After telling you his whorres are better than you, you still let the gate man talk you into staying?

Wait you would even stay if he tendered a fake apology (because that's what it is gonna be)

Wowzers!

cionon:


I am not making mouth. You guys aren't understanding me. If after his wrong doing, I called him to order and he feels it's normal, I told him if he z nt ready to change then I will leave
His reply was what am I still doing.
So I said fine I will leave.
I was actually thinking that he would beg since he was wrong especially after telling me his whores are better than me in all aspect.

This morning I woke up early and was packing then he just dropped the tfare and left. If he had begged and apologised, I wud have stayed.

I respect my neighbour cause she is a granny and spoke to me like a mother.

Unrepentant womanizer?? What nonsense. Please burn that transport fare and still wait like gateman That is your home. You will not leave for anybody. If the heat his behavior is bringing makes the house too hot for him then he can always move back to his father's house. Do not even suggest that you are leaving YOUR home. Don't have sex with him and definitely get tested. Gosh. I get so exhausted with these types of posts.

cococandy:
After telling you his whorres are better than you, you still let the gate man talk you into staying?

Wait you would even stay if he tendered a fake apology (because that's what it is gonna be)

Wowzers!

It's up to both of them Lotetta , they are both grown up adults .... And Not for us to judge her decision in the end.

Sophyrocks:


We dnt need to understand it. All women can never be alike in reasoning.

The thing is that it often has nothing to do with reason. They know better but they are like addicts, addicted to a man, addicted to drama, self-destructing and unable to free themselves.

I cannot overemphasize how important it is to know the one you marry.
I cannot overemphasize that it is much better to remain unmarried than to be married and trapped in a toxic marriage.
I cannot overemphasize how important it is to be independent financially.
And I cannot overemphasize that there should be more to life that gives you a purpose than just marriage (mental independence).

Classic.

There must be a video of the man and his mistress in action before it can be confirmed.

cococandy:
Classic.

There must be a video of the man and his mistress in action before it can be confirmed.

Nonso23:

That was just one simple line? How come you couldn't understand it
Maybe you are the truly dumb one here afterall

You are dumb. You find condoms with a married man. and he certainly isnt using them on his wife. so who is he using them on? He compares wh0res with his wife. Please try to be a bit intelligent. This so called bias you are showing to prove a point isnt needed here. If you aint ready to drop advice, quit the whole brouhaha to turn this thread to something else.

andromida:


That is the part i don't get, he collects her keys and instructs the security man to lock the door. Can't she collect the keys from the security man? Most security men will be diplomatic they don't want to get into the middle of something they don't know which way it will go down.

Must have been a big quarrel. Yeah better to go home and let the real issues be sorted.

I knew there was more to the story

I asked some of my colleagues and they all said he was tired of the marriage.

Giving her Tfare was OK to show that he was calling her bluff. But to lock her out and involve gateman in their fight?

No way

bukatyne:


I knew there was more to the story

I asked some of my colleagues and they all said he was tired of the marriage.

Giving her Tfare was OK to show that he was calling her bluff. But to lock her out and involve gateman in their fight?

No way

You know the couple?

Ewuro4:


It's up to both of them Lotetta , they are both grown up adults .... And Not for us to judge her decision in the end.

thats true i know


Like I said in my other post, it is up to her to decide when enough is enough.

Nonso23:

Do these three things;
1 bring proof
2 scrutinize the proof
3 mention me
I will happily criticize

Her husband has been cheating before she decided to confront him. he has proved beyond all doubts that he is cheating during the confrontation. you want her to catch him in the act first before she can be convinced? You dnt even know what to say. your pressing further is baseless and unnecessary. what will you do if you see condoms with your wife when you know she hasnt been using them on you? You confront her and she tells you her lovers are better than you. what will you do?

cionon:


I don't have to go into details. Cos I know he his cheating. Seen a chat et him a a prostitute which I emailed to my fone and showed him yday. I expected him to apologise yet nothing. So don't come and say Wat u don't know. What wrong did I do when I said his parents and mine would know about the whores he keeps and he said to my face that they were better.
I pity but wife maybe u and my husband have Sam character

As in an actual prostitute? And what you want is advice on how to beg him to calm down?

Cionon, I beg you. I need you to toughen up here. That's the subliminal message in my posts all along.

Also, protect yourself, you need to be here to raise your child that's coming.

Nonso23:


For personal reasons no matter how silly like:
To feel like a badass [the kind you women love].
To feel like a don among his friends ... etc
so many reasons . . .
Good thing you are dating a reserved guy if not maybe you would have dumped him over your suspicions eons ago.

So many reasons but you were only able to come up with two that sound so silly that it goes beyond laughing?

Hilarious!

Let me tell you something, the moment a grown up man tells me that he is having condoms in his pocket to feel like a bad ass or to impress his friends , I would first give myself a hot slap for having dated this dumbo and then kick his sorry azz for good and forever.

Sophyrocks:


Her husband has been cheating before she decided to confront him. he has proved beyond all doubts that he is cheating during the confrontation. you want her to catch him in the act first before she can be convinced? You dnt even know what to say. your pressing further is baseless and unnecessary. [b]what will you do if you see condoms with your wife when you know she hasnt been using them on you? [/b]You confront her and she tells you her lovers are better than you. what will you do?

