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14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Drmaverick: 1:58pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Below are 14 things no one will tell you about being in a long-distance relationship, except for someone who has already done it. 1. Congrats! You’ve got a free ticket to an emotional roller-coaster ride! Some days will be fine. You’ll just do all the usual stuff — go to work, catch up with friends for drinks, walk your dog and work out every day to look fit when you finally meet again. But there will be terrible days too. Days when you don’t want to get out of bed or do anything meaningful – except for embracing your pain and loneliness. Days when you seriously question your decision: “Is it worth it? Why am I doing this?”You’ll go from moments of tremendous joy together to hopelessly depressing thoughts on the night before your departure: “Will I survive another separation? I’m not sure how many more times my heart can be torn apart until it finally breaks!” 2. There will be a lot of tough choices to make So where are we heading? How do we see our future together? Should I leave everything and move to you? Is it worth it? Who will come and visit? When? Get used to the endless swirl of complicated questions you both need to answer honestly. 3. Your laptop is your real significant other At least for now. You will fall asleep with your beloved’s face on the screen. The first thing you’ll grab in the morning is your laptop to check if they’ve already sent you a sweet “Morning, sunshine!” email. You’ll put your laptop next to your plate so you can have dinner together. You’ll also get to know all the latest video, chat and photo exchange apps, all designed for couples who are apart. 4. Time will be your main enemy When you are together, you’ll savor each and every moment. You’ll plan to do all those amazing super-romantic couple things, or simply enjoy the warmth of actual hugs as long as possible. Yet, you will never get enough time. But once apart again, you’ll simply wish the clock ran faster: “Is it Friday already? So, there’s just 24 days left until I visit. Can I please wake up on day X?” 5. You will get more creative trying to fill up your time Always wanted to learn French? How about play tennis, enroll in a Japanese cooking class, or master ink drawing? This is a high time to find new hobbies and try new things. Keep your mind engaged and let it focus on learning new skills. Besides, isn’t it an awesome way to impress your partner when you finally catch up again? 6. There will be all sort of memory triggers that will cause you to randomly cry I thought I was emotionally strong. I was proved wrong. Numerous times. 7. It won’t get easier in time Even if you think you can get used to being apart and are now stoically waiting for when things get easier, they won’t. No matter how long you are in a long-distance relationship, you always miss your significant other like crazy. Revisit points #1 and #6 and accept that. 8. You learn to live in a twisted reality They’re never there, but they’re all yours. You spend too much time inside your head replaying all those sweet moments spent together, having all those daydreams and conversations. That’s odd. I know. 9. Your friends won’t be as supportive as you expect “OMG! So you’re like one year into a long-distance relationship? How do you cope with, you know … desire?”“Does your boyfriend even exist?” “Why don’t you find someone else to date?” Right. Why can’t a cat become a dog? 10. Long distance feels heavy Your partner won’t be around every time you desperately need them, not on one of those “bad days” when you are one step away from a yet another mental breakdown. Not on those days when you fail and need more support that any sweet words on Skype can convey. Eventually, you learn to cope with a lot of things on your own, and you grow stronger and more mature in the process. 11. Finding the time to visit is complicated You won’t be able to come and visit each and every weekend or month as you originally intended to. You still have different and conflicting commitments holding you back. (Or else you’d be sitting next to each other already, right?) And unless booked months in advance flights cost a pretty penny and get insanely expensive during holidays and vacation seasons. Exactly, those times when you are most likely to be able to visit. 12. When you finally meet again, you just pick up just where you’ve finished When you are together again, it seems like those ugly weeks apart never existed. Like you finally pressed “Play” and started living your perfect life again. At least until it’s time to go back home. 13. Eventually, you develop this odd feeling of sureness You will begin to consider that if you are not soul mates, why would both of you bother so much? Your relationship are definitely not about sex. Rather, you are like friends without benefits most of the time. You can talk over anything — hopes, fears, dreams, insecurities. Jealousy is just an empty word as you grow absolutely confident in your partner and yourself. 14. You know if you both see this through to the end, your relationship will survive anything As a couple you will develop this invisible, bulletproof bond. It will carry you through all sort of arguments and life difficulties. After all, if you survive the long-distance thing, everything else from then on will seem easily manageable! article written by: Elena Prokopets www.targetdex..com 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Mrcapability7: 2:21pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Long distance relationship was last seen in 18 century. 2 Likes |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by mentorandfriend(m): 2:30pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Where there is trust, there is a way. 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Long distance relationship is still the best. at least for me 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by zyzxx(m): 2:40pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Short distance relationship They get tired of each other They get jealous of each other They fight each other Which one Gud pass ? |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Jeezuzpick(m): 2:49pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
I may be heading way outta Africa to work real soon.... REALLY scared reading this! 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 2:53pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
soooooo true. Ave been in it, i know how it felt Gosh!!! i HATE it!!! 2 Likes |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by ddddon(m): 2:56pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
spaced booked |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by expatriate(m): 3:17pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Drmaverick: be prepared to share ur distance lover with another person. 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Long distance sucks, but what can you do when you really like her. I'm still in contact with my ex, who only bears that title due to my relocation, but we aren't hopeful. You're kind of right though, you do get to learn some awesome new skills while you hover in limbo, awaiting what the immediate and distant future holds for the both of you. 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Drmaverick: 5:15pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
i have heard what you guys have said, but the 1st thing u have 2 do is BELIEVE in d relationship..Painful,difficult ,but do-able! |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Kingsasian(m): 7:47pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Sooo true but u forgot to mention the feeling of insecurity. I am currently in one. 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by tlordz(m): 7:50pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Ok. |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Drmaverick: 8:17pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
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Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by LewisO: 8:17pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Adaobi12:So that u will have no worry about him knowing your moves. 1 Like |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 8:51pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
LewisO:. perharps. |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by wizard007(m): 10:13pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Adaobi12: And you don't get screwed incessantly too...smart girl |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
wizard007:. maybe. |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by wizard007(m): 10:23pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
Adaobi12: Lol You and double edge answers? You sound diplomatic are you planning to be a politician? |
Re: 14 Things No One Will Tell You About Being In A Long-distance Relationship by Nobody: 10:27pm On Jan 29, 2015 |
wizard007:. who knows. you never can tell. |
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