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Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by 53cur3m0d3(m): 5:27am On Jan 23, 2015 |
IdiAmin1:Well said bro! 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Trippledots(m): 5:46am On Jan 23, 2015 |
sounds so much like someone i know on fb.....wish u goodluck anyway |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 5:48am On Jan 23, 2015 |
thank you much for your good and gracious comments. I will try that definitely. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 5:52am On Jan 23, 2015 |
No my husband doesn't have a facebook page, he did, but someone took it over and so he just decided he didn't need it. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by otipoju(m): 6:26am On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: That accent is a serious issue. Having to repeat everything you said and me not hearing you well the first time.. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by deor03(m): 6:32am On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: Most likely you are married to someone who needs a green card to stay in the US OR Married to a man still trying to get his feet on the ground, so a little distracted trying to do that. If it's the former, please get ready to endure the ups and downs till he eventually dumps you But the latter, there might be a green light at the end of the tunnel. However , judging from how you met , to what's you've said so far , higher chances are , you are being used as a means to an end. By the way , I hope you know there are different classes of visa, so the fact that he has a visa doesn't rule out the fact that he might not be genuine. Just have PATIENCE , I wish you GOODLUCK 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by passionate88: 6:41am On Jan 23, 2015 |
jennyomalicha12:@bolded, most people don't behave as we do here on Nairaland... So you mean to say that once people meet on any social network that relationship will fail? 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by passionate88: 6:49am On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1:I think coming here was a BIG mistake... Some Nigerians (especially the females) think that Nigerian guys only marry for the papers when in a foreign land (cos they only marry for the cash anywhere they are) 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by chigoizie7(m): 7:10am On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: U might not be. Violent in action,maybe otherwise, as nigerians, we always want to be in-charge, emotionally,financially and otherwise. As u clearly stated, he desperately needs a job(that fact that he is jobless alone nd can't cater for his family s driving him nuts) he just want to be away from u so as to get himself settled. As much as u want him to be patient, u also need to be patient with him as well(allow him get a job). Please and please, never ever remind him were he is coming from. It hurts a lot and we don't forget that in a haste. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by MsNas(f): 7:11am On Jan 23, 2015 |
passionate88:Not think, I know so. I've seen this kinds of scenario way too many times. A lot (not all) of Nigerian men marry for papers. The OP claimed she's American, but I'm having a hard time believing that. The story itself is so disjointed and not adding up. How will a man who obviously doesn't have papers and is married to you.... a USC, just up and leave like that? Weird. OP said she speaks to his family? Darling, if the story itself is true then talking to the family of a Nigerian man does not mean jackshit! They know their son, brother, nephew, uncle or whatnot is stringing you along yet they pull you in for a ride. Especially when they know what their person stands to gain from marrying you. I've seen many Nigerian/White, Nigerian/African American marriages and all are with language barriers of itself, yet they are surviving. Saying he left you cos of the language barrier is weird. And you haven't even been married for that long o. So many loopholes in the story, it makes my head ache 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Sunymoore(m): 7:24am On Jan 23, 2015 |
I dont have any idea about this, but may your marriage be sorted soon. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by FredHandsome(m): 9:09am On Jan 23, 2015 |
passionate88:Don't mind them. That's why most unreasonable ladies treat people badly just because they met on social networks. Imagine her statement: "social network is just for fun"! What a miserable mentality! Let them Keep playing 'fun' and let good men keep eluding them... 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by babs50g: 10:32am On Jan 23, 2015 |
@ggratia. It's always good to go for someone with the same GOAL ,ASPIRATION, AND INTEREST |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by LewisO: 11:04am On Jan 23, 2015 |
jennyomalicha12:The problem u have, is lack of good advice, how did what u typed here pattern with with the topic? why would have come with such tirade conclusion typing crap? ( Social network is just for fun, he is 100% fake and he is hiding a lot of things He believes on material things- leave him and find the true love) that gat no point because u had been heartbroken by a wayward guy online doesn't gives u the silly right to come online and spit rubbish!!! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 11:18am On Jan 23, 2015 |
I have read through all your comments OP. First he was browsing on a dating site on his wedding night?! because he is bored- off all the days in his life to be bored it is on his wedding night?! haba? Someone took over his facebook page? He had a good paying job with a so called company callled Purple Rain- i bet such company doesn't exist. Never heard of it. From my observations you are sooooo in love you cannot read in between the lines. The man's story is simply not adding up at all. You are just ready to believe any story he throws at you hook line and sinker. As a citizen, Once you are dating someone without work permit/ papers you have to be extremely careful and cautious so you don't allow yourself to be used for papers. You said you dated this guy for weeks only before marrying. In my opinion i believe you are being lied to and being used. He doesn't love you as much as you love him. If he did he wont be treating you this way. That man is not truthful, honest or even straightforward. If you had dated him longer you would have seen this traits. Sorry for what you are going through. 3 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 12:00pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
