Call me out and stop subbing me. Hehe

OjaP:


Slimmy, in a situation where you have only one side giving us the details (especially when we have no access to the uncle), then we have no choice than to interpret, and advice based on whatever he says with the assumption that he is saying the truth. That BigFrancis doesn't like Ojah's straight judgment doesn't discredit his points. It is evident that Profojah doesn't like BigFrancis judgment too? Every one is entitled to his/her own opinion. We are all here to learn.

Yes, and it's called biased judgement. Why not ask further questions as to why the uncle wants him there, what are the plans the uncle has in place for him if he falls out of status. Let's not be too African about things. Let's be open minded about issues

In no way is the conclusion right. You've been here. I had thesame view and I've corrected myself, just two nights here. I thought worse about my uncle too and some friends. I had to apologise.

OjaP:


Slimmy, in a situation where you have only one side giving us the details (especially when we have no access to the uncle), then we have no choice than to interpret, and advice based on whatever he says, with the assumption that he is saying the truth. That BigFrancis doesn't like Ojah's straight judgment doesn't discredit his points. It is evident that Profojah doesn't like BigFrancis judgment too? Every one is entitled to his/her own opinion. We are all here to learn.

Actually bro, the bone of contention didn't even call for argument in the first place except that he wanted to keep dragging the issue. He aired his point and I was only pointing out his quickness at being too quick to conclude, so as to try to avoid it next time. Personally, I would not have taken the stance I took if prior 'judges' had taken a fair stance in their judgment. The entire discussion was beginning to turn into an 'evil uncle vs an innocent nephew' affair. I had to bring in a balance, somehow.

I am a Nigerian and I know its part of our culture to easily conclude or judge another person from one side without hearing from another side. However, in an advanced age and time like ours, fairness cannot be overemphasized.

I don't have to join issues with some praymantis who in their shallow mind can throw punch. Bigfrancis is enough, he can do the job so well, placing some riff raffs where they belong. That dude got PhD in dropping wings.

Then the grandmaster of punchlines should sub me then. I'm waiting. Na woman dem fit duel with.

Slimmy05,

Onye ala ka I bu!

OjaP:
I have said this so many times on here. I will repeat it again. Do not come to America with the hope that things would sort itself out. At the minimum, have your tuition for 2 semesters (unless you have a scholarship) and not just come here hoping that one family member will house you or cater for you. That won't happen.

In agreement with BigFrancis, I have noticed that those who have relatives in the U.S are the ones always complaining. Why? Because they are expecting too much from their uncles or aunts and get disappointed when that doesn't happen. Many of us here came to America without knowing anybody. I slept in the hotel for several days when I newly came before I got an apartment of my own. I knew what I was coming to do in America and was well prepared and wasn't expecting help from anybody. As bitter as this might sound, having enough money is the way. You don't need anyone.

Also, some people come here and study some courses that are not in high demand. I am always an advocate of STEM, any day, any time. I got a job because I was a STEM major. Just yesterday, Kpolli announced here that he got a job too in the West Coast - most likely in the Silicon Valley or the Bay Area, because that is where things happen in the IT world. Although, there are some people who finished school and still haven't gotten their dream jobs, but they are still managing some where, any how because they went to school. Some even went further to pursue a PhD. A good Nigerian-American girl would even be ready to marry you if she knows you have an advanced degree. That would make your searching easier as well.

Overall, bring enough money when coming here and complete your studies. If you have no money, then be prepared for the worst and don't blame any uncle or aunty for that. Everyone is on their own in America.

Omo that's the new trend oooo
But 99.999% of them are not good (or maybe the ones I met in Houston)...

bigfrancis21:
Slimmy05,

Onye ala ka I bu!

Ighotago

slimmy05:
Yes, and it's called biased judgement. Why not ask further questions as to why the uncle wants him there, what are the plans the uncle has in place for him if he falls out of status. Let's not be too African about things. Let's be open minded about issues

In no way is the conclusion right. You've been here. I had thesame view and I've corrected myself, just two nights here. I thought worse about my uncle too and some friends. I had to apologise.

I do not want to delve into the uncle-ish thing again since Exxy said he would continue to go to school and hope for the best, so I wouldn't want to drag this further. But just FYI, some friends and relatives are naturally wicked, and I would suggest that you don't just apologize to any one with the mindset that America is that tough. Please make sure to apologize for the right reasons.

Enjoy your MLK holiday.

MsNas:
Call me out and stop subbing me. Hehe

Who is subbing you Ms Oga?

slimmy05:
The black American lady that checked us in Charlotte, NC, asked me if I was speaking English, I said Yes! With a strong face, I had to raise my voice so she could understand. I felt embarrassed.

