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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jan 31, 2015
I don't see any other reasons

People tend to paint bad thing vital for our body DNA needs,and comes up with another bullshit..which I don't give a damn about

Everybody have the right to live his life the way he/she choose

But here in Africa(mostly blacks) we see sex as a taboo,which is not suppose to be so

My piece
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 9:30pm On Jan 31, 2015
I think only two posters killed the question but all what thery wrote are assumption and chances...meaning if we remove religion...many people will like to bang


BTW 90% of sex without marriage are hypocrite...I can prove this

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Tymax(m): 9:30pm On Jan 31, 2015
Without religion, premarital sex is amoral. My premise is that there is no basis for good or bad outside religion. So this discourse should not even arise.

Talking about premarital sex in popular culture, Hollywood has glorified it so much that it's now commonplace. Anyone who takes offence publicly is promptly labelled a prude or even a fanatic. Sex before marriage is mostly seen as "premarital sex" because of religion. Outside it, sex is just sex. No bad, no good, just laws against public nudíty, rape and underage sex. Even those laws are provided no to hurt the sensitivity of religious people.

Madam, this discussion is largely dependent on religion.

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by chigoizie7(m): 9:32pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:



gringringringringringrin
Perchance, are you saying if we lived in a world devoid of religion, you'd gladly engage in PMS with everyone you date? (Assuming you date more than one person before getting married)?


like seriously? why being hypocritical here? on a normal day i wouldn't want to blow my trumpet here,so pardon me to say that i am not married and i do engage in the act,

secondly, there are countless religions around the universe and u cant impose urs on others simply because u tot urs is paramount to their's.

in this part of the world, religion is synonymous with custom or tradition (my primary school teacher thought me that culture is the peoples way of life, believe u me, someone must have started that very way of life and people around emulated him thereby making it their way of life. the initiator of such way of life must have deemed it wise and important to live such life(he must have considered it the best b4 indulging in it))


so, if me and my family (extended or nuclear + friends both male and female deemed it fit and important to engage in PMS, we might have as well added that aspect of living to our way of life(culture) to our already existing different culture we must have gotten from different religions as it is diverse.

this is simply my opinion (it might be silly to some people ). ours may differ as we weren't born equal in reasoning

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 9:40pm On Jan 31, 2015
chigoizie7:



like seriously? why being hypocritical here? on a normal day i wouldn't want to blow my trumpet here,so pardon me to say that i am not married and i do engage in the act,

secondly, there are countless religions around the universe and u cant impose urs on others simply because u tot urs is paramount to their's.

in this part of the world, religion is synonymous with custom or tradition (my primary school teacher thought me that culture is the peoples way of life, believe u me, someone must have started that very way of life and people around emulated him thereby making it their way of life. the initiator of such way of life must have deemed it wise and important to live such life(he must have considered it the best b4 indulging in it))


so, if me and my family (extended or nuclear + friends both male and female deemed it fit and important to engage in PMS, we might have as well added that aspect of living to our way of life(culture) to our already existing different culture we must have gotten from different religions as it is diverse.

this is simply my opinion (it might be silly to some people ). ours may differ as we weren't born equal in reasoning
Nice one bro

It all originated from culture,then down to religion and religion impose it on all it followers/practitioners
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by chigoizie7(m): 9:46pm On Jan 31, 2015
Do you really think people avoid murder because of religious reasons?
Hmmm.
That's not my reason though.
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if its not becaus of religion then why? in some places around the world they see killing fellow human as we see killing animals, the fact is that over the long time we were born up to certain ages were we are meant to know the supposed wrongs and right which has been a standard for those particular religion we found ourself in , our brains tends to be programmed according to the do's and dont's of such religion with respect to time.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jan 31, 2015
AbuMikey:


This is so not true.

That Pre-Marital sex can wreck a marriage!

Ha!! shocked

Bros, read Your comment again na grin
online argument isn't my forte
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by dre11(m): 10:08pm On Jan 31, 2015
Here are a few reasons why celebrating celibacy till marriage and avoiding pre-marital sex is a good idea.
°°°°°Ruins the Excitement

Even if you indulge in pre-marital sex with your future life partner, it not only kills the sanctity of the vow, but also ends the thrill that is associated with marriage. Hence, it is always better to indulge in this act after the two partners in marriage are comfortable in each other’s zone. Waiting will only enhance the beauty and excitement of the real act.


