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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 7:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: what is funny about my post? ![]() is the topic a funny one, or is it the morally/mentally deficient responses that are amusing? glad to know you take joy in such. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by soulglo: 7:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
SirShymexx: Go take a nap Shymexx 8 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 7:25pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Ilekeh: And lose the payday.... Never! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 7:26pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
SirShymexx: thanks for the heads up! ![]() SirShymexx: don't dignify that semi-illiterate with a reply abeg. she didn't even know what VAWA stands for until last year. she's clueless about her immediate environment so don't waste your breath. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:27pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 7:27pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
neoapocalypse: Lot's of options? Which are? I don't think you understand the depressive state most of these men go through; granted murder isn't an option, but their physiological state could trigger something else. It's easy to say there are options until you wear the shoes, when people are pushed to the wall, it takes every restraint in them not to act upon their evil. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 7:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter: [b]It is very interesting that you have said all these, but lemme ask you a question: 1. While the "man" was busy working so hard to make money and all that, He was not dating no one or doing any lady while there alone? 2. What happened to that lady, how come, he all of a sudden think the lady aint good enough and have to go home and marry "innocent" lady? I see all these as a man with hidden agenda, that i will be able to control her when she is here, and guess what, the ladies back home are more wild than the ladies out of Nigeria. Now on the topic, it is pathetic for a man to kill a woman for ANY reason, if you guys are no mpre getting along, go your separate ways, and i again, obodo oyinbo is not for everyone, a man that want a woman to worship him and kneel while serving you food is better to remain in the village in Nigeria, when a woman goes to work all day and back with money, and the man has done same, nothing stops both of them to enter the kitchen together and make things happen. When you stress the woman after work, she is in kitchen and same madam will run to the room to change diaper and at night, you wanna climb her like a horse and you expect such woman to worship the ground you walk on, get real..... she is human like the man, and when Bible said, woman obey your husband, it is not saying slave for him..... if the man loves the woman, he will help her to have a good and stress free day.[/b] 17 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 7:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: like i said, if you people's girlfriends, boyfriends or wives, did not off you despite your doing things that "led to it", then what exactly is your justification for such, unless it was preplanned all along? anyway, follow Jesus so you can be saved. that is the long and short of the matter. i just find d.umb responses, irritating. folks want to kill but they dont want to be killed, that's simply s.tupid. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 7:29pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ladygogo: i swore to remain faithful at okija shrine via FaceTime few years ago. ![]()
odin forbid! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:31pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: No, I don't see the child as a "fuzzy joint property". |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 7:31pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: Some of the options are: 1. Let go of the woman, go your way and she go hers 2. Sit down with her to understand why she is no more the sweet damsel you brought from the village in Africa 3. Instead of the man sitting around the house and let the woman slaves for him, help in making life easy for such woman. And so much more . . . But killing is far from one of them.....it is a weakling that will kill defenseless being 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 7:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
tpiah11: please..... don't permeate this zone with your air of stüpidity. your fellow coven witches tried hard with this morönic analogy and it was quickly flushed down the loo. there's nowhere in the west women get kicked out of their houses like men do - so why would there be any need for any woman to go trigger-happy? have you lost your ability to reason? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 7:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
tpiah11: You have lived long enough in this country, you know how these things work. There is NO justification of murder; unfortunately, the law recognizes such lapses that led to murder. I get your point and all I am saying in short is, folks should ALWAYS try to resolve issues with their spouses before it gets out of hand. There are marriage counseling, family intervention, or even legal advisory... |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Ilekeh(f): 7:33pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Between 2006 and 2014, more than 50 Nigerian husbands murdered their wives in what might be considered crimes of passion as a result of alienation of affection, women empowerment, emasculation, and loss of self esteem. What's the population of Nigerians in the USA? 50 na small number na. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by soulglo: 7:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
voltron: This has to be the funniest and saddest post of all. It is a tragic comedy. "Nigerian women leverage the recognition of the female gender in developed countries to harass their husbands...." . The idea that the recognition of the female gender is a dangerous thing is sad. Jesus. I actually believe Nigerian women are better suited to foreign men or even if they end up with a Nigerian, let it he one who had dated foreigners and already been trained ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by cococandy(f): 7:35pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
raumdeuter:that is how it works. Everyone takes their fair share of what belongs to them. Marriage is work. If it is even done verbatim according what you're insinuating, the man may even be the loser. For example if a woman is a stay home mom, her financial contribution to the home is even more considering how much you would pay otherwise to get other people to do what she does for the family. Child care (day care) is 1000 dollars a month per child in my area. That's part of her financial contribution to the home if she decided to give up her career to take care of the kids. Imagine a family of 3kids under 6 having to pay 3k per month just for day care. Not other things. She saves the family that money by suspending her career to do it. If God forbid you guys want a divorce, can you pay her back all that money for the number of years she was doing it ? Personally I think the law is fair enough. Very 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 7:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: it's not that simple! like i said earlier - if only women could walk away without enslaving the man for 18/19 years to pay chid support for kids he doesn't get to see, maybe men wouldn't lose their liberty or their lives to protect their assets. it's one thing for women to leave an abusive marriage, it's another thing to heap a whole lot of expenses on his shoulders to cripple him. in 30% of the cases, the men aren't even the biological fathers of the kids they have supported for 19 years. how is murder not imminent? 