| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by nnamdibig(m): 4:26pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
jaybee3:
It was very necessary and apt in this circumstance ma’am. We’ve stated at various times that they’ve been consulted and they did send us a likely cost associated with treating the patient for our initial suggested diagnosis.
The diagnosis has now changed and it has been confirmed by various doctors.
I also stated in one of my updates that there are various risks associated with flying him out to India when they simply can’t cure him especially since the case is already at stage 4.
We didn’t sign a contract with them nor suggest we intended to do so at the time of our engagement with them
Our evaluation of the whole situation in consultation with the doctors working with us has enabled us decide on the best approach going forward hence the insistence on palliative treatment.
Palliative treatment has the same meaning everywhere. He has a terminal disease and our approach is to improve his quality of life by ensuring the treatment he receives going forward is adequate as well sufficient enough to help alleviate some of his pains.
From this, TeHN with the doctors they are working with have sentenced Hammed to PALLIATIVE TREATMENT which is to the best of their knowledge. But you guys should also think of this.... There are testimonies of successful treatment of stage 4 cancer on this tread and you guys should think of it. And what if you guys are wrong in sentencing this guy to just palliative treatment instead of looking for a final solution to his alignment that is available  People are willing to help this guy but u guys are not allowing them. WHY 7 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 4:39pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
gbadexy:
my understanding of his explanation is that they already got the full details but couldnt post freely cos of who may also be reading it so they drop hints hoping we would grab it but we are still asking for the clear picture.
l can hopefully assume their decision which appears made is informed by information they are privy to but couldnt share due to its sensitivity.
Even at that though, tehn is supposed to be a charity organisation and not a corporate brand giving short impersonal and i daresay rude response to posters like maingate.
Telling us you were simply asking a question or giving response by typing "thanks for your concern" as if he is an amebo would be insulting our intelligence.
A more diplomatic response should have sufficed and you people should learn the virtue of patience when relating with the public. Actually you are wrong!!! As i have said earlier, i apologise if you guys feel offended and we are working on all suggestions and advice. What we all want is for Hameed to be okay. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by pickabeau1: 4:39pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Themaingate It is unfair to state that there would have been a higher level of accountability if we had personal contributions into the fund Each fund raised is treated with a duty of care as expected for peoples monies Also if you did not know, we also contributed financially, with time and materially also This is to disabuse your mind that actions are different because it is not 'our money'. That is wrong What do you suggest going forward ... as u have rightly noted, funds are limited
Themaingate:
allowing TeHN take over this case was a big mistake on our part because most of us never new they are not ready for change
This same people have made lots of mistakes in the past yet we decided to ignore those mistake and forge ahead
One thing i am 100% sure of is that if all these fund have come from their purse probably they would have being more accountable and reasonable
when donation was coming in on a daily basis , this thread was always updated every week sometimes 2-3times in a week but now its now a thing of secrecy and that is the problem with the average black man
Now their new method is using the term Palliative care which means when a patient reaches a point at which treatment to destroy the cancer is no longer warranted, palliative care becomes the total focus of care. It will continue to be given to alleviate the symptoms and emotional issues of cancer. Palliative care providers can help ease the transition to end-of-life care.
which means there are lots of information at their disposal that they are not feeding us with
A team that even its member could not coordinate themselves
A team that does not carry its followers alone
A team that kick against all suggestion without looking back
My only question is that if that donation get exhausted WHAT WILL BE THE NEXT ACTION PLAN ? COME BACK TO THIS FORUM TO ASK FOR MORE MONEY OR ABANDON AHMED?
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| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 4:40pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
GUYS PLEASE!!!!!!
