hello guys I really need your help on this.there is
this lady ve known for some years now due to
the fact that she was my classmate in my
secondary school days.now we are currently
serving am serving in abia while she at
sokoto.she called me and told me bluntly how
she feels about me and how madly in love she
with me,
I really appreciated her and she coming out
clean to tell me but I can't love I don't think I
can fall in love becos I don't understand how to
fall in love am just a normal guy who loves
writing and thinking.maybe nobody understand
by defination of love.whenever I try to fall in love
in fall in lust..she a lady I respect so much and I
don't want to disappoint her.pls how do I go
about it.....I know how to deal with other cases
but she? she z just too different a good friend is
better than a nice wife

She don find husband tire, nah to turn to available network ni

Since you know you can't fall in love and you don't wanna hurt her feelings then walk up to her and let her know you don't have it in mind to date her..... U can attach some little scope like telling her u are already in a relationship so you don't make her feel guilty over her expressing of feelings to you......... #NoGreeNoFight

hmmmm

She made a big mistake!

This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

olexjay:
Since you know you can't fall in love and you don't wanna hurt her feelings then walk up to her and let her know you don't have it in mind to date her..... U can attach some little scope like telling her u are already in a relationship so you don't make her feel guilty over her expressing of feelings to you......... #NoGreeNoFight

thanks bro will try it

rubey:
This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

not all .....so just don't work out

rubey:
She made a big mistake!

seriously my sis . Big mistake

temitemi1:
She don find husband tire, nah to turn to available network ni

.....badmouth......lol

dstnd:
thanks bro will try it

u are welcome

Pix of her madly in luv so that I can advise u..

Broz jst open up to her nd tell her u can't date her cous u did definitely break her hart..

I did same earlier diz month nd am sure she appreciated mii 4 dat..

menix:
Pix of her madly in luv so that I can advise u..

Broz jst open to her nd tell her u can't date her cous u did definitely break her hart..

I did same early diz month nd am sure she appreciated mii 4 dat..

.....thanks....am shy and scared of doing it I think u get me

rubey:
This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

Rubey, I don't think it's a bad idea if the lady sense d guy is the shy type. She can show glimpse of green light and If d guy is not bold enough, U can initiate a conversation to give d guy confidence to speak his mind.

Op u are a gud guy and my advice 4 u is find a genuine excuse like u are in a relationship. That's what I did 4 a lady whom I don't love but she loves me.

dstnd:
not all .....so just don't work out

Abegi! You guys are too useless for a lady to be the one showing affections at first

rubey:
This is why it is a bad idea for a lady to be the one approaching the guy and telling him how she feels!

Typical nigerian babe looking for one mistake, excuse and weakness not to be humble.

Now tell me "miss perfect".... how will she knw the dude never had feelings for her?

Do you think he is like those guys who lust rada dan love u


OP u have been honest with you self pls calmly and politely tell her you mindset but in a firm way

Thanks

It happens as its obvious you have shaped her to be more of the sisterly thingy and as such It will be difficult to delve through. Just let her understand how it is exactly and she should reason with you.

dstnd:
thanks bro will try it

What do u mean by try it? U will do it.

U really need to be honest with her, just tell her the plain truth.

rubey:


Abegi! You guys are too useless for a lady to be the one showing affections at first

wow...big word ...the irony of life is that I don't know what it feels to be a lady and you don't know what it feels to be a guy I give that to God.mind you nobody is useless including you.

rubey:
She made a big mistake!

is that why u haven't opened up to me.

rubey:
She made a big mistake!

is that why u haven't opened up to me?

skelefish:

What do u mean by try it? U will do it.

U really need to be honest with her, just tell her the plain truth.

.....okay

fattybombom:
is that why u haven't opened up to me?

.....lol....be prepared

Missmossy:
It happens as its obvious you have shaped her to be more of the sisterly thingy and as such It will be difficult to delve through. Just let her understand how it is exactly and she should reason with you.

You ar a virtuous lady with this word..nice advice

rubey:


Abegi! You guys are too useless for a lady to be the one showing affections at first

rubey:
She made a big mistake!

I agree wit u. Now he wuld begin 2 take her 4 granted

echobee:

seriously my sis . Big mistake

Sis I don't think she erred expressing herself, this is 2015 nd not 1995.
I pretty much understand d guy cous I somtym fall into such category when I ve issues confronting mii..

Sure doz guyz u turned down even afta emptying a bottle of dry gin jst to approach ve erred?

just tell ar u ar not intrested or give her some reasonable excuses

dstnd:
whenever I try to fall in love
in fall in lust.

i dont understand what u mean by that

immortalvoices:


You ar a virtuous lady with this word..nice advice

Thanks

Missmossy:
It happens as its obvious you have shaped her to be more of the sisterly thingy and as such It will be difficult to delve through. Just let her understand how it is exactly and she should reason with you.

Matured word..
If Nairaland had an E-shop wuld sharply pay 4 ur lunch.

dstnd:
.....thanks....am shy and scared of doing it I think u get me

Bro wait oo, ur problem shyness abii fallin in luv?
If its d later u can grow out of it cous u no shy reach mii then oo..

Since secondary school? Now she's in Sokoto while you're in Abia....Nna, don't worry urself na boredom dey worry her; activities no dey for Sokoto.