Fawklicant:


So not fair at all.

humilitypays:
they should better open their eyes. Some of the Nigerian guys at home they are looking down on or seeing as below their class just because they happen to live abroad are rare gems with great talents being murdered by our harsh national economy and once such guys make it abroad; they will make great impact and may become the next talk of the town in years to come.

Money is good; we all love money but how we pursue it or perceive it matters and also determines our life's happiness and fulfillment.

Our ladies need more orientation sha...I know its not entirely their fault...but they need to start making more positive efforts so we all can live a happy, fulfilling life while here on earth

tpiah11:



I see you keep up with latest nigerian news?

raumdeuter:


If for any reason your man divorces after taking half your wealth and later told you that you need to pay him to maintain the lifestyle you introduced him to while he was still living with you.

I'm sure we wouldnt be saying the same thing

cococandy:
he won't be the one to tell me what to give him.
The court will decide what's fair. Get that?
Since I'm in a law court with a fair hearing,I won't have problems with it.
Alimony is not forever. It is usually for a stipulated amount of time for the dependent spouse to find his feet and move on.
Believe all this sensationalism you read in nairaland at your own peril.

coogar:


i doubt there's anyone here that says all nigerian women aren't good enough to be quality wives. the ugly stories we get to here are still in the minority but the minority is still a cause for concern.

ladygogo:


Both the ladies and gents need re-orientation.

SAMBARRY:
What sense does it make or what shall it profita man for him to work so hard, earn all he has and let his fists land him in jail. What shall it profit a man to have unbridled anger and then all his properties become government property and his children become government children


God gave human beings brain to control their fists and not the other way round. Sooner or later he will soon be executed for murder or if the judge is lenient he may be given life imprisonment where all his dreams ambition and hope will end




all of you supporting murder don't learn. Continue to argue blindly and turn your children to orphans. You won't even know who's training your kids even if you are alive


argue well till e reach 100 pages you hear. Awon oponu

Fhemmmy:


That is a lie, sir . . . Men competes more with their wife than the other way . . . Imagine, you have a wife that is making more money than you, and she makes a decision, would you see it as a darling thing or you would wanna compete? be honest oh, all lairs na hell fire oh

humilitypays:
lol, you and I know that most Nigerian guys don't usually have committed girlfriend or relationship when they recently graduated or finished NYSC because them no de get cash, except the ones from rich background, and for that, most ladies hardly agree to date them; unless d guy in question was fortunate enough to have a good/reliable girlfriend while in school...of which most engineering guys/graduates don't always have d privilege to have one until they start working.

So my friend had no serious date due to owu-iteh (being broke & job-hunting then).

And to answer the last part of your question, many Nigerian guys will forever appreciate a Nigerian lady that affords them that opportunity. Men aren't like that...only few are...majority remember their past and days of little beginning unlike ladies that easily forget their past and who made them who they are.

Meanwhile, I am not saying all Nigerian single ladies living abroad should come back to Nigeria to find husband, but instead of staying over there abroad jumping from one unfruitful relationship to another with some acclaimed abroad-raised rich guys, why not bring yourself down like guys do and come back home and find a reasonable guy here in Nigeria and marry

The latest news now is that majority of Naija single ladies living abroad (especially in USA, UK, Canada, etc) are turning to lesbians out frustration after several failed dates with guys- some turn to diehard feminist encouraging other ladies to hate men.

Its well.

Fhemmy, u sound like one of the abroad-based rich kids; hope u are married?

obowunmi:
My brother humilitypays sounds bitter.

coogar:


another spin, what if she's the one with the infertility issues?

manny4life:



A man caring for his family is often the case, another fact is that most women are naturally greedy, in fact, they want to compete with their husband.

Man and woman are greedy, as long as you are human, you are greedy only the level are different

manny4life:


I am yet to see a man who competes with his wife... It is not a lie. Most men I know about take care of their homes, and in return, the woman honors her husband. A man has more pride than a woman, so it's not out of place for him to feel more competitive, but it's more less often do you see a woman making more than the man. Besides, a woman should honor her husband whether she makes or less than he does.

Gbam! but you forgot to add that the man should love her wife regardless of what she is as well . . . Yippeeee, i am loving this.

ladygogo:



Buhahahahaha!