HABA!! |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 5:07pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
pickabeau1:
Themaingate
It is unfair to state that there would have been a higher level of accountability if we had personal contributions into the fund
Each fund raised is treated with a duty of care as expected for peoples monies
Also if you did not know, we also contributed financially, with time and materially also
This is to disabuse your mind that actions are different because it is not 'our money'. That is wrong
What do you suggest going forward ... as u have rightly noted, funds are limited
To be honest with you if ahmed were to be my brother i will fight to the end to find a final solution to his problem inasmuch as i have people around me who can help and not use the useless Palliative care these TeHN guys are talking about . THEY HAVE ALREADY PULL THE PLUG AND JUST LOOKING FOR A WAY TO TELL THE HOUSE . Even if they have consulted a doctor before arriving at this Palliative care ARE THEY NOT SUPPOSE TO SEEK THE OPINION OF THIS HOUSE IF ITS OKAY WITH US OR NOT ? WHY MAKE A CONCLUSION THAT STAGE 4 CANCER HAS NO SOLUTION ? 6 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by nnamdibig(m): 5:18pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Themaingate:
To be honest with you if ahmed were to be my brother i will fight to the end to find a final solution to his problem inasmuch as i have people around me who can help and not use the useless Palliative care these TeHN guys are talking about . THEY HAVE ALREADY PULL THE PLUG AND JUST LOOKING FOR A WAY TO TELL THE HOUSE .
Even if they have consulted a doctor before arriving at this Palliative care ARE THEY NOT SUPPOSE TO SEEK THE OPINION OF THIS HOUSE IF ITS OKAY WITH US OR NOT ? WHY MAKE A CONCLUSION THAT STAGE 4 CANCER HAS NO SOLUTION ? |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Funjosh(m): 5:23pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Make una break down all these terminologies na  |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 5:27pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Themaingate:
To be honest with you if ahmed were to be my brother i will fight to the end to find a final solution to his problem inasmuch as i have people around me who can help and not use the useless Palliative care these TeHN guys are talking about . THEY HAVE ALREADY PULL THE PLUG AND JUST LOOKING FOR A WAY TO TELL THE HOUSE .
Even if they have consulted a doctor before arriving at this Palliative care ARE THEY NOT SUPPOSE TO SEEK THE OPINION OF THIS HOUSE IF ITS OKAY WITH US OR NOT ? WHY MAKE A CONCLUSION THAT STAGE 4 CANCER HAS NO SOLUTION ? That is not a nice thing to say....we are all human  Every suggestion you made has been taken on board including the India stuff and every email you send has been replied. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Caracta(f): 5:29pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Funjosh:
Make una break down all these terminologies na I tell you... Having headache already. I don't know why my mind is finding it difficult to process the whole stuff. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by pickabeau1: 5:42pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
So what do you suggest Themaingate:
To be honest with you if ahmed were to be my brother i will fight to the end to find a final solution to his problem inasmuch as i have people around me who can help and not use the useless Palliative care these TeHN guys are talking about . THEY HAVE ALREADY PULL THE PLUG AND JUST LOOKING FOR A WAY TO TELL THE HOUSE .
Even if they have consulted a doctor before arriving at this Palliative care ARE THEY NOT SUPPOSE TO SEEK THE OPINION OF THIS HOUSE IF ITS OKAY WITH US OR NOT ? WHY MAKE A CONCLUSION THAT STAGE 4 CANCER HAS NO SOLUTION ? |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 5:45pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Caracta:
I tell you...
Having headache already. I don't know why my mind is finding it difficult to process the whole stuff. . Calm down, drink a glass of cold water and juice  , you will be able to decipher all the medical stuff...  ..joke apart l am also confused about the whole palliative care talk, l wish Dj recuperates fast and be on his feet....although, it is a stage 4 cancer, l believe all hope is not lost.... |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Just20(f): 5:51pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
jaybee3:
Palliative treatment has the same meaning everywhere. He has a terminal disease and our approach is to improve his quality of life by ensuring the treatment he receives going forward is adequate as well sufficient enough to help alleviate some of his pains.
oh dear Lord Jesus have mercy... |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by jaybee3(m): 5:57pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
@ALL
This is the time to give Hammed all your support and words of encouragement. We have not giving up nor seal his faith. He is to start his chemo sessions very soon and we remain hopeful that it will yield desired results.
Thanks for all your support 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by jaybee3(m): 6:03pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
gbadexy:
For the sake of accountability, can we have records of monies spent and how much is left from the money raised for hamed.
ls it also possible to empower his mum or family from whats left so that it atleast gives him a level of comfort that his family are doing well.
And what form exactly would the pallative take. if he would be home it would be good if i may say so so that he can be around family and save unnecessary cost. We will surely provide financial statements to the last kobo as soon as we are able to. We are also considering the empowerment/comfortability route for Hammed but we can't put that into planning until we have a good estimate of cost his proposed treament will incur. 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 6:39pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
jaybee3:
@ALL
This is the time to give Hammed all your support and words of encouragement. We have not giving up nor seal his faith. He is to start his chemo sessions very soon and we remain hopeful that it will yield desired results.
