xtraordinaire:
I have been married for 6yrs with 2 kids but d fact stil remains that my husband flirts alot.On several occassions,I havppe tried to talk it out with him to an extent of arranging a table for two with him to tell me what i did wrong inorder to make peace but he keeps saying i didnt offend him n he promised to change this year so i was happy.Just last Saturday,a lady which identified herself as his girlfriend started cursing me on phone telling that why didi i want to kill myself because of dick that did i know how many ladies my husband sleept n stil sleeping with?She started cursing but i cutj d phone n she sent a message that it i. STD dt kill my.husband.That was when i now remembered he had STD sometimes ago but told me to see d doc claiming dt he contracted it from me but unfortunately i didnt have it.My reason for explaining all these is for nairalanders to pls give sinscere advice on what to do because my plan is to seperate myself from him because it got worse as i have a very good job.Thank you.

elantraceey:
My dear save yourself and leave that man the earlier the better , i used to be strictly against divorce but right now i've changed my stance on tgat because of the kind of men we see this days (there are still good ones though so don't get me wrong ) But did you tell him about the call and if you did what was his response?

EfemenaXY:


I can almost hear him laughing at you.

The choice is yours: An alive Ms. or a dead Mrs.

Which is it?

andromida:
I wonder why this man married. He does not believe in monogamy why stitch himself up in marriage instead of living freely to sex up as many women as his heart desires.

I am sorry about your pains I hope you come to a decision that makes you happy.

MymothersKeeper:
Get him free of the disease and keep an eye on him but u can't leave ur man cos of other women , only if he takes you for granted then you gon for ja

MymothersKeeper:
Get him free of the disease and keep an eye on him but u can't leave ur man cos of other women , only if he takes you for granted then you gon for ja

Timbuktou:
OP, too bad your husband lacks class and discretion. Feel free to divorce him but, don't forget to leave the kids on your way out.

smokescreen4:
op if you decide to leave go with your kids.

DBestDoc:


Are you for real?
Please take your time and read what the op wrote and come back and judge for yourself if your post makes any sense.

So her cheating husband is not taking her for granted? Cheating is one of the highest forms of disrespect any man can give to his woman incase you didn't know.

The bolded got me laughing real hard, she should get him free of the disease and keep an eye on him as if he is an object

Goodluck my dear friend

Miami11:

You are a knuckle head, what kind of advice is this.
You want this woman to die of some illness or get beat up by this mans many ashawos to a point of death, and so she should never leave her man.

Timbuktou:
Yup, the man would just allow her take them like they're hers. Abi, you go help am kill the husband? Seems like something you'd have no qualms with.

smokescreen4:

Lol kill the husband? I guess you checked my previous post I didn't say she should leave, I said if she decides to leave she should take her kids, you know a chronic womanizer cannot take care of kids he will need the services of his numerous women, and it wouldn't help the kids upbringing at the long run, make we dey talk true abeg, I didn't kill my friend's husband oh.

Timbuktou:


I'm not sure a womaniser would be unable to take care of children, even a non-womaniser would find it difficult. It's not like he spends every minute of his life with women. He can always find a level-headed woman to care for his children. By the way, the kids belong to both parents not just the wife.

No, I didn't think you killed your friend's husband. Maybe, erm, you, erm, you know...

smokescreen4:

1. Me and the sexy rich young widow are innocent o,

2. Tim if your sister was married to a chronic womaniser what advice would you give her if she came to you?

5minsmadness:
@xtraordinaire

Now that the female folk have sympathized with you adequately, I wish to have my say.

It appears you married a chronic cheat and womanizer. You have lived under this situation for a while which shows you are an accomodating wife. Not all women will endure what you have endud. Kudos to you.Thanks for your comments but d facts stil remains dt hes not ready to change because presently hes making jest of me dt am too jealous but deep down in my heart am pitying him.

Your man promised you that he will stop womanizing this year . Apparently his efforts are yielding fruit that is why one of his ashawos outside has called you out of frustration to release his pen1s for them. They will do all they can to upset you so that you will leave your house and your man will go crawling back to them. Its like 'if we cant have him, his wife won't enjoy him too'. That's what they are doing. They are bringing up past mistakes like the STD to get you emotional and leave him so they can have chance. If you leave you are playing right into their hands.

My advice.

Get him screened for HIV and STDs. Any hospital can do this for you and its not expensive. Also tell him he will be doing his HIV screening every 6months. This will keep him aware of the dangers of flirting outside. There is no test men fear more than HIV test.

Secondly, be prepared for more calls. The longer he stays indoors with you, the more his oloshos are going to get angry. No more sex from him, no more favours or money from him. They will find a way to get your number and call. But eventually when they see you are not budging they will leave him and go after other fish.

Thirdly. This man has made a habit of womanising for years. He has resolved he wont do so this year. You stuck around all the other years, why leave now that he has resolved to change? Its like a bad habit, its not easy to break even if he means to change from his heart. I'm sorry to say he might fall one more time. Be prepared for this. It may not happen o, but prepare yourself emotionally for it if it does. If it does happen teach him a lesson he will never forget, let him see you very angry etc but deep down be prepared to forgive him after he has suffered small. This will strengthen his resolve to stay with you and have a deep respect for you.

Some women marry faithful men who later in marriage become unfaithful. Some marry womanizers who later in marriage realise that all is vanity and stop their outside exploits. I think yours is the latter and I pray it works out ok for both of you in the end.

All the best.

Timbuktou:


1. Hmm. Ok.

2. I'd ask to speak to her husband and ask him to be discreet.

smokescreen4:
Lol no wonder women are not just sitting and watching helplessly, most of them are getting their groove on and they are very very discreet I tell you.

Timbuktou:
Well, they're free to do as they please. However, any woman caught in being 'discreet will have herself to blame. There will be no leniency till she reaches her father's house.

HizMissy:

And any man caught being discreet will be given a round of applause...
Its a man's world sha.