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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life:Are you sure? ![]() |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
AreaFada2: I wonuldnt wanna go into this with you, maybe on another thread, i appreciate our culture to some extent, but some of it is nothing but to cheat the other . . . |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by cococandy(f): 8:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Backtrack? ![]() Seems you didn't get me the first time. You ended up agreeing with me and than said I was backtracking when I pointed it out to you. No one is made to pay any thing as form of repayment for what the other did for them during the marriage. The payment made is not as repayment but for dependent spouse to find their feet and be able to sustain a standard of living similar to what they have always been used to during the marriage. raumdeuter: |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Emaprince: 8:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
aisha2:you are such a useless and bitter woman!!! Just because she has an opinion different from yours,you deemed it right to bare her personal life in here.are you even better than her in anyway? coogar:you got this right mehn!!..women are actually their own worst enemies. 7 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 8:20pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: No when I marry a woman, I am not marrying her wahala but her only and her parents (by extension). I haven't gone through a vow so I don't know, but when I do, I will know. Besides, when men take care of their in-laws, it's a privilege NOT a right. I will do that because it's not a problem, but it's not mandatory. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:22pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life:The divorce takes so long cos both party sometimes could be greedy, if they are NOT, it wont take that long . . . people wanna take out their pain and frustrations in the divorce and no need for that, except the demands are outrageous and the court will determine a lot of these things. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 8:22pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
tpiah11: and what if he has finished paying off his mortgage? you mean it's fair for him to be homeless while another man is enjoying the fruits of his labour? would you wish the same for your male sibling?
he could have bought it on auction, he could have finished paying for it. even if it gets returned to the dealer cos of failed payments, it's his credit score that would be ruined, not his wife. should he continue to pay for a car he's not driving? that's fair to him? abeg, get some perspective.. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 8:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
AreaFada2: your story does not make sense plz. where in your own bible did you see the words "christian", "born again" and "mess around" used together? ![]() now you are saying someone's wife is in naija yet you or him still has a problem, if the wife is with him elsewhere, it is still a problem, i mean are you people gay or something, you're too anti- women. why are you meeting only witches in your social circle? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by humilitypays(m): 8:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:Fhemmmy, all I am trying to say is this: our Nigerian women attach money and material wealth to everything. They often times sell their emotions instead of going for what's right! I have plenty friends living in various countries of the world- US, Uk, Canada, Germany, Spain, Netherland, Australia...and they all complain the same thing- that our Nigerian ladies consider money/material wealth first before anything and that's y its always difficult for Nigerian guys born in Nigeria who migrated abroad via Visa lottery, sponsored immigrant visa, illegal migration, etc with no secured high-paying job to find a good/decent Nigerian girl abroad to marry; because the ladies they meet abroad usually don't want to marry Naija guys who came abroad to hustle...they only want to marry Naija guys there from high class family or those with high-pay job, reason most Naija guys run back home to get a wife to marry. And on the contrary, our Naija sisters abroad will rather remain single for life warming the beds of different men than to come back to Nigeria to marry a guy and help him come abroad and join effort with her to raise a decent family; no our ladies won't do it; only insignificant number of Nigerian ladies come back home to find husbands- because to them, guys at home who isn't rich, famous or from rich family isn't up to their class! But is that how life operates ![]() ![]() ![]() Isorait sha 9 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Kedam(m): 8:23pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
soulglo:Typical ! I think I made myself clear. I merely told you one of the solutions to solve this rampant murder and never justified their actions. When a matter is brought before u there are things u need to consider and there is need to look deeply into it. Yes the husband's action is unjustifiable(fact) but to solve this problem what are the solutions to it. I mentioned one, so I hope you stop teaching me like a 5years old kid thinking no one bothered to teach me |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 8:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
CFCfan: Lol... My broda, I am very sure. There are very sneaky ways to hide assets, do you think if I am rich like that I will allow my wife to take 50% of my asset? Mbanu, I will enlist the financial firms to swing into action... |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:24pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: I love that bold comment . . . You are damn right, it is not a RIGHT, thus the reason why YOUR WIFE has to work and make money to take care of her parents . . . or is that not a right too? If you dont want her to do that, then, you will do it. My dear, a happy woman is a happy home, else, you will be miserable, the man is the head and the woman is the neck, only the neck could turn the head whichever way she wants . . . Lol I hope to know you after you MUST have taken the vow, then, we could have this convo again. 2 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by coogar: 8:25pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: better don't marry.... the moment she signs the dotted lines at the registry, she has full access to your assets. even if you cohabit, common law applies in some jurisdiction after a certain number of years. there's a reason simon cowell isn't married! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 8:26pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: Still proves my point. If the woman WALKS AWAY with nothing (she did not contribute to the asset), and the man pays child support with visitation rights or whatever, I think that's fair. The greed portion is what leads to murders. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by otiigba1(m): 8:28pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Me thinks its because of too much McDonald burger and doughnuts ![]() |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by iamwrong(m): 8:29pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
aisha2: Out right Rubbish you just spewed there! 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:29pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
