We met a couple of months ago... and you know that feeling you get when you meet someone and you just conclude "this is the one". People saw us and loved us together.
Everything was going beautifully well and we were looking forward to the happily ever after kinda story and so we decided to go do our medicals especially with the fact that we already knew his genotype was AS... unfortunately We were not medically compatible, as i turned out AS. sad it is but reality be faced we know we can't marry for the sake of our children but the problem is...
How do we end it

Should we end it abruptly and move on...

Or should we continue for sometime and end it gradually to avoid being too hurt...

Please I need your honest opinion

Nonsense.. Carry on with d wedding if your heart lies with him

End it gradually.

Avoid meeting in a secluded environment.
Keep a limit to certain things that may bring the two of you together.
Pick his calls but don't get too attached.
Meet him but not as u use to do,
And always remind him of the reasons why the both of you won't be together forever.





And above all be happy with him when you finally see him drifting away from you and seeing him with another girl.

IN EVRY DIFFICULT SITUATION DRS STILL SOLUTION...AV SEEN SO MANY COUPLES WIF SUCH CASES AND DEY WHR ABLE TO CARRY ON WITH IT....MY ADVICE IS IF U GUYS TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER CARRY ON WITH IT...

Cutehector4u:
Nonsense.. Carry on with d wedding if your heart lies with him

ammyluv2002:

why d face? Ddnt u study genetics in schoool? One of the offsprings will carry d SS gene, doesn't mean all d children wil be ss. Some wil be AS too.

Cutehector4u:
Nonsense.. Carry on with d wedding if your heart lies with him

zoomman:
IN EVRY DIFFICULT SITUATION DRS STILL SOLUTION...AV SEEN SO MANY COUPLES WIF SUCH CASES AND DEY WHR ABLE TO CARRY ON WITH IT....MY ADVICE IS IF U GUYS TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER CARRY ON WITH IT...

Because both of you don't know the implication of what you just wrote.
It's VERY difficult dealing with children that are born with SS genotype.There's a high probability of giving birth to one with AS pair.

This is very difficult...

This one is strong

thorpido:
Because both of you don't know the implication of what you just wrote.
It's VERY difficult dealing with children that are born with SS genotype.There's a high probability of giving birth to one with AS pair.

Sir, read ma comment very well...its not a must...its just ma opinion and what have seen

this brings the question, should negative genotype difference bring an end to courtship.

zoomman:

Sir, read ma comment very well...its not a must...its just ma opinion and what have seen

I understand it's your opinion but on a thread like this,people need opinions from people in health fields that deal with cases like this or families with first hand experience.
Some people have done it as you said but for most that have,it's not a good story at the end.
I know a family that gave birth to two SS.One is late now and the other is bedridden.

JAMB question

pls just let go&face ur life.Though it's not easy because i experienced same but you don't need that relationship.Don't try breaking gradually,you will go back.Just break up suddenly&move on

Do not tempt God and claim love caused you to marry him. It would be better if you guys sit down and put an end to it maturely. There's a reason for this and it should be taken seriously. Love in itself is practically.

Break up with him right this very minute!

You're even contemplating it?

Go to the hospital and ask after SS patients.

Tch.

Cutehector4u:
why d face? Ddnt u study genetics in schoool? One of the offsprings will carry d SS gene, doesn't mean all d children wil be ss. Some wil be AS too.

with this ur analysis it's obvious u r d one that hasn't studied genetics

Who says you cannot marry?
Why live your life for other people or create non-existing problems?

Get married and enjoy a blissful life together, then adopt children.

That should settle everything you feel is a problem now.

Parenting a sickler is a nightmare. I can list on my fingers now what to expect. Pls go on with your life abeg.

na wa oh

Cutehector4u:
why d face? Ddnt u study genetics in schoool? One of the offsprings will carry d SS gene, doesn't mean all d children wil be ss. Some wil be AS too.

so u ar sayin dey shud manage d ss child wen d situation can b totally averted? U shud see couples dt made d same mistake b4 makin such comment

Both of you decide to make a clean cut. Encourage each other to explore other relationships ASAP so as not to leave a space for you guys to start craving each other again. Make up your minds not to compare the new peeps with what you have missed to avoid the temptation of lookin back. Be friends but completely avoid emotional discussions after the break else you guys will help destroy the new relationships you are starting.
Finally, pls, pls, pls, dont ever make the mistake of getting married. Save an unborn child from future misery.