He will not confront her because he knows she was only using them to fetch water. It's not like he saw her hanging off a man's penis or anything. How can he assume that it was not for fetching water. He is not a fool nah

@ OP my advice to you if you love your husband and want to work on your marriage is the same as the gateman and your neighbour have said. STAY. Not only stay but cook something nice for dinner and both of you eat together when he gets back from work.

I know he's cheating but I wouldn't advice you leave him that early in your marriage. Unfortunately, you can never know anyone fully during courtship. You get to see them for who they truly are after marriage, living 24/7 under the same roof. Make peace for now. You don't have to apologise if you don't want to but you don't have to make war either to drive a point. After threatening to leave last night you should not have woken up this morning and packed your things. Packing your things, you were showing your husband that you don't care about your marital vows and he did the obvious, by giving you tfare, meaning if that's what you want come dey go! The fact he didn't throw you out of the house and lock the door behind him says he's just paying you back with your own coin.

I imagine your dilemma is how to deal with the cheating aspect. Let things subside for two days or more naturally, before bringing it up again. Softly tell him how the situation makes you feel (without using words like LovePeddler) and how you expect you guys to be a family especially as a baby is on the way. Let him understand you don't want to have to share your man or worry about what he is up to when you are apart. That said, give the whole thing time. At least six months to see visible change. Play your role as a loving wife and ignore some of those things he does to annoy you but at the same time keep your eyes and ears open for infidelity acts, and keep any proof, if possible. If after your child is born there is no improvement you can decide to leave, knowing you did your best to make your marriage work. Try not to exchange words or say things you might regret when angry. If you have to walk away from an heated argument, do so.

Hope you and your husband find a way to work things out as your marriage is young.

Nonso23:
Only if more men learnt to treat verbal abuse with the same tenacity as physical abuse, the world will be saner.

OP you aren't telling us everything. Your first post is tooooo doctored. That's by the way though. For now you better beg him there's no other way into that marriage.

Permit me to laugh small sha

Too much telemundo!

P.S: I respect your husband. For that kind man na only him mumsy fit do this kind thing and go scot free.

I am leaving This marriage If you do not apologize bla bla is verbal abuse?

I am very confused here.

Sophyrocks:


Her husband has been cheating before she decided to confront him. he has proved beyond all doubts that he is cheating during the confrontation. you want her to catch him in the act first before she can be convinced? You dnt even know what to say. your pressing further is baseless and unnecessary. what will you do if you see condoms with your wife when you know she hasnt been using them on you? You confront her and she tells you her lovers are better than you. what will you do?

She will tell him that she wanted to feel hip and funky and to be respected among her promiscuous friends and he will believe her since he has not caught her in flagranti.

Nonso23, what have you been smoking lately?

cococandy:
Classic.

There must be a video of the man and his mistress in action before it can be confirmed.

According to Nonso, yes. I guess he needs a video as proof to know if his wife cheats on him too.

Nonso23:


Did he cheat with you you seem to know a lot. OP this may be the lady that called and harassed you on phone o.
Madam emotional alligator where is your proof. Video? Photo? anything substantial.
If i see condom with my wife i will calmly ask her what she needed them for. Not conclude that she is cheating.
Besides a woman carrying a MALE condom is lightyears apart from a man doing the same.

Of course, because she uses the condoms to wrap them around her feet to protect her feet from blisters that she gets so easily from wearing high heels.

carefreewannabe:


She will tell him that she wanted to feel hip and funky and to be respected among her promiscuous friends and he will believe her since he has not caught her in flagranti.

Nonso23, what have you been smoking lately?

O.k i guess his type are really sooooo weak for women to turn their heads around like that. buhahahahahaaha. Asking for a video as proof. what a joke. No wonder he forms bragado online. weakling.

cionon:


He womanises. I have seen condoms a lot in his office trousers. Called his attention but he never even had the courtesy to say his sorry instead he says he carries them for a reason and it should stop questioning him. My cuxn as seen him with a girl b4, bt he denied it even wen it was obvious he lied about his whereabt cause the frnd he said he was going to see came to the house. and he is very pompous. Never apologies for his wrong doings.
Very disrespectful

My earlier post still stands...

Go home or to your inlaws place and report him. Do not wait for him in the compound or wherever.

Your hubby as zero regard for your marriage and If you mistakenly beg, be ready to for so for the lifetime of your marriage.

Your apology is telling him you accept his cheating ways and you are Sorry you offended him by making an issue of it.

Goodluck

soulglo:


He will not confront her because he knows she was only using them to fetch water. It's not like he saw her hanging off a man's penis or anything. How can he assume that it was not for fetching water. He is not a fool nah

Buhahahhaha. Nonso will act like he didnt see anything. what a weakling!

ileobatojo:

We are all saying the same thing. You threatened to leave if he didn't change; he didn't change, you haven't left. Instead you're asking for advice on how to beg him to calm down. In spite of the fact that he brazenly cheats and said his LovePeddler is better than you.

Exactly but knowing my sisters sighhhhh. Its gonna be a long bumpy ride, if she didnt leave while dating she wouldn't leave now

Sophyrocks:


O.k i guess his type are really sooooo weak for women to turn their heads around like that. buhahahahahaaha. Asking for a video as proof. what a joke. No wonder he forms bragado online. weakling.

To be honest dear, I don't blame him. Women fall for this crap every day. He has learned what works with women and he uses it. He is not weak, he is opportunistic.