°°°°Confused Feelings
Many people, who have had sexual relations with someone else prior to tying the knot with their life partner, feel remorse post marriage. It makes them regret their act or worse still, they keep comparing the pre-marital flare and they don’t enjoy the act in their current marital relationship any longer.
Insecurity

In Indian society, the guilt associated with pre-marital sex is immense. Hence, when experienced by a person before marriage especially with someone other than your life partner, the feeling can make one insecure. Their levels of insecurity increase and they live in constant fear and pressure of being discovered. This erodes their self-confidence at times, leading to a disturbed state of mind.


°°°°Chances of divorce
In India, the issue of pre-marital sex is a big one; big enough to ruin one’s marriage. If a spouse discovers that his/her partner has had an experience in pre-marital sex with someone else, there is a real chance of the marriage being called off. This not just causes a terrible disturbance, but in addition to this the feeling of having lost his/her virtue drives one crazy. Not to mention the societal issues that crop up post discovery.


°°°°Possibility of abortion
Without proper precautions, Pre-marital sex can sometimes get out of hands and the girl may become pregnant. In this case, if the boy or the girl fails to accept their responsibility and head for abortion on time, then future prospects of marriage & pregnancy can get jeopardized. Moreover, it causes them guilt, heartache and above all loss of mental peace.


°°°°°Acquired infection
Acquiring infection or sexually transmitted diseases or HIV is often heard from unprotected sex. The possibility becomes all the more high in pre-marital sex cases. If the girl or boy acquires any such disease through pre-marital sex, then both their chances of getting married and longevity will diminish.

http://m.bollywoodshaadis.com/articles/6-reasons-to-avoid-pre-marital-sex-1474

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by MizMyColi(f): 10:12pm On Jan 31, 2015
Tymax:
Without religion, premarital sex is amoral. My premise is that there is no basis for good or bad outside religion. So this discourse should not even arise.

Talking about premarital sex in popular culture, Hollywood has glorified it so much that it's now commonplace. Anyone who takes offence publicly is promptly labelled a prude or even a fanatic. Sex before marriage is mostly seen as "premarital sex" because of religion. Outside it, sex is just sex. No bad, no good, just laws against public nudíty, rape and underage sex. Even those laws are provided no to hurt the sensitivity of religious people.

Madam, this discussion is largely dependent on religion.

There are people out there, who don't do religion, go to church or quote "The bible Says"
These people (a few) just don't dig PMS.
Not that they don't engage in it, no.
But if they could, they'd abstain.

I want to know their reasons why.

Next thing you might say is Love as a force and vocation is largely based on religion.

The creator and religion are two separate entities.
People who have clearly made the distinction are better for it.

The emboldened looks absurd.
For even the bible as we know it affirms that there's a spirit in man, and the inspiration of the almighty (not religion) gives him understanding.

Some of us out there celebrate our gut, conscience and deep feeling over our mind, intellect and knowledge.

Morality wasn't borrowed from religion, it's the other way round.

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 10:13pm On Jan 31, 2015
Sex out of wedlock. The risk of stds. And it reduces the..... Later sha. Hapi new mnth. Dymondgurl[my e-.....], faithugo64, miracy, clevvermind, chibwike. Nd u readin dis. Jan 2015 gone 2 c no more.

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by timawoku(m): 10:13pm On Jan 31, 2015
Kachisbarbie:

How? smiley
Help us analyse mbok.



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Premarital sex can help ensure that the partners know their 'sexual compatibility'. You can imagine being married to a circumcised female, who will end up being a complete bore in the bedroom, or a male, whose joystick is shorter than the cap of a pen. All these would be tantamount to imprisonment, or infidelity which could eventually destroy marriage.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by MizMyColi(f): 10:17pm On Jan 31, 2015
I don't get some posters on this thread.

Are they saying religion's the reason our world hasn't gone into chaos?

Like seriously?
So if the bible didn't say thou shalt not kill, they'd gladly raise arms against a fellow human?

gringringringringringringrin
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 10:18pm On Jan 31, 2015
After the OP
Said no one should talk about STD
Some people won't still obey
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Tymax(m): 10:19pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:


There are people out there, who don't do religion, go to church or quote "The bible Says"
These people (a few) just don't dig PMS.
Not that they don't engage in it, no.
But if they could, they'd abstain.

I want to know their reasons why.

Next thing you might say is Love as a force and vocation is largely based on religion.

The creator and religion are two separate entities.
People who have clearly made the distinction are better for it.

The emboldened looks absurd.
For even the bible as we know it affirms that there's a spirit in man, and the inspiration of the almighty (not religion) gives him understanding.