My dear dnt listen 2 all dos advicing u to continue wit d rltnshp o...ignorance kills faster dan AIDS. Its beta to opt out nw while u can.dos who had made d same mistake ar nw regrettin.its nt gonna b easy bt u wil get over it wit tym

Not just one of d offspring, there's a 25per cent chance of having SS in each pregnancy

this is a delicate situation,but u should stop the relationship,date other people,u will always fall in love again,,my uncle was As,the wife As,,they gave birth to 5kids,3boys and 2gals,,all the boys died ranging from 26yreas, 22,and maybe 16,only the gals are the ones without the sickness,they are heart broken because of this, the man died because of the heart break,,pls forget the relationship

Cutehector4u:
Nonsense.. Carry on with d wedding if your heart lies with him

Cutehector4u:
why d face? Ddnt u study genetics in schoool? One of the offsprings will carry d SS gene, doesn't mean all d children wil be ss. Some wil be AS too.

Bullshit!!!! Absolute bullshit!!!

Have you ever seen a HbSS child in pain??
Do you know what it feels like to know that they can have those crises several times in a year?
Do you know what it means as a parent to have an SS child....the number of hours spent in and out of hospital......the drain on finances, the drain on emotional energy.........the feeling of always having your heart in your mouth anytime anybody calls you about your child...knowing that your child could be lost almost anytime??

And who told you only one of the children will be SS?? Is that what you were taught in school? This is what happens when secondary school children come to spend their time on Nairaland instead of properly reading their biology textbooks.
What it actually means is that each time they want to have a child, there is a 1 in 4 chance that that particular child will be SS. Each and every time they have a child.
So they can have only 1 SS child, or none, or 2, or 3, or even everytime. It just depends on their luck.
I've known families that have up to 3 SS kids out of 5 kids, some died.
And its a NIGHTMARE.

The mere risk of having a HbSS child is enough to turn off any AS couple from marrying.
There is a way around it, if they decide to marry, but its absolutely not one I would recommend, because it involves abortion. They test the child in the womb in the early stages, and if it is SS, they abort it. If it is not, they keep it.

You just open your mouth and talk out of blatant ignorance.
Please, if you are not informed about a condition, its better to keep quiet on it, than to open your mouth and spread uninformed views that are potentially harmful.

I'm so passionate about this because i've actually seen, and managed, several SS children in my time....and its not something nice to see.
I've also lost classmates to SS disease at various stages when growing up.

OP, pls, the earlier you break up, the better for you two, so that you can get over it and find another life partner.
The love you feel now, will clear by the time you are faced with the physical, emotional and financial hassles of raising an SS child, coupled with the pain of seeing your child in writhing in agony and you cant do anything about it.....and knowing that you could have avoided it at some point in time or the other.
No parent in this present time should have to bring in an SS child into this world.
Our parents had the excuse of ignorance....now we know better.

My 2 cents.
***Speaking from an informed opinion***.

DonX001:




Bullshit!!!! Absolute bullshit!!!

Have you ever seen a HbSS child in pain??
Do you know what it feels like to know that they can have those crises several times in a year?
Do you know what it means as a parent to have an SS child....the number of hours spent in and out of hospital......the drain on finances, the drain on emotional energy.........the feeling of always having your heart in your mouth anytime anybody calls you about your child...knowing that your child could be lost almost anytime??

And who told you only one of the children will be SS?? Is that what you were taught in school? This is what happens when secondary school children come to spend their time on Nairaland instead of properly reading their biology textbooks.
What it actually means is that each time they want to have a child, there is a 1 in 4 chance that that particular child will be SS. Each and every time they have a child.
So they can have only 1 SS child, or none, or 2, or 3, or even everytime. It just depends on their luck.
I've known families that have up to 3 SS kids out of 5 kids, some died.
And its a NIGHTMARE.

The mere risk of having a HbSS child is enough to turn off any AS couple from marrying.
There is a way around it, if they decide to marry, but its absolutely not one I would recommend, because it involves abortion. They test the child in the womb in the early stages, and if it is SS, they abort it. If it is not, they keep it.

You just open your mouth and talk out of blatant ignorance.
Please, if you are not informed about a condition, its better to keep quiet on it, than to open your mouth and spread uninformed views that are potentially harmful.

I'm so passionate about this because i've actually seen, and managed, several SS children in my time....and its not something nice to see.
I've also lost classmates to SS disease at various stages when growing up.

OP, pls, the earlier you break up, the better for you two, so that you can get over it and find another life partner.
The love you feel now, will clear by the time you are faced with the physical, emotional and financial hassles of raising an SS child, coupled with the pain of seeing your child in writhing in agony and you cant do anything about it.....and knowing that you could have avoided it at some point in time or the other.
No parent in this present time should have to bring in an SS child into this world.
Our parents had the excuse of ignorance....now we know better.

My 2 cents.
***Speaking from an informed opinion***.

Thank you so much...