I was just going to write that. His post reeks of bitterness. He definitely has beef for rich-posh guys.

ladygogo:


Both the ladies and gents need re-orientation.

raumdeuter:


The court wont mandate it if the spouse doesnt push for it

Some spouse actually leave without taking anything so its not because the law says it, Its actually what the spouse wants.

In a divorce, the only thing I support is child support payment to take care of the children. Spousal support on another mans sweat is parasitism

If you wife wanna leave and asking for NOTHING, i will ask you to quick beg her to take call . . cos a hen's will make noise but what the dove would do is within the dove.

Fhemmmy:


Now you are talking, and did your friend tell the babe or those babes that they are just to rough the weather for him and nothing serious . . .Lol, but i get your drift sha

humilitypays:
Not here to argue or discuss my friend's personal life; just referenced it to enlighten those that care to be enlightened. Have a good night rest Fhemmmy

humilitypays:
ya, but majority of naija guys living abroad do come back to naija to find wife while our naija ladies abroad can hardly do that- only few; and they do it under duress, that's y I said our ladies abroad need to change their orientation

manny4life:


Believe me, there are divorces that have lasted years and years, in fact, the divorce started when they had small kids and lasted through when the kids become teens. Divorce is a painful experience and costs more than marriage itself, so the best way out of it is for the woman to WALK AWAY. As for asset sharing, that is the reason why we have experts in the field to do all that... No woman will share my assets.

Fawklicant:


One or both partners are from Edo state, ishan to be precise. If your wife starts buying you fast food take aways, don't complain. Just know that she is trying to save your life. If she cheats on you, she cannot cook for you, otherwise you'd fall sick with no diagnosis and die eventually.

raumdeuter:


The court wont mandate it if the spouse doesnt push for it

Some spouse actually leave without taking anything so its not because the law says it, Its actually what the spouse wants.

In a divorce, the only thing I support is child support payment to take care of the children. Spousal support on another mans sweat is parasitism

cococandy:
If the spouse pushes for it and the court thinks it is not fair,they won't grant it.
So it all depends on the court and how good your lawyer is.

You even root for child support payments. Some men will still cry foul at child support fees.

Spousal support doesn't apply in every couples' case.
If you required your spouse to give up their means of income to take care of the home for you, it is fair that you support them until they find their feet back.
It is not only fair, it is the right thing to do.

The court sees this and is unperturbed by the hatred you have for you spouse now which makes alimony evil in your eyes. They are the third eye that see things from an unbiased POV.

It is fair but unfortunately not everyone likes fair.
They like when it is all about them

manny4life:


I am yet to see a man who competes with his wife... It is not a lie. Most men I know about take care of their homes, and in return, the woman honors her husband. A man has more pride than a woman, so it's not out of place for him to feel more competitive, but it's more less often do you see a woman making more than the man. Besides, a woman should honor her husband whether she makes or less than he does.

chigoizie7:
this is were we think that divorcing a woman in Europe is that easy, a man who brought a lady from Nigeria to London as a wife turned out to be hunted becaus the lady presumed she has better rights than he is, that's not good,(European Govt. supports women more than men by law. so why wont they misbehave? a Nigerian man wont tolerate that, well,when the couple visited Nigeria, the husband confiscated all her document,left her with no money, quarrel ensured and she threatened to sue him, the young man proudly said, sweetheart , "certainly not in Anambra". that's how she started begging that she will change, but the guy didn't hear any of it, he travelled without her. now the lady is back home alone with the mother in-law (now very humble and respectful) my question is, why wouldn't they respect the man while outside naija?

oshaosha2014:


I love that guy. Am even thinking that if I have to travel out of this country I will never take my gal along. Outside they are turned to men; why should two men agree in a house. One man cannot bow to another man now.

sukkot:
carnally speaking, truth be told a man has no business being married to a woman who earns more than him. womens egos cant handle that type of situation. they will let you know you are a piece of sshytt every chance they get. the only time a man has business marrying a woman who earns more than him is if his pipe game is very strong. yall know what i mean by pipe game right ? lmao. he taking her to different galaxies in the bedroom. making her howl like a werewolf lmao. this the only time you will not be disrespected if you earn less than her. so if your pipe game weak ? you have no business whatsoever marrying a woman who earn more than you cuz your life will be miserable. women have egos the size of texas and dont know how to act when they earn more than you.

I am so shocked to read this from a fellow man in 21st century . . . .