Thanks for all your support Thanks for this update God will see Him through Financial implications nko |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by olu4life(m): 7:08pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
gbadexy:
my understanding of his explanation is that they already got the full details but couldnt post freely cos of who may also be reading it so they drop hints hoping we would grab it but we are still asking for the clear picture.
l can hopefully assume their decision which appears made is informed by information they are privy to but couldnt share due to its sensitivity.
Even at that though, tehn is supposed to be a charity organisation and not a corporate brand giving short impersonal and i daresay rude response to posters like maingate.
Telling us you were simply asking a question or giving response by typing "thanks for your concern" as if he is an amebo would be insulting our intelligence.
A more diplomatic response should have sufficed and you people should learn the virtue of patience when relating with the public. Seems u didn't follow up about d meaning of d so called palliatives TEHN is talking about. Babyosisi and other few peeps have stated d meaning. And like I said earlier,I am noting what they said and holding on to it. Seems all those who talked about personal experiences on this are been disregarded instead of listening to them first before concluding its thrash |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by gbadexy(m): 7:09pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
jaybee3:
@ALL
This is the time to give Hammed all your support and words of encouragement. We have not giving up nor seal his faith. He is to start his chemo sessions very soon and we remain hopeful that it will yield desired results.
Thanks for all your support Thanks for this update. May God almighty heal him. |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by gbadexy(m): 7:21pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
olu4life:
Seems u didn't follow up about d meaning of d so called palliatives TEHN is talking about. Babyosisi and other few peeps have stated d meaning. And like I said earlier,I am noting what they said and holding on to it. Seems all those who talked about personal experiences on this are been disregarded instead of listening to them first before concluding its thrash l know the meaning and implication of the term all right. There is definitely room for improvement. i'm happy that concrete treatment plan is made for him as indicated in the last update and not just pumping him with sedatives or analgesics to alleviate pains. @ maingate, is it possible for the white doctor willing to examine hamed to pay him a visit instead thats if he is still around. and does that suggestion go down well with tehn. since the doctor indicated willingness we should just try that option also so we would know we covered all options. 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by emmysexxy(f): 7:35pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
jaybee3:
Are you their Nigerian Sales Rep?
Why should we call them to inform them that we aren't interested in their service since we haven't entered any agreement with them?
na wao that's very harsh must u guys insult and drive every one trying to help dj ni?God please this is the time we and dj need you more.cause as I can see man can't help but you.I decree divine healing from the crown of your head to the sole of your feet,anywhere u maybe that we don't know amen. 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by rayo2002: 7:42pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Everyone should please calm down. The last update TeHN gave was that they were working with his doctors to start chemo as that would be the same treatment he would be given in India. If there's no additional information yet, what update are you expecting? Babyosisi also cautioned about rep hospitals of so many so called specialist centers.
Chemo is the next step. It seems they are yet to get the estimate of how much the treatment will cost so please take it easy. And for the person saying that it was a mistake getting TeHN involved, very good. I hope u all remember this when the next case arises. My advice to TeHN, don't take any more medical cases please. 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by emmysexxy(f): 7:59pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by samtol4(m): 8:18pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks HE NEEDS PRAYERS NOT INFORMATION,Madam increase your prayers for him , will your info heal him? If not. Don't share it .Your information is not helping matters at this crucial time .Last time you said if something is not done" within two weeks" ..bla bla bla. God heal DJ in JESUS NAME and Let d blood of JESUS perfect his healing in Jesus name . 3 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by samtol4(m): 8:22pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
rayo2002:
Everyone should please calm down. The last update TeHN gave was that they were working with his doctors to start chemo as that would be the same treatment he would be given in India. If there's no additional information yet, what update are you expecting? Babyosisi also cautioned about rep hospitals of so many so called specialist centers.