Some of us out there celebrate our gut, conscience and deep feeling over our mind, intellect and knowledge.

Morality wasn't borrowed from religion, it's the other way round.
Lol.

Really? My sister, morality proceeds from religion.

Lol. You just quoted the Bible. Nice.

See, this discussion really doesn't have a clearly defined direction without religion.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by timawoku(m): 10:20pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:

Premarital sex can help ensure that the partners know their 'sexual compatibility'. You can imagine being married to a circumcised female, who will end up being a complete bore in the bedroom, or a male, whose joystick is shorter than the cap of a pen. All these would be tantamount to imprisonment, or infidelity which could eventually destroy marriage.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by clevvermind(m): 10:31pm On Jan 31, 2015
Microflux:
Sex out of wedlock. The risk of stds. And it reduces the..... Later sha. Hapi new mnth. Dymondgurl[my e-.....], faithugo64, miracy, clevvermind, chibwike. Nd u readin dis. Jan 2015 gone 2 c no more.
thank you very much. I appreciate.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by MizMyColi(f): 10:32pm On Jan 31, 2015
Tymax:

Lol.

Really? My sister, morality proceeds from religion.

Lol. You just quoted the Bible. Nice.

See, this discussion really doesn't have a clearly defined direction without religion.

You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate grin grin

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 10:39pm On Jan 31, 2015
African culture doesn't allow it also.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by BreezyRita(f): 10:48pm On Jan 31, 2015
Kachisbarbie:
Ohhhh.
This babe be reading my mind per second.

Little thing, they start quoting bible -that thing dey make me mad. angry

Where are the anti premarital sex crew. grin
Here! cheesy
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 10:49pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:


You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate grin grin

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.
No religion nothing will exist
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by clevvermind(m): 10:52pm On Jan 31, 2015
Many people stay out of sex before marriage due to religious reasons.
Christians forbids pre marital sex and i don't think it's part of our culture. They also avoid it cos of sexually transmitted disease. Hiv is real. To me, avoiding it is better if you can. It is for your own good.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by jmoore(m): 10:54pm On Jan 31, 2015
Kachisbarbie:

Do you really think people avoid murder because of religious reasons?
Hmmm.
That's not my reason though.
Go and read about operation Auca. A tribe that nearly went extinct because of revenge killings.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Truckpusher(m): 10:56pm On Jan 31, 2015
clevvermind:
Many people stay out of sex before marriage due to religious reasons.
Christians forbids pre marital sex and i don't think it's part of our culture. They also avoid it cos of sexually transmitted disease. Hiv is real. To me, avoiding it is better if you can. It is for your own good.
Brother taste before you pay and drive else you'll end up buying a tokunbo and paying the price of a tear rubber. cheesy
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by clevvermind(m): 10:58pm On Jan 31, 2015
Truckpusher:
Brother taste before you pay and drive else you'll end up buying a tokunbo and paying the price of a tear rubber. cheesy
grin If you con go taste Hiv nko?
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 10:59pm On Jan 31, 2015
I geeeet you.
So yeah. I stripped ‘the bible says’ part.
Religion-oriented points totally exclusive.
Here is why pre-marital sex should be a big NO.

1. STD.

2. Unpremeditated pregnancy.

3. The embarrassment and guilt.

4. Promotes promiscuity.

5. It destroys relationships.*

I don't want to bore you with an epistle.
I know you're smart enough to understand much OP.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 11:02pm On Jan 31, 2015
Tallesty1 post=/:

Do you not know that premarital sex contributes greatly to the divorce stories that you and I read every day?


bros most of d tins u sed are half-truths. But dis one is completely baseless and clueless. So pastors way day divorce everywia now na premarital sex day cos am abi? Oh I forgot, its d spirit of premarital sex dat day didnt deliver themselves from dat has come back to hunt them by destroying dia marriages abi?


Ur definitely speaking from a myopic point of view. I tot u were wiser dan dis.

Am so so disappointed.

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by joseph1832(m): 11:04pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:
I don't get some posters on this thread.

Are they saying religion's the reason our world hasn't gone into chaos?

Like seriously?
So if the bible didn't say thou shalt not kill, they'd gladly raise arms against a fellow human?

gringringringringringringrin
Those who say such obviously don't know the history of their religion. Religion as it is has been the bane of human existence! Take Nigeria for example, every President, is either christian or moslem, you would expect they live up to their religious beliefs, but reverse is the case!. When Karl Marx said "religion is the opiate of the masses" he definitely knew what he was talking about!.

