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Re: thank you by cococandy(f): 8:03pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
mutter:eleven children? Ojigbijigbi in chief zebrudaya's voice. This one is strong. 1 Like |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 8:24pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
11 gini Abeg,well done. |
Re: thank you by torchwave: 9:24pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
mutter:Mutter, haven't you said enough? I could easily make large, gaping holes in your argument but I'd rather not because reading it is just plain sickening. 11 Likes |
Re: thank you by torchwave: 9:59pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
When the husband told his side of the story it was just the right opportunity some had been waiting for to intensify their attacks on the woman even though the husband rightly admitted the fact he violently beat up his wife and that child...on provocation. When I spoke against this act of violence, it was not to portray the woman as innocent but as a possible victim of fatal physical abuse. If truly the lady did those things that frustrated him, things he couldn't put up with, there are many ways to register his displeasure or anger over her actions rather than resorting to using his fists and whip. She is not an animal. If you discover you are incompatible with each other, you could decide to work it out, seek help or seek separation if your rift is beyond repair but never ever punch her lights out because that is the trait of a potential murderer. 9 Likes |
Re: thank you by dinachi(m): 10:44pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
@ the thinkingbees. Marriage no be mai-Mai. Madam, make I treat your fuckups first, no wayo. You are married and keeping ex-boyfriends. Don't you see your way no pure? You disobey your husband at will and go against his instructions to send back your child labourer. You neglect your husband and refuse to accord him adequate respect online and offline. You are guilty of not doing all within your power to make this marriage work. You are part of the problem. Throw away pride go to your husband in humility, ask for forgiveness and just listen to him talk about his frustrations with you. Don't interrupt,just pay attention and you will learn a thing or two. Oga you mess up big time! Yes it is true you are at least more honest than your wife at admiting your faults and seeking reconciliation but still you messed up. Be the man at home, be gentle with your wife and make allowances for her emotions...damn women are too emotional about many things. Apparently you also get bad mouth curb it..stop the violence at home...make the first move..seek her out and close this gap permanently. 10 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 11:21pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
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Re: thank you by Nobody: 11:42pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
mutter: Did you read doorbell anywhere on his post? Yes he needs a key Or a doorbell Or he can call them on the phone to say when he is returning and call again when he is approaching the door Simple solutions I don't open the door for any husband Why? We all have keys to let ourselves in Your method of feeling your husband by telepathy cannot work for everyone There is a simpler way to solve that problem 2 Likes |
Re: thank you by mutter(f): 11:53pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
What was this tread called initially Monster or thank you. Just wondering. 2 Likes |
Re: thank you by 5minsmadness: 12:12am On Jan 19, 2015 |
mutter:God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 3:54am On Jan 19, 2015 |
dinachi: Oh, just shutt it Already!!! Everything you said was a hot mass. Laying a hand on a woman is a big fat NO! No matter what she has done. Just pack her up and send her home. Period! I believe people know and see their end when attacked. This lady used the right word "monster" thats what she sees when her husband attacks her. You or anyone else are not the ones receiving the beatings cannot define what she sees when her husband assumes this evil character. @Thinkingbee, dearest as sad as it is to say this but the monster you saw in your husband is there to stay. One day you will see it for the last tome with your own and never to see anything else ever again not even your children. There is no justification for a man to physically abuse his wife. I know you had seen a sign before whether it was a wagging of a finger or him getting into your personal space but decided it is not worth walking away for. Now it has come to this, is it still not worth walking away from? If yes please do stay but if deep in your heart its a No, JUST LEAVE NOW! If the two of you cannot be civil enough to sort out your issues without turning it into a blood bath, then love alone cannot advocate for this relationship. But its your decision, your life! All the best. 8 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 5:38am On Jan 19, 2015 |
thinkingbee: contact me for your cleaning jobs..we take the trash & kill the bugs |
Re: thank you by edwife(f): 5:23pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
runnazz: Hmmm.... |
Re: thank you by dinachi(m): 6:11pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
BluIvy:Will you restrain your putrid mouth....but I guess laying hand on a man is a big fat YES, Eeekwa? What of laying her mouth on a man? I am very sure in your warped mind that is alright? Abuse na Abuse! If you abuse a man with your mouth and he abuses you with his hands and legs, BOTH of you are EQUALLY guilty! So if the man is a monster for raising his hands on her, then she is also a monster for raising her voice against him. Everybody fights from their position of strength. Women get mouth, men get hand. Na so! 7 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 6:14pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
edwife: Yes madam,any bug/trash to dispose? |
Re: thank you by edwife(f): 6:51pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
runnazz: What kind of bug do you dispose?and if you were advertising your business,why did you only quote the op?others are not welcomed? |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
edwife: not like that...i felt she was in dire need of my services from the comments i read so...any kind of bug at all no matter how troublesome & everyone is welcome.Hope its clear enough for you. |