But having an accent especially as a black man helps at times in terms of profiling. There's this general fear of the black man especially and I've noticed once in a while people being apprehensive or raising their guards up when you approach them to ask a question but once they hear your accent, they immediately relax and become nicer.

So, don't lose your accent. Use it to your favour.

OjaP:


I do not want to delve into the uncle-ish thing again since Exxy said he would continue to go to school and hope for the best, so I wouldn't want to drag this further. But just FYI, some friends and relatives are naturally wicked, and I would suggest that you don't just apologize to any one with the mindset that America is that tough. Please make sure to apologize for the right reasons.

Enjoy your MLK holiday.

Yeah!, I explained the situation they find themselves. His sons school fee in a month is 500usd and he has two kids. I was sleeping and he's out there in the snow. I couldn't even go out cos of the snow. I'm prone to pneumonia.

bigfrancis21:


But having an accent especially as a black man helps at times in terms of profiling. There's this general fear of the black man especially and I've noticed once in a while people being apprehensive or raising their guards up when you approach them to ask a question but once they hear your accent, they immediately relax and become nicer.

So, don't lose your accent. Use it to your favour.

I'll try bro. Thanks for the heads ups. Nwanne idi ok. I finally settled for AT&T.

Sorry mate. Are you really paying for accommodation in that your uncle/brothers place?d one who picked you up @ airpwell I v always learne to depend on my self when leaving my comfort zone

slimmy05:
Sharp truth. I got a discount to stay for 7days for 320usd. Atleast that would give me time to search for better apt.

slimmy05:
Ighotago

Di anyi, kookwala. O nwelu ife madu na-akali akali. O baro ulu na ejelu choba ulu n'okpokolo isi azu.

MsNas:
Call me out and stop subbing me. Hehe

Hehehehe, make nobody sub my friend o hence I provoke and scatter this place...

OjaP:
I have said this so many times on here. I will repeat it again. Do not come to America with the hope that things would sort itself out. At the minimum, have your tuition for 2 semesters (unless you have a scholarship) and not just come here hoping that one family member will house you or cater for you. That won't happen.

In agreement with BigFrancis, I have noticed that those who have relatives in the U.S are the ones always complaining. Why? Because they are expecting too much from their uncles or aunts and get disappointed when that doesn't happen. Many of us here came to America without knowing anybody. I slept in the hotel for several days when I newly came before I got an apartment of my own. I knew what I was coming to do in America and was well prepared and wasn't expecting help from anybody. As bitter as this might sound, having enough money is the way. You don't need anyone.

Also, some people come here and study some courses that are not in high demand. I am always an advocate of STEM, any day, any time. I got a job because I was a STEM major. Just yesterday, Kpolli announced here that he got a job too in the West Coast - most likely in the Silicon Valley or the Bay Area, because that is where things happen in the IT world. Although, there are some people who finished school and still haven't gotten their dream jobs, but they are still managing some where, any how because they went to school. Some even went further to pursue a PhD. A good Nigerian-American girl would even be ready to marry you if she knows you have an advanced degree. That would make your searching easier as well.

Overall, bring enough money when coming here and complete your studies. If you have no money, then be prepared for the worst and don't blame any uncle or aunty for that. Everyone is on their own in America.

Thanks bro, what is d STEM program all about?

slimmy05:
I'll try bro. Thanks for the heads ups. Nwanne idi ok. I finally settled for AT&T.

How much is the plan per month?

bigfrancis21:


Actually bro, the bone of contention didn't even call for argument in the first place except that he wanted to keep dragging the issue. He aired his point and I was only pointing out his quickness at being too quick to conclude, so as to try to avoid it next time. Personally, I would not have taken the stance I took if prior 'judges' had taken a fair stance in their judgment. The entire discussion was beginning to turn into an 'evil and wicked uncle vs an innocent nephew' affair. I had to bring in a balance, somehow.

I am a Nigerian and I know its part of our culture to easily conclude or judge another person from one side without hearing from another side. However, in an advanced age and time like ours, fairness cannot be overemphasized.

I do not disagree with you. And I like your balancing attitude.

Enjoy your holiday.

The purpose of this thread is for people to seek opinions and it's just not right when people disagree with you and you decide to go all personal with the person. People will always have another idea, our experience in life tailors our reasoning and it's only natural for people to have differing opinion to yours.