Chemo is the next step. It seems they are yet to get the estimate of how much the treatment will cost so please take it easy. And for the person saying that it was a mistake getting TeHN involved, very good. I hope u all remember this when the next case arises. My advice to TeHN, don't take any more medical cases please. GOD bless TEHNS your efforts won't be in vain In Jesus name and DJ will be healed in JESUS NAME |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Nobody: 8:35pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks . Are you saying you have additional infos more than the update from TeHN . |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by emmysexxy(f): 8:47pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
samtol4:
HE NEEDS PRAYERS NOT INFORMATION,Madam increase your prayers for him , will your info heal him? If not. Don't share it .Your information is not helping matters at this crucial time .Last time you said if something is not done" within two weeks" ..bla bla bla. God heal DJ in JESUS NAME and Let d blood of JESUS perfect his healing in Jesus name . point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles. 2 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by jaybee3(m): 8:56pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles. What specific suggestions do you have ma'am? Just so you know, we've been (physically) with Hammed all day and we certainly don't have any cause for alarm |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by r231(m): 8:56pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles. but my team sees him everyday and still with him right now as i am speaking so what are you talking about really 5 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by samtol4(m): 9:06pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles. I have not madam but the Tehns representatives said they are with him .Please what is your suggestion?what are you seeing that others can't see? "We need to act fast"ACT IN WHICH WAY? Go straight to the point and the tehns will welcome your suggestions .stay blessed |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Caracta(f): 9:14pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
point noted sir thanks for the advice.but to be clear prayer without deeds is useless.I pray and fast as much as I can for dj but we still need to do things fast to perfect his healing.but I never said he had two weeks to live I was only advicing something be done fast so his case does not get critical.sir pls have u seen dj one on one?if you have hen you wouldn't say am blabbing thanks and God bless our struggles. You've started again.... Post whatever you have to say here and stop giving people reasons not to trust TEHN or having doubts. How do you expect someone with stage 4 cancer to look? Robust and healthy...bouncing and playing football? Have you been following the thread at all? What do you suggest? If you really care about him, let us have the way forward. Bring your input to the table. 11 Likes |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Busybody2(f): 9:40pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks Hey hey hey Emmysexxy, I understand the rollercoaster of emotions you are going through, the feeling of being misconstrued, the feeling you can never say anything right, the frustration of feeling muffled, etc, but take heart in this update from Tehn below in bold, Jaybee has said there is no cause for alarm... so leave the rest to God and hope in the best dear... Again sending you lots of (((hugs)))... @Uncle Fhemmmy Motos, I will reply you later Sir... jaybee3:
What specific suggestions do you have ma'am?
Just so you know, we've been (physically) with Hammed all day and we certainly don't have any cause for alarm |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by taryour(f): 9:58pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks And you show up again!!! The fact that you had some traces of lies in your earlier post like when you registered and your reasons for registering and saying it was your first ever post on this thread,whereas you had been posting for so long, and your lack of emotions as the way you were putting DJ state like you have no blood in your vains. This reasons excatly extacly will not make ME/some people on this thread belive you!!! Now you know a life is at stake and remember God. Biko quit with all this private mails you want sent to you, what is your problem? If you can't put what the so called info you got here them by all means unfollow this thread and stop feeling like one very important informant jare. @Tehn well done guys. @DJ please don't give up brother,God remains on the throne. 1 Like |
| Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by ochon: 9:59pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
emmysexxy:
When I was trying to say something that will help hammed you all insulted me and my family you also went ahead and banned me from speaking.I have a lot of things to say but I can't cause am scared of bashing from you guys when you know that what everyone of us want is for dj to get better.@babyosisi,busybody,chaircover,olu4life,idowu,caracter,gboliwe I think you guys started this case from the begining pls mail me I have something to tell you guys so that we can look for a way fforward.I know I might be banned again but who cares?a bread winner life is at stake.as yourself what if dj is my brother and he is the one training me in school or if he is not around I will have to survive by myself.I still pray healing upon your soul dj.nothing is impossible for God to do.note you are free to mail me and ask sensible questions buT dnt exspect me tto tell u what tehn can't update at least I owe them that respect.thanks From the first day (this year) you made your presence known on this thread, you've harped on and on about this "additional info" that you have which none of us knows about, including TeHN that's been with DJ up till today. When asked that you provide this info, you didn't. I'm angry with you, because I expected you to have passed this info to TeHN via mail or posted it on this thread. What's this info that you complain about but refuse to share? We're not kids!! Say it out in the open, if heaven will fall, let it fall!! There's nothing our eyes will see/read and bleed blood. Say it out loud. Stop hiding it. If you can't, then keep it to yourself. |