I should add that those saying religion is what is keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart are so wrong!. If they want to know, the things keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart is 'The Law', not these yeye religious law but the law made by man! It is against the law to kill a fellow man, you do that and you go to jail, it is also against the law to take what doesn't belong to you, you do that you go to jail!.

Religious law has only provided ground for many to perpetuate acts of unspeakable margin! Especially in a country as religious as Nigeria.

To your post! there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex! Everybody you see or hear criticizing it do so because their 'religion' say so. It is not even stipulated in the constitution that we shouldn't have sex!.

So anybody saying sex is bad is just saying his/her own version! For me, it is awesome and I'll have it as many times as I like!. Plain and simple. Whoever has a problem with it should go and chew a cucumber!.

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by MizMyColi(f): 11:06pm On Jan 31, 2015
joseph1832:
Those who say such obviously don't know the history of their religion. Religion as it is has been the bane of human existence! Take Nigeria for example, every President, is either christian or moslem, you would expect they live up to their religious beliefs, but reverse is the case!. When Karl Marx said "religion is the opiate of the masses" he definitely knew what he was talking about!.

I should add that those saying religion is what is keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart are so wrong!. If they want to know, the things keeping we humans from tearing eachother apart is 'The Law', not these yeye religious law but the law made by man! It is against the law to kill a fellow man, you do that and you go to jail, it is also against the law to take what doesn't belong to you, you do that you go to jail!.

Religious law has only provided ground for many to perpetuate acts of unspeakable margin! Especially in a country as religious as Nigeria.

To your post! there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex! Everybody you see or hear criticizing it do so because their 'religion' say so. It is not even stipulated in the constitution that we shouldn't have sex!.

So anybody saying sex is bad is just saying his/her own version! For me, it is awesome and I'll have it as many times as I like!. Plain and simple. Whoever has a problem with it should go and chew a cucumber!.

Lol
On my way to night market.

I must eat cucumber this night ni
gringringringringringrin
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Truckpusher(m): 11:07pm On Jan 31, 2015
clevvermind:
grin If you con go taste Hiv nko?
Were you asking every girl you've dated to go for HIV screening before you started being intimate ?

Again it boils down to the kind of people you roll with and even at that you can never go around asking every girl you've known to produce a test result first and marriage is not a football match it comes spontaneously and the person you end up with might not be your favourite so some things are easier said than done.Though I agree with you on the issue of HIV.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Nobody: 11:08pm On Jan 31, 2015
Aprime:
I geeeet you.
So yeah. I stripped ‘the bible says’ part.
Religion-oriented points totally exclusive.
Here is why pre-marital sex should be a big NO.

1. STD.

2. Unpremeditated pregnancy.

3. The embarrassment and guilt.

4. Promotes promiscuity.

5. It destroys relationships.*

I don't want to bore you with an epistle.
I know you're smart enough to understand much OP.

Baba, do u have any genuine statistical proof to dis ya claim. U guys just kip spitting d same poo over and over again. Na wa oh!

Dont u know dat d symptoms of malaria, cholera, typhoid, hiv and ebola are similar? Is it plasmodium dat causes cholera, typhoid, hiv and ebola?

Why do guys keep thinking like dis sef?

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Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by joseph1832(m): 11:11pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:


Lol
On my way to night market.

I must eat cucumber this night ni
gringringringringringrin
Make sure you look for the one that is ripe!. cheesy.
Re: Apart From Religious Reasons, Why Should We Avoid Premarital Sex? by Tymax(m): 11:15pm On Jan 31, 2015
MizMyColi:


You don't get the point.
I didn't quote the bible to buttress my point for or against sex.

I actually tried to buttress the fact that our understanding of good or bad today, while it might have been influenced a lot by religion is predisposedly innate grin grin

Gut, Conscience, Deep Feeling, Mind, Intellect, Knowledge.

^^^These six things aren't necessarily tied to religion.

It's the other way round @morality.

No need for arguments.
If you understand that you have a creator, who when he made you desired to have a one on one r/ship with you without the dictates of religion, then we'd be on the
same page, maybe.

^^^ owh, I just spoke loosely from the bible.
That's because I consider it an inspirational book like many other books out there.
Not like a mini god of sorts which I'm supposed to live my life strictly by --- as it is written.

Morality's just inherent in us all.
Religion either sharpens or dullens.

I should quip at this point that there's no absolute morality.

I consider spirituality as very different from religion, though one can be used to attain or descend to the other.
Lol. Still the same thing. The concept of morality is empty without religion.

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