Fhemmmy:


Did i hear you say the woman contributes nothing?
While you are at work, who takes care of the home you are protective of
Who takes care of your kids?
If you have to sleep with ashawo, how much would yuo pay that ashawo per day, and yet she warm you up at night
When you are confused, she tells you, all will be well.
She cooks your food
In-short, NO MAN can pay the true worth of a woman, no man.

Timbuktou:
Women like this one, or she's the only woman to ever do this?

Florida mom kills kids in murder-suicide

m.nydailynews.com/news/crime/fla-mom-allegedly-kills-teens-murder-suicide-cops-article-1.1579512


You're a funny man Fhemmmy.

freecocoa:
Ask them o, always making Nigerian women out to be evil, it's really a shame.

manny4life:


That's family abeg, not my money and asset. Marriage is a contract, if you don't like the contract "as is", WALK AWAY.

After all someone pays the children's school fees, takes them on vacation, all their financial needs are taken care off. Abeg leave mata jare.

tpiah11:

finished paying off his mortgage yet he still has small children?

not likely, or else doesnt show good planning. If he has paid off his mortgage, then he should have more flexibility in living arrangements, eg not be stuck in one place waiting for someone to collect the reward of his labour.

does the judge know he's homeless?

would you wish your female sibling finds herself in similar circumstances?

if he owns the car then he should write it off.
Owning a range rover, (very expensive vehicle), implies he can afford to buy another car for his personal use, since range rovers do not come cheap. He has expensive tastes.

if he has paid off the car as you wished before, then he's not still making payments.

as per credit score, he can look for alternatives such as cheaper cars or auction, for his personal use.

in divorce, nothing is fair.

Fhemmmy:


CHairman, let us be real, money is a good thing and no one wanna be known with poverty, just like the woman attach a lot to money and material things, so is the man . . . else, why is the man not in the village farming cassava with cutlass and in obodo oyinbo.
There are lots of Nigerian ladies in abroad that would love to marry, but our brothers will come, use them and dump them only to go home to marry innocent angel that will make them pay for some of the sin they have committed in the past . . .Lol
But let us be real, it is not easy, but we all have to learn to work together, but again, instead of killiing a wife, walk away
All your friends that are complaining, tell them to be real and learn about the culture of where they have found themselves

fredoooooo:


You a not evil I know that

soulglo:


You know this is all lies right. If he had a right to get into the gated community and she refused him entry then he could even use that as leverage to get custody of that child. Breaking the terms of visitation would hold her in contempt of court. Furthermore no court would give the woman everything and leave the man homeless. It's this sort of posts that mislead people to think that a man always gets the short end of the stick. What does her boyfriend have to do with anything by the way. The marriage is over. Is she not allowed to have a relationship? People pick up their kids at designated locations all the time. The law will not change because of your friend. The only thing I would advice him to do is to document all those "hours" he has to wait. If it is found to be true she could get a warning from the court. There's a reason he probably does not have access to the house. Someone who contemplates killing another is unstable. I would bring a male friend too if I knew the person I'm going to meet has violent tendencies.

Fhemmmy:


If you were a good father and the woman is not allowing you to see the kids, the kids will be the one that will complain that they wanna see you, so that one is not true . . . Yes, half of what you guys own together belongs to both of you.

manny4life:


Haha... Enlist ke? You can only go after something you know is there. Do you think if I were a wealthy individual, the likes of Goldman Sachs will manage my personal assets. Let me see how top notch family lawyers and forensic accounts will subpoena for records when firms like these have legal connections all the way to the Supreme Court and Congress. Did I mention that she's not the only one hiring the best, I will hire the best as well to counter / frustrate every effort. Litigation isn't about what you know, it's more of who you know.

freecocoa:
Are you sure you believe that?

coogar:


as you have been told, many of these men married quite late.



if you apply for the mortgage just after graduating, it's possible to finish it off by 50. the living arrangement isn't the cause of the divorce. greed is the key!



do they care?
they claim the priority is the kids. as long as the kids are safe, the man can go to blazes for all they care.



why would she want to take what it's not hers? i would personally drive her out of the disputed house. it looks bad on the wife's family to even be a witness to such nonsense. if she's contributed nothing to the house, she has no rights to be there.



see your mouth like he should write it off.
i hope you know it's a different thing entirely if he drives the car off the grand canyon & it's another that someone else is reaping the fruits of his labour?



and thus he should be denied the rogues to enjoy the services of what he paid for?

some logic you got there. since you have finished paying for your expensive shoes, it's ok for someone else to take it from you.



which cheaper alternatives?
do you know the effect of poor credit score in the US? some companies won't even hire him if they run his details on the system - it's that bad!



and that explains why 70% of all divorces are initiated by the women.

