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The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 1:44pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Dating is good, it exposes both of you. You know yourselves better, and yes, no one is perfect, but you are aware of each other's imperfections, you work to adjust it. I know many people will argue that dating helps you to know the right man or woman-there is actually no perfect one, dating only helps us to get familar with each other, along with our good and bad sides. Because of that argument, people continue to jump from one girl/boy to another in search of mr or mrs right, and most times this search is frustrating because non of those you meet seem to be right in your perception, so who then is the right or perfect one? Are you perfect to start with? At the end of the day, we hurt ourselves instead of finding what we desired. You feel guilty of your past deeds. Especially the females, you remember all the rough play you had with some guys back then, and you feel guilty. You may develope feelings for your past lovers, and then you may just cheat. This can kill your marriage, you know. You may be ashamed of some people you dated before, especially when you attain greatness. 118 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by ArchEnemy(m): 1:52pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Well done op, there are some simple points to note -Never ever date someone you cannot marry. Dont even do it for the dating experience...it may ve complications - Look before you leap.Dont jump into dating just because of mere attraction, do a brief study and know if the person is your type. If not,One day the scales are going to fall from your eyes and then dislike will overtake the lust. 52 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by xpac01(m): 1:53pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Nice one. But all these effects only sets in if the person in question has a sound conscience. I've met lots of people who don't give a damn about the past and not even the future. Smh for them sha. 22 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Poindexter: 1:57pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
That's for people with conscience. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by elantraceey(f): 1:59pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
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Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 2:06pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
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Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Mutuwa(m): 2:08pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
NiceMan4: Out of expirence i presume? Well in most cases,you are always not in control of your dating escapades.Many factors may warrant you dating more than one girl.its natural and indispensable in most cases. Good write up tho. 18 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 2:12pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
And the rule is, never date a guy or girl you know you cannot marry at all.... You don't just jump to date someone, you observe first. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
99% of everyone on earth won't get married to their "first love." Yes, welcome to reality. 56 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 2:25pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
MzNelly:I got married to mine. ![]() 51 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 2:31pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
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Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Brymo: 2:38pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
elantraceey:howdy, i read ur diary, it was nice most especially d hillsong aspect. I was seriously anticipating, oceans (where feet may fail) among those songs. Before i could take it off repeat, it took months. Just saying hi. 1 Like |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Brymo: 2:41pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
When ur first love is ur last love, it must have bin thru a rhema. It is usually very hard, sowie for tryin to derail at d first. ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 2:51pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
MzNelly:Yea thanks indeed very rare. Destiny brought us back together. |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 2:57pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
MzNelly:Wrong statistics Wrong orientation 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 3:00pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
rokiatu:You wouldn't had been happy like this without him. |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by elantraceey(f): 3:07pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Brymo: Hi dearie , thanks , i love the song too but i guess i know it to much that's why i didn't put down the lyrics ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
NiceMan4:lol I don't relate my happiness to only a man really, I believe we are solely responsible for our own happiness. But no doubt he make my life brighter, he's a wonderful guy. I couldn't ask for better. But I'd don't think am happy because he's my first love but rather because he's the man for me. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 3:09pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
NiceMan4: Lol ![]() Life is not white and grey, anymore. The times have changed. This is OUR reality. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 3:14pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
rokiatu:Sounds romantic. Thats good. 2 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 3:28pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
MzNelly:I just understand you are being influenced by your experiences to hold that view. Actually, I'm aware of what OUR present reality is turning to be like, hence my advise. However, I know there are people (many) who still get married to their first love, not because they wanted to from the onset, but because of the overwhelming power of their bond as "new and fresh lovers", they can't afford to loose each other. I know you are aware of cases many people confess to still being attracted to their first love-well, its the work of first love chemistry, as I would term it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by InZA: 3:28pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
This is exactly in line with what I've been thinking for the past two days now..... I don't want to date who I'm not going to marry and I'm not going to date who I'm not going to marry. I may have a very spiritually coloured opinion or bias about this issue but the truth is, if you're a practising christain and you sincerely employ the help of the Holy Spirit, I believe he would lead you to whom is the best fit for you... The Holy Spirit is not a "player"... He is the Spirit of truth and He knows all things, including who would be best fitted for you to date and consequently marry. Very many people may frown at this mindset, but really it's the best way to go. It's just that we've become too " contemporary" and this has led us to wrongfully believe that we can do anything we want with our lives, that we can date anybody, court anybody, and marry anybody - So wrong. Some folk will just be jumping in and out of relationships, for reasons of I have to test this or that, I have to know if I'm sexually compatible with Mr Lion or Miss Cheetah... Talk like this is all BS. 34 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by Nobody: 3:53pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
NiceMan4: I'm not talking of experiences here; I'm talking of things I've seen. Many people? Truth be told, the only "first lovers" I've seen get married are my parents and...well, Mrs Rokiatu. Factors may warrant that "first lovers" who swear heaven and earth in promising not to leave each other still part ways and find, even greater happiness in someone else's arms. This whole "first love" issue is seriously overrated. And I stand here to say today, that THERE IS NOTHING SPECIAL ABOUT ONE'S FIRST LOVE. Are you still with yours? 29 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 6:18pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
MzNelly:I submit. 2 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by NiceMan4(m): 6:34pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
InZA:You blessed me this evening. 6 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by naijaboiy: 7:11pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Its possible for you to get married to your first Love. But I don't know if it's possible for the both of you to be together from the onset till you finally get married. Most times they separate and end up meeting other people that they may date for a while before fate brings them back together again. 30 Likes |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by InZA: 7:19pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
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Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by sekzy99(m): 7:47pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Abegi, na wash jare |
Re: The Effects Of Dating Who You'll Not Marry by vhickky(f): 8:22pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
It's very true....especially the guilt and hurt part....they both sucks,it truly pays to wait than to date around 6 Likes |
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