, 2015 |
InZA:Very welcome, bro. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:09am On Jan 18, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Thank you, Efe. You've been very kind. 1 Like |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:10am On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: You are welcome. I am just trying to help the best way I can and I am happy if it works if only a little. I am trying. I am not a guru. I believe in God, I love Jesus but I am not a Christian in a strict sense. I believe that God speaks to people through different religions and I believe that he is also the God of those who have no religion but that's a different topic. I speak from experience, not from a religious perspective. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:10am On Jan 18, 2015 |
freecocoa: I am not a fan of marriage either. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by idu1(m): 12:12am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:. I will my share story with you when I finally see her..... What's your religion? |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by InZA: 12:15am On Jan 18, 2015 |
Timbuktou: I find it "interesting" that people often suggest the bolded, but my concern is, we are not talking about changing cars, or shoes or kitchen wares, these are actual, living, breathing people with the capacity to feel hurt, dejected, frustrated and a whole lot of other emotions that find themselves rooted in heart breaks/breakups and the moving on decision. That said, I really understand what you're saying, you've made really strong points. Summarily, I think my fear is the thought of being responsible for breaking someone's heart.... I detest the thought of that and believe you me it's not because I'm a people pleaser, neither is it because I want to remain perpetually in people's good graces. But that's just me.... I'd rather not go into a relationship than go into one that might end up with me likely breaking her heart. That's just me I'm queer I know 11 Likes |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:15am On Jan 18, 2015 |
idu1: Cool. I believe in God and I love Jesus but I don't follow the Bible "blindly". Hope, it answers your question. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by idu1(m): 12:16am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Ok. I understand... 1 Like |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by freecocoa(f): 12:18am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:When I was younger, I thought "my wedding day would be the 2nd happiest day of my life" Growing up and experiencing life, I don't really care for marriage that much, tbh, I do wonder what it'll be like to be married but I will only do it, if I'm sure I can have something close to 'happily ever after' with the lucky guy, not in a rush at all. I however am, a hopeless romantic, so I love the feeling of being in love, that's actually more important to me than getting married. 9 Likes |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:18am On Jan 18, 2015 |
InZA: You can only find out if a relationship works for you when you enter it. We are all adults and we all know that harts can get broken. We all enter relationships / marriages knowing that there is some risk involved. I like that you are concerned but what else do you suggest? I really understand what you're saying, you may made really strong points. Summarily, I think my fear is the thought of being responsible for breaking someone's heart.... I detest the thought of that and believe you me it's not because I'm a people pleaser, neither is it because I want to remain perpetually in people's good graces. But that's just me.... I'd rather not go into a relationship than go into one that might end up with me likely breaking her heart. That's just me Believe me, I hate breaking up with people. It makes me feel really bad but that is life, sometimes you break a heart and sometimes your heart gets broken. I think that it is wrong to stay with someone out of pity. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:21am On Jan 18, 2015 |
InZA:Forget about getting into a relationship for a minute, I'll advise. Just make friends. Hang out sometimes. Get to know them. As you do, there will be a resonance with one. You can escalate things with that one while maintaining a kind spirit toward the other ladies even if you don't hang out as often or keep in touch as much anymore. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:22am On Jan 18, 2015 |
freecocoa: To be in love is a very nice feeling but kind of scary at the same time. It makes you lose control and it makes you vulnerable. For me, it is a double-edged sword. I will only marry if that is very important to the (future) father of my kids because once I have kids with him, it is like being married for me. We are joint forever and he would have to do something dreadful for me to leave him. So whether I am married or not, does not mean that much to me. What is the first happiest day in your life? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by cococandy(f): 12:23am On Jan 18, 2015 |
bukatyne:see baby love. Oya full gist |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by InZA: 12:24am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Carefree! Carefree! Carefree! How many times did I call you You raised my hairs with some of your submissions but for the purpose of this thread, I'd rather not pick on them so we could discuss more... I no wan spoil iya Carefree thread. Maybe when the thread gets old and the current tempo it's generating becomes sublime - I'd quote you and we'd talk more about it. Would that be fine by you? |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:26am On Jan 18, 2015 |
InZA: Of course, it's fine by me. I love discussions, I thought everyone knew by now. Go ahead whenever you feel the time is right. |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by ihedinobi2: 12:28am On Jan 18, 2015 |
Abeg make una no scatter this thread ni. 6 Likes |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by Nobody: 12:29am On Jan 18, 2015 |
ihedinobi2: |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by InZA: 12:31am On Jan 18, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: Except me sha Ohhh trust me, I love discussions too, but e get as e go be.... If we start, this thread would get to page 50 and we would have missed out on some of the cool love stories that people would have loved to share. Infact I have to rummage through all the previous pages now to check the stories I've missed. 1 Like |
Re: Where Did You Meet Your Spouse? by TV01(m): 12:32am On Jan 18, 2015 |
Timbuktou:I disagree.You saw an opportunity and you took it. You won your bride - even if it was after a seemingly short battle. Timbuktou:And here's why ^^; you fought may wars before and were battle hardened. I love your story. I met and got engaged to my wife in 3 months. People are always saying "that was too quick". I always reply, "over 15 years looking for a wife does not suggest haste. TV 2 Likes |
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