Fhemmmy:


And if she is not working, how would she take care of herself, she has to come to you for money to buy stuff for her period and you wont feel like you are a bully of a husband?
All i am saying is, if the man is able to take care of ALL about the woman, then, all well and good, else, work with her to be the best you want her to be.

raumdeuter:

If you want a lifestyle similar to what you are used to in marriage then stay in the marriage.

Its like saying I want the work environment I used to enjoy in Shell even when I resign my job there.

WHy should one spouse be sustaining the lifestyle of the other when they are no longer together

WHile one spouse was hustling to make money maybe the other should be dong the same too so they dont have to be sustaining one. The basic rule of life is you eat the fruit of your hands not that one person would give you a lifestyle you didnt work for

fredoooooo:

Yes ,cento per cento( 100 percent)

anyanwustanley11:
someone advice help a guy depressed tirés oh

CFCfan:

It's gonna be epic!! That hypothetical legal battle will be featured on CNBC

Fhemmmy:


Even at 50, your kids should not that be small anymore . . . .

carefreewannabe:


No, I don't see the child as a "fuzzy joint property".

tpiah11:


you are really saying nothing (or else typing without sense, because every single thing you claimed here, is commonly applicable to all immigrants, regardless of field of work.

tpiah11:

would you turn up your nose at $80,000?
are you from a rich family? If yes, why are you hustling overseas?

tpiah11:


which job is not depressing at some point? It all depends on the type of interaction or work dynamics which goes there.

tpiah11:

as per your last point, overseas is credit based economy, unlike nigeria which is cash based economy ie cash and carry, which has its pros but also leads to higher rates of insecurity, armed robbery, corruption, fraud, and other social ills.

manny4life:


I will definitely take care of my wife and her parents but NOT her entire family entourage... NO, I won't. That's my point. I will if I have extra money or I'm rich, but at this level, it's a NO. I will work together with my wife, but I remain the man in the house. I will provide for my family, at least the woman will not say she's working to pay mortgage, insurance or bills. All that is taken care off; however, she can work but she MUST place our household FIRST just the same way I have place our family first by providing the basic needs.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

if the kids complain and she choses to keep them from me on the pretense that she knows what is right for them there is nothing they or i can do.

coogar:


why not?
what if he's got fertility issues? who decides when a man should have his kids or not? see me see wahala!

Fhemmmy:


Nice one, but most of the people that complains never had much before the wife join them anyways . . .Lol

ladygogo:


I`m going to have to agree with you that some Nigerian women over do it sometimes, it however doesnt justify you murdering your spouse.

So many cases of fresh off-the boat wives already scheming and planning how to mess their husbands up. These are even couples that immigrated to oyibo land together o.

Fhemmmy:


Leave born again out of these . . . Let us take one simple example, father, mother and child in the house, they are all talking, do our culture give room for that child's opinion to be heard? when you were a child, lie to me that your feelings was never hurt cos of that, all you hear is "Adult are talkng, so shatappp" how far is such?

CFCfan:

you're right. But it's the guys that made $$ millions who suffer more

Fhemmmy:


That is a different issue and that is even the more reason you need to care so much for that woman that stayed with you despite the infertility . . .Lol

Fhemmmy:


If you are able to do all that you have said, then, you have nothing to worry about . . . BUT a man that has to say he is the man in the house, is really not the man oh . . . Lol, but you have said it all and you should be fine and have nothing to worry about.

humilitypays:
Fhemmy, u are getting me wrong; of course everybody- man or woman loves money but how we go about it matters.

Let me share a little experience with u.

I have this friend, a guy who was born n brought up here in Nigeria. So he met this Naija girl in their church in the village during xmas...and d girl happened to be a resident of united state with her parents, who came back to celebrate xmas in Nigeria.

They clicked and started dating within that short xmas period, d girl n her parents went back january...so the rest of d communication became online/phone.

The guy liked d girl so much that after some months, he told the girl- I will like to marry u, guess what d girl told him via email? Stop dreaming!!

Fast-forward to 2 years later, they got married...the girl was entered into numerous relationships with diff rich American raised guys like her that failed to work, she then turned back to my friend and they got married; she came back n they wedded (court-wise, traditional)..and the guy joined her in US.

To cut d whole story short, my friend was broke when he was here in Nigeria even as an exceptional graduate- applying for jobs then to no avail...but once he arrived United States, he began to hustle; studying and working extra hours together...as we speak, the guy is even more financially buoyant than the girl now!

He has even told the girl to take some rest from work because she just had their 2nd baby...he's making enough money cos he's into medical line.

If the girl had continued to waste her life in the states dating rich guys and going to club all night waiting for one American based Nigerian rich guy or rich kid to come marry her, I am sure she will still be single & unhappy till date.

Our ladies abroad need to free their mind and not look down on Nigerian guys at home still hustling because I am very sure that most Naija guys in Nigeria, if given opportunity to live legally in America/Europe, will do wonders more than the oyimbos that own the land self!

Only very few wise Naija ladies understand this shaa...

To each their way.