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Mekyno(m): 7:37pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter:i thank God 4 sm1 lyk u. Moreover, u reason lyk a man or let me say, a humble responsible woman. Cheers! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 7:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: It's so much easier for option 1, if that were the case, divorce proceedings will end on the first day or even the first week of hearing. Women who came into this country understood why they came: most knew exactly what their role was. If the man and woman had an understanding for the woman to be the caretaker of the house while he's the hustler, but when she arrives, she changes plan. Why then blame the man? This is what leads to marriage wahala.... Then the woman wants to be Mrs. independent but can't find the balance to maintain her household.. As for murder, it isn't right but let's face it... IT HAPPENS and something led to it. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 7:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
voltron: And such men go to Nigeria to marry a woman they dont know - hope to live happily together afterwards with a total stranger . . . .Nothing should lead a man to kill. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 7:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: bro, you do not presume to know where i live and neither do i want to know how any such thing works, let the lawyers and criminal justice system handle that. That is what they were trained for. After you do the crime, people will tell you how to do the time. There is NO justification of murder; unfortunately, the law recognizes such lapses that led to murder. I get your point and all I am saying in short is, folks should ALWAYS try to resolve issues with their spouses before it gets out of hand. There are marriage counseling, family intervention, or even legal advisory... the law recognizes no such thing as cold blooded premeditated murder, and neither does karma. like i pointed out before, people's background matters a lot, unfortunately the love of money makes some folks enter marriages without conducting proper checks. if you are not a witch, dont marry a witch. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by adconline(m): 7:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Blame Naija culture of raising most young women to believe marriage is the easiest lottery ticket to riches without working for it. Most girls believe that life abroad is far much better; and there IS NO need to love the man- just marry him everything is going to be OK. Blame Naija culture of grooming men to be providers and women as takers.. In abroad, a Naija girl with "taker mentality" only sees and quantifies her "sole" effort as the primary reason why she's made it in her new country. She fails to recognize that her husband brought her there, paid for living expenses, school fees, child care, insurance, and western union/moneygram to in laws etc when she wasn't working.. .she starts making money, she wants to keep separate account account and in some cases , still wants the man to be paying for everything. "Iyanga don wake wahala" Blame Naija culture of raising men to believe that they need only wives as to carry their babies and make their homes. Blame Naija culture for not teaching most men how to do home chores like cooking and cleaning... They easily shift that responsibility to the new wife, she's going to find out very soon on TV that men do chores like cleaning, changing diapers and cooking. Iyanga don wake wahala. Our Naija culture refuses to teach most men how boil water let alone making garri.. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Thank you ooo. Thank you very much!. At last!! A male who is more humane and not a murderer. Too many murderers in this thread that need to be shot by firing squad!! May God bless you for this comment. Say amen o! 4 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 7:40pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: your number 1 is not applicable. with these women, there's no clean break. go your way & she goes her ways? for where? she won't let you go without destroying you. the man that shot his wife called the cops herself and said "I have killed the woman that wanted to destroy my life" that speaks volumes! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:40pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: You do know you're stooping low yourself , learn to be civil in your choice of words , calling someone an eidiot and a monkey isn't so civil. 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by SirShymexx: 7:40pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: Say no more, brev. You need to jump on that series before those guys go hollywood cos the big cheque is coming soon. I was inspired especially with how they were able to create something as nice as that, despite being hood nyggahs - with no prior experience - just one camera and mic. That's digital hustling right there. And some character in there called "Ralph" dropped a lot of jewels in there. Lol. Majority of them on these sides are like that - just basically vacuous, ignorant, and illiterate - with a messed up mentality. What they posit most times are always illogical and cringe-worthy. I just decided to engage her cos I bumped into her on this forum with a decent rapport and some funny stuffs. Hence I mess about with her from time to time, just to see if she's moving up cerebrally. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fawklicant: 7:40pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
mutter: God bless you for the wisdom you are imparting on these girlfolk on NL. This is a WOMAN!!! I will start following you. @Aisha, why would you use your fellow woman's past ordeal against her in public like this? That's very very much below the belt. A real low blow. Grow up girl. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 7:41pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Spot on!! You will make a good husband. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ladygogo: 7:41pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
voltron: I`m going to have to agree with you that some Nigerian women over do it sometimes, it however doesnt justify you murdering your spouse. So many cases of fresh off-the boat wives already scheming and planning how to mess their husbands up. These are even couples that immigrated to oyibo land together o. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 7:41pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy: Would the woman refund the cost of housing she lived in for free for the period of marriage? rent is about $1,000 per month Would the woman refund the cost of food she ate during this time? Feeding for one adult range from $300 to $600 per month WOuld she refund the cost of the utilities she enjoyed like light cable electricity that was paid for during this time? She gets $1,000 to $3000 per month, She refunds $1,200 for rent, $700 for feeding, $500 for other bills (Light cable water), $200 for fueling her car, $500 for other miscellaneous expenses Whats the balance? 5 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 7:42pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: Exactly my point... It will be easy if the women just walked away with nothing, but when I lived in DC, I saw a bitter marriage pushing this far. The woman threatened to deal with the man because the man lied on some papers that brought her to the U.S., how callous can people be? She threatened hell and what not, it took the grace of God for the man not to react to killing his wife. Imagine losing your children, your money, house, everything you have labored for... 1 Like |
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