Please let's just move on and return the thread back to its original purpose which is to help prospective or future applicants and guide them on ways to go about a successful application and transition into Obamaland. The more, the merrier, let's help one another. I need una expert help biko.

Anyways, anybody here in Uni of houston?

kpolli:


Who is subbing you Ms Oga?

Kpolli!!! Congratulations on the new job! Happy New Year bro. How's your twin doing? Nothing do you jare. As per sub, you dey mind the overtly emotional people on here? Be fighting other people's battles for them. SMH. Please enjoy your MLK holidays jare. I fight hit you up later.

seangy4konji:
Sorry mate. Are you really paying for accommodation in that your uncle/brothers place?d one who picked you up @ airpwell I v always learne to depend on my self when leaving my comfort zone

stayed with him for just one night. Flew to school the next day. Had pity for the guy. He's my G, we just get to disagree often.

bigfrancis21:


How much is the plan per month?

I paid 45usd. Both sim and refill cost 49.56 I am changing next month o. Before I start to sleep outside.

kpolli:


Omo that's the new trend oooo
But 99.999% of them are not good (or maybe the ones I met in Houston)...

All women are evil bro. But I would advice you to marry the lesser evil.

Congratulations on your new job.

MsNas:

Lmao. No be wetin I talk wey dem dey say I dey winsh someone be that? Oshisko. Na dem sabi. Drop out o, no drop out o, it's exxy's headache. It's not my SEVIS records afterall. Lemme just stay here and continue forming my posh, while their blood pressure soars.

Snazzygirl of life! How that levels wey we yarn na?

Nasee of life, the levels dey where hin dey o. I dey carry the gist come.

OjaP:


All women are evil bro. But I would advice you to marry the lesser evil.

Congratulations on your new job.

you'll receive attacks for this. You're just too blunt

Bolade005:
The purpose of this thread is for people to seek opinions and it's just not right when people disagree with you and you decide to go all personal with the person. People will always have another idea, our experience in life tailors our reasoning and it's only natural for people to have differing opinion to yours.

Please let's just move on and return the thread back to its original purpose which is to help prospective or future applicants and guide them on ways to go about a successful application and transition into Obamaland. The more, the merrier, let's help one another. I need una expert help biko.

Anyways, anybody here in Uni of houston?

Thank you and God bless you for that bolded part. Going personal just shows how matured you are. Don't care anyways, experience is the best teacher.

One thing I have discovered about Nigerians, they love lieing to themselves! At first I don't see why exxy should come here to discuss personal issues like this, I wouldn't want to believe you are below 18... Even if you are! Maturity is not by age!

Bigfrancis gave the right channel of advice and I believe it's the truth! Stop lieing to yourselves, those who came here shouting and screaming i will never fall out of status are ladies who got something to offer in exchange for money! from what I know... Even one of them don born one for yankee, they just dey scope u o... Y'all need to spare some time for the basic truth. I say again don't deceive yourself, know what you want, tell yourself the truth, plan well... If you intend to go schooling, get your funds ready! If not...don't go at all because you will end up wasting your money and falling out of status.. That same money you can use to file for marriage parol.. Don't dull I wont open my mouth to say everything here... Finally, depend on God! Only Him can see you through.

OjaP:


All women are evil bro. But I would advice you to marry the lesser evil.

Congratulations on your new job.

OjaP!!! I will launch the attack. On behalf of all the ladies in the house, I say .....na u evil!!!

Snazzygirl:


Nasee of life, the levels dey where hin dey o. I dey carry the gist come.

I go hit you up soon. Make I arrange well well before I come chop the gist

OjaP:


I do not disagree with you. And I like your balancing attitude.

Enjoy your holiday.

Enjoy your holiday bro!

It's Martin Luther King Day!

Uglykunu:
One thing I have discovered about Nigerians, they love lieing to themselves! At first I don't see why exxy should come here to discuss personal issues like this, I wouldn't want to believe you are below 18... Even if you are! Maturity is not by age!

Bigfrancis gave the right channel of advice and I believe it's the truth! Stop lieing to yourselves, those who came here shouting and screaming i will never fall out of status are ladies who got something to offer in exchange for money! from what I know... Even one of them don born one for yankee, they just dey scope u o... Y'all need to spare some time for the basic truth. I say again don't deceive yourself, know what you want, tell yourself the truth, plan well... If you intend to go schooling, get your funds ready! If not...don't go at all because you will end up wasting your money and falling out of status.. That same money you can use to file for marriage parol.. Don't dull I wont open my mouth to say everything here... Finally, depend on God! Only Him can see you through.

they should keep disguising like we don't know how it goes down here. Make we leave story.