Re: thank you by soulglo: 11:21pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
fem29: She's not a man. She's a woman in an abusive relationship 5 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 12:04am On Jan 20, 2015 |
dinachi: Bia nna o di Kwara gi na nma? How many people will you fight on a single thread 5 Likes |
Re: thank you by Ewuro4: 3:35am On Jan 20, 2015 |
runnazz: Please further clarify your idiom.... I no get. |
Re: thank you by red101(f): 5:44am On Jan 20, 2015 |
dinachi: Wonders will never end. Since when did being a wife turn into being a slave? This woman has enough self-respect and dignity that she will not stoop that low. Did you hear when she said she is making arrangement to move into another place with her kids? Does she sound like a slave to you or a woman with dignity. You are a disgrace to manhood abeg. Only a monster will defend a monster. 5 Likes |
Re: thank you by red101(f): 5:54am On Jan 20, 2015 |
dinachi: And this is why the world sees us as barbaric. Are you a primitive animal? Do you realize that we are in the 21st century and there are other ways to show your strength without resorting to physical violence? That is actually a sign of weakness to most civilized people when you cannot control your barbaric urge to be violent. 9 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 7:15am On Jan 20, 2015 |
Ewuro4: guess its better left that way...since u no get |
Re: thank you by mutter(f): 8:59am On Jan 20, 2015 |
soulglo: Maybe I am and maybe not. It is a fact that most girls/women have experienced abuse at one time or the other in their lives in Nigeria. It could be from a husband, father, relation, siblings or ...... Girls that grow up with an abusive father also often marry abusive men. Victims of abuse sometimes turn to abusers themselves. It is comment like yours above that make most women keep abuse a secret and not disclose. Because obviously they get insulted for it. Now I want you to clap for yourself for being so smart in your analysis about me! 3 Likes |
Re: thank you by BlackLeopard(m): 11:35am On Jan 20, 2015 |
red101: This. And violence isn't strength. Violence is power used when strengths fail. Lotta people need to stop confusing dems. 2 Likes |
Re: thank you by dinachi(m): 12:21pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
red101:Shut your hole! Stop being idiotic. It is barbaric when the man responds to your verbal abuse with his fists but not barbaric when you abuse him verbally. Why did you throw your sense of fairness out the window? Concentrate on the rotten graveyard between your legs. 6 Likes |
Re: thank you by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
dinachi: Nigggah, pluusee, this one you wanna smell my panties, shouldn't you be waxing your scrotum for another of your client . Let me know if you wanna keep the panties in your safe. If sniffing it everyday will prolong and calm your disorders then Be my guest . I got more than a dozen. Let me know if you need more of my panty. 8 Likes |
Re: thank you by soulglo: 2:54pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
mutter: You did not have to tell me anything. I simply deduced. What is more dangerous is you are likely in a situation that is difficult to live in but not steering women away from making the same choices. Instead you berate women in that situation or you try to convince them that these abusive men are not so bad. You are the dangerous one. I am happy I made that comment so that some of these women can go back and read your posts and then pretty much scratch off anything you have told them concerning their relationship. Every human being deserves a partner that loves and respects them but you on the other hand go out of your way to romanticize abuse in marriage. People like you make women stay in these horrible situations and when they get seriously injured or even killed, it is your type that will make comments like "I told her not to do this or that anymore", "she was very stubborn" etc. Don't expect any gentle words from me. You don't have to tell your business but you could be honest so other women can learn and not make your mistakes. 3 Likes |
Re: thank you by soulglo: 2:59pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
BlackLeopard: It shows a lack of intelligence. When people start to talk as if being physically strong makes them superior all I think about is a chimpanzee standing in the corner beating its chest. 5 Likes |
Re: thank you by mutter(f): 4:23pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
soulglo: Every woman indeed deserves a man that respects and loves her and vice versa. I absolutely agree! The rate at which women are encouraged to leave their husband here is alarming! It is also wrong. When someone comes on here with a thread I pay attention to the OP and not the other person. She is the one that is on the forum. So it is her my advise is given to. If the man were to come on here for advice I would tell him he acted like a brute by hitting his wife. So check yourself once more and ask yourself if it is right to spoil a marriage that is possibly more intact than yours will ever be. In this case I can DEDUDE ( let me use the word for today) that the OP and her husband are a passionate and temperamental couple. The are possibly very close and very much in love. As we are here writing Chapters, they are in each others arms. As for your gentle words. Save them for another time! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: thank you by soulglo: 5:03pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
mutter: I too agree that most marriages can be saved but when it comes to abuse we have to take a step back and pause. Divorce is harder than most people think BUT we owe it to our fellow human beings to let them know that divorce does not equal death but staying in a volatile marriage can very easily equal death. We can never downplay physical abuse. Under no circumstances. Any type of abuse is bad and verbal usually leads to physical. You are right OP is probably in her husbands arms........ until the next slap. Anyway I'm done writing chapters. I understand what you're saying and you understand what I'm saying. 1 Like |
Re: thank you by Ewuro4: 6:03pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
soulglo: Is that so? |
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