humilitypays: CHairman, let us be real, money is a good thing and no one wanna be known with poverty, just like the woman attach a lot to money and material things, so is the man . . . else, why is the man not in the village farming cassava with cutlass and in obodo oyinbo. There are lots of Nigerian ladies in abroad that would love to marry, but our brothers will come, use them and dump them only to go home to marry innocent angel that will make them pay for some of the sin they have committed in the past . . .Lol But let us be real, it is not easy, but we all have to learn to work together, but again, instead of killiing a wife, walk away All your friends that are complaining, tell them to be real and learn about the culture of where they have found themselves |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:30pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life:Hmmm.. You've got a point there, but if your soon-to-be ex-wife enlists the services of top-notch family lawyers, forensic accountants etc against you, there is a possibility of the court ruling in her favor. Anyway, in CA ALL assets acquired before marriage belong to you and can't be split. But assets acquired during the course of marriage have to be split. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by tpiah11: 8:30pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: finished paying off his mortgage yet he still has small children? not likely, or else doesnt show good planning. If he has paid off his mortgage, then he should have more flexibility in living arrangements, eg not be stuck in one place waiting for someone to collect the reward of his labour. you mean it's fair for him to be homeless while another man is enjoying the fruits of his labour? does the judge know he's homeless? would you wish the same for your male sibling? would you wish your female sibling find herself in similar circumstances? he could have bought it on auction, he could have finished paying for it. if he owns the car then he should write it off. Owning a range rover, (very expensive vehicle), implies he can afford to buy another car for his personal use, since range rovers do not come cheap. He has expensive tastes. even if it gets returned to the dealer cos of failed payments, it's his credit score that would be ruined, not his wife. should he continue to pay for a car he's not driving? that's fair to him? if he has paid off the car as you wished before, then he's not still making payments. as per credit score, he can look for alternatives such as cheaper cars or auction, for his personal use. in divorce, nothing is fair. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 8:30pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:'half of what u own to you' i guess means the money and other assets. what about the kids? many men think of their kids who they will not get to see frequently because of a woman they worked hard to train. that is bad enough to make a man sucidal. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 8:31pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
coogar: I do not believe in cohabitation; however, U.S. marriage laws have evolved so much that gone are the days when a woman has 50% of your asset. She has full access to them, i.e. if she knows what they are, where they are, and how they are applied. There are bitter divorces cases everyday where the woman is frustrated and walks away with what she has. Example is the $925 million settlement vs. $16billion rich husband. She got this meager settlement even when she contributed to the growth of the oil firm over 2 decades ago... Go figure. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:31pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
manny4life: Did i hear you say the woman contributes nothing? While you are at work, who takes care of the home you are protective of Who takes care of your kids? If you have to sleep with ashawo, how much would yuo pay that ashawo per day, and yet she warm you up at night When you are confused, she tells you, all will be well. She cooks your food In-short, NO MAN can pay the true worth of a woman, no man. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by 5minsmadness: 8:32pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
dammytosh:Gbam! |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:33pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY: If you were a good father and the woman is not allowing you to see the kids, the kids will be the one that will complain that they wanna see you, so that one is not true . . . Yes, half of what you guys own together belongs to both of you. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by AreaFada2: 8:34pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
tpiah11:. Sure, it won't make sense. Reading is not same as understanding. ![]() Some of these born again people believe our traditions don't matter. They pretend as Christians but in fact uphold no Christian values. They are everywhere around us. I hear some people even do prayer warrior stuff before going to armed robbery operations nowadays. And even pay tithes from crime proceeds. Is it news to you that modern miracle & wealth-seeking Christianity is a joke? Anyway, fake Christianity is expected before the conclusion of things. This is not to condemn all Christians. Only that a good Christian today would have been a good person as an Olokun or Sango worshipper. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by 5minsmadness: 8:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Because it is not in a real man's nature to stay at home and take care of the kids. That's the woman's job. |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:36pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
AreaFada2: Leave born again out of these . . . Let us take one simple example, father, mother and child in the house, they are all talking, do our culture give room for that child's opinion to be heard? when you were a child, lie to me that your feelings was never hurt cos of that, all you hear is "Adult are talkng, so shatappp" how far is such? |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by manny4life(m): 8:37pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
CFCfan: Haha... Enlist ke? You can only go after something you know is there. Do you think if I were a wealthy individual, the likes of Goldman Sachs will manage my personal assets. Let me see how top notch family lawyers and forensic accounts will subpoena for records when firms like these have legal connections all the way to the Supreme Court and Congress. Did I mention that she's not the only one hiring the best, I will hire the best as well to counter / frustrate every effort. Litigation isn't about what you know, it's more of who you know. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
Fhemmmy:Women like this one, or she's the only woman to ever do this? Florida mom kills kids in murder-suicide m.nydailynews.com/news/crime/fla-mom-allegedly-kills-teens-murder-suicide-cops-article-1.1579512 You're a funny man Fhemmmy. 1 Like |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 8:38pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
cococandy:If you want a lifestyle similar to what you are used to in marriage then stay in the marriage. Its like saying I want the work environment I used to enjoy in Shell even when I resign my job there. WHy should one spouse be sustaining the lifestyle of the other when they are no longer together WHile one spouse was hustling to make money maybe the other should be dong the same too so they dont have to be sustaining one. The basic rule of life is you eat the fruit of your hands not that one person would give you a lifestyle you didnt work for 3 Likes |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
CFCfan: Nice one, but most of the people that complains never had much before the wife join them anyways . . .Lol |
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by freecocoa(f): 8:39pm On Feb 03, 2015 |
tpiah11:Ask them o, always making Nigerian women out to be evil, it's really a shame. |
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