tosomaju: Mtchewww |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Sprintson(m): 1:39pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1:ur coming here isnt a mistake,jux get close to ur bible n tlk to GOD abt it.....let him know you ve changed n wnt him home. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by BukkyDan(f): 2:02pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: ![]() ![]() On a more serious note...since you have a good relationship with his family; they should know him more...ask them for help...or more still Pray and Pray some more. I pray things turn out fine |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1:I pray he comes back 2u. Please when he does, do treat him as a king and you will be treated as a queen. Your situation is normal with most marriages, but during this turbulence what you need is prayers and humility to get things back. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 4:33pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: Sorry. The tangled webs we weave. It sounds like you have done your bit. Step back now. The ball is in his court. Do not let that man drive you to early grave. Not worth it. Btw: did you rush things? I mean did you spend some time getting to know the real him? You may have missed some red flags. It happens. Just saying...... 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by DieeDiee: 6:03pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
Problem 1: you married someone you met on the net and only knew only for a few weeks Problem 2: you married a Nigerian Problem 3: you married someone you met on the net and knew only for a few weeks Problem 4: you married a Nigerian Problem 5: you didn't take the due diligence to familiarize yourself with his customs, principles and beliefs My dear Nigerian men believe in submission for him that's "good wife material" if you are not the type then you are honestly wasting your time. Your husband's actions show he does not love you and was probably using for a visa. Tip for next time: an African man if he truly loves you and is serious about you will first introduce you to his family before marrying you. 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by DieeDiee: 6:37pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1: No what you wanted was people to fuel your fantasy. You know the truth but are deliberately blinding yourself. We can only tell you how we honestly see your situation. You obviously love the man and for your sake I hope he finds it in his heart to eventually love you. You remind me of an ex who married a german woman. He told me he eventually divorced her because he could no longer live a lie. The worst was when they went to bed and the times she tried to be loving to him. He always found excuses to be away from her because he couldn't stand her. 3 months? That's still honeymoon phase, you two should be making your friends and family sick with your love but instead you are miserable and lonely. Be honest with yourself, also think about the example you are setting for your son. A man acting like this is just not cool and it has nothing to do with culture. Your husband is a coward and a douche plain and simple (I apologise if I sound rude). A real man never runs away from his family no matter what. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by omotogoodo(m): 7:00pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
Hi grattia, I've been following your post for some time now. At first, all I noticed was "My Nigerian husband" and after some pages I saw "My Nigerian Igbo husband". Believe you me, I'm not surprised at all. I wouldn want to sound cynical or bias, but I must say this, igbo husbands are very egocentric, Not all of them though. But most of them are. I'm speaking fact here, I have heard even igbo ladies say this plus 70 percent of my friends are igbo. You share in the blame 1. You didn't know who you got married to. Mind you, when I said 'know' I meant really getting to know someone. His habits, temperament, eccentricities, personality, edges and much other stuffs. 2. I guess you guys didn't lay a solid godly foundation for your relationship. But it still boils down to ego. There's nothing too big for God to handle. Commit your marriage to the hands of God. Bonne chance! 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 7:22pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
DieeDiee: Mmm hmm. Yup yup. Couldnt have said it any better. Capital douche bag IMHO. The truth (should) sting sometimes. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Beebee88: 11:33pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
ggratia1:A problem shared is a problem solved I can teach you everything you need to do to make a Nigerian man happy,there are many ways to a man's heart. Message me |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by tosomaju(m): 8:21pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
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Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 8:27pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
tosomaju: What's that ![]() |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Monicasque(f): 9:16pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
M sorry honey bt i doubt dat u r realy american coz yo grammar just aint american sugar, bt if u r answer these questions and lets try come up with a solution 4 u. How long have u guys been married? U said he was in texas wen yal met, bt u later said he left his lagos job for u, where is the truth in dat? U said he was blaming u bcoz he wasnt getting his visa and all, bt u later said he has a visa? Dnt make sense to me. Okay how long did it take after yo marriage for him to get the visa? If all wat u r saying is true, i think u better accept dat brother man might have married u for the green card and now he dnt need u nomore. How is he taking care of his parents in nigeria if he aint working? Is he the only child dey got? Sister girl, there is a possibility dat dis man might actualy b taking care of his wife n kids in nigeria. Aint noway a 42 year old man who had a good job in nigeria can nt b married.honey face it, u r nt needed anymore. Cut yo losses and go back to the dating site. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Boland(m): 10:05pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
The man doesn't love you. A man that really loves you won't punish you this way. Don't allow anyone to deceive you, or fuel your fantasy (like someone said earlier). It's quite obvious that the man is hiding something, why do you think he left you, you think it's your fault? It is not your fault dear. My guess is that he thought he might fall in love with you, and for that to happen, he would have to trick himself into believing that. So all the love and care he showered on you during the 3 months of your marriage prolly means he ie trying to love you and when he figured that its not working, he left. You sound like a nice person ready to sacrifice all for her marriage but I'm sorry to say dear, your husband ain't worth the stress. He met you, liked you, saw that you are nice and could possibly help in some ways, married you thinking he will eventually love you, figured the whole thing is not working and left. Why do you think he was flirting online on your wedding night? He's not bored dear, he's lying. Everything he told you don't just feel right, you said his facebook account got hacked or something. Sweetheart, that's a big lie. Don't be too blind by love to see all these flops dear. Count your loss and move on. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by tosomaju(m): 11:15pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Justfollowit: try use Google translator. |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Re: I Can't Seem To Communicate With My New Nigerian Igbo Husband. by tosomaju(m): 11:25pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Justfollowit:really